 Ladies and gentlemen make sure my camera on here set up want to pop in Lord Now what y'all had going on on here now? somebody Y'all been on here chatting up The needle God bless you time your joy God bless you something for the play God bless y'all sending blessings why even got on here Look at God Tony. I lean God bless My god Megan boy showing not Well, let's go ahead and get started. I'll see my first question right here for those y'all who Complain about me not answering the questions in the regular in the chat right here. I Got one right here. I Try to keep my head up, but there is so much stigma and negative perspective on single moms Saying we're secondhand or low in the market. I'm a single mom of one. What is your honest perspective? well Just like a single dad, you know it's kind of Your package deal and so what you have to realize is that it just changes who you're going to be with Because that man needs to be understanding he needs to either have a child or want children and Be okay with having a child. It really has nothing to do with the child because the man is With you he Sleeping with you he y'all in the bed together, you know y'all It are the couple so it's really not about men don't really care about a woman having children It's more so about who is that woman Now if you neglecting your children for a relationship He's gonna put you in a in a box of immature or lost and confused and he gonna use you and dog you out If you worship in your children, he gonna put you in a box If your children nails are dirty if they close wrinkle if you dress to the nines, but they dress like You know raggedy and all he's gonna put you in a box But if you taking care of them, that's what the man gonna be looking at he gonna see how you take care your child Is it moderate and respectful? Not all Gucci head-to-head the toes saying I love my child so I'm gonna get all designer I'm not talking about that, but he gonna look at your child the nails clean them clothes iron how done teeth brush or You got one of them five-year-olds with 19 silver caps in the mouth Because just eat candy all day every day and then don't brush the teeth in the morning that night You see what I mean, so it's not about being a single mom Like you got the red scarlet letter a whatever that mean, but I just remember that from school somebody story But it's more so about you and how you carry yourself and how you raising your child Because the man he with you So that's why I always say when you see a woman who really take care of herself and she take care of her kids She can have a full kid and she'll be done got married three time and the men don't mind it I cannot get over my ex even though he ain't good for me. He needs to change. Why do I want to reach out to him? I'm going through it had a bad last argument Danny you probably need therapy. It's probably some treatment plans out there that therapists have really just more So help you understand the mind help you understand your spirit help you understand that Trauma bond or that emotional connection that you have on on this side of things we talk about soul ties That's really all it is. It's just a soul time, you know, you're not feeling anything special. You're not feeling anything different You're not feeling anything abnormal. That's just your mind is Creating patterns every day everything that you do so even if you are arguing with somebody that Starts to stimulate you and turn you on and you will have withdrawals from arguments if you're not arguing anymore So it's really just like that You got to understand that you're gonna have to just replace it with new knowledge and new things and moving forward Pressure round God bless you how can you control your sexual urge while trying to live a pure lifestyle? You gonna need the Lord you gonna need the Lord, you know, you human so you got to understand as a human you code it by your creator so the only person that could recode what was originally coded is Somebody that know that language and so Your creator you're gonna have to be praying for strength You're gonna have to be reading you gonna have to understand the repercussions of that fornication You don't have to process that you don't have to kind of take yourself to us through a scared straight course when you see all the Women struggling or men struggling from sleeping around STD's you know kids out of wedlock that you know It's bringing and causing struggle with the parent or the child So you got to look through and remind yourself of why you're doing what you're doing Mars say this God bless you now Lorenzo blessing I Was thinking of taking a food specific business course to gain new knowledge towards running my food business But I was wondering how you were able to figure out how to run your first business without schooling I Learned about trial and error and what you got to understand Lorenzo. It's really about Understanding what makes sense to you and that's where a lot of people go wrong because a lot of people get caught up on just letting the course be the be all end all and you can't do that because That person even when you take my courses on Tony gasses Academy calm You still got to make sure it aligns with your spirit and what you want to do You still got to put your fingerprint on it because when you use somebody else blueprint That's why a lot of people go to college. Don't even use nothing. They learn in school. It went in the real life You got to put your blueprint on it So you got to make it make sense to you like my mentor that life it could be built a whole lot more complex It could be on this native system with all of this custom coding Completely from scratch, but it's built in a way that I understand it and that it makes sense to me Tony gasses Academy it could be natively built and could have cost a quarter million dollars to build But it's built. It's on the software that I understand that I can change myself That I can run so I make my business make sense to me and it may be a little lag Maybe not up to date, but it makes sense to me. So I don't have to depend on nobody else So understand it and when you do that That's what you call innovation Because now you innovating which Steve Jobs say is the difference between leaders and followers is innovating So you make make something make sense for you like for example I'm building my YouTube and it's not a small amount of people that's here on my YouTube I'm building my my the bless tribe. It's not a small amount of people in the bless tribe But I'm not doing any of the recommendations that professional youtubers give Because that's too much for me and just like somebody complaining about the ads in my video and the lady was like well you could Determine how many ads in the video. I ain't got time for that because I'm not a full-time youtuber It's not even 10% of my income So I don't have time to be going into their system trying to figure all this out I know I could shoot the video on my cell phone. I'm doing a live on my cell phone I got my little lights on here. Boom. I hit the monetization button that put the ads YouTube put the ads in there. I don't got time to go back in there go to the editor didn't try to figure out Okay, let me put it at three minutes. Okay. Let me put it at nine minutes. Okay. Let me ain't got all that kind of time so I do what makes sense for me and Take it or leave it. So that's what you got to understand in life in general Your relationships and your business in raising your kids. You got to make it make sense to you Somebody say you too premium a man and what you got to do So y'all for God bless it I can't help to be loyal to my husband of 21 years even though We're separated for a year and a half. How do I convince myself to cut it off? Well, you're supposed to be still loyal because you separate it, but you're not divorced So if you're not loyal if you sleep around for one you in fornication to you in adultery So what you need to do if y'all not gonna be together if it can't work Then you need to go on fire the paperwork to go and get your divorce So then you can move on with your life But as long as you sitting there separated a year and a half you gonna be stuck You know, you stuck in the mud you spending your tires in the mud Shannon God bless you now. Now. Let me scroll back up here and see what I could catch up here How do you feel about the statement? Don't put all your eggs in one basket? It makes sense, but not in relationship now In a relationship, you don't have to put all your eggs in one basket now not right out the gate You just don't choose somebody, you know before you know them like you may go on a date with this person a Date with this person a date with that person as long as you're not calling John Bob And calling Bob John then you could go on those dates now Everybody say hello Everybody on the same level Everybody pull out your chair everybody on the same level Everybody pay for the meal everybody on the same level Now John he curse So he he come down a little bit Bob don't curse he stay uphill Now John he worked really hard. He come up here Bob lazy He come down here Now Bob like to watch nasty movies. He come down here John he working on his relationship with Lord. He come up here. You see what I mean? So when it say don't put your eggs in one basket, it means that be open to going on dates You ain't sleeping with two people. You ain't sleeping with nobody your legs close your eyes open your ears open You're going on dates and then when you see somebody take that lead Then okay. All right, but I got to let you go now. I'm finna focus on here Now I'm finna focus on This guy right here now you see husband potential now you could put your eggs in this hill basket in a relationship Now when it comes to like making your money and stuff like that That's when you have multiple streams of income and that's that more so applies to not putting all your eggs in one basket Meaning I own a little bit of Bitcoin, but I ain't gonna put a million dollars in Bitcoin I got a little bit of Bitcoin. I got a little bit of other stocks You know that I might companies that I said that I eat at that I support and then I got IRA And so that's what it means by not putting your all your eggs in one basket But they don't really relate to dating all the way through and through My friend says she thinks she was Apparently touched as a baby Now she very promiscuous, but faithful with her baby daddy. Yeah, the ratio that's a question for Therapists del that's not mine That's out of my jurisdiction because that's that dealing with you know, all that right there labels in and diagnosis And as life coaches, we don't venture into labels and diagnosis and diagnosis in the past It's there a way when we set up our my mentor page It's on my mentor dot life nice dot life not calm my mentor dot life To have an option to save and continue later or is the only option to complete our profile all in one setting Thanks, Mr. Gatsby. Um To my knowledge you got to complete it all in one setting because if you Try to if you don't finish it Then it's like you didn't sign up It's like you don't exist because then it'll just be a bunch of half pages and that just you know Too much server space too much going on And so the system is set up to where you got to go all the way through the process, which it don't take long Just you could go to somebody's page on my mentor dot life and see the elements that they have It's basically a quote and a bio and Selecting your your coaching categories and your price so it don't take long it take 10 15 minutes So you could write all that stuff out first and then when you sign up then make sure you got your head shot your bio your favorite quote why you started coaching and Choose your categories you want to coach in and then select your price and you're done now. Let me see some now Make sure Question I was told I'll be good at counseling, but don't know where to start Christian I would start with life coaching because to be a counselor That's gonna take that's gonna take schooling. So you're gonna have to get a degree Get Certified with the state, you know, that's a whole nother situation. Whereas coaching is very similar But you're not diagnosing and you're not prescribing So with coaching, it's not regulated by the state So you could become a coach tomorrow because it's about your passion and your gift You don't have to have book knowledge like you're not really taking deep tests, you know Not in my certification course, but some they try to make it like it's a counseling course Which is a waste of time and a waste of money because they charge you $5,000 $12,000 and Coaches is not regulated by the state or the government So you spend it all that money and it's no difference between your certification It's somebody that got this certification out of crackerjack box because coaching is about naturally gifted Service is about passion. It's not it's not about profession It's not about how well you could read these books in class and take a test and then take a state exam It's not about your comprehension. It's about your heart for service So visit Tony gasses academy calm and take the life coach certification now. I do earn far more than counselors and therapists because also coaching is just a different type of industry and so You know, it's it works totally different and so It's not don't feel like if you don't go get a bachelor's and a master's and go get certified with the state that you Gonna be eating poke beans and weenies No, you still could make a full-time living and have a great living as a life coach And it only cost you seven hundred dollars to get certified and twenty dollars a month to have your profile on my mentor That life and you still could earn six figures Um What do husband think of a wife if he wants to go back door your thoughts Nah, nah, I'm re I read it like door But I don't know if you meant the right door D Double O are because that's I don't know if that's French door And so I don't know if door mean you mean go cheat leave or if you talking about bike dough So really that sound like Twitter after dark. So I really if you if that's say what I think it say My son's still up, you know, I don't so yeah, you're gonna need to Go on here What leads a man to give up a real woman? Do they simply not see you as the one or not ready to give up their grown boy ways? not ready to give up the grown boy ways or It could be either or because what you got to realize just like they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder When they say beauty is in the eye of the beholder that means that I Could think I'm amazing catch And I could think I'm the big bass of the lake But the woman could look at me like a minnow in the pond So you got to understand that it says nothing really about you It's just this person is not for you because they may be wanting something else It don't mean that you less of a woman that you're not a real woman and that you failed and that you got a feel bad Don't mean that See somebody said I miss your question if I miss your question post your question again because it's a long Thread right here and a lot of people you see the the Moderator's trying to delete the excess conversation, you know, just keep questions in the chat right now Only questions in the chat know at living But it's a long thread. So where you post it you skip my question if you were to post your question again I would have seen it right there Hey, Tony a guy I'm dating is testing me when it comes to communication One minute he seems to be consistent and the next he seems like he wants me to chase for his communication thoughts You got to check them on it. Let them know it's un Unacceptable let them know you're not gonna be playing them grade school games the middle school games and that if if this is not what he wants then Just be a man about it and let you know so you could go about your life You got to read them left to right right the left up the down down the up and just let them know and then if he Don't respond and then be consistent then you know, he's not ready. He's not for you going about your business How can I develop discernment when it comes to men and also when finding my purpose? Discernment when it comes to men and also when finding my purpose, that's two totally different things cocoa Two totally different things now. So you got first you need to figure out which one you want to do But what you doing here will help you develop your discernment when it comes to me and because it's really You gain a new knowledge So your discernment is rooted in a knowledge in knowledge or a guideline That you to live by so when you the more knowledge you get the more confidence is going to be oh and that's gonna help you and We're finding your purpose Serve so like what you see on the moderators doing right now Like Camel kisses right here. I see her right there and share being here and two Bella and glam rocks and Mama tish those those are the moderators That's actually a form of purpose because they serve them They're not getting paid to do what they doing But they serving and they actually helping other people they helping somebody that they don't even know I think I only met one one on In person at the life coach certification And so they help somebody don't even know so what you have to realize about purpose is always rooted in service So you got to find a way to serve it might be serving the youth in your community It might be serving for the pastor It might be serving at the boys and girls club might be serving at the soup kitchen It might be serving at the domestic violence shelter Purpose is rooted in service and when you start serving then you start to realize okay This is where I'm supposed to be. That's what I'm supposed to be doing and You'll discover your way Me or me a God bless you Separated husband. He's bipolar lost his house verbally disrespected me and threatened divorce now He apologized and wants to move back We have a son and I'm unsure Meal or something like that. You're gonna need um, you're gonna need coaching To just really talk through the relationship and you also gonna need a form of therapy Somebody who deals with bipolar individuals so they can help you understand all of the Heavy arts and nuances of the bipolar disorder because that's outside of a life coach So it's a little too deep. So I want you all to understand now This what we doing on here is really like Elementary stuff like when you get into all that deep stuff with trauma and diagnosis That's not what we doing here. You know this right here for like understanding manglish like if you're trying to okay He said this what does he mean by that? That's what we doing here So I want y'all to understand everything gonna be from here now and then also you got to understand You ain't the only one from your city on here. So really don't put all your business if it's real deep just Make that investment go to my mentor dot life and get you a private confidential coaching session with a coach because your co-worker might be on here And you don't even know it girl Hey girl is on this this this man Tony guys, right? He's real country. He sometimes sound kind of dumb, but girl is anyway I'm sitting here cuz I was on YouTube tonight. I'm sitting here Looking at the man live and he gets who on there girl. He is not gonna believe this take a guess Nope. Nope. Keep guessing Yes Lisa and guess what she just said on there girl You know her husband John He trying to go in the back door. He wanted up the booty You see what I'm saying? So you got to understand Y'all got to be kind of with these questions a little Let's touch on the You know the stuff a little more simple How should newlyweds handle finances? God bless you. Let now listen the key word you said it newlyweds is weds Okay with weds You join To become one the mistake that a lot of people make is that like everything that me and my wife earn It go into a one account it go into a joint account. She can see every dollar. I can see every dollar now from that account She'll get a paycheck. I get a paycheck Well, I don't really get a paycheck, but she get a paycheck and Then I spend what I need to spend And but I just want to make sure she get paid so that she know you could do whatever you want to do with it You want to go buy you? Some new shoe strings that cost a hundred dollar go right here. Okay, why you bought me this here hands and a thousand and It got a Gucci wrap on it. That's her money. That's how she that's how a alright Thank you keep your hand right here in this cope at night. Mmm. Thank you And so That's how you have the money you have a joint and then he get allowance you get allowance if It's y'all in a season of allowance. You might not always be in a season of allowance Cecilia God bless you You change my life words cannot express three years ago I started listening to you I watch every video I left my toxic ex. I am single and now opening my second salon. Wow Thank you from the bottom of my heart to you in the Queen. God bless you God bless you nice to see you My I can now let me tell you what I want to do with your salon I write me and let's price out us a arm a bookrat Just a little bookrat that about this here why and let's put that in your salon and then let's put on All my books on there. I'll send you the books and then you put them in there and Let's also related to reading why they're in their way when they bobbing we Ruby L now you see how you could focus when you single she got the toxicity out of her life She able to focus now she doubling it up. She doubling up. She's been open her second salon y'all around here Sniff behind a man booty Come in man Come on y'all around here. She didn't open two salons. Come on out. Come on out when you focus you get that toxicity at your life You gone about your business Ruby L. God bless you Just had to plan a little seed to say your video Who are you listening to was powerful and praying protection over your house in Jesus name? Hey, God bless you Ruby. So appreciate that now now see how Giselle J pop in here right now Right when I finished that question, but uh Giselle was right there. So I seen her right there So it's about timing on here My boyfriend said that I act too independent and he wants his woman to need him Is there such a thing as too independent? There is such a thing There is such a thing Now he might be being a little extra but and he don't really know what he's asking for but He don't know what you're asking for and so just let him know that like listen You don't know what you're asking for because women who need a man. They really go to needing a man So you want to be flushing my monthly down the toilet? You want to be you know airing up my tire every three days You want to be taking these tracks out my head you want to be cutting off the glue at the end of the Weaving and undoing this for five hours like Appreciate the fact that I could stem on my own two feet so that you know if we get married That if something happened to you I got this so help him understand that he don't know what he asking and so But now Example that a client gave me a tool independent. She went on her. She went to the store with the man Her boyfriend that man. She liked it when a boyfriend yet. She bought a vacuum cleaner and she bought a CD Music CD after she paid for it. She hand him the CD and she picked up the vacuum cleaner That's too independent. That's really what a man mean by he want to be needed and But I'm gonna tell you it could get annoying cuz My wife and her mama they so strong They is strong as a ox. You hit me so strong and that thing get under my get under my skin sometimes Like her mom what her mom used to do they don't like to talk about family and all that but I like to help you Ben and so I'm trying to whisper cuz I think my wife on the couch What that what a mommy's little? Mama have briefcase Breakage by this he'll be it Tony. Can you get that briefcase for me? I'm thinking in my head like You'd have been 12 years single Yeah, not to it. You'd have been 30 years single You strong is all I know you asked me to pick up your briefcase But I just go ahead and get it. Oh, yeah, I grab it Woman you can lift up the back of a 67 Chevy and you asked me to get your briefcase. So see It's it's one extreme mother-other one woman want to carry her own and no one asking you like yeah, can you carry that pen in the house for me so No, I want y'all to understand somebody say why he wish from a wife on the couch So sometimes they do make it down like you tell a business. So I'm trying to whisper Mercedes be God bless you 25. He's 38 Six months 25. He's 38 13 years, okay six months Off and on Okay No sleeping together dates outside homes said he didn't think I was the person I Showed him and was waiting for me to change Wanted another chance cut it off completely right choice. You absolutely did the right thing You did the right thing because one he too old he too old for you. You really don't Try to stay within five or seven years seven is the max really likes try to stay within five years Up or down and then two if you off and on in six months, it's already over You can't have off and on in the first six months You can't have off and on in first year You can't have off and on no time period pump like pure odd Little red God bless you. I think one of my oldest friends was trying to come on to my boyfriend He treats me very well, and we are ever increasingly discussing marriage. What should I do? Well see you probably know her this your oldest friend, so you probably know her Then better than you know him and so this your friend So what you got to do is you're gonna have to talk to her You gonna have to talk to her like like with me and we already know like with me And we kind of know what what it is like friends They already know like don't talk too much don't smile too hard at my woman don't don't be kick in and You know definitely don't been over laughing don't get too close You know yellow hood the one-hand church hood don't be rapping and caressing like men already know So see what happened is sometime what I noticed with women if if she's single and if she's Unfulfilled and she's feeling a little insecurity She thinks she look better than you She think that she better than you low-key. She'll try to give a little extra sauce To your man to make him wish he would have chose her Really, she just want to get a little love feeling from him just to see if he really all the way your man She want to see if he gonna give her a lot of love I look extra energy And she might be secretly jealous of you secretly hating on you So you got to kind of pull her to the side and say oh, yeah, listen Yeah, she want to talk to you nothing to not you know nothing too serious, but You know the other day I just kind of I sense it was a little bit of extra energy you know with you and John and You know, I just I'm not accusing you or anything But I'm kind of letting you know that I know you you're my oldest friend And it just was a little capital E on the extra and so I just kind of We know men and men could be tempted. So if you could I'm not calling you out anything But if you could just kind of scale it down So just like that see you ain't going off. You're not doing it in text message You ain't screaming and yelling, but you just kind of letting her know Cecilia look at Cecilia See you hold on I got touch screen on Cecilia Why didn't I like Cecilia body have me on her like Peter pop off. You hear me? Cecilia sent a hundred dollar then Cecilia sent it at all up when I tell you that's a lot of doing good Cecilia put your salon name in the um In the chat put your salon name and address in the chat Let them let ladies in your city come get a how done cuz I see right here blessing me because um Now as long as y'all wearing masks in there now, Cecilia make sure y'all have your mask on now Cecilia say your books already displayed in my salon, but I can get a bigger rack I rave about you your purpose and the queen all the time But I still write you to get more up on the rack. Hey, you're similar email now to support at tonigathome.com Cuz we don't want them you know, we just want them books to jazz everybody come in now Here you go. You could just add it to their house. You can add it to their house You ain't got charging for if you want to but just put that blessing in their life I remember when I first became an author. I went to the club. I went to the club. Yeah, the club where they had Twirking and I was set up a book table in the club and and I remember I Was my book I was signing it and selling them for $15 And I remember a lady wrote me on my space and she said never ever in my life would I thought That going to the club My life would be changed. I bought your book that night and that book changed my life I would like wow. I need to go back to the club and sell books And then why they end up listening to city girls when you finish soon as you finish listening to city girls broke ends Here go this book Natasha God bless your Tony. He says he's not ready for a relationship. So I'm dating other people But he gets upset when I'm inconsistent with communication. Why does it matter? It matters because he want to put he want you to put your life on hold it matter cuz he think you a baser Now baser is Drug addict free baser so he treating you like a baser like a crankhead So you got to let him know no playboy listen. I'm the prize. I'm the prize playboy I'm not finna be weighing on you. You say you want a relationship. You want a relationship? You post a look at this and see this and know immediately. That's what you want If you got to think about this right here all of this right here. I'm gone. So that's why he getting upset because Eight out of ten women They'll stay right there. They'll stay right there sit still. They'll be loyal and there'll be a bench rider Waiting on they time wait wait wait on the star star player to get hurt So they could come off the bench and try to do what they could do Jeremy Lynn and get in what they get They shine in but you got to let him know if you can't see my work I'm gone. So keep doing what you're doing But see now this the thing when a man tell you he not ready for a relationship. That means you're not his wife Point blank period because when a man see his wife ain't nothing coming out of his mouth other than let's build Will you be mine? Will you marry me? So when a man tell you he's not ready for a relationship that means you are not his wife So what that means is you got to cut him all the way off and you got to move on with your life Because while you dating other people, he's building resentment. So he literally will take you off the shelf Make you his just to dog you out Just a dog you out Ashley elf god bless you've been riding out of storm With your video pleasure now Ashley Ashley So what I'm so that now I can't see if that's you up there Ashley. Oh, it's a little far from I've been riding out of storm with your videos books and Q&A. Thank you Mrs. Gaskins For helping me see that God never left me. I Stopped doing the work. I see Thank you and the misses a million times 10 God bless you now Well, I'm glad you back doing the work Bless you Rose God bless. I've been divorced for years and I'm in my 40s. I Don't date younger where to go to meet quality men of age. I don't think they're on IG It's hard during quarantine Right, it's not the time right now Rosa to be meeting the man and you definitely cuz see right now You 40 you still in good shape. That's still very young. That's Less than half of a life, you know, if Lord be with you, but it's still You're still susceptible So right now you don't want to worry about that, you know But after this right here because you meet a man right now he called for you You could catch that 19 And that'd be all she wrote. So right now just focus on your book focus on your business Your profile on my mentor that life helping younger women coaching younger women on self-confidence self-love healing after a breakup, you know focus on you and then after This here situation dies down now you prepare because while you was in there Locked up locked in locked up you locked in so you doing body weight squats in the house You don't want a hundred the 200 squats a day that booted and lift a quarter inch half inch Then thighs then lean you in your kale. You drank your spinach smoothies You read your books you watching the videos your skin growing You didn't you didn't share what you want to share you didn't put on what you want to put on Now when you step out you literally could be walking from your dough to your mailbox and meet your husband Because you ready so it ain't about going to man central It ain't about moving. It ain't about going to the to the pub to the bar Putting on a mustache and joining the fraternity then taking it off and let them know you're a woman It ain't about any kind of tricks. It's really all about you I got a client met her husband at the mailbox literally Metal hub and at the mailbox. She went to her mailbox and he was over there visiting his auntie and saw her at that mailbox walk across their screen and hollered at him and They roll on up to the sunset why she was prepared. So that's what you got to understand That's all you got to understand Leave her Davis God bless you. Thank you for the rules of engagement topic. I begged you. I begged you for okay You asked me about that. Okay. Glad glad glad all that My fiancee wants to have a court wedding next month July 25th. God bless you. That's that's my that's my that my knees birthday Hey, make sure you're right now if he right and you ready go ahead go to that courthouse This is me and my wife got married in the courthouse I'm trying to decide do I want to save up to build a house Oh, I want to save up to give away and I told I said baby because you married me in that courthouse I'ma give you the most expensive wedding that an ever been had in the world So I got to see what the record is and it's gonna it's gonna be gross It's gonna be disgusting then when you see the amount of money and spent on that wedding And but I got this I got to keep saving but go to the courthouse That's when when you happy and you could go get married at courthouse That's when you got real love me and my wife got married with a $69 wedding ring her wedding ring was $69 It was three karat cubits Arconia and fake gold off a home shopping network We got married with a $69 wedding ring and we got married for $99 at the courthouse You got this pay the money sign the form come back in 72 hours because they want to make sure you serious It was me her and her mama and Man who said what he had to say or the lady I can't remember and now we're going on 14 years of marriage Children say So that's what you got to understand It's more of a God bless your boyfriend of five months does not post me on his social media That's why and I post him He just ended a relationship of five years with his son's mom three years old I noticed he's been liking photos of his son and child's mom Yeah, yeah, yeah, you got a lot going on ever rather Now see ever rather let me help you understand this ever rather It's been five months a man really not gonna post you unless you got some money Unless you got some money Unless he trying to make his ex jealous a man really not gonna post a woman inside of 12 months And the fact that you posting him and y'all only been together five months You barely know how to spell his middle name you might not even know how to spell his middle name I spell the middle name put it in the chat. No, don't put it in the chat literally, but I'm saying you barely know how to spell his middle name You know what Streetie grew up on You said I'm saying what's the mama middle name? You said I mean so you posting a stranger You post somebody you don't even know see it take you two years The really know a man So it's five months you posting a rentable. You said I mean a rebate That you posted that's why he not posting you because it's nowhere near real yet y'all y'all a year and Seven months from even being real to him And the reason why is because he was with another woman that he had a child with and he was with her five years So that's what you got to understand that his soul ties so strong with her That's why he like in her pics deal So any moment any day now he could be dropping you like a bad habit and going back to her So what you got to do is you got to pump the brakes You got to pump the brakes go delete them pictures you don't post to the him Because a month from now that might not even be your boyfriend Delete them pictures and you wait till he posts you when he posts you and he prays in you And he put you on the pedestal. He promote you. That's when you reciprocate See the mistake that women make is you leading the love a woman should never lead the love Let the man lead the law because he the one got to get on one knee He the one got to ask you to marry him Let the man lead in love and then you reciprocate equally not equal or greater Equally and sometimes a little less because it is imperative that a man loves the woman first and Thoroughly before the woman begins to reciprocate because women are created for love Women innately know how to love men got to learn how to love So when you knock a man off his feet with your love, he don't know how to get back up He just laid there just let you fan him You like in Hawaii with that big old fan. He just let you put bears in his mouth This metaphorically speaking, but that's what a man will do. You knock him down with that love. He ain't trying to get up Hell falling can't get up. He's not trying to get up. Hey put that bear in my give me that bear family, that's what he doing because Your love too strong. So you pray to him. He like oh, I ain't got to work She already she already let every man know that follow her. She off the market. So he ain't got claim. Thank you Thank you ain't got claim Gina God bless you for man goes to jail 18 months and his girlfriend waits for him Is he likely to see this is loyalty or weakness when he gets out more or less respect for the woman It's gonna be, you know, one in the same. He gonna see it as loyalty, but that don't mean he gonna be faithful Cuz he a jailbird so when you're a jailbird that mean that you got low character If he was guilty of the crime, that means he got low character So a man who got low character that's going to jail. That's a man who a cheat You said I mean so you being loyal to a jailbird a low character man You don't get cool punch for that you get full punch for that. So You could wait, but don't expect nothing don't don't don't expect that to earn you some some cred and some Points to where he gonna come out and just be faithful you the rest of your life cuz you waited 18 months know that You you wait 18 months cuz you want to wait 18 18 months not because you think he gonna reciprocate some type of love Because he in jail if he guilty Low character Allison God bless you lately. I've been attracting me and five almost 10 years younger than me I'm 38. I'm flatter, but I'm not trying to be a cool girl Lol, how do I need to handle that? Well five It's not that bad Allison Fiving that bad because 35 and 30 it ain't it ain't that bad Um When it get past five that's when he could be a little too immature Now what you got to realize now these young men a lot of young men just trying to get their rocks off You know, they just trying to get out there and get them some it don't mean a whole lot They might could tell that you'll look older than them and that's a that's a notch in the belt You know, they could really be attracted to you And you could look younger than what you are. So it could be innocent But you just still once you realize their age And if you talk to him unless he seemed like he a spawn of jesus, you know, like nothing like Not literally the second coming, but he is very mature like lord spit him out his mouth Like a spin image of the lord unless you get that feeling of just an extreme maturity Go on about your business go about your business Rosalind god bless you if a man tells you he's busy But he's constantly on social media and posted inappropriate things non business related Then am I making the right decision by cutting him off? Absolutely. You're absolutely making the right decision 100 a man to get a god bless you now 11 months talking he is currently separated He is a pastor. I've been so confused. He told me I was his wife I saw text messages of him and other women. He told me he is lonely and he needs friends Amanda God bless your sister. Amanda. You got to go on about your business You got to go about your business immediately You hear me because you'll be riding that man and that man a hitter tree because he planned with the lord See god would not be mocked and one thing you don't want to be a part of is the wrath of the lord So the fact that he is a man of the cloth and he leading the people astray because he up there Behind the pool pit and he living in sin Lying and probably in fornication if he's not already sleeping with you He could be sleeping with them other women You stepping into The wrong path and you're going to be in a wrath for the lord when I tell you better not ever talk that man again Let the night be your closure conversation. Listen. I got the gold I don't play with the lord and then you plan with the lord And you ain't got to worry about exposing them or telling nobody because because he's going to expose yourself I think I missed one of them Fied all of that pot in there. So y'all I'm gonna check the chat for it. So y'all give him a second now Precious god bless. A guy said he would call me. He never did. I didn't mention it. Now. He is treating me badly How do I fix the relationship and get his respect? Um get gone get gone. He he's not worth you fixing relationship for he's not worth you doing nothing for Aria him regard bless. I see right here. Thank you for your wisdom and knowledge blessing on your family Y'all see them um them turquoise or whatever color that is teal Those color ones that um, they they get deleted Oh, I told you be I found yours your youtube has helped me so far I'm ready to date after two and a half years. Which book should I read first? um Mrs. Wright my book Mrs. Wright. I don't know if I got it in here Um, I don't think I got Mrs. Wright in here. It's purple and white. It's on amazon That one a blessing that one a blessing and then a woman's influence Purple and white that'll bless you Um, okay, I think I missed Ashley Beverly too. Here you go God bless you took your advice on how to tell a man to be more consistent daily communication by phone Video chat. Let me tell you how quick those grown boys went running. Thank you. Hey, that's exactly what you got to do You did the right thing. You did the right thing Tammy I see you in here Talks two weeks Talked two weeks went on one date He called two days later and said that I was beautiful intelligent fun But he isn't ready for a relationship. He said if I call in two weeks Would I give him a chance thoughts um No No, go about your business. I don't know if you heard me answer that earlier A man don't ever tell a woman that he thinks could be his wife that he's not ready for a relationship I don't care if he just got out of relationship yesterday I don't care if he just left a divorce court yesterday If he meet a woman and talk to that woman and thank that woman his wife, he read it He all the way ready for a relationship Because he know a lot of his healing going to come through that next woman That's how men heal a lot of men heal through the next woman So a man ain't ever going to tell you He's not ready for a relationship if he truly feel like y'all got some history All the things he said about you could very well be true But it ain't true for him Because he can't see your beauty. He can't recognize it and appreciate it. So don't don't don't Don't wait on that No, don't call me no two weeks. Why you try to finish things up With your girlfriend and why you could date on round and go on your other few days. No, don't call me in two weeks You don't know And you got to tell me you don't know going about your business Maria God bless you now tone in your vision lately Our fire God bless you. Thank you for them. What are your thoughts about a man? You know has not only lied but put hands on a woman, but we all watching him be adored well, it's only so much time because A man come to the place to where he He meet his match and so If he put hands on you and you ain't exposing And he keep going about his business And he doesn't grow and change Behind the scenes then he gonna try the next one eventually he gonna meet his match Either she gonna put something on him Have him in the hospital or worse Or she gonna call the police leave him and then she gonna tell her story So A person can only run For so long eventually you lose your legs So you can't even really worry about that The best you could do is block them make sure you stop watching them stop seeing them Go a whole different way online. So you don't see anybody mutual When they post come up on your popular page, you just hit a little three dots in the corner that say, um See fewer posts like these. I have to do that all the time. Want to pop up with a booty eye on my page And for whatever reason her page popular And it's trending or it's on the discover page Because I only follow my wife and my son. So I know they don't follow the person So it's something like they pop up strange or it's certain kind of tarot or Psychic pop up some on my page. They don't know how I got there. I just hit that little button See fewer posts like these Saying get deep behind me God bless your tony friend text me. It was nice to reconnect with you Is this his way of closing the combo? um Yeah, it could be but it but it could also be his way of opening the combo So it's not about that one right there But you got to see What he does next No, somebody say Kayla amazing race Isn't race ill Amanda gail god bless So you gotta see what they say next if he takes you the next day or a couple days later Hey, so how are you? Now, you know, that wasn't closing the conversation. That was opening the conversation um Amanda gail god bless you now tony regarding the pastor you mentioned ended obviously it's an emotional relationship Um, what should I say? Well, that's gonna that's gonna be up to you But basically you try to end it in your words Because I can't tell you because for one, I got an accent and two I talked to me in different than the way you'll talk to me So it might not even be a be in you to say to him What I would tell my daughter or my sister to say to him um But now coming from you now Amanda, it sounds like you're you're a nice person. Got a good heart so talk to him On text first text him then he gonna call you So text him so he could read it over and over and over And then get your screenshot of that text too in case he wanted to go in the pool pit talking about strange women and devils devilish women jezebel women after him Name start with an a last name start with a g Just to have you some evidence now So if you case you got exposed the Satan is alive devil is alive You got your little evidence, but text him and say hey, you know, unfortunately I'm going to bow out gracefully on this one Or bow out disgracefully because I really don't have a piece about what we are doing And I feel that it's very dangerous not only for myself, but also for you because You're not living what you're preaching and I don't want to be a hindrance To my brethren as the bible tells me not to be you said, I mean you worded in your eloquent way Letting him know you're bowing out now. He's gonna get upset. It's gonna hit his heart He might shed a cup of tears. He might hit you with a cup of scriptures that he done twisted And um, and you just reiterate what you said Esmeralda god bless you now Now I see some of y'all I see what some of y'all doing some of y'all having a coaching session because y'all see my My fee on my mentor dot life. So y'all say, you know what? Let me go on here and get these couple questions asked for 20 30 dollars to the pan at 300 dollars an hour But hey, I ain't mad at you now. I ain't mad at you. I don't want to let y'all know I see what y'all in here doing now because it's el. Morella I see I see you again and um, Amanda. I seen you a second time Does the way a man post on social media determine his character? He refers to women as b words, etc And calls his exes b words. I don't like it constantly arguing on facebook with people as well bad Esmeralda, thank you for asking that question because your situation getting worse and worse The more you ask me a question Esmeralda listen It's time for you to go sister. It's time for you to go You've been there five you've been there four months too long And the man is not posting you on social media you posting him and then he only calling women a b That means he thinks you will be it just kind of like if if i'm a black man and i'm cool with a white man And me and a white man cool, but when I go to his facebook, he told my in inward All these Jigaboo bunnies out here in the street looping and riding we ought to hang them all from trees And that's that's what he's saying online But then coming to me kikin want to sit and eat lunch together. You see what I mean? That's that's that's essentially what you're doing When you with a man, but this man going and Trashing women online and then you see he petty and he argumentative Only fools argue with people online, especially people that they don't know online I'll respond to somebody one time online and typically I only even take the time to respond because I had to elevate from petty to professional I had to go from foolish to intelligent to Responsible When people when you see people arguing online, they still working on their spirit And it's okay for him to be working on his spirit, but You need uh, you need not be his test dummy Because you don't ever want to be a man test dummy because how he calling women bees Before you know it and about another month or two. He's gonna be looking you in your face calling you a bee Eve god bless your metal guy 40 I'm 43 a month ago He hid his job then told me he's a doctor I googled and it's true He's dated a lot of 25 year olds I'm feeling different. We talked four to five hours a day. Should I run or stick it out? Well, he told you four or five hours a day I'm about to feel bad for his clients. He ended up botching botching people prescription He ended up prescribing itch cream for Red eye For he 40 you 43 a month ago So, you know why he hid his job because he because the 25 year old want him for a check They want him to be a sugar daddy. He took Dumb to know it. He know it. He was a sugar daddy. Okay. He a OBGYN I'm gonna tell you this right here I don't trust me and who is that right now? I do not trust a man who that's what he you know what I think professor. I think I'm gonna be a OBGYN I don't trust me and who do that for one Because that's to be your one Because then there's nothing that a man need to be doing down there So that's for one two He giving them women's c-section when they could have had a natural birth because he up there on the phone with You five hours a day. So he prescribed a c-section on the women To get extra Medicare money. Then he was dating 25 years and he 40 so that mean he's a sugar daddy So You got a lot of little red flags in him And a man who confident and he on the up and up He really don't hide his job because he knows he could read a woman even if she a gold digger When a man hide his job that because he hiding other stuff like his character And so you got to be real careful with that now So tread lightly pay attention to the signs I'm just wondering how in the world he got this much time I guess people ain't really Maybe on the phone too much and women's the word and got out. He don't know what he's doing pulling him babies out Miss China's all god bless you my ex my cheating ex fiance hurt me badly He used me in many ways including business I just looked at his facebook page and he's upgraded his car to a luxury car. I'm stuck. I'm Sick to my stomach Why is a user still winning? You know miss china all I hear that question a lot, but what you have to realize is he's not actually winning You know, he just he he went and got in the more debt He had to con you a con man can only con so long And eventually When you're a con man, just like I told the young lady earlier, he's gonna meet a con woman and a man worst nightmare Is to bump into a woman that can learn how to beat him at his own game That man be next the redder to just end it all Because one thing a man can't do is play the game better than a woman That had been turned over to a reprobate mind and now she's savage hearted Give me savage Renegade all of that down Listen when you got low character, that's what he's gonna bump into because you attract what you are not what you want So what you got to realize He ain't winning. He got that luxury car. He got a 22 interest rate Like I used to have He got a 22 interest rate He got that. It's it's a it got a luxury label on it. That car come out of flood They sold in that car from Katrina. You see what I'm saying? So you can't look at stuff and see Uh-oh, somebody say that was mr. Hustable profession We see what he at That's the husband See why he see why he picked up profession for the soul Yeah, I'll try to tell y'all Alisha L. God bless you Tony. I'm dating a guy I'm dating a guy who's divorced Ex cheated but they have a child She continues to be difficult even though he wants to co-parent And do what's best for their child. He wants to know how He wants to know how he should handle the situation now. He asking me or he want to know from you They didn't guy who's divorced Ex cheated but they have a child. She continues to be difficult even though he wants to co-parent And do what's best for their child. He wants to know how he should handle the situation Now I'ma tell you like this right here now He's gonna have to be the adult he's gonna have to be the mature person He's gonna have to be the mature one and he's gonna have to go to the extent of the law So a lot of men I had I got a partner, you know who had to take his ex-wife Get a family attorney Take out a court and he won the case So if he truly is the innocent party here, which sometimes you don't always know She could be ratchet and so it could be right But you don't know what all dirt he did that he might not be telling you And so you don't know because you only hear in one side of the story And one thing about me I've learned that as life coach as a life coach I have learned I will be on the phone with somebody And they telling me they saw out of the story and I'm fuming my blood boiling I'm just ready to get on do me a video Listen to me. This is what y'all got to know I'm so ready to do a video and then they have The other half Sign up for their session I hear they sighed and my blood boiling and I'm like now who telling the truth Because both sides of this sound convincing I'm like, I don't know who telling the truth I'm ready to go off on her because of what he told me now I'm ready to go off on him because of what she told me Now which one of y'all line that's why they says three sides to a story Your side my side and the truth So what you got to do is Is you got them what you're gonna need to do Is go to My mentor dot life and book a co-parent and coach Have him book a co-parent and coach So that if his story is true He talked to a co-parent and coach who could help give him some tips and tools on what he need to do Me personally I've been in courthouse because if he trying to handle it He gonna lose his wits. He gonna get upset. He gonna get frustrated He might curse her out He might text or something that she could use against him in the court of law as a threat So he just got to be the adult here Every time I meet a man after a very short period he's telling me how sexy I am I am 40 plus I dress conservative and always act like a lady Most men are over 45 um, okay Now y'all ladies y'all be killing me with that Um That's a good thing since that's a good thing says that he that men saying that to you You know that ain't a bad thing It just he can't control himself now on the flip side of that they could be lying nine nine I know you want to believe it Okay, I know you want to believe it but building out of the holder so The real only eye that matter Truthfully is your eye, but a lot of time men just say stuff Because they want to get you in that bed So you got to take everything you hit with a grain of salt Don't get offended by don't let it blow you up. Don't let it make you mad Just take it with a grain of salt because nine out of ten times when a man talking You see what I'm saying A man ain't saying nothing See how you hear me saying nothing That's hot. That's hot really What a man saying when he talking to you So you got to take it with a grain of salt. Don't don't let it. I think it was um, mother Teresa who said um Don't let criticism demoralize you or make you arrogant same thing when a man talking to you Me or more God bless you. He told me I deserve someone that appreciated and understands me Because I told him that he is verbally or even and he said The words mean nothing Well, the words do mean something. They mean a lot and he told you um I need to get him in an acting class. Let's say she thought she hit the mute button. Whoo, whatever. It'd be I didn't work man. You know I had a glass Nobody said thought that video met Whoo, why am I getting a little acting class? No, no, that was just me talking. That was me doing my lip talking lip sinking um Now see when a man tells you that You deserve Someone that appreciates and understands you In manglish what he's saying is you need to leave me and you need to leave me right away Because the longer you stay with me the worse it's gonna get So get out now because if you stay you giving me authorization to run you in the dirt I'm finna drive you in the dirt like a nail I'm finna be a hem on your head. That's what he's telling you. You got to listen to him You got to accept that believe that and go on about your business um Rachel god bless you my husband is used to using words like Who are you should I go kill a buffalo because you because you Because I cheated He goes days when we have a difference and 33 he's 42 and confused Who are you? So I go kill a buffalo now So if you got any confused on that one now About I don't know what he talking about So he go kill a buffalo I'm gonna tell you all that right there just scare me all together That scared me all together and then he go days when y'all have A difference now see you outside of the age range. That's why I tell y'all when you go past you nine years difference When you go past five years stuff get a little rocky Stuff get a little rocky So I'm trying so your sister and he cheated Yeah, you're gonna need coaching sis. I really can't give you too much on here on marriage Because marriage is deeper than just boyfriend girlfriend situationships and dating So I can't give you too much on here. So you're gonna need coaching on that sister Simone ain't got to be with me. We've got several relationship coaches on my mentor dot life Simone god bless your thoughts on this long distance relationship both 40 years old went to visit 10 days Notice he liked to handle To every day I was there it is easier for men to do that versus Putting work with you You write Simone You is right. It is it's a lot easier. Okay hands a love now when she's talking about hands a love she's talking about Hands a love. He liked the Hands a love. Okay. Hands a love hands a love um So yeah Now here's the thing Y'all long distance he 40 You went to see him. You didn't say that you abstinent and you refused to sleep with him He say he want to go Cheat with hands a love And and is when you say it's easier It is And you were there 10 days And here's the thing It's a ticking time. It's a ticking time Okay, can't say all the words on here because they'll think I'm With a certain group if I say certain words so What you got to realize is when a man lets you know This is a red flag this is where everybody got to understand when a man let you know That he has an addiction to anything You got the wrong Got to go got to go You got the you got the wrong immediately Because when he lets you know see 99% of men deal with hands a love okay 99% of men but 90% of the 99 Not gonna tell the woman That's not something a man tell a woman When a man tell you that he witnessed him He shot out He all the way gone. He he he he is lost He finna run you through so much Satan house HE double hockey sticks he finna take you through so much Your head finna be hurting so bad When a man lets you know by any kind of addition you got to go Immediately y'all let me grab these here Teal ones real quick because they'll go Shakia God bless you. I'm Kia Do you agree with me Tony that most men dish out what they can't take? I truly believe in this theory and it protects me from no good men a hundred percent Kia a hundred percent I heard a battle rapper say one time he say I'm so sick of tasting my own medicine Mike kid And I said whoo ain't never forgot that But that's that's the truth about me Me trying it all okay trying it all trying to get her co-session within all of My ex fiance has a picture of us on his facebook page Why should I tell him to take it down? What's he now? Don't worry about taking it down. Don't worry about it taking it down But because what you got to realize is that You know a lot of men don't know how to use it Don't know how to use the Social media or he didn't post it so long don't even really know how to go back and delete it really don't forgot he posted it So you might see it. He might not even remember that it's there But it just essentially means he's not in nothing else serious because another woman has not brought it to his attention yet And chanted playing God bless. I have a male friend who says He only likes me as a friend when I asked him to hook me up with one of his male friends. He got mad any thoughts um It just you know, it could be a lot going on. He could be jealous of that male friend already A lot of time we see other people better than ourselves So like I've dealt with a lot of women talked to women and they'll they'll mention another woman and they'll say She's so beautiful and as a man. I'm like, um, not really Uh But see when you a woman looking at a woman if that's not what you're trying to date what you're trying to be with And that ain't how you set up Then you're not going to be able to see her the same So see some men might look at another man and think that he all of that think that this man man and man got swag Man and man get all the ladies So when you say hook me with your friend, it could be some underlying jealousy that he already got with his friend but Really it's also because it's no such thing as a male friend Even though he say he only like you as a friend He wants you as a friend with benefits. You see what I mean, so Even though he called you a friend you he still sees you as his You you on his roster So if you get with his friend now his friend touching you When he could have been touching you um Caramel kisses and the other moderators god bless you now We when we get within 15 minutes I let them, you know start working tell them to start working and let the chat go y'all still be Respectfully now, you know try not to answer people questions. They asking me the question Now if they ask you the question and they say your name then you answer the question Okay, but if they don't say your name then try not to answer the question, you know, just so we don't be confusing people Um carol god bless you. We can't agree on grandparents boundaries Think we're okay, but got worse after we had kids Mother-in-law likes drama and gossip. How does your wife deal with Mom criticizing I kept distance, but he won't cut her off um Well, see I deal with my mama so My mama was like that and would say little stuff And you know and say stuff to me and I would take it to my wife and I realized that You know, I take it to my wife because we won But I I it's his place to check his mama It ain't really your place to have to check her as a man. You got to put your mama your sister I put my mama in place. I don't put my sister in place You know, that's the only two people that ever would say something about my wife If they mad or feelings type of way, but I essentially let them know Don't you ever in your life say anything ill about my woman because if you disrespect her you disrespect me You telling me i'm bamboo i'm boo boo the fool because I chose this woman So if you got something negative to say about her you saying that about me because because we won And so that's the that's the stance he got to take and he got to take that he if he can't take that He don't really love you because a man Cleave to his wife So he got to understand that as a man. That's his place to check his mama and put his mama in place and he can't do that That's not your husband. That's not your protector. That's not your head And so it's really on him. And so you got to let him know and you got to call him out on that and let him know Um, you know what to let read and then from there He need to make adjustments Because it feels the other way around he'll he'll want you to straighten it out with your people Certified life coach didra. God bless you now. I hope you join my mentor that life now to get you some clients now Your messages are life changing. Thanks ladies and gentlemen. My name is didra And i'm a new life coach on my mentor like she okay. She beat me to it book a session if needed now a Now didra now you knew make sure you at 25 or 45 hours an hour Okay, now don't be on there a hundred and fifty all the hour now you brand new And um, so make sure you 25 to 45 all out And if something if somebody on here Got you know needed a little coach or you considering becoming a coach you want to become a life coach Then go book didra so you can see how she run a session so you can learn what you want to change what you want to keep So on and so forth till god bless your met online only spoke on FaceTime For a few weeks wants to meet we have many things in common only concern He was stationed in texas same time as x and they share one facebook friend in common Don't know if I should ask if they know each other Um Yes, sis. Let me see for a few weeks. Okay. It's still early. So yeah, it's it's it's it's it's probably safe to ask It's probably safe to ask because if he didn't sat down and ate lunch with your Now they're not friends. So they're probably not that so he probably won't care And you don't have to go into details or be like Oh, do you know such and such and okay for lisha johns? I see I see your message. I miss yours. Okay. Let me see Okay, I see you right now for lisha you've helped this 49 year young woman in so many ways Thanks. You are a godsend. I'm trying to get my life Better late than never get my love life or life for lisha god bless. I so appreciate that So now he might not know your man like that your ex but And you don't have to go into details like oh, yeah, me and him used to But just do you know a guy named such and such And he was like, um, no not really Oh, he from I think he was stationed in texas and um, You know round the time you were stationed there and you know, I just knew him we went to school together You ain't got to get all deep now If you ain't got no child with the man, it ain't your ex-husband now if it's your ex-husband, you got a child Now that's something totally different Uh stacy now y'all see how this works. I got when people up there pop up there boom I go ahead and grab them after I grab them then I'm able to come on over here to the chat And and grab the questions right here in the chat Now I miss, um The piano player I struggle saying the name on him Boyfriend wants me to be submissive, but he didn't lead by example thoughts I told him I have my own mind and it comes naturally when he leads by example. You did the right thing You told him the right thing Joy god bless you my boyfriend said I treat him as trash a week ago I may be unintentionally doing it because of my past relationship He's giving me a silent treatment and when we tried to talk he said I'm victimizing myself Joy them some strong words them some strong words Coming from that man and work them kind of words right there when a man go to use them kind of words a little scary Because that means he's building resentment for you and he's giving you a silent treatment. That's never a good thing. So joy Uh, you're gonna need some coaching you need coaching to walk this thing through to say what you say to say what he says To kind of spell it out and let a third party give you some feedback from the outside looking in It don't need in this situation. It don't need to be a paid coach. It could be a wise auntie. It could be You know somebody that's kind of you know that would that'll give you the real truth but um Yeah, and the fact that you feel like you could be what he's saying you're doing And the fact that you can pin it to your last relationship and a woman's intuition is so So strong There's probably exactly what you're doing and it's probably coming from your past painting because you didn't heal before you deal And you sabotage in a relationship with a good man because you ain't got no complaints about him um in that their message so um yeah, you you need to you need to work through that because You really don't get too many chances with a man You don't get too many chances because men just not built like women a lot of times is women Y'all forgive more than you should but men don't necessarily do that So he giving you all the smoke signals all the warning signs to say listen a Try me like a base again and you finna be single as a dollar bill So, you know get to the bottom of it angelica. God bless you. I will be 36 in july No, children thinking about dating a great guy who has three older kids But can't have any more children due to cancer thoughts Well sis, you know It really that's that's up to you on that one You know, that's up to you sis because you gotta Identify you how bad do you want children and how bad do you want children? and Are you okay being a mother to his children that may if they need Some type of loving and supporting guidance. Are you okay adopting is he okay adopting so That right there has nothing to do You know, you can't leave You shouldn't leave a good person who is amazing with a great heart Just because of you know, circumstances It's typically you let a person's character run you off But if everything else is perfect, then you just gotta ask yourself how you feel about it Because you could go And and you could wait on a man who can have kids and who want kids But he might not be a good guy and then you're going through boom god god god, you know, so Understand that right there So, hey We coming on to a close nine. We I'm gonna wrap on uphill um I miss Some of y'all questions, but you know, I really can't get all of them just because It's a thousand questions that get posted in there So I just kind of could see what I could see and grab what I could grab But I do this often I do this every week. I'm trying to do this about three Sometimes four times a week lord willing. Um So I really appreciate you now as I was looking at this here tonight And going through these hill messages What I'm realizing is what a lot of y'all got to do is you got to know when to shut the door You got to know when to shut the door. You got to know When to read the sign, you know, read the room and know when you need to exit stage left Don't get stuck Bombing on stage and you just stand there And everything You you you getting trapped in a burning house and you just stand there I remember a lady. She said tell me one time. She said listen. I tell my my children treat your relationship like a house Lock your doors Close your blinds unless you want some sunshine. Don't let strangers in And I and I talked that analogy one time and a lady said, yeah Treat it like a house, but don't get caught in a burning house And I said, um, I'm gonna take that with me And that's what you got to realize A lot of y'all in the house that's burning down Now one thing I saw that kept being repeated the night is a man saying he's not ready for a relationship Listen to me. Um, cocoa. God bless you. I see your blessing just came in there. Now y'all listen to me now When a man tells you he is not ready for a relationship As soon as he tells you that get go get go Don't waste another day another second Because when you stay and a man tells you he's not ready for a relationship And you stay you keep talking to him thinking you're gonna get him ready thinking you're gonna change his mind thinking you're gonna change his life What you are giving him is authorization to dog you out You giving him the okay to cheat on you to Just run your muck Plymouth rock landed on you. You give me you giving him free reign. So listen most men Because this what you got to understand is a difference in the brain between men and women some people say ain't no difference in the brain but that's a lot A woman possesses the cognitive skills that most men lack You'll see this when I when I tell y'all about this you'll see this in a three-year-old girl and a three-year-old boy You listen to the difference in how they talk Women are much more expressive and articulate See a woman can go from a to m o n o p m n o p q r s g j z y w to get the b A man a man got to go from a to b Nine out of ten men when men are communicating they got to go from a to b A woman could um a um. Oh now i'm on l like a lily pad. Oh now i'm on m and then get back to b So what you got to realize is if you listen See because a lot of women y'all you listening to your body clock You hear that right now? In that microphone That's the ballast And the balls in here in the hill watch. Okay And so a lot of y'all your body clock so loud When the man talking Your body clock. That's all you hear So he told you What I just said was I'm not even really ready for a relationship, but all you could hear was You picture in a white dress the dress you've been looking at On instagram You think about your house that you want to build with your husband. You ain't hear nothing he said He told you he's not ready for a relationship in another Conversation he told you he think marriage is a hoax He don't even really believe in marriage But you ain't hear none of that you heard it and it went one end out of Listen listen to what he's saying Because most men they're gonna tell you They're gonna tell you listen to what he's saying Hey, I'm getting ready to go now. I got to go. Um, I see co-co God bless you AJ Lee Sending that blessing. Hey bless y'all. I really appreciate it. Uh, what tomorrow is Thursday I probably I post a video tomorrow. I'm not sure if I go live I may try to but every time I say that I end up not feeling like it But um, God bless you y'all see it take a lot of energy to do do this right here I want to have Answering all these questions and deep questions and people life You know in the balance and so it is real draining it's real draining So sometimes you want to do it two days in a row and then next day I'll just be like The lord ain't feel my cup back up yet So I have to wait till I get my refill because when I come on here, I got to be live I got to be energetic I can't be on here like mr. Rogers Because everybody been on going to sleep and I want to have so I got to be on here and have some energy And I'm answering real questions, you know with no prompts with no preparation I ain't getting the questions before and the reason why I do that because I want you to understand that the way I answer these questions I want you to understand that I'm just a vessel that this God's work See if I get the question beforehand Anybody could get the question beforehand and sit there and go through all love them and come up with these Quotes and with these sands the answers I give you This all this just a spirit flowing. This is the Holy Spirit this God's work And that's why I do it like that so that you know that this right here. This ain't games You know, this this real right here This some people just came and some people was called and that's what I want you to understand That's why I do it the way I do it. But hey, God bless you I'm gonna get on off of here. We'll be in touch. Talk to you soon