 Hey everyone, thanks for joining me again. This is part two and we're learning here from the great spiritual teacher Anthony DiMello and in the first video we talked about his idea his main starting point in all this is the acceptance of the fact that My life is in a mess. Okay, not to be in denial about the fact that For a huge portion of my life. I'm going through negative emotions, right? Not to minimize that To accept it. It's a big issue. Okay. Here's number two Number two and maybe this is even harder, right? This is even harder Not only is your life in a mess but You don't want to be happy You don't want to be happy Again, what we're going to experience when we hear this is denial This is even more denial. In fact in the first one. What do you mean? I don't want to be happy Of course, I want to be happy. How dare you say I don't want to be happy Okay, what's he talking about here when he says we don't want to be happy one of the examples he gives and This is true guys. I can tell you this is true. I Think most psychotherapists would say this Most people when they seek help to change or to for an issue Want One thing and it's not happiness It's subtle. It's not happiness. What they really want is for the pain to end Notice I said the pain to end not to identify an uproot and Change the cause of the pain Okay, that's quite a different thing he gives the image of Most people are like a man in a pool of SH1T will say and they're up to here. Okay up to here in That stuff and What they're asking someone is don't pull me out of here Which will be the logical rational thing to do. They're saying please can you stop? people making waves Okay, so they want to sort of To minimize a crisis situation rather than to end the thing that caused the crisis to begin with Fundamental change. So we're afraid of fundamental change is what he's saying here. You don't really want to be happy Even bigger Here's another way we can know that we don't really want to be happy We don't have happiness as the thing we value most in life Ask yourself that question. Do you value happiness more than anything else in life? Because if you did you'd have it How do we know that? well What would you give up for happiness? What if I was to say to you that you can be happy Right now I will give you on wave of magic wand and I guarantee you you will be a hundred percent at peace and happy But you have to give up your job You have to give up Making the amount of money you're currently making maybe say you're making 50 or 60 grand a year Instead you're only going to make 15 Would you do it for happiness? Would you give up? That person in your life Maybe you're in a relationship with that person. Would you end the relationship with that person and never see them again? If it meant you could be happy This is what we mean now, of course Spirituality isn't about doing that, right? It's not no one ever asks you to sacrifice anything. Well, they shouldn't It's not about sacrifice never should be But it does show or something it's that no actually I'd prefer to be miserable In the relationship then be happy Even if you're not currently miserable in a relationship But I prefer to be miserable in the things that I possess or the things that I'm attached to than to be happy Now what happens eventually is? Over time we acquire things things go we become attached to things and we experience emotional pain and over time We begin to realize it's sort of a dance. It's an ebb and flow and the one thing that Can be constant in life should we choose it to be is happiness So we start to there's a reevaluation that goes on and sometimes there can be an awful of emotional pain That needs to happen in a person's life before they make that decision and that's fine. That's the way it is but The whole point of I think his teachings is to help you speed up that process by being aware of this issue to start Examining right now before any sense of loss or pain comes about what am I attached to? Can I become less attached to it and start to choose a more sort of a free way to be a More happy peaceful Way to be as the goal rather than the things or the outcomes that I'm attached to So have a think about that Do you want to be happy? Do you value happiness above? everything else guys, thanks again so much for watching this short video talking about Anthony de Mello and The next video is another of his major teachings If you like this video, just maybe consider liking it and subscribing To my channel. It really helps me to get these videos out there and I look forward to seeing you in the next video. Take care