 When the narcissist enjoys seeing you in pain. When the narcissist enjoys seeing you in pain. This is a sign that you are not dealing with a lower spectrum narcissist. This is a sign that you may be dealing with a sadistic, malignant narcissist. Someone who derives pleasure from inflicting pain, suffering or humiliation on other people. Someone who wants to cause you to experience highly unpleasant physical sensations. Someone who wants to make you feel ashamed and foolish by injuring your dignity and pride. These are traits of the sadistic, malignant narcissist. All narcissists are self-absorbed and lack empathy. But not all of them are malignant. The difference with the malignant narcissist is that they will intentionally inflict pain, suffering or humiliation on you and derive pleasure from this. It gives them a feeling of satisfaction and enjoyment. They may even derive sexual gratification from committing these acts. They may also humiliate you publicly to achieve a sense of power over you to have the capacity or ability to direct or influence your behavior and the course of events. Their motivation for doing this is often their own feelings of powerlessness, insecurity, pain, discomfort and unfulfillment. A person can be self-absorbed and have narcissistic traits. But they are not a malignant narcissist if they've hurt you and feel bad for you. If they can self-reflect and feel guilt, that means they still have empathy. They feel bad for hurting you. Narcissists will damage people when trying to achieve a resultable goal. If that's what they have to do, the difference with the malignant narcissist is that it gives them pleasure. It gives them a feeling of satisfaction and enjoyment. The malignant narcissist might apologize for their actions. But if they were really sorry for what they did, they would be trying their best to not repeat those actions. Sometimes the narcissist may appear to show feelings of guilt as though they are sorry for what they did. But really, they are just sorry that they got caught. They don't feel sorry for you. They feel sorry for themselves. If someone is really sorry for how they have treated you and they don't want to continue hurting you, they will be motivated and have the desire to want to change their behaviors. They will want to make you happy and avoid hurting you again. Malignant narcissism is a combination of narcissistic personality disorder and antisocial personality disorder. It is not someone who is shy, introverted or vulnerable. It is not someone who hides from other people. The malignant narcissist is against social norms. They believe that they are above any rules or laws. They believe that the rules or laws do not apply to them. They can be very aggressive, even without provocation, which often results in hostile or violent behavior. They can often come across as being intelligent, charming, emotional, kind, caring people. They can be very misleading and manipulative. They will give an appearance or impression which is different from who they really are. They might act as though they don't like to witness your pain or displeasure, but you may notice clues or signs that they do. You may notice that they repeat the same actions and behaviors that they know are going to hurt you because they enjoy your pain. They enjoy your displeasure. It gives them a feeling of satisfaction and enjoyment. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries, you can email me at narsweathercoaching.com Check out the merchandise in the Narsweather store where you can purchase your own Narsweather t-shirt, tan, top or mug. The link is in the video description. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.