 وأقولوا في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزال وأقولوا قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي ولا أتأواله الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن والثناء الجميل واشدوا الله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له واشدوا أن سيدنا ونبينا محمد صلى الله عليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد نحن نتحدث عن مظاهر دنو الهما The phenomenon of low aspiration We mentioned six إن شاء الله يتعالى today we're going to do the seventh بإن الله الكريم The seventh one is التكلف والتصنع To be pretentious تكلف أن تصنع it means a person wants to overdo something exaggerate in doing something You find some people لا يثبتوا على حال He's not consistent upon one situation ولا يهدأوا له بال And he's never focused on one thing And the reason for this is تكلفه وتصنعه He has this pretentious granduous personality where he exaggerates who overdoes things وتشبعه بماليسة فيه And he pretends to be what he really isn't And he claims for himself ودعائه ماليسة إن ده He claims for himself that which he doesn't have So sometimes that person يجتذيبه سمط الصالحينة Sometimes the righteous people they impress him And so he goes that direction He becomes like them He imitates the righteous people He impersonates Islamic figures He dresses Islamically فتزية بزيه So he wears the clothing of those great scholars ويظهر بمظهره And he appears to be like them And sometimes what happens وطارة يستهويه تياره تلف And sometimes he gets overtaken by the path of those who are exaggerate Those who are not righteous and not pious He takes their path فايل بيسو تياب الفاخرة So he goes and starts wearing that type of clothing And he then abandons the situation he was upon before Then sometimes he gets amazed by the علماء فايتقمص شخصيته He then wears the shema He wears the thob He puts them in his pockets وما إلا ذلك وطارة يعجيبه فنان Sometimes he gets amazed by an artist A rapper And so he starts to pretend to be like that rapper He tries to wear those clothings And talk like them وطارة يستهويه تياب الفاخرة And then he goes and starts to pretend to be like that وطارة يستهويه تياب الفاخرة And this individual doesn't have one consistent وطارة يستهويه And sometimes manners and good etiquettes وطارة يساعده And then he goes towards that direction وطارة يستهويه This all brothers and sisters منافل للحزمي وعلولهما It goes against high aspiration love the aspiration فالعاقل with a smart individual لا يتصنع ولا يتكلف ولا يتشبع بما ليس فيه The person who has high aspiration love the aspiration You won't find them in any way shape or form pretending to be what they're not They're not pretentious They know their situation They know themselves properly So they don't pretend to be what they're not A Muslim It shouldn't come from him Or he shouldn't be كريشة في فلاه He shouldn't be like a leaf In a windy day out there توست and turned by the wind يقلبها المجتمع The society is changing you When the society approves a thing You are with the society And if the society approves of something else Then you're with the society It's not for a Muslim لا ينبغي لمسلم أن يكون كريشة في فلاه يقلبها المجتمع وضحرا لبطن إذا استحسن عمرا استحسنه وإذا استقبح عمرا استقبحه That if the society approves something They recommend something They like something It becomes a trend Then you think this is it That's what's right That is what everybody should be doing And then you go and you do it That same thing Society comes and says This is not good This is bad It's not for And then you follow society in it That is not what a Muslim should be And that shouldn't be the characteristics Of a person who has high aspiration That isn't the characteristic of a person who has high aspiration ولي ذلك the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم In the ayah الله سبحانه وتعالى Said to the Prophet قل سيد محمد ما أسألكم عليه من أجنين I do not ask reward from you وما أنا من المتكلفين And I am not a pretentious individual The Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم عبد الله يبنو عمل رضي الله تعالى عنهما ما اللهبي please with him and his father He said نغينا عن التكلفي ألمام المخاري who narrated this We were prohibited from being pretentious We were told don't Because it's not the characteristics of a Muslim Let alone the characteristics of a Muslim Who has high aspiration وليس معنى ذلك And I do not mean by this اللي يسأل مرء إلا تكميل نفسه I don't mean by this That the person shouldn't go out there And complete themselves And rectify their situation وارتقائبه متي I don't mean that I don't mean this person stays consistent upon the mistake That they are upon Or the misguidance that they are upon No, in no way or shape or form Am I saying that? But what I am saying is وإنما المقصود أن يثبت الإنسان وعلا مبدأه الحق What I am saying is that the person Should be consistent and continuous In his principles The true Islamic principles That you've adopted And truly so And you're right on this Don't change Because of society Because of peer pressure وَلَا يُكْتِلَ التَّنَقْولَ وَالتَّقَلُّبَ And don't be somebody who jumps from one to another Today you're upon something Tomorrow you're upon ولي ذلك And that's why The great statement comes about إِيَّاكَ وَالتَّلَوُدْ فَإِنَ دِيْنَ اللَّهِ وَاحدَ Stay away from changing Don't be Someone who changes wherever the situation that you're in If you're in a society Where the norm is this And it goes directly against your religion You adopt it because society have chosen this And this is the sad reality that we're seeing People who are practicing the religion People who are even meant to be the du'at The callers to al-Islam The propagators of al-Islam Are saying to these people The society has chosen this The majority won this So because of that We should all adhere to it We should all accept it No We hold on to what is truth And because we're in a society Or a land where this falsehood Or this corruption Has become widespread We live in it Hating it from our hearts And condemning it Whatever opportunity and chance that we get But we never in no way shape or form Do we accept this And let alone propagate or speak for it Or go out there and rally for it And lobby for it No, we don't do that So this point, إن شاء الله و تعالى Is be a person who sticks to the truth Aynama can wherever it is Stick with the haq wherever it is And don't be a person who jumps from one to the other This is a sign of low aspiration It really goes against the definition That we gave at the beginning of this series Of what high aspiration is The eighth, إن شاء الله و تعالى مظهر من مظاهر الدنو والهما The eighth phenomenon of low aspiration is الإغراق في المظهرية الجوفة Plunging into the outer appearance There are some people Whose only concern is their outer appearance And the way they look from outside And this happens in many different ways It occurs in many different ways From some of the ways that it happens Is المظهرية في الأفراح The appearance and the outlook In weddings that people throw parties And wedding ceremonies وما إله إذالك You find that people fall into الإصراف في الولائم Extravagant Spendage of wealth And also women going overboard In beautification And also the clothing that is worn لوبس الشخرا Clothings that are extravagant And this clothing has been brought From another country, 10,000 I remember سبحان الله A wedding that a woman was going to wear clothes It was rented, it was bought for 10,000 إلهي عالي For that wedding, the clothing that she is going to wear For that day Was worth 10,000 UK pounds 10 pounds Sterling You pay 10,000 Just for one night For her to wear it for her wedding And the next morning she has to take it back To spend 10,000 pounds Just for one night To wear a wedding dress And the next morning you have to return it This without a doubt is لوبس الشخرا And it is without a doubt And this without a doubt Again comes from the تقاليد الكافرات Imitating the disbelievers So the whole entire I mean Wedding what's understood from it Is the outer appearance It's not No one cares about Whether these two people Have Islamic ethics No one looks at No one gives importance to No one looks at No one looks at No one looks at No one looks at No one gives importance to Whether these two individuals Are compatible for one another In terms of The Religious No, it doesn't matter He's wealthy She's from an ideal family background They get together They get married Two, three months They spend marriage together And it goes down the drain Really because of what المضحرية في الأفرح I'm just concerned About the outer appearance And the outlook And this without a doubt Again goes against The concept of high aspiration And when a man marries a woman Or a woman gets married to a man She's looking at a person Who's going to complete her religion And she's looking at someone Who's going to complete his religion Marriage is about The second half of you Your other half This person is Your other half This person is going To complete you In terms of your religion This person is going to complete you In terms of your worldly affairs They're going to be there for you You're going to grow together You're going to learn things together The aspiration like that Is not there You're going to nurture And raise the next generations Of the عولة ما And students of knowledge And this is what Our mission in life here is إن شاء الله ربنا هبلنا من أزواجنا وذرياتنا قرة عيون وجعلنا للمتقين إماما You're looking at this partner As a person Who's going to إن شاء الله Bring you closer To Allah That this person Is going to be A means to Jannah That this person Is going to be The mother Of the next عولة ما That you are Going to bring into this world That you're both going to Bring into this world This is the aspiration إن شاء الله That is what The عولة ما And the people of Knowledge That's the way they looked At a marriage They looked at it as The rights You see the عولة ما When they speak about the rights That the child has on his parents You know, there's rights That children have on their parents And the parents have on their children The rights that The child has on his parents Is that each parent chooses A noble Righteous partner A mother for him And you have The son Or the daughter That you have The rights that they have on you Is that Dad, why did you choose This type of mom for us Who's smoking Who's cheating Who's lying Who has No Islamic ethics And the same with the mother The children The rights that they have on you Is that you make Their father Someone who can be An example for them A man who's smoking He's cheating And he's And he's He is Yeah An alcoholic He is someone who doesn't Pray the Salah Somebody who drinks The مخدرات Alcohol And he eats And whatnot That is you Not fulfilling your rights As a parent Because all you care about When you got married Is المضحرية The out-of-appearance Of this person How tall is he What is his Skip to complexion And what type of tribe is he from Things that I'm not saying You shouldn't look at I have not in way No way shape or form Saying these things Should not be looked at But what I'm saying Is that Your focus only becomes This And nothing Except this This harms you It harms your progeny It harms Your even Your mental health It harms your mental state That this type of person Is going to be your second half The second way that This المضحرية Is المضحرية في المراكب Some people They are concerned about The riding piece That they have فتجد من الناس يتظاهر بالتجارة You find some people Who You know Present themselves as a businessman فيشتري أفراق المراكب So he goes And he buys Excessive cars You know He gets an Expensive watch He will get Expensive things Just so when he goes And sits with A particular type of people They see him as a rich person But deep down He knows he's got nothing He wants to sit with The big boys So what does he do He gets himself a Rolex watch But that's He still has to pay The money for it He gets himself An expensive car He still has to pay The money for it All of this Is because of المضحرية في المراكب Outer appearance All it is I'll suffer But I just need to look good And I don't need people to know this Or for example Some people They travel to another country And they'll show themselves They go to a particular country And they'll go to an expensive hotel But they're real And they'll show the people That they've spent a night For example In Burj Khalifa For example Or they've spent a night In central London In one of the Expensive hotels In central London Married Whatever it is So what does he do Or what does she do She takes pictures But really They're just crashing With a friend for that night Or a cousin Who's already there Or it's not you But you give that impression To society You give that impression On social media You feed the people That narrative That you Are well off Have it Nothing to worry about Some people even Rent a car Just for that Particular day Just so they can record it On this Instagram Or what do you call it The YouTube وما إلى ذلك المضحرية في المراكب So He Does all of that حتى يشارع إليه بالبنان So people can point at you And say أخي You know what that brother is Well off man God willing God bless you He's got it all Or that sister Well she's well off God bless you It's all about The out appearance This is a sign Of low aspiration A person who He's got it all A person who He's It's not about the heart And inside And the person who has High aspiration Doesn't really care About the out appearance You tend to see that He looks scoffy He doesn't يعني Doesn't really care too much I'm not saying Insha'Allah I'm going to speak About that in more details But he doesn't really Make it his ultimate Goal His out appearance And the way he looks No way shape or form But if you look at the Go on YouTube right now Look at the senior scholars Like شيخ أبنو باز For example Look how he looks In the way he's dressed This is a Mufti Of the شيخ أبنو باز Can extend his hand To get all the wealth There is That is needed He can get it If he wants to He's got the ear of every ruler And every يعني Countries He's able to speak to countries And rulers of countries You can talk to Let alone his own country رحمه الله مع ذلك Look at him Check it out You can see it Like الشغل محمد ابنو صالح العثمين رحمه الله And the way he looked His appearance You know It's just the way they are They don't care about The مضحرية They have their hearts On the other hand Somewhere else They're looking at somewhere else العلمة محمد الأمين الشنقيطي The great Imam Of our time He died recently رحمه الله Not too long ago He's written a Kitab قد أضواء البيان فيه ضحي القرآن بالقرآن He's got many works And he's the teacher الشيخ منه بأز رحمه الله الشيخ محمد أمين الشنقيطي أمام They said he memorized لسان العرب He memorized the dictionary لسان العرب The 10 volume book يعني It's a dictionary He memorized it And he had a strong Brain And he's a hift Of Things were just on another level He was never seen Anything like that They said he came to مملك العربي سعودية He came to Saudi Arabia To do Hajj And when he came to do Hajj He went to Medina And he visited Medina And they saw him And they said How about If we speak to the ruler ملك فيصل And we tell him فيصل There's a man who is Like we haven't seen anyone like this We've not seen anyone like this This man is like He's reading from something He's a حفظ And he's a فهم And everything This man We have to keep him In the kingdom So they They said to him Stay We spoke to the ruler for you Stay Don't go anywhere And he stayed on that He stayed They And he became a professor In a university In Medina Sorry In an Islamic university Even a teacher They said he would Come to the Haram In Medina And he would sit down And he would do تفسير من آية And he would bring out مسائل نحوية مسائل صرفية And he would bring out مسائل يعني فقية مسائل حديثية يعني He would bring مسائل يعني نادرة نادرة جدا So they can stand Some scholars They said أبو عبدالله القرطبي يستفسير حكام القرآن They said He had it Sheep who have He يعني He nearly memorized Sometimes You read word for word No changing From memory رحمه الله تعالى And the The scholars from I like that The memorization With that being said محمد was said That if he ever came To a shop To buy something And someone was To Product And He would give them Person the money But he wouldn't know The currency properly He wouldn't know He wouldn't know The different ريال So what he said That he would stick On his hand And he would give it To the owner of the shop And say I don't know What this money is like Can you take what's yours And they would say This is 5 ريال This is This I can Question A person who's Memorization is like that His understanding Of the religious like that He's a teacher Of the senior scholars That we know Like شيخ ونو بيرز And others He's He's He didn't take time To memorize And money He spent his time And his energy And his time And that which is going to Benefit him Compare that To us today And the way we are today And we read And we study And we learn Things that have No importance for us So we've got Information In our heads And minds That are worthless مهمة ، لن يوجد مهمة لنا ، ماذا سنفعل مع هذه المعلومة؟ لا شيء ، ليس it better that instead of learning that information that you're looking at and studying that stuff that you go and you just read two or three eyes a day or you memorize a hadith or you learn one مسألة فقية or a مسألة عقاديية or a مسألة أصولية or a مسألة نحوية you learn something that's going to get you close to Allah on the day of judgment. The reason this comes is because of المبحرية. All it is for us is the outer appearance. I need to look intellectual. I need to look like I'm rich and I'm well off. I need to look like I am. You know, my wedding was a real deal and people need to know because when people see my wedding and they come they can't think I'm cheap. You know, the guy just took me also المضحرية في المدارس. That's the third way in which this outer appearance comes about this extreme observation of the outer appearance just concerned about the outer appearance. It comes by way of المضحرية في المدارس. You find an institute. You find a school. All it has concerned itself with is the outer appearance and the way the مدرسة looks. The beauty of it. The tables and the way it looks. The technology that is used. The color coordinates of the table and the chair and the painting that was put on the ceiling and the floor and all of that is being given consideration. العناية الزائدة الخارجة عن طورها بالأمورة المبحرية. The outer appearance. Going extravagant and excessive into that. Some of the schools that you go to. Some of the Islamic institutions that you look at. You will find that in them الاهتمام كله أو جله منصب على الأمور الشكلية. The whole entire school is really concerned with the outer appearance. The red and the black and the blue and the red and the orange coordinates. This is okay. That's it. Accessively I'm talking about. Going overboard in that. عدمهمية هذه الأمور. I'm not saying these things are not important. I'm not. وإنما ينبغي. وإنما ينبغي. But what is required is أن توضع في إضارها الصحيح. That everything is placed in its right place. وأن يكون الإهتمام منصب على تربية الطلاب علمي وخلوقي وسلوكي. But it's what is really important is the school gives more importance to what nurturing the students. Their knowledge. نرحفهم وجودهم. نرحفهم أهدافهم وقهمهم وعهمهم في كيف أحبوا هذا العالم وكيف أمتعهم في هذا العالم. ستكون ذلك محور. ستكون ذلك اهتمام. منصب. ستكون ذلك مزي. وكيف جميعهم لن تفضل判. if number one their primary goal is to nurture the students their knowledge their manners their etiquettes that's number one after that if the beauty of the center and the way it looks you add that onto it no problem look at the islamic university of medina for example you go there you're not going to see like any and you don't see that simple it's not that you go to the university of asr for example you don't tend to find that simple easy you go to for example the places we we studied that we let them in from and we saw on the floor the some of the places that we studied that they didn't have carpets so that the center is sand so you're sitting on the floor and in the Quran it's not written even on papers and it's not in books it's written on you know وودن with ink the student washes his earboard يعني the wooden board and he cleans it he uses ink that which is given consideration is that this child his brain his heart when he goes into society what type of person is he going to be consideration is given that i'm going to stop there inshallah anything which i have said that was wrong or incorrect is from me and شيطان أن الله يزمس انجع في فمت سبحانك الله وبحمده أشد ولا إله إلا الله أستغفرك وأتوب إليه السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته how can you do a two second action right now that will give you a share of the reward of everything we're doing on this youtube channel simple like this video and click subscribe why it will allow youtube to recommend our videos to other users and imagine the huge amount of reward that could be waiting for you on the day of judgment if you did that with a sincere intention of spreading the dean of الله you'll be rewarded for every single person who benefits from one of our videos as a result of your like or subscribe that's an easy two second action that you definitely don't want to miss out on do it now click like and subscribe and don't forget to make that intention