Breakups suck! We have all been there and if we haven't, chances are we will. I give you the number one secret to either getting your ex back after they break up with you OR to at the very least maintain a good, civil relationship with them. This is step one in my breakup advice series. I have been on both sides, I have broken up with a number of men and I have been broken up with by a guy that I was engaged to - TWICE!!! It took me a long time to heal and I am offering you my support and advice. I hope you enjoy and please ask any questions or write any comments you may have below.