 Does the man in your life love the way that you kiss him? Are you concerned about whether you have a great kissing technique or not? Today, I'm gonna be talking about kissing and whether the man that you have in your life loves the way that you kiss him or not. My name's Matthew Coast and welcome to Commitment Connection. This is your first time to our channel. Make sure that you go down and hit the subscribe button to make sure that you don't miss any of our future videos on any of the cool topics that we're gonna be talking about. And so today we're gonna be talking about the seven signs as to whether he loves the way that you kiss him or not. Believe it or not, kissing can be a really powerful tool. It can be a really great way to connect with a guy. Kind of supercharge his desire. You can kind of put a spell on him with your kiss. You can make him forget everything that's going on in his world and suck him in into this moment and really make him feel like he's incredibly connected to you with your kiss. And so how does he feel about your kiss? That's what we're gonna be talking about today. If you're here with us right now, make sure that you say hi in the chat. Let us know where you are watching this from. All right, so the first one, the first sign that he absolutely loves the way that you kiss him is kind of more of the obvious one. However, I think a lot of people don't know that this even happens. And so I wanted to bring it up just so that you're aware and it's this thing where a guy will actually say that he likes the way that you kiss him. And if a guy is so inspired by kind of the kiss that you guys have together, he might even actually say that he really thinks that you're a good kisser or that he loves your kiss or that he's really turned on by it or that he might not even talk about it directly. He might just say like that he likes kissing a lot or something like that. And it's usually kind of a direction towards you. Like, oh man, I just, like I love kissing, right? And if he's saying that after you guys kissed, he's probably talking about your kiss. So that's number one. So sign number two. Sign number two is that he actually wants to slow down the foreplay and focus on kissing for a while. I know it's kind of this weird, it's this thing that we have going on in the women's dating industry. And I totally understand it where a lot of women feel like guys just want to have sex and that couldn't be any further from the truth. And it's actually a favorite thing that a lot of people, a lot of guys have is the kiss. I've talked to lots and lots of men. I used to be in the men's dating industry. I was in the men's dating industry for years. And I talked to a lot of guys about like what they liked and what they're into and kind of their favorite things and lots of guys are into lots of different things. And one of the things that a lot of guys are into is kissing. And so it's actually one of those things where it's like a, you know, some people are physical touch people, right? Like for me personally, my love language is physical touch. And so I love kind of all different kinds of physical touch, right? Like massages, I love hugs, right? I like holding hands, I like high fives. I like, you know, all of those things anytime where there's like touching going on, I love it, right? And a lot of guys actually love it too. And you probably don't even realize it. And some people will think, oh, physical touch that equals sex, right? Well, it's not even just, it's definitely not just sex. A lot of times it can be a lot of other things and kissing is one of those things. I've been on dates before in the past where like we just spent like hours kissing because I enjoy it so much, right? And so many other people enjoy it so much. And if it's a really good kind of experience that he's having with kissing, he might wanna spend a whole bunch of time just making out, just kissing, just enjoying that. And so that's sign number two. Sign number two is kissing, or sorry, sign number two is that he slows it down and he wants to focus on kissing and foreplay for a while because he feels like it's just amazing and he wants to just keep that going and he's kind of passionate about it. Number three, sign number three is that he looks into your eyes before and after the kiss. And this is kind of like a sign where he's doing, like he's kissing and then like, it's kind of like he comes out of the moment and then he like sees you and he like looks at you and it's like, it's kind of this almost like animal, predatorial, like hunter type thing that he's doing where he's like, it's like, I'm not sure if you've heard a whole lot about like the whole, like looking into somebody's eye thing, right? Where guys will look into a woman's eyes or a girl's eyes, you know, if he wants to, if he's attracted to her, if he's going after her, right? Like guys are kind of that hunter, that kind of predatorial kind of thing going on. And I know it kind of sounds weird to talk about that in today's culture. However, it's a biological thing that we have going on, and back in the olden days before Tinder and swiping apps and online dating were kind of the main way most people like to kind of meet each other, guys used to go out and approach, right? Like that's what they would do. They'd see a girl that they like and they'd look at her and they'd follow her around because he's kind of this hunter and he's in this hunting mode and he goes after what it is that he wants. And so he looks at her and he sees her and you know that a guy is interested in you because he's looking at you. And so this kind of happens during kisses sometimes when a guy is feeling really inspired and he's kind of getting kind of this passionate thing going on, he's feeling this kind of intense like soulful connection with you. And it's just like he gets into that like primal animal instincts that he has and he just starts looking you in the eyes and he kisses you and he looks you in the eyes and kisses you some more. And that's kind of that primal instinct that he has going on. Do you get what I'm saying here? Kissing with eyes open, creepy. Yes, that can be definitely creepy. I recommend that you close your eyes when you're kissing. So yes, so yes, if you get what I'm talking about here just in the chat say that you get it. You get what I'm saying. Number three is he looks into your eyes before and after kissing. Number one is he says something about it number two is that he slows things down and focuses on kissing for a while. Number three, looking into your eyes. Number four is that he kind of strokes your face with his hand before he kisses you, right? And basically what this is is it's kind of like a, it's kind of a precursor but it's also kind of like this thing where it's like somebody really feels like they're enjoying something, right? Like they're experiencing it. They're really into it. They're feeling it. And so, you know, a guy sometimes will like touch your face with like the side of his hand like that or he might grab your chin or something like that. And if he's like touching your face and doing that, you know, what it means, what it signifies what it indicates is that he's really into it, right? Like he's really kind of enjoying it. Like he's, you know, savor it. I think a good word is like savoring it, right? Like he's savoring this experience that he's having with you of the kiss and the kind of the foreplay leading up to the kiss and the foreplay kind of during the kiss, right? And so that's something that you'll wanna check out as well as, you know, is he touching you while he's doing this, right? Is there kind of this savory kind of experience that he's having in actions around that while he's kissing you? And that is another big indication that he's really kind of enjoying kissing you like that. So that's number four is kind of this touching and it might not, you know, it's kind of like this like lead up, right? Like I said, it was kind of almost like a foreplay to kissing. And so sometimes that happens. Number five, number five is that he's not just kissing your lips. He actually kisses you all over your face or, you know, if you're having sex or you're getting intimate together, he might be kissing you all over your body or he's just kissing you in a lot of different ways that indicates that he's enjoying kind of this experience. He really loves this experience of kissing you. And it's kind of like this appreciation thing, right? Like he's kissing you all over and he's like giving you these little, heck, he's kissing your face, he's kissing your forehead, you know, he's kissing like your chest, like your upper chest or maybe he kisses like, you know, your stomach area or something like that. He kisses your legs, he kisses your back, right? He's kissing you all over. And it's like these little gifts and this appreciation in this kind of like, it's like an indication that he's really not only interested, but that he's like feeling the experience deeply and that he's just kind of, you know, again, kind of dropping into that primal part of himself where he's appreciating you and like respecting you and the word that keeps coming to my mind is like this worshiping you, you know, like you're amazing and you're beautiful and I'm just kissing you. It's kind of like giving a girl a flower or something like that where you're just like, you know, you're beautiful and I, you know, want to, I want to relish you and I want you to feel loved and beautiful and appreciated and so I kiss you all, you know, not just on your lips, but on your face and all over your body because I'm showing you with my lips that I think that you're a beautiful and wonderful and amazing creature and, you know, and saying creature might sound a little weird. However, I think it's, I don't think it is weird. I think that it's kind of like this appreciation of, you know, humankind, of a beingness, right? Of a humanity, of a goddess, of a, you know, however you want to call it, right? He's like appreciating and he's putting it up and he's going, you know, I think you're, I think you're amazing, right? And that's kind of this idea of kissing you all over your face or kissing you all over your body or kissing you in a whole bunch of different places other than just on your lips. And so that's number five. Number six is that his kisses are long, passionate and repeated. And so a man, if a man's really kind of enjoying it, he'll kind of get into it, right? And he'll even like kind of get passionate about it. And it, and like, you know, I talk a lot about kind of this like primal thing that a guy gets into where he's like just like really involved and he kind of gets sucked into things. And he's just like kissing you or, you know, he's pursuing you or he's kind of getting into these animal instincts which are really powerful and primal and raw and connected. And those are really amazing things for a man to be into when you're with him because it's like this drive that he has, right? It's this movement forward. It's this, it's that masculine instinct. It's that kind of part of him that you want him to connect to because the more he's connected to that, the more he's going to pursue you, the more he's going to invest in you, the more he's going to appreciate you and love you and cherish you as this goddess, right? While he's in that kind of space because he's getting into that because he wants to connect with you in kind of your feminine grace, your feminine goddess, your feminine kind of energy and beingness where it's like this passionate, like, you know, like connected, just feeling so raw and together. And it's actually really difficult to explain because it's not like, it's not like this logical thing. You know, it's not like, oh, you know, I'm attracted to you and it's for these, you know, eight different qualities that you have. And you know, I think that we'd make such a great couple. No, it's like this deep raw emotional, passionate thing that most of us don't even understand. You know, scientists don't even necessarily understand. It's like when you're having sex with somebody, right? And I was talking to somebody about this the other day when it's like you fall into kind of these animal instincts and you're like these two people and you're just normal. And then next thing you know, you're having sex and you're doing all these things that you don't do when you're not having sex, right? You're like dropping into like making these noises and making these faces and acting in all these weird ways that just are totally things that you don't do. And then all of a sudden, it's like you almost turn into a different person and then all of a sudden it's like, boom, here you are. You know, we're done having sex and we're normal people again. And you know, we're going through life. And I think like connecting with kind of this animalistic part of ourselves is really, it's really healing. It's really powerful. And for a guy getting into that, it can be really great for you because that's what kind of drives him to move mountains for you that drives him to be passionate about you that drives him to want to make you the priority and you know, do all these things where he wants to protect you and be a man for you. And you know, all these great things that we talk about that men end up doing that a lot of women really like appreciate and love and respect about men. I think I'm kind of running off on a tangent here, six. That was number six. Number six was his kisses get long and repeated and passionate. And so that's that. All right, number seven. Talk about number seven. If you guys have any questions about anything, just make sure to ask them in the chat and I will get to some of them. And so number seven is this thing where he mirrors you, right? And I talk a lot about kind of this idea of like pacing in attraction and when you're kind of connecting with a guy and it's kind of this idea of like, it's almost like mirroring, like you find a guy's energy and you kind of mirror his interest levels and you mirror like what he's doing, right? And people mirror each other generally speaking, not necessarily, you know, from an interest standpoint but just generally speaking, people will mirror each other's behaviors, people will start like mimicking, right? Like if you hang out with a friend of yours just like pay attention and notice that sometimes if you're hanging out and you like put your, you know, your arm on like a chair or something like that and you kind of like lean over to one side and you're talking to a good friend of yours. A lot of times what they'll do is put their arm on a chair or something like that and mimic what they're doing is they're kind of mirroring what you do because they're feeling connected and it's not a conscious thing. It's like this subconscious thing that people just do automatically when they're around people that they like and they appreciate and they respect, they just they'll like start mirroring different types of things and guys will do this when they feel kind of passionate about a kiss that they've been having with a woman, right? They'll kind of get into that, right? Because they're experiencing this great thing and then they kind of come out of it and they're like, or it can be before or after, they kiss you because they're kind of getting it warmed up. They're getting warmed up for it, especially if they really enjoy it and they really like what it is. It's kind of this subtle form of communication showing that you kind of understand each other that you're in rapport with each other and you're kind of matching each other's rhythm and energy and it's just saying, I like you, I want you, like I'm into you. This is something that I really enjoy. And so those are the seven signs. Number one is he says something about it. Number two is that he kind of slows things down. Number three is that he looks into your eyes before and afterwards, kind of in that like animalistic primal way. Number four is that he like touches your face. He strokes you. You see that he kind of savers kind of this moment that you're having with each other before, during or after the kiss. Number five is that he's not just kissing your lips, but he might actually be kissing your face. He might be kissing other parts of your body. He's just kind of doing this appreciation thing or kind of this, again, animalistic thing where he's getting into it and he just loves it and he's just kissing you all over and he's not even thinking about it. It's just like this gift that he's giving you with his kisses. Number six is that his kisses are long and passionate and repeated. And number seven is his mirroring before and after. So those are the signs. That was a faster video than we normally do. So hello everybody that's here. Again, if you're here, make sure you say hello and let us know where you are. We've got Sheila from Philadelphia. We've got Lamarie, so bad with names sometimes. Puerto Rico. Cathy says from Minnesota. Jishmar Yerma. I'm like butchering names here. Maybe I should just stop. Hello from Malaysia, Albania, Denmark. Let's see, UK. Hello, hello, hello everybody. We already talked about that. Kissing with open eyes is definitely creepy. Don't do that. You love when your man looks into your eyes. I'll bet, I hope you do. What if you're always the one that initiates the kiss but he gets into it? If you're the one that always initiates the kiss but he ends up getting into it, there's ways to kind of like if you want to get him to start initiating the kiss, there's ways to do that, right? If you want to kind of have fun with it and you're like, I kind of want him to initiate the kiss. I kind of want him to like, you know, start feeling this, right? And there's this thing, it's called anchoring and I talk about this, I think in my Love Frames toolkit program. And basically what you do is you kind of set this thing that you do every time, before or during the kiss, right? And what you can do is you can kind of like tease him. And so there's kind of ways to tease a guy and this isn't what this video is supposed to be about but you know what, I'll talk about it anyway because why not? We're only 20 minutes in. And so what you do is, so if you want a guy to kiss you, there's a lot of ways that you can like send him subtle signals that like kind of twist his brain and his brain, even if he doesn't start recognizing it consciously, although he might, he may not recognize it consciously, he'll start thinking about kissing you, right? And so some of those things that you do are things like it's, they call it like the triangle. It's like a triangle gaze, right? Where basically you start by looking into his eyes and you look at one of his eyes and then you look at the other and then you look down at his lips and then you look and it's like this triangle thing where you do that and you can do it over and over and over again and you'll like look at him and then look at his lips and then look at his eye and then look at his other eye and look at his lips, right? And when you do that, it's like, it's this kind of like primal signal that tells him like I wanna kiss you right now people do this subconsciously when they wanna kiss you. Like some guys will do that when they wanna kiss you and they don't even know that they're doing it. They'll look into your eyes and then they'll look down at your lips and then the other eye and they'll just do that. And if you do that with him, right? It'll send his mind kind of the signal and a lot of times he'll start to get into it and there's other ways that you can do this as well, right? And it's kind of like the lip biting thing, right? Where you're like kind of like, you know, biting your lip. I probably look silly doing this on video. But you bite your lip and you're like looking at him and you're like, you know, like, you know. I've got really small lips. I'm like biting this, you know, bottom of my chin when I'm doing this, like, oh, you know. But you biting your lips can do that. It can send him signals that way, right? Or kind of like licking your lips or, you know, doing stuff like that. You know, kind of this like thing where you're like wetting your lips, right? You're kind of sending these signals that you're like wetting your lips, your lips are getting more glossy, right? That's one of the things about like putting on lip gloss and stuff like that, right? It makes your lips seem like this delicious, like, you know, this amazing thing that he wants to come over and start kissing. And so he'll start doing stuff like that when he, or sorry, you can start doing stuff like that and it'll make him kind of like feel like he wants to come over and kiss you. And so there's a bunch of different things that you can do if you want him to start initiating the kiss. And when you're kissing him, you can do, like what I was talking about with the anchor, you can do something like you can like hold his wrist or something, you know, or touch him in a certain way. And if you touch him in the same way every time that you kiss him, and then at some point you come over and touch him in that same way, even though you're not kissing him, his brain will automatically get triggered into this idea of I want to be kissing her right now. And so that's kind of like a, it's a little tricky, like I don't know if I'd call that manipulative, but it's great. It's great if you want, if you're like, you know, I want him to start thinking about this and I'd love him to initiate it and him to feel like he's the one pursuing it and all that kind of stuff. I know, it's very clever, it's very clever, it's right. So what if he starts from kissing the eyes, then goes lower? I'm not sure. So he kisses your eyes, kisses your eyeballs. Is that what he's doing? He's kissing your eyeballs. So that seems kind of weird. What if he starts kissing the eyes and then goes lower? What if, oh okay, we already said that one. What if about his first move, what if his first move is gently grab your face and kiss you, and it's the first day? What about it? What about it? There's kind of this thing out there where I've kind of had this discussion with a lot of women about when to kiss a guy and it kind of depends on you, right? Like if you want, if you like a guy a lot and you want things, obviously don't do anything, never do anything you don't feel comfortable with. Never do anything where you're not attracted to a guy, you're not feeling comfortable with him, you're not feeling safe with him. If you don't feel like it's good, right? Like you're in a good position to do this and you need something else before you do it, don't do anything. However, if you like a guy and you want to make sure that he doesn't feel like he's being rejected by you, we talk about this hard rejection versus soft rejection thing. If you like a guy and you want him to feel like, he's moving forward and you want him to not feel rejected, then if he tries to kiss you and you feel comfortable with him and attracted to him, you can kiss him, right? Like let him kiss you, it's not a big deal, even if it's a first date. It's because if you like think about it from a man's standpoint, right? Like if a man is interested in a girl and he's feeling like this amazing connection with her and he's like, you know, just totally into her and he's like, oh my God, I just, I don't even know, like I'm feeling it. So much and I just want to, you know, like, I'm going to go for it, right? Cause it's like, it's a risky thing, right? Every time a man makes any kind of move, it's a risky thing and there's a chance to get rejected and guys kind of get used to getting rejected sometimes and it can be a real bummer for them. And so if he comes in and goes for that kiss and he gets rejected by you and, you know, he had this passionate kind of thing going on, it can kind of like take all this, the wind out of his sails, right? And he might feel kind of like rejected and like, oh, I guess she's not as into me as I was into him or she's not as into me as I was into her. And, you know, I felt like we had this really great connection and maybe we didn't, maybe she's not feeling that. And so, you know, like I said, I don't think that kissing on a first date is a bad thing, right? I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing at all. And at the same time, like I said, make sure that you're only doing things where you're feeling safe and comfortable and all that kind of stuff. And with that said, you know, you can also set a boundary, right? So if you're not feeling those things and a guy tries to kiss you on the first date and you're like, you know, I'm not feeling, you know, my belief is all about, it's not about like dates, right? Like these arbitrary rules about dates, I think are very destructive a lot of times and you'll end up losing guys, good guys, guys that you want to have because of like these weird arbitrary rules that people have because you're like, oh, wait until this until the second date, wait until that until the third date, wait until this until, you know, 90 days. And you're just like, you know, it's like, why? Why, like literally, why are you doing this? It's just some random rule that you have, right? Like guys can figure that. One, they can figure that stuff out, right? And so if you have some weird arbitrary rule where a guy has to do, you know, six dates before you do X or, you know, two dates before you do Y, he'll figure that out and then he'll just wait until that date and then he'll do it and it's basically the same as if he did it on the, you know, whenever because it's not about the rule, you know, it's not about the number of dates, it's about something else, right? Those rules exist for another reason. And the reason that those rules exist are the thing that you want to think about, right? So why would you not want to kiss a guy on a first date? Right? Why would you want to wait until a second date or a third date before you kiss a guy? Why would you want to wait a while before sleeping with a guy? That's what you need to think about. Not, oh, I'm waiting until the third date. You need to think about what is it that we need to, I need to have, I need to experience. And the number one thing in my opinion that you should be waiting for is a real connection, like a real connection, like a heartfelt connection, like him opening himself up, right? And feeling your female intuition waiting for him to connect in that way. Because if you just put these arbitrary rules, one, you're gonna lose good guys. And two, bad guys are gonna figure it out and they're just gonna wait and then you're gonna be screwed anyway because guys get these rules. And third is that some guys will think that it's a game, which is why they'll end up leaving because they're like, oh, she's got some stupid rules that she's following. And so obviously she's not trying to get a real connection here. She's trying to play some kind of game with me and it sucks, right? And it's like, oh, okay. So you're just kind of doing some kind of game thing. Okay, I don't know what that's about, but I'm not interested, right? If a guy's really like wanting that connection and connecting with you and he wants a real connection with somebody, a lot of guys aren't going to, aren't gonna do that. And so, all right, I think we do that. I think we talked about that one. I don't even remember what the question was. Oh, it was about the first date. All right, yes, it happens to me too. I'm the first to kiss. Okay, yeah, my man, he did all of what you're saying. Awesome. Okay, catching me on live. Here we are. Here we are live. You got me right now. We're on live. So welcome, welcome. I love to kiss, but don't like to be drowning in spit. Yeah, guys don't wanna be drowning in spit either, right? There's like some weird kissing stuff that women do as well, where they like stick their tongue down your throat and you're like, ah, God, stop it. Make it stop as quickly as possible. Why is he sometimes 100% into it going all out next time he's not? Well, it depends. It depends. There could be a lot of different reasons why he's into it sometimes and not other times. And so it could have to do with him, right? He might be distracted. He might have something else going on. He might be in another place. He might just not be feeling it, right? Maybe he's not feeling the connection that you guys have right now. Maybe he's not in the moment, right? That's usually the biggest reason is that he's not in the moment. There's a lot of reasons why he might not be in the moment, right? And if you want him to kind of be in the moment, the best way to do that is to be in the moment yourself and then just kind of connecting with him from your space of being in your emotions and being in the moment. And then, so Jennifer says, I just go as slow as molasses pours. Yeah, I mean, if you really want to be safe, go slow, right? That's the general arbitrary rule that people come up with because the slower you go, the more likely it is that you'll end up hitting all those things that you need, although it doesn't guarantee that you will. It's just this way of not thinking and being like, okay, well, I don't know what I need to be experiencing here. I have no idea what's going on. And so I'm just gonna go as slow as humanly possible to make sure that I don't make a mistake here and end up regretting it and being heartbroken and all that kind of stuff. So what else do we have? Do you think it's a bad thing? Like he doesn't enjoy kissing me or do you think maybe he's just shy? I think it kind of depends. I'd have to know a lot more about him and kind of what's going on with you guys to know whether it's that or not. Claudia says, I was ghosted after four months. Everything, excellent, good chemistry, good kisser. Okay. Everything was perfect and he ghosted. Everything wasn't perfect with something, otherwise he wouldn't have ghosted, right? So something happened, whether it was just with him or whether it was just with you or whether it was with both of you or whether there was something that happened that made him leave and it could have just been him. I mean, who knows, who knows? I mean, without more information about it, there's no way to know. There's no way to know. Okay, so, all right, so that's about it. So thank you everybody for being here and I hope you enjoyed this live stream and I will speak with you again soon. Have a wonderful evening and if you want your questions, if you have questions that you want answered and you don't wanna post them online for everybody to see, we have a program that you can join for free. 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