 My dad been in jail my whole life. Yeah, my whole life. Yeah, he got out. In fact, he went in like maybe like six days after I was born. He was a Navy person. We got relocated to Illinois. Navy? Yeah. What did he go to jail for then? See, that's a lot of stuff that I started learning over the past few years. But my dad, he's actually a rapist. Yeah. Huh? Yeah, so, yeah, deep. Yeah, we on boss talk, one-on-one, one-on-one. Yeah, we gonna talk. I've been till about like last year when I finally discarded, you know, learning some different truths and facts about my dad. So it's just like, so, yeah, I don't know if I'm a young, just a middle child. I don't know where I'm at, at the, on his side anymore. So, yeah, it's just a, you know, pretty, pretty decorative history. But where was your dad during, when y'all were growing up? My dad been in jail my whole life. Yeah. My whole life. Yeah, he got out. In fact, he went in like, maybe like six days after I was born. He was a Navy person. We got relocated to Illinois. Navy? Yeah. What did you go to jail for then? See, that's a lot of stuff that I started learning over the past few years. But my dad, he's actually a rapist. Yeah. Huh? Yeah, so, yeah, deep. Wow, but he was with the Navy. Yeah, so he, basically, you know, a Navy, you know, in the military, they deal with their own crimes the way they deal with it. And at that time, you know, he had some pending charges. So instead of him, you know, going to jail for it, they relocated him. But like after like six days of us being in Illinois, he went out to get me, you know, supposed to be getting me some simulac or whatever. And he never came back. And so we kind of find out, chick was out sunbathing in her yard and he made a play at her. So he went in jail. We relocated back to Ohio where my mom was originally from. He got out when I was like seven, went back in like a year and a half later for the same thing, but just on a different level. By this time he's out in the military. So he got to answer the consequences to, you know, the real legal system. So he was like in Ohio, we got this highway called 270, which is like 285 here that goes around the whole city. So 275, he was dubbed as 270 rapists. He went on like a spree, a different stuff. So yeah. So his, his past has really shaped my life in terms of how I handle people. But what I want to go back to what I didn't like, and I've always, I'm not sort of kind of new this with the military. It, you said that once they knew what was going on in this city, they'll move him, they're going to move him to another city, but you are in charge, you can go there into the other city and rape somebody again. So, cause you hear about in the military, especially for females, the fact that you are, they get abused, they get raped by their sergeants, by, you know, their peers, by, you know, what I mean? So, but they're not saying facilitating, but they're moving him to fresh meat, so to say. Absolutely. See, he was in Florida before we was, cause I was born in South Carolina. And when I say him, I'm talking about a lot of other people who are just like him. This is, this is, this was the culture. I don't know how it is now, but I know from his experience and my own experience, like he was in Florida. And then we found out that there was a, you know, a little case there that, that's why he got transferred to South Carolina. Then the, where it became something that was outside of the military's hold is that when we moved to Illinois, that his victim was a civilian. It wasn't somebody who like lived on base or whatever. So that's why he, the different court, you know, kind of handled that situation. And he had to actually do jail time behind that. So right now he's doing the bid 15 to 150. He ain't getting out. So how long you been hearing about your father being in? See, all my life, man, most of my, most of my, my, my, like my mom is the only one that's really been really kind of honest about it, never really going into detail because I think it was a big, a big thing for her because, you know, she had to live with some of those experiences as, as, you know, as his wife, you know, the abandonment behind his crimes. And then when he got out the first, you know, the first time when we were in Ohio, he tried to make a play at her. So she never really wanted to talk about it. But for on his side, you know, they've always maintained his innocence even to this day. Now that I even know the truth, like his sisters and stuff like that, it'd be like, yeah, you know, we going to fight this thing. We going to try to get him out. He got this parole coming up and all this other kind of stuff. Even ask me if I will speak on this behalf. I'm just like, nah, Brian, nah, nah. You know what I'm saying? Because I'm a father of five now and four of my kids are girls. And so I take that kind of stuff very serious, you know, and then also when I learned of, you know, just him trying to make a play at my mom. And then I also discovered that because of his crimes, you know, I had a sister who eventually would be raped and killed herself. So, you know, that really shaped a lot of things for me, especially how I interact with women, how I approach people who have been in domestic situations, victims of survivors of rape and things of that nature. That's really close and dear to my heart. So, you know, it's just, I'm a forgiving person and inherently, you know, I'm a very big forgiver, but one of the people that's been hardest, my hardest to forgive as damn, just simply because of that, you know what I'm saying? And it's not even that he's been absent and locked up his whole life. It's just that, you know, how can you forgive a man who was so, you know, monstrous? You know? You have to forgive. You have to forgive, not only for him, but for yourself. Yeah, it's a daily process, you know what I'm saying? Like, I forgive and, you know, some days I'm good with it. And then some days I got to forgive again. You know, that's a repeated process, especially with him, man, because it's like, you know, I got to look at my mom. I got to look at my daughters. I got to look at, you know, and being in the realm of work that I'm in now as a pastor, my ministry is really geared to the street. So there's a lot of people who deal with this type of stuff who were brought up in these type of households, who have uncles who have made plays with them. But because of the family unit, they've masked it and hid it and all that kind of stuff. So that's why I say it makes forgiving this heart from him because it's some days I just have to forgive again. It's like, you know, because I look at, my father is their uncle, my father is their cousin, my father is their neighborhood, you know, abuser, you know? So it's just, you know, that type of thing. Well, I just know that when you talk about what your dad done, and when I look down that whole path, you know, it's really a situation where you have to feel sorry for a person who goes through that because the Bible say, though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh for the weapons of our warfare are not corner, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds and casting down imaginations and every high thought that exalt, every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God. So you know already that these are spiritual battles. So it's hard to look at the person that's having the issue and not look at the fact that God told you, he showed you in his word through Peter, through Paul, through all the different patriarchs of the discipleship that was with him, through their books, that this is spiritual warfare. So we cannot focus on the individual. We have to focus on the spirit. So the spirit, the Bible says that Jesus said them that worship me must worship me in spirit and in truth. So therefore you cannot get caught up on looking at a person. He said, how can you love a God whom you've not seen and hates your brother? Why does he say this? Because you gotta understand that the situation that you're looking at, it's not even the problem. The spirit that you're fighting against is the problem. That's right. So when you start looking at spiritual warfare, that's a whole nother level. And that's a whole nother devil. That's right. See the devil is a celestial being and therefore he's not like us. He's not terrestrial. So when you start to look at him, you gotta start to fight a spiritual battle. In order to understand how to win. So it's not your father that really is the one that's the issue. It's the devil that's operating within the realm of the lifestyle that he's affecting. So that's how I deal with things. I've had my ups and downs with a lot of different people. I've had situations where I felt people turned their back on me or did me wrong. And I understand my mom was raped in order for her to be here. And you know, you start asking and family members starts to get upset because you start to deal with these different issues that they wanna cover up. Nobody wants to talk about it, just like you just spoke about. And everybody's hidden. Then one day my auntie gets Alzheimer's and she just tells it all. That's right. You see what I'm saying? And you're like, what? And she starts to tell it cause she can't control it anymore because it has to come out. What's done in the dark will truly come to the light. So when I look at different things like this, I think God that I had an opportunity to change. And if you truly change and you truly believe, then you know that whatsoever that's bound on earth shall be bound in heaven. Whatsoever's loosed on earth shall be loosed in heaven. Behold, I give to you the keys to the kingdom of heaven. See these keys that you have can unlock things. So therefore you have to forgive in order to grow. Then you will affect your daughters. You will affect whoever's in your life because that unforgiveness will spring out in a whole different dynamic and attack your family. That's right. Yeah, we on boss talk one on one, one on one. Yeah, we gonna talk.