 If you don't take charge of your internal ecosystem, you'll spend your lifetime to control other peoples. If you don't control your emotions, you'll try to control other peoples' emotions that keep upsetting yours. So you spend your life being exhausted, trying to remove from your world things that upset you, you don't like, that bother you, challenge you, upset you, confront you. You spend your life navigating all of that, not knowing that that's gonna keep coming. Stuff you don't like and people you don't like and people you don't get on with and challenges you'd rather are gonna keep coming. It's called being a human and being alive. So the sooner we figure out that we can only change the internal world and as your internal life goes, so your external life goes.