 Shlomo, tell us what are let's say four mistakes that you see people making in communication? Sure, so I mean one mistake I think if you could master this, half of the interactions will be different is finding the right time or the mistake is that we don't have the right time. So you can use common sense if your spouse is coming in from a long day of work and they're hungry, tired, and hungry, you know you just start you know dumping on them the minute they open the door. Honey, I have a whole list of things for you to fix. Or at least that's better than other things. Honey, I'm done with the kids. It's your turn. Right, so that's probably not a good thing or to confront them with something they did. Probably not a good idea. I'm really mad at you because you did this today. You didn't call me and you came home late and why'd you come home late? Let's see the intention of your interchange. Do you want you just want to dump on it on your spouse? Do you want to make them feel bad and want to punish them? Okay, there may be a part of that there, a little bit of anger, but it's more about I'm not happy with what happened. I want a change. I want to see something different.