 Well this morning was more freaking interesting So I woke up because I work for CBC and I was doing content for them about Meghan Markle not attending Princess Diana's Birthday the late Princess of course and his birthday celebration and what that means for her and Harry's relationship And then I went and was like on Twitter just to like take a break and then boom my time line exploded with all this Rob Kardashian and China Is what what's her last name black China is your last name China then I'm confused But nonetheless, I really wanted to do a response video to this because again I think that this pop culture phenomenon in this moment in pop culture history because that's where we're at in 2017 Is a teachable moment for both sides? So I want to talk to the Rob Kardashians out there and I want to talk to the black China's And if you don't feel like you are either one of those people, I think you're lying to yourself We've all been in one of these people's predicament in some way or another So if you want the Rob Kardashian version skipped to this minute the black China one you could stay here I so first up to all my black China's out there I have something called moral ambiguity, which I just got through age and through hearing enough stories We're in essence you come to conclusion that there really is no such thing as Inherently evil and ridiculous and bad bad bad human being acts and there's no such thing as wow This person is a saint. They're amazing. They're perfect They deserve all of our attention and our praise because of the fact that everything is subject to cause and effect and Circumstances and most people at the heart of it all are just doing what they can with the tools They have around them to survive to be good to those around them to love those around them in a way that they know And they see as effective but they have learned via culture or via environment that works best for them And so black China is a stripper and a lot of strippers who come from low income areas Go to that because they have no other way of sustaining a lifestyle of surviving of having safety because when you go in a strip club And you use your sexuality for money at least you have the security guards around you to protect you So if you learn in a very young age that your sexuality is the only commodity that you have you don't see your brain as a commodity you don't see your family as a way to leverage yourself in success you don't see that there's any kind of You know athletic dreams for you So the only way that you see yourself being able to maintain a lifestyle in the world that you live in is through sexuality because that's how You get attention. That's what you can see there is a demand for because we exist in supply and demand So she's a stripper and here is a stripper's essential cycle a stripper detaches sexuality from emotion and then they go into an environment where they exaggerate sexuality and they exaggerate the emotions that go with it they continue on this dance until they're able to turn a profit then They try to upsell their client as much as possible when they realize their client is tapped out and doesn't want to buy anymore They then move on to the next but here's a really useful tool for a stripper as well, too It's sperm competition now when you've had a man who has spent a lot of money on you But has stopped a certain point But he exists in the vicinity by throwing yourself at other men or giving other men attention You then ignite a jealousy in him and he is likely to come back and spend more on you Which is why for many strippers repeat customers are actually how they make the majority of their income so This cycle that she has utilized to make a way for herself at a very young age is what brought her into her next phase of her life Which is dating a rapper and going into the media limelight now when she first began She was just sort of the add-on girl who again had these exaggerated Sexual features that got everyone's attention once again doing the same things in the strip club exaggerating sexuality to get attention and And If you kind of look at her all she's really done is get better at that process get better at that repetition And I think a lot of us can really relate to this. I know for me for example, especially at a young age I definitely because of the fact of where I grew up and why I surrounded myself with and the kind of people that I surrounded myself with the Kind of music and movies that I watched I definitely saw my sexuality as a commodity not for money of a personal gain because I grew up in the suburbs So that wasn't really like a high priority for me But it was definitely a way for me to get attention It was definitely a way for me to get intimacy And so I use sex in that regard to get close to people and if you guys want to raise an eyebrow around now I'll go through my email and let you know that a lot of you are going through this exact same thing And this isn't to shame a woman because that is a part of the culture that we live in as a part of the world That we live in that puts a very high premium on this and tells a woman this very confusing message that she should save her Sexuality to be good, but in order to be valued. She has to give it away share it and exaggerate it So I definitely went through that phase where I absolutely found myself in that cycle of Selling my body in return for attention or in return for someone's time my first time having sex as a matter of fact I don't really remember much else other than thinking this guy is so good-looking I should have sex with him that in my mind the payoff for getting the time and attention of somebody who I found very Attractive was to trade my body in an exchange for that And I can kind of see black China doing the exact same thing where now she's at this certain rank And if there is turmoil in her relationship, she uses sperm competition to get her way She uses her body in order to get attention to sell and no longer student at the strip club But she's doing it on Instagram and there's millions of you guys who buy into it Who tip her every single time that you press that like button and that isn't her fault She is just a product of her environment And if you have ever pressed liked or clicked a story hello myself included Then you are one of the people who are sustaining the business you are in essence attending the strip club So to shame the strippers while you paid your cover charge is really ridiculous and back at back ass were asked backwards That's a funny words and mess up is asked backwards So if you want and you are a black China out there to make a difference for yourself change your stimuli Change what it is that you look at on a daily basis change what you put into your feed into your psyche You have to read different elements. You have to go on TED Talks You have to take yourself off of those gossip blogs You have to unfollow a lot of people on Instagram who are motivating you or explaining to you or illustrating to you that Sexuality is the only way to gain attention to gain status. There are so many multi-millionaires in LA It's insane, and I probably know decimal zero two of their names That goes to show me that there is a lot of ways to make it out there in this world But only one very loud way that we often see based on again what we choose to digest So all my young queens out there and my black Chinas I want you to be happy and I want you to understand that yes The world is going to encourage you to do this to yourself But self-destruction may follow suit and if your goal is to be happy and successful and sustained There are other ways and in order to Identify those ways for yourself. You have to expose yourself to them And I hope that black China does that and I can definitely see why would she quit right now? Her tricks have been working over and over again. The same exact mentality has gotten her this far Why on earth would she choose to sustain it while she is in essence at the top of her career? All right For my Rob Kardashian's out there What the fuck? What is that? That is not closure And I think that a lot of us have a very skewed misconception of what closure is when you are truly ready to be finished with a Relationship you are finished parenting lecturing and condemning the other person and all the work that you're doing on her You could have done it for yourself, and I actually would have subscribed to that more I honestly think that would have gotten just as much attention if that is their goal because I know I'll get the Response to all they care about as attention to which if you do I believe that a healthy way of getting attention for yourself as well as getting attention from the rest of the world would be to say Hi, I am Rob Kardashian I grew up in a family of people who constantly put themselves who hoard themselves out lack of a better term To the media and I found it very exhausting. I became Self-depreciating self sabotaging. I shied away from the limelight I was so tired of going out every single day and having to be constantly asked questions about the people that I love and the Ridiculous antics that they were up to and so I decided to feed you guys your own medicine And I got involved in a scandal of my own now I became the topic of conversation in my family and yes I used this person who over time maybe I grew to love because at the end of the day if you spend enough time with anybody You're gonna get that sense of love or addiction to them So you grew to love this person, but maybe your motives in the beginning weren't completely altruistic either Maybe you can identify that identify some of the struggles that you went through and why it is that you got yourself into this unhealthy toxic relationship and have Continued to deepen the bonds between the two of you guys knowing that it was unhealthy and of course dragging another life into it Which at the end of the day, I don't really know if I'm going to feel bad for dream Kardashian She's going to have a lot of awesome experiences and times and hopefully as she gets older She watches this channel and she learns to decipher and to look at all the ridiculousness around her And learn the lesson as opposed to becoming a victim of the culture that her parents have created for her But I think that you know, it's not a bad life to live So I'm not going to go around pitying you, you know for being brought into this situation But nonetheless Rob if you truly are done and you want to get better not Rob Kardashian The Rob's watching this channel right now if you do want to get over a situation Somebody has deeply wronged you focus on yourself take all of this energy that it takes to Extend your arm and point the finger and just Assess what you did wrong assess the holes inside of yourself that caused you to be Attracted to that kind of person your own insecurities what you would do differently What lessons you have learned have that dialogue get naked in that way. You'll still get the ratings But you'll absolutely get the therapy as well, too There's some free therapy for you and that's my last piece of advice. So I think at the end of the day I'm not gonna sit here and tell you guys bad on you for paying attention because I was definitely one of those people who is right there But when I did view this I looked for myself. I looked for the lesson and most importantly I looked for you So when you look at the whole Rob and black China situation number one Tell me where do you see yourself and to where do you see the lesson? What are some that you can say that you can all take from this and grow to become better because if we're going to ingest it Let's at least find some nutritional value And Between me and you Rob. I Know I know you got paid way more than 250,000 to release the story. That's all I want to say Due to popular demand. 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