 So here, I made some camera clear to the best of my ability. Now let me know if you can hear me. Can you hear me? Be faith and know if you can hear me. Get this old light clunk up a little bit. Ooh, they ain't too light. Too, too light. Too much light in the face. Y'all forgive me. Let me see. Brianna, you ain't watching enough videos. If you think I'm going to write you in the comments, tell them I'll write them on WhatsApp. Come on now. Y'all got to, y'all. That's why I be trying to tell y'all. Y'all got to, you can't be that desperate for a sign from God, for a message, because that's what we'll do. We'll believe the distraction. We'll believe the decoy. And because we just sitting there, I know God's going to say something. So you see me tell you. I don't answer no messages from women in the DM. Then you're going to think I'm going to message you in the comments and say, write them on WhatsApp. Now, a lot of y'all been writing me about that. Tony, what's this in the comments? What's this in the spam? What's this in the comments? What's this? And I'm like, for one, that make me feel special that y'all only watch my YouTube channel or y'all only read my comments. Because if you look around at other YouTube channels, that's really happening on almost every YouTube channel. Especially a YouTube channel with over 100,000 subscribers, you will see pictures of them in the comments and saying message me on WhatsApp or something like that. It's just sad that scammers be out there like that. It's just crazy to see, like, wow. Like, you just can't believe that it's like that, but it is what it is. We're early tonight. Now, a lot of people, I didn't realize it was this early. Even though I type 745, I normally go on here at like 9 p.m. When people be done with dinner and all of that. But it was just when I looked at my calendar and realized I didn't have a coaching session tonight or anything, I just asked my wife, hey, can I go live? And she's like, yeah, you gone live. So that's why I'm on here. And got a little time to take these shoes off. And get comfortable. I had football practice with Tayden tonight. And then after they practice an hour, me and him went another hour practicing and just to, you know, get a little more work in. Got to get my boy right. It's flag football, we ain't doing help and see none of that yet. We might do it one season. I don't want them to play, but I like them to do a season just because that football, you know, it do teach you some lessons, some other lessons about life and about manhood that, you know, I wouldn't wish that on nobody for a long time, but we might do that. So y'all forgive me just coming on here early and hopefully we be done in a decent time so that, you know, I could re-likes. Later tonight, you ain't got to stay up, you know. Oh, y'all, no, Ella. So y'all, what time it is, where y'all at? It can't be eight o'clock, where y'all at now? Y'all ready to go to bed already? Here, here on my hat here. So, yeah, but I wanted to pop on here and do a Q and A or something. Now listen, now listen, I'm gonna tell you something. Listen to me. I got a video I shot today. I don't know if I'ma post it. That's why I need to go and create Tony Tube. But I got a video today because I've been getting a lot of messages from women about their boyfriend or fiance or having like a man. And that's, you know, I would imagine that's been around since the beginning of time. But for me to be getting the amount of emails and messages about this, it also let me know that it's something going on out here. For men to be liking men, but having a woman. And the video was a little real now. And I think it's scheduled to go out tomorrow at noon, but you know, it's really, my thing is, is I don't want nobody to get offended or think I'm saying something about a certain community. But what I am strongly against is a man wanting a man, but also wanting to keep a woman and or lead that woman on or deceive that woman. I'm strongly against that. It just ain't right. It ain't fair. It's like, if you want, if you want, and don't use that woman as no beer when you want you a man. That right there, that bothered me because it just caused a lot of chaos and confusion. And can you imagine if a child in a situation don't know like that they weren't born in a way that they want somebody of the same, you know, gender. And they want somebody that opposite gender. And this boy, 12 years old, and then he find out his dad had him with his mom, but his dad dealing with men too. That's just unnecessary confusion. And that's unselfish. I mean, that's selfish of humans to do that. So it's like, if you want to live that life, then okay, that's on you as a grown man, but don't take a woman through that and have her there and confused and wondering and she don't know if she being cheated on with a man. Like we got to really, we got to get some type of, you know, respect and morals about life. And it's like, you can't have your cake and eat it too. So don't want you what you want, but then want somebody to be your cover up because you don't want to tell your friends or your family or your coworkers what you really want. You know, that just ain't right. And so I got that video, I shot that video now. Video, it's a little real. And then the day I shot a video for men too, as I was driving because it's a lot going on right now. I sent this to the blessed business tribe about the video, you know, with the lady who was on the website doing the nasty movies. And I'm realizing that here these guys is who do a business channel and about making money. And they interviewing this lady who she make up money from making nasty movies and she young in her early twenties. And that just was so heartbreaking to me to see that somebody was raised with that much confusion that they will sell their private areas and private life online just for money. And it show you just how money hungry people can be. But what the video was about was about men and them nasty movies. Because they gotta, you know, they gotta know, they gotta be watching that to know who she is. And the one young man who interviewing him, he interviewing her and then he mentioned some other ones that is making good money. I'm like, well, all you're doing is watching this till stuff, my brother. Like, how do you know all these names of these women who got these channels who making good money? You got a lot of subscriptions going on. But it just showed me like how men could be out here functioning. And there's a couple of women that wrote me too about this. A couple of women that wrote me too about, you know, saying something about that they have that same addiction to the nasty movies. And it's just, it's a trick of the enemy. It's a trick of the enemy. And you got to be careful with that stuff. You got to be careful with it. Now, if it was all right and it was healthy for your life and for a relationship, then I'd be stamping it. But we got to be careful with the nasty movies because it just, it's gonna lead you astray. It's gonna take you down a path you don't wanna go down. And so you got to get your life together on that. And I'm gonna tell you now from a male perspective, if a man got an issue with that, I would tell my daughter if I had a daughter or my sister, I would tell them don't deal with that man. Let him get that together. Hey, y'all hold on right quick. Cause I had took my range off in there. For some I was washing my hands, took my range off. Let me go get my range and get my wedding range. Hold on right quick. So, yeah, y'all had to go get my range cause y'all have me on a blog. Oh yeah, Tony asked him was on live and they had a wedding range on. He must be going through what such and such going through. No, no, not me, not me. Now let me tell you something else before I get started. My 14 year old come home today and a man at his school, older gentlemen probably in his 60s or something, 70s then gave him a son a demerit. So they get demerits at their school. Gave them a demerit cause why they out serving at the metropolitan ministries, they had to went outside and was waiting on the students. So my son walked back in there into, my son walked back in there into the foyer to get his friends like, hey, y'all come on. The latest, you gotta have a mask on in here. Now mind you, she being all extra cause where we live at, that ain't really no thing but he had had it on the whole time they was leaving. So he had them throw it away. They were leaving and he was like, oh, okay. Well, where do I get a mask from? Over at the table, he went to the table to put it on, put it on when it got the students. And then as he walking out, he took it off as he finna walk out. Now the lady that went to the teacher and told the teacher he being disrespectful and see this the thing. And I told my son, I say, now if that was a white female, she wouldn't say it nothing. She wouldn't say it, nothing about that. And he says, elderly white lady, now where we live at is the racial lines is real prejudice. And then the guy, older white guy. And so the guy gonna write an email and I told my wife what I felt about it and I wrote that man, I wrote that man an email and I say, listen here, we paying $30,000 plus for my son to go to this school and his only demerit is from you. And my son had been at this school 11 years and they never once got a demerit for disrespect. I say, you need to be able to talk to my son and ask him what happened before you just assumed something. And I'm serious with my son about his behavior because I don't want him to meet somebody like you that's gonna look at him with implicit bias and judge him and believe something that somebody else told him without asking him to get the facts first because your demerit could be they bullet if it's a racist police. And so I put that man in check now and I'll go up to that school and talk to him. But the lesson from that is is you got to make sure that you getting a whole rundown from your child when your child come home. That you getting a whole rundown about school because you have people that's teachers and people that's over your child that have implicit bias and be saying a little stuff to your child and your child don't even realize it. And so when I told it to my wife and she went and told my son, my son say the man is racist because when he talked to me, if you heard the tone that he talked to me with you would have thought that I had done somebody. And so when I heard that because my son he know you got to come all the way correct because if I find out you lying boy you finna pay a price. And so I let him know we'll go to the battle for you but you got to be 100% honest. And so we then gave him that honesty to where he honest to a fault. He tell us everything. He tell too much business. But I say that to say you got to get on these schools no matter what kind of school you at you got to be able to let them teacher know I ain't use a single cuss word and yeah I compare them to the police that's out here taking people lives because of they implicit bias and you got to be able to check them and let them know you're gonna play about your kids because the thing they the thing today is that a lot of people, a lot of parents we get so caught up in our work we get so caught up in what we doing that we're not paying attention to our children and them teachers could be at school and they could be being mistreated at home them teachers they could be mad with a boyfriend mad with a girlfriend mad with a husband mad with a wife. They could have an eviction notice they could be going through anything and them adults we know from being adults that we can project our were our mishaps on the other people. So imagine your child being projected on from this here teacher if you not paying attention. So that's another little life lesson to where you got to get involved you got to make sure you go sit down with the principal you sit down with the assistant principal you talk to these people and you talk to the teacher and you let them know that you hands on and that you act with your child you let them know that you discipline your child at home so don't send home no disciplinary note just thinking ain't nothing gonna happen because your child paying a price for that my son had been without his Xbox for five months before because of something he did in school in the fifth grade what fifth grade are getting grounded five months from the Xbox? Not many. A lot of parents barely do two days barely do a week two weeks is like two years the most parents not over here because I got to raise the boy right and so I let these folks know and all of them is the opposite race of me but I let them know this I don't play about mine now I don't play about mine you got to see me by mine you got to talk to me you got to let me know this a child this ain't no adult you need to call me you need to tell me what's going on with my minor you feel I'm saying and this you got to put these people in place because a lot of time they think oh you still this and that and they'll go to treat you like that you got to let nobody knew I'm off that plantation now you got to see me correctly you hit me and I tell my son listen you got the defensive drive and you get out the situation and then you make sure you speak truth to power if you're talking to somebody with something on their hip you're talking to somebody you're dealing you'll never know what somebody dealing with now what somebody got on their hip but if you know he got something on his hip you get out the situation and then we going to get that lawsuit then we going to get that recourse but now when you're dealing with a school teacher or something like that no I tell my son listen I say when that man come up to you I say what the man there he say no he say did he ask you what happened he say yeah but he didn't really let me explain he was walking off I say uh-uh you get him and say yes can I explain to you what happened and you make sure that you explain what happened I say you got a voice don't let nobody make you feel like you ain't got no voice and like you can't speak up for yourself so if somebody going to accuse you of something make sure you express yourself and that's the thing what I would listen to a book one time I think it was Malcolm Gladwell and he was talking about how the middle class how like the upper middle class and he ain't say a color or go to the doctor and the mom tell the child like listen this doctor is like your friend he worked for you we paying him so any questions you have you answer you ask the questions you have so the child come in there with the doctor and he like this a partnership so yeah so what are we doing today and all of that but then I think of Malcolm Gladwell book he say the lower class the lower middle class so the lower class financially tell their child hey when we go in here this is a doctor you shut up you be quiet you be behaved you don't say a word and you go in here and you get this shot and you get the medicine and you don't say nothing and he say they taking still the voice of the child feeling like they don't belong feeling like they don't have any agency and now it's different when you dealing with somebody with someone they help now that right there that's when you got to be intelligent and you got to know but when you dealing with something just regular everyday people and workers and that's why a lot of people people come out here to work in my house and they come out here with a chest Pope die because they're working for somebody who don't look like them and they think they want to have that same energy like they had on the plantation no bro you ain't got to get this job hey don't hey hold on I hold on I excuse me sir I ask you a question so I need a question hey sir they sound like you rushing sound like you rushing through I'm asking you questions blah blah blah actually sir yeah I'm not going to hire your company okay well fine all right yeah all right bye you see what I'm saying we have to have a sense of agency and you got to have some ownership on this hill planet in this world and we got to stop living so scared because your money and where you want it to be um we ain't got no topic MP so and so don't come in here talking about what's the topic it's the topic is what are we talking about now I see don't come in come in here trying to check none now see what I'm saying hey listen this about here energy this here about ownership and so we have to understand that you see what I say it's a check it's a check and see this is the thing people we get in this place where we can't get beside ourselves the way we want to check somebody you know what I'm saying and that's why I told y'all today that I post that video the well 2022 this hill block finger working fast the hill block finger working fast and I see anybody in the comments uh telling me how to do my video Malcolm God bless you now now Malcolm I think you the only man in the flesh tribe God bless you now we need more men in there well we got a few other men but they rarely be on the chat and that's what we got to get over as men mm-hmm yeah come on out now come on in here and feel the temperature of the room first you know sit sit and read a little bit first you know because come on out y'all know I be hyper sensitive about my stuff so come on you know feel the room out first listen read a few chats you know then kind of see okay Nelson in here alright Nelson in the flesh tribe I'm glad to see you Nelson that you still here I be seeing Nelson always wonder when a man in the flesh tribe I'd be like nah hold on is his girlfriend in the flesh tribe and he was trying to show her he doing some work or he just really supporting appreciate you those Nelson bless you TG I wanted to give to you because you constantly pour on to us I'm grateful you still working with us appreciate your patience and diligence God bless you Nelson I see Nelson all all the time on MP God bless you I appreciate it I'm glad you excited I'm glad you excited I'm excited for you too Bodine thank you thank you for all that you do for us a God bless you now now remember if you have a question put hashtag Q hashtag Q and in between the questions I'm just kind of talking just kind of ran because one thing I like to do is pull lessons from real life and one of the things I see is like that right there came in from that man and I wish I could read that the mayor the man the man didn't even see my son situation with the mask not guarantee you that man voted for Trump trauma window mask so if my son walking somewhere and in the state we in nearly it ain't even a mask mandate so the lady being all extra because she elderly so and then she looking at she white she looking at a black boy she she older 70s 80s in our state that ain't no you know and so when the man sent the thing in the way he wrote it it sound like my son look him in the face and said no I'm not doing nothing that's how the man wrote it like it was very disrespectful and made us look bad as a or as a school and organization so I had to get that I had to get to the bottom of that with my son because he don't play that and the man want him now a mountain God bless you now God bless you and I thank you for giving me a chance and what I ask even more men who will be passing by on here and who always and who think this be about man bashing or it's just you know one of them pandering channels is to give it a chance listen to what I'm talking about and then realize that I call it straight down the middle then I'm just stepping on my toes and just telling the truth as I know it to help us be better as people help us grow as people not just helping women grow not just helping men grow but helping people grow and I think a lot of times I don't realize that and Lady Kat you already know I don't play that I ain't raise no disrespectful kids I'll be the first one I'll be the first one in their chest so you know but I say that to say we got to protect our children we got to make sure that we in here taking care and we speaking up so people know when you do by this child do right by this child so I have four friends that purchase a membership you talking about the blessed tribe if so God bless you God bless you now now if you have a question put the hashtag Q test Jordan that's the first one I've seen can you please elaborate on what a low maintenance woman is and why it could be a downfall in a relationship now see here's the thing now I collaborate on stuff but if I did not come up with the term that that what that means is that my interpretation could be wrong so essentially a low maintenance woman it could mean something different to each man but just in general speaking it's really talking about a woman who doesn't ask for anything or much or she doesn't require much so some women don't get their nails done some women do their own hair some women do their own makeup some women don't like like high dollar fancy designer clothes that would be considered low maintenance on the money side some women are not confrontational and they don't like to call town hall meetings they don't like to address small stuff they don't like the nitpick they just address big issues or issues that could lead to a breakup and so that could be low maintenance on the relational side of things and so that's really what that's talking about now if you see somebody post a hashtag Q and then you see some other chats come in just hold your question and post it to when it sound like I'm about to stop talking should you tell a woman whose husband is following and interacting with on social media nah, nah, listen nah, listen the side I'm on is mind your business that's the side I'm on and normally I would say yes but in today's time I would say mind your business because for one she might know already and hope and don't nobody else know because if you know and that's not your man I'm pretty sure she know because she gonna pay even closer attention to her man if you paying attention to her man you see what I'm saying so she may know and may not want nobody to know and if she not on social media then okay she might not know but somebody else might tell her but nah, again what you have to understand about people is that people could be territorial about their situation so if you speak on her man and she say well such and such told me you've been doing this on social media that man if you don't know where his mind at because if he doing that publicly on social media then his mind is a little gone because that's taboo so if he publicly taboo that mean he is a little off so what that tells me is that that's the type of man that will loosen your lug nuts on your tires so that when you get on the highway going 70 you got a little issue so see that's why I say mind your business because today we dealing with different stuff Paula God bless you and I thank you for joining nah nah more okay let me see now I'm looking for the hashtag Q nah if a moderator get in here they'll be deleting all the extra chatting so y'all get that in while you can should you tell a woman whose husband is following okay that's the one I read met a guy asked for my number and gave it to him he text me frequently no calls good convo share similar values but says not looking for a relationship why even ask for my number because he cheating because he cheating and so and that's why he not calling because it's just simpler the just text so when you're not gonna be serious about somebody or you trying to figure out if they want to jump in that bed then he just gonna text and so you got to understand that if you meet a man and all he does is text like a man who serious or a man who want something a man who looking for a relationship he gonna call you the day of at the latest the next day or the next day and then what a man who serious about something what he want to do is he want to get on the phone with you or he want to get on FaceTime with you but a man who only text that's always a track shoe situation lace him up and take on off put your track shoes on got to get gone because text message is not communication and that's why the conversation feel good because when you read them words just going into your brain differently and then you sitting on it and you re-plan it over and over and over so it's actually making the conversation better than it is that's why people like reading the book versus watching the movie or they think the book was better than the movie because when you read them words they're going to your mind differently hi Tony what's your thoughts on a dad who waits for the text and call him I can't fully wrap my head around that but because I'm in the home you know with my kids but one thing is when I'm on the road I don't call my kids I don't call my kids I don't talk to my kids on the phone when I'm on the road and I never have and the reason why is it make being on the road harder for me as an as an adult and I don't want to make it harder on them as a kid it could make it better on them but I don't know they don't ask to talk to me either you know they be fine with their mama but I don't I rarely unless they write there I say hey or whatever but I don't ask to talk to them on the phone and reason being is because I don't like being on the road and so a lot of time with some men when they're not with their child it's their way of processing the pain it's their way of processing and this if it's a decent dude now if he just no good then you don't even think you'll be asking that question because you already know what he's about but when he a decent dude and he doing something like that sometimes it's just because it's failure it remind him of failure when he reach out when he got a call to him it remind him of failing with you and it remind him that he not in the home so for a lot for some men it's a coping mechanism and it's nothing against the kids or anything it's it's what he telling himself he got to do for his mental health and that's not making an excuse that's an explanation ladies and God bless you I appreciate the 2022 motivation via TG another male in the blessed tribe okay this is L ladies and God bless you God bless you I'm 54 he's 56 been dating exclusively for a year talk of marriage he has 15 year old daughter coming to live with him full time changes full time changes us how to move full time changes us how to move how to move Tony well she's 15 so that's a little different she's 15 she's not 5 so she probably dating herself probably could be doing a little more than dating so she now by grown 3 years she grown so she probably not tripping over you so don't look at it too deep like that that's on him to handle that's on the man to handle now if he not handling it and she like disrespecting you or she telling him to break up with you or something like that then that's when you know you got a little issue but don't make it an issue if it's not an issue taking flight God bless you no any advice for single mother who have distances from her family of her and her father with no support anywhere needing encouragement one thing you have to know in a situation like that is that you are enough that's one thing you have to know because you got to realize the one thing you needed a man for how that child is just that right there that went in now and then after that from that point forward from you carrying that child to the child coming out to you feeding that child God require nothing else of the man so when a man take a stupid pill when a man go his way you have to know that you are enough you got to know that you were not complete that you were not created as a half you will create it as a whole so that you have to know that you are enough and that you are more than enough for that child and so that's what you have to remind yourself of that you not incomplete that you not half that you hold and that you got everything that it take to raise your child and so you have to remind yourself for that you got to write it down and read it you got to speak it out loud and you got to tell yourself that because otherwise you will feel like you are on an island a deserted island and you can't flourish and nothing good can happen and whatever narrative you give yourself that's what you're gonna believe that's what you're gonna create when you've mentioned that a woman's appearance sends a message to a man how does a man read a woman who's bald off off direct is say strong the other thing it could say it's if it's not strong then it could say well it's gonna say strong regardless but he may wonder if it's alopecia or he may wonder if she's going through chemo is it chemo radiation and so he may wonder if it's something like that but for me it says strength and the reason why I said strength is because it's not the norm it's out of the norm it's off the beaten path it's unique it's it's rare and so to do something that's not normal to do something to rock something because a woman that's bald could also wear a wig so to do something that's not you know every woman or nine out of ten women to me that says this woman is bold this woman is daring this woman is strong this woman is confident and so you know you have to think about that but yeah but and then two different men gonna read women differently you know I'm kind of sometimes I read a little too deep in the things hey big brother Tony do you think couples therapy would help to sort out issues regarding his after two years of relationship he's aware now but a lot of damage before diagnosis um I don't think it could hurt you know I don't think it could hurt so it could be worth it I don't think it could hurt but you know help is help so it's worth a shot and if you marry it's worth a shot and you know if he was diagnosed with that then if the if that doctor you know that diagnose does sessions then that could that could help too but I really don't understand that on a deep enough level because I'm not a counselor or a therapist so I try not to speak on stuff that I don't understand make sure y'all put the hashtag Q so I can identify the questions easier how can get in the bless the bless business tribe I get out of the bless tribe will I still have access to the videos with being in the bless business tribe God bless you mr. G um I'm not a hundred percent sure but I think when you in the bless tribe up under my video it'll say see perks and when you click that see perks on the left hand side where you see bless tribe right up under it it's a bless business tribe or depending on your device it may be over to the to the right it may be to the to the lower left it may be over to the lower right depending on your device and how you're looking at it so what I recommend is logging in from like google chrome on your computer and not from your phone because when you go to the phone especially on an iphone the memberships are more because iphone take 30 percent so the memberships are more from an iphone whereas if you log in on a desktop and not an app then you can join the membership for the price that it is especially if you're on a google site like chrome or something like that then you're not paying extra and then you log into your account from your phone you already got the membership i think it should work like that but i'm not sure because how they do it but um it's just an upgrade and yes you have access to chat so the bless business tribe members can chat in here because you know any membership that's higher than the than the base membership they could do everything that those under it can do so yeah you have access to it not sure if it makes sense to keep male friend around both 21 five-year friendship but he flirts every blue moon with me and wants to take trips with me is it possible he has underlying motives um no it's not it's not worth keeping them around and the reason being is men and women can't be friends and i know and i say there's a blanket statement and i know there's exceptions to the rule uh candles god bless you welcome and honey savage uh welcome i know there's uh exceptions to the rule so y'all think and so i just say it's exceptions to the rule because y'all think it is because every time i say that women say oh i've been friends with my godfriend for 20 years and we best friends and he know my husband and all of that okay that don't mean nothing that don't mean that don't mean what what he's doing in his mind to you what he's doing with his hand to you that don't mean nothing at all because he know your husband men and women can't really be friends um not forever it could be friend for a season it could be friend for a period of time if it might take 20 years before he make it move but if he like women he's gonna make it move he eventually gonna make a move because that's how a man wired now the only time that don't happen is when a man is absolutely not at all attracted to a woman but even then a man still might make a move because of what that mouth do he might not be all the way into the woman but he's still a finer time to make a move and so now for 21 y'all so young so five years that's from what 16 so he really don't know left from it right at 21 years old a man really don't be begin being a man or entering manhood till 25 and so 21 years old he can't walk it uh walk into bubblegum so you really can't and the thing about it is a 21 year old woman you paying for a membership on youtube to the blessed tribe at 21 it will be hard pressed to find a 21 year old man that'll be a member of a life coaches for a mentors youtube channel that's not only focusing on making money now 21 year old man a join a crypto currency page a stocks page a flipping shoes page or making money page but a page about life and bettering life you'll be hard pressed to have a 21 year old man in here and so i say that to say that's the difference between men and women and so you got to realize when you 21 as a woman that's equivalent to about a 25 or 26 year old man and a 21 year old man is equivalent to you know anywhere from a 13 to 17 year old woman and so that's what you have to understand y'all not on the same page and not to say date older it means focus on your money focus on your school focus on you and don't give too much time and energy to men at that age why don't this guy divorce we haven't been together in five years no contact in my 30s i can't do this not fair why not divorce i don't know and you know just because that's a very specific situation and so but the question is why you don't divorce you know why you don't divorce there got to be something in the law that let you go ahead and get your freedom back so don't sit and wait for him off all topics do you have Venmo or just cash out i got Venmo too and um but i don't know really how it worked i got Venmo too but um yeah i'm not sure how that like i don't know the name on there or nothing like that so not not too sure like i some people send me a somebody has sent me a Venmo before i don't know how they found me or how they did that but somebody has sent me a Venmo before let me see somebody said good question queen is somebody named queen or you just were calling her queen oh okay queen uh queen love so you sent the uh super chat but see when you send those right there the five dollars they disappear on me so i didn't even see that i'm glad somebody said something so i saw that hey tony hey tony from your experience in dealing with different people slash couples what are some signs that a man is interested in or or has dealt with men to be honest with you because i've never dealt with a man i really don't know the intricate signs of a man who has dealt with men so i like what i hear is that the women finding out now now one thing about it i could be wrong and i and i realized that i have been wrong in the past because i would overly judge mannerisms but i realized now and that's just because of how i was raised but i realized now it's men who i feel like it's just into women but they have mannerisms that i would have in my past younger years thought something was a little off so like when a man sit with that lead cross and he had a lead cross and it's all the way cross and it crossed and the good foot that's crossed is about touching the ground and that foot by touching the ground for me that was always a red flag but now i realized a lot of men sit like that and so i'm like now hold on i don't think he so i realized that maybe that's just a proper etiquette class they them took but me i've never in my life once sat with my legs cross so that because it's something between them so i've just i just couldn't not fathom or understand like okay so what are you doing when you crossing your legs like where is that going at that right there that's there like is it sitting up high is it dropping down low like what's going on so and always kind of watch you know but i just it just ain't no telling today sister it ain't no telling cuz i'm gonna tell you i met a guy who was six ten with big old muscles i mean just looked like a tank and was shredded all muscles and had a lot of women and then come to find out he like on some men too and i was floored i was absolutely flabbergasted i was befuddled i was the corroborated dilapidated i could not believe it did i say you is six foot ten and you like me i could mean because i'm like you too big to be with you a man to be hugging on you a man i'm like big as you well you six foot ten and so after that after that right there i'll say you know what it ain't no telling the day it ain't no telling the day these men is different today but one thing i wish these men would do it's just it's like listen come on out of that closet man and just you know you got groups out here you got organizations if somebody say something about y'all they ready to you know the hang of understate if somebody say something we got to get counsel love your buddy going to bed huh loving we got to get counsel so i'm like you got all their protection out here so i'm like you might well come on up so sister i'm gonna tell y'all sisters now you just got to pray you got to pray for wisdom pray for discretion and just and that's why i say you got to take your time you got to take your time because of this man like me you need to take your time because eventually eventually he's gonna slip eventually something he's gonna slip up but if you rushing in there and you in there boom you in the bed in three months you ain't got even enough time to slip now you you get nine months 12 months you're gonna mess around and hear something or see something on that phone and oh and now now you know but see the thing with our society we so loose booty we jumping right into the bed and so now a woman in the bed with a man and he don't even know if she his cover up or if he just doing that with her just as just because he having an internal battle and so you got to be careful today because you'll get up with something and that UTI because you got to realize that that man just hopped out of the foot shoe and he come on and give them some thoughts and then he come on over there to you now you walk around with a UTI you walk around burning itching and just like oh my goodness what in the world I happen and then what it was it will be see and that's what you have to realize so you got to take your time you got to take your time you got to be prudent you got to be prayerful you got to be patient and you just got to pay attention to the size what are some tactics to use to get a guy after two years of dating recently guy changed into a nut well see now first you got to be careful because see I don't teach tactics you got to be careful too many people out here I don't teach tactics I don't teach games I don't teach playing I don't teach none of that now okay so this the thing if a man turn into a nut that mean you need to learn the strut if the man turn into a nut you need to learn the strut meaning you got to get going because you have to you got to listen now what you meant by vet he turned into a vet because now listen if a man have been dating you two years oh you say how to vet not how to get what some tactics to vet well that's if a man turn into a nut you ain't got the battle you ain't got the battle he's not already showed you he's not already showed you so now you have to ask yourself because listen if you want a nut that mean you a squirrel you see what I'm saying now I see sometimes people take that stuff serious and it'll be a blogger this the advice Tony gas can give women they listen to this this here go the clip I'm about to play the clip for you or what the advice Tony give women not if you want a nut that mean you a squirrel they'll play that and and not understanding sense of humor and they'll think that's real advice but what I'm saying is if you if a man turn into a nut and you want a nut that mean you are not too so if a man turn into a nut that mean you got the strut and so you just have to look at this and understand it and and and Maya Angelou Maya Angelou told us what she said believe what some who somebody tell you they is or you know and that's the thing you say I didn't want to waste that much time listen if you don't let it go now you're going to end up wasting five years and you're going to end up wasting 10 years and that is a huge mistake that's the one of the biggest mistakes that women make is we don't want to flush that time down the toilet but but you have to but you have to look at it like this we don't flush that time down the toilet with that four-year degree that we're not using with that six-year degree we're not using with that eight-year degree we're not using we let that time go so if we willing to let the time go for the trade that we took and we're not using the degree we got the certification we got and we not you use if we willing to let that go we definitely need to be willing to let go of a no good relationship that's draining us that bringing us down you see what I'm saying because that relationship could cost you your life I've learned so much from you brother thank you for giving god bless you now god bless you Dominique where where the any red flags in the beginning um uh d compilation nine you don't need no don't you be in her coaching now okay up to being a coach all right all right listen I don't want to be liable for nobody else coaching on here I'm already liable for my coaching now y'all listen okay I'll be in the extra coaching now hey uncle Tony I was excited to see you sit down you don't do interviews with just anyone what set this interview off what did you want us to take away from the interview well I can't tell you what to take away from it the reason why I sat down with Miss Tasha is because she put time and energy into building her following I done so many interviews over my career and a person had 10 listeners and so she in a space to where they covering all these hot topics all this celebrity stuff and so I want to go over there because sometimes if people get into that that's all they could be into but and they might not think outside of that so if they hear my message and then some of them people come over here and they get the rest of this right here and I think that's what she's trying to do she's trying to say listen I'm not necessarily a life coach or author so but I'm gonna interview and introduce y'all to these type of people so y'all could go get that over there and you come over here for the entertainment and she might mix in some some other little of her own lessons or opinions or what have you but God children is everywhere because a lot of people that's on here watch those other kind of channels that cover hot topics and pop culture and stuff like that so it was one lady wrote me and she was like she was talking about she was disgusted and she couldn't believe I did an interview with her and that and calling the lady all kind of names and I'm like did she take your boyfriend in high school like how can you feel like I'm like if this is this one of the celebrities that she done talked about and this your burner account I'm like ain't nowhere in the world you could be that mad at somebody on the internet there's somebody on the internet you don't even know this woman so I think I wrote the woman back and then blocked her because I don't like that because Jesus Jesus love your Jesus love our dirty behind Jesus love our grown musty behind so how are we going to look at somebody and got the nerve to look down our nose at somebody because of the industry they in or what they doing when it ain't like it's you know pushing uh some type of she and she is posing people so guess what if I cheat on my wife she gonna be your best friend because she gonna spoil the mess out of me you hear me if I cheat on my wife she gonna spoil the mess out of me so so really that's another reason why I went over there too just to let her know just to let the people who think all people all black men are the same and think that we can't live a faithful lifestyle not have made every mistake in my past every stupid choice in my past but I'm not I'm not sitting at the peak of my career I'm not nowhere anywhere near the peak of my career but I'm not sitting at this level with three and a half million people on social media and cheating on my wife and and like some guys doing so that's also why I went over there because if I was cheating on my wife with any living breathing being if it was a unicorn she the person they'll email now if somebody email her a receipt it's from you can't even read it no more if from when I was young when I was out there it's it's already wrote about it already told the story in the book me and my wife and already talked about it we already talked through it but I know it ain't nothing that somebody gonna come up and say nobody can come up and say oh me and Tony being in relationship for x amount of time not not a not a two fairy not no man not no woman not no cat not no dog not no unicorn not not the woman on the moon that nobody can come out and say oh me and Tony been in a long affair and we was in this and he told me he wasn't married or he told me his relationship was on the rocks so that's why I could go anywhere I could go anywhere and do anybody interview because I ain't got nothing to hide and that's another thing is you know when you were in the body of Christ and you really live in it you can't be scared to go out and share the message because if Jesus just taught everybody that's wholly and sanctified wouldn't be no purpose so I gotta talk to people who they don't believe in positive examples of black men and so because of other coaches and people like that being exposed and not being exposed for what they did 10 years ago but being exposed for what they're doing right now or what they just did last year or the year before from coaches being exposed a lot of people don't believe that we could be positive and productive and that's why I'm doing certain interviews just to show that yes there are men who are sharing a good message but also living what we are teaching that we teaching from our mistakes but we're not still making those same bad choices that people can change people can grow and I'm living proof of it so we don't we need to have faith in each other in the sense of believing in humanity because we at the point now to where people just blanket statement oh all them relationship coaches are scam artists all them relationship coaches are dissing that all them is dissing that and just lumping everybody in and it's sad because if you believe that about me then what you're gonna believe about the man you meet in the street who not online holding himself accountable being vocal about his beliefs you're gonna look at him like a peon and like he can't be trusted to and so that's why I'm doing that just to let people know um actually welcome to the blessed tribe gg welcome to the blessed tribe Rachel welcome to the blessed tribe got back together with ex after a year no uh or 10 months communication good but says he's not getting married no time soon I want marriage in mid 40s walk away yeah you got to walk away if y'all don't want the same thing you know you got to walk away if y'all don't want the same thing because it got you back just to get you back it got you back just to prove to himself he could get you back and then just put you on ice get put you on a railway because as long as he's holding you still and he's not sleeping with you that don't mean he ain't sleeping with somebody else so if you ain't sleeping with nobody if you ain't sleeping with him then he know you ain't sleeping with nobody else because he know you so he know you just got your life sitting there on hold you on a railway and and then he tell you out his mouth it's no due date for me to get you off if you stay in that situation then he gonna thank you a plum fool so then when he marry you eventually one day maybe if he marry you he thank you a plum fool so he'll marry you just to cheat on you and just to get back at you for having the audacity to leave him in the first place and so when somebody you know you break up with somebody and then you go back to him if they not doing different or doing better they need to go going back by your business. Coco God bless you on Zoom call you said STL men are backwards similar to Dallas men and DC men no I ain't say similar to Dallas men or DC men I say different than Dallas men and DC men so that when you miss her that night where do you suggest I move to for a quality man I would love Cali if I can afford to one day thought Texas would be nice hey snow test will be good now Dallas will be a great place now on DC that's a little different you know that's kind of men that they a lot of them more white color than blue color and a lot of time with men white color men a lot of white color men struggle settling down white color black men because they going from black color to white color so now a lot of time white color black men think they're too good they too bougie for a relationship and then a lot of women looking down on blue collar men because they might make 30,000 to 50,000 now some blue collar men if they own the business or they're in a certain industry they could be making six figures they could be making seven figures but a lot of times women don't want to see that process come to fruition a lot of time women don't want to be a part of or the process a part of the client you know um Maya ain't say nothing about Dallas man so if you went on the zone you missed it and the other young lady was on the zone and miss her so that just go to tell you right there what you know how that go and see that that's the thing I'll take a blue collar man with clean nails now you saying that novella and you saying that with your crime face but you dead serious you were dead serious so a blue collar man nails might look like a grind up ran across his hand a lot of blue collar men too they nails nails just look like if they scratch it you'll just be leaking and so you got to understand so this the thing is like hey you got to understand now where this man heart at where the man mind at can't wear it by the hands can't wear it by and I know you say that jokingly but that but 50% of every joke got some truth to it so when you meet a blue collar man and them hands look a mess you know I can't do that I can't do that and then you go over here to the white collar man and then he calling you a low value woman and calling himself a high value man because he made $250 so now he all of a sudden think he gods give the women you see what I'm saying so you have to we got to get over the preferences and we got to just solidify the standards boss lady god bless you spoke on Sunday about putting a certain amount of money away for savings should that come from gross or net you know that's a personal choice because if your gross is is high that you could put away 10% of your gross and still live out of the net then that's one thing but if your gross is a lower number then it almost take almost everything of what you have then you may have to put that savings out your net and so it just it's not a one-size-fits-all and at the end of the day you got to do what you feel comfortable with because tomorrow I promise so a lot of people saving all this money saving all this money ain't gonna never get to spend it because they counting on days that they can't guarantee so that's why I say you save some you spend some you saving enough to where if you live to get to spend that you got some money there and then you also still know you got your hustle and your grind and if that's not guaranteed either so you may have disability insurance so that if you can't work you got disability insurance our neighbor told us you know he had a stroke and they had disability insurance so they insurance paid out and they say they set for life off that insurance payment and she told my wife she said make sure you get disability insurance you know just to be safe and so that's why I say everybody got to create their own blueprint because what work for the man who got the toxic workplace it's like whoa okay buddy you saving all this money but now you getting a lawsuit for a toxic workplace come on Dave what's going on Dave okay some of your staff leaving you like you supposed to be chipper saving all that money buying everything cash not having a credit card you're supposed to be chipper what you over there with a toxic workplace so you might need to be spending a little more you you might need to be leveraging your credit day you see what I'm saying is to each their own so when I try to bring that envelope system in here my wife looked at me like I was crazy she said listen man I'm not going in no grocery store with no envelope and I'm not going in there with this hill and I ain't finna be she let me know like listen that right that don't work for me so I had to come up with another plan because what this man doing his household wasn't gonna work for me in my household and it be honest with you I ain't gonna do it either it just sometimes people make stuff look good so that's why I say you got to do what's best for you regardless of what me or anybody else say online you take stuff with a grain of salt you pray for wisdom knowledge and understanding and then you make your choices for your life and understand that right though um Jesse put the hashtag cue in front of your question so I know it's a question hey Tony I've been dating a 42 year old man doesn't have kids and never been married says his last relationship was in college 20 plus years ago is he a red flag now listen now listen to me now I hate to speak on people I hate the people I hate to call people red flags but 42 what Britney said now that might not be the case but see what I like to see what I like to see is okay does his career speak for why he has not been married or had kids now if he been getting to the bank he been or building his career might not be money-based but he been focused on his purpose in his career and he didn't want to bring a family in the in the mix because he like apostle Paul then that's an exception to the rule now he around here with a regular job and last relationship was in his 20s now you got to really get to understand okay you get to know him a little bit because it could be something to happen to him could have been something a woman just really crushed his heart so we just ain't going to assume it worse but you got that you got to have you got to have one eye open on the situation like that right now me personally which I've tried to oh he's oh somebody said is he a sir I thought somebody said he a surgeon that's what I say like is he an astronaut is he working with Elon Musk and they trying to get the Mars like what has he been doing with his time where he ain't had time for a relationship and he ain't had no kid at 42 years old now it's men it's men that are like that I met a brother who is a surgeon 44 never been married ain't had no kid and I told him I said man I might need to interview you because you like the exception to the rule I say I always tell people man you can't trust a man who over 40 never been married no kids but I got a good vibe from the brother now at the same time it wasn't like he was on every woman list meaning you know women have list and I could tell that he you know wasn't on everybody list and until he got that bag and we got that bag behind his name then he started to hit more women lists so when he showed me the woman who he was dating I say yeah you was never on her list she dealt for the money you got the woman that wanted you when you was in the eighth grade and I started describing what type of man I thought he was he said Tony you you spot on you a hundred percent on the type of eighth grader I was and I say you got to remember that who was checking for you then that's the kind of woman you need the adult version of her if the star cheerleader wasn't checking for you in eighth grade ninth grade don't get with the star cheerleader when you got money and get the adult version of the woman who was checking for you when you was in eighth ninth grade Carol Joy God bless you welcome to the black tribe gentle welcome to the black tribe I don't know if y'all rejoining because y'all got colors that represent being on here for some time so I think y'all must be rejoining hi Tony what advice can you give women dating separated yet still married men you kind of playing yourself be honest with you because a man married to a divorce and sometimes men get separated just to get a little break get a little break get a little hall pass Sabrina God bless you just get a little hall pass and don't even plan on ever divorcing like the like the lady say she ain't been with her man five years her ex five years and he won't get a divorce so some men never plan on getting a divorce so what I say if it's the right person it'll be the right time so God is not the author of confusion so God ain't gonna send you no man that's still legally on paper with another one that ain't the work of God if you believe in God that ain't how God get down he's not gonna put you in sin because you technically if you date that man you you're adulterous he in adultery and so that ain't the work of God so that means that's not your man and you need to tell him listen if you want you a woman you need to go ahead and get your divorce with a quick nests because you take too long but if you just want to stay separated and just date around then you with the time foolery and I ain't got time for the time foolery so I'm gonna let you be with one of these women who got time for the time foolery and so you have to you got to know yourself now you got to stop and if I tell y'all don't be desperate don't be desperate hello I met a doctor and engineer and engineer on dating app deleted app now but we dated for weeks they both go how can I tell if I'm under protective custody or if it's me doing something wrong well you know I would have to know the whole situation to know which one it is because I know I know you want to heal you and protect the custody but you could also have done something wrong but at the same time it's a dating app so you probably didn't do nothing wrong they could just be socially awkward men or they just could be men who they're looking for something for a woman who is not on this kind of chat getting this kind of insight they could be looking for them or dummy and so you got to realize that Sabrina God bless you Tony keep saying that I'm not a member but I still am can you comment in the regular chat you might not be signed in to your account that you signed up with that's probably the thing you probably not signed up to the account to the same email that you signed up with and now let me ask y'all a question now what do y'all women got going on out here with all the email addresses y'all got because people write in to the customer service and say hey Tony I bought a course on tonigasteracademy.com and now I can't get into my course and they got and they got airing their chests as if I'm running a scam I go to the course system and search their name they got four different email addresses and I have to write back and say it's because you got four accounts who in the world why y'all got all these email addresses now like what y'all got going on and it's like if you don't have all these email address you need to remember what's one you're using for what so sister you probably on your back email address your back phone and now okay to get different free subscriptions okay I figured y'all had something going on some scammery I'm like my why you got so many email and then the thing is I'm like okay well what does that say about me if y'all signing up on tonigasteracademy.com with your scam email and then right in after you trust me and and you're gonna try to log in with your main email and ain't no courses in there because it's under your scam email under your junk email I'll say well well there I guess I look like a charlatan okay Sabrina I can't comment and I'm using my regular account lol I promise God bless your system now don't keep sending that money on there now don't keep sending that money on there to answer that question God bless you might have to log out and then log back in or you might have to change your browser or change your device now I say that I do got 50 email addresses myself but and so I get it but I just didn't think that was everybody I thought that was just me doing that do good men usually come from a two-parent home ironically ironically a lot of times the better men come from a one-parent home from a single mom home ironically and why that is because I was you know I was a mess I met my wife at 21 but until up until 21 I was a mess and I come from a two-parent home when I was in the streets hustling my upline my plug was from a two-parent home he was my cousin and my sideline my partner that I hustle with a little bit he was from a two-parent home and so a lot of times guys from two-parent homes feel unrightfully privileged and we do the most operating from a place of insecurity because we know so many men who are from single-parent homes and we want to be like them and so we'll do the most sometimes trying to look cool or be cool because we come from a solid household and a lot of times the guys who was just raised with their mom or just their daddy a lot of times be the more solid guys because they had more struggle and they seem more they went through more and so they didn't feel as much of a need to prove themselves and now that's not always the case because sometimes if they if they single parent was a hot mess then they're going to be a hot mess too but the reason why single-parent homes a lot of times can be better is because it's a singular voice and the child is not confused but with two parent homes you could see your parents arguing you could see somebody cheating on the other one you could see the division one parent telling you this the other one telling you that but when you are single-parent home it's their way or the highway so you're getting a singular message and you're able to lock in and focus and that's what i've noticed just being completely honest but yet i still promote and preach on two-parent homes but healthy two-parent homes that's the key two-parent home ain't no good if it ain't healthy it got to be a healthy two-parent home with love and respect and honor it can't just be two parents in there just to bring a check into the house but they button heads all the time going back and forth and all that how to know if son and father is genuine this time about being a family our son is ten that's a tough one else is that's a tough one to be honest with you you can't know it's only time to prove it but most often what's happening is most often is the man he thinks the grass is greener on the other side and he goes over there he realized oh this this grass ain't greener is fake but i thought it was greener or this grass greener but the water bill higher and meaning the woman just want him for money or the woman just using him or something like that and so after he realized stuff ain't sweet out there then he want to come back but the thing about that is is when you have had to kick somebody to the curve and it's been several years it's different when you kick somebody to the curve in six months it's rightfully so because they didn't know you but when somebody know you inside and out and you have to kick them to the curve and they come back they speak a language with you meaning they have a language of love that they speak and in a heated moment or when they get comfortable or complacent again they revert back to that first language that they spoke that made you break up with them to begin with so you have to now understand to see if this person has learned a new language of love if this person has learned what love is what a relationship is and how to communicate and how to be with somebody and how to be honest trustworthy and faithful it's Niquah God bless you now thank you for joining the bless tribe coworker keeps staring at me at work and but he's the supervisor looks nervous when i talk to him how to make him comfortable to approach well you don't want to make a man comfortable to approach if you're not doing nothing now if you sitting there he talking to you like that's different but if he talking to you and you just talking to him and he look uncomfortable it could be because he got a woman at home and he battling in his head do i want this work wife and lose my relationship or do i want to stay on the straight narrow and keep my relationship or it could be the movement now the m2 movement that he could be a little nervous about and like hey this woman want a lawsuit if i mess around and shoot a shot but guess what if he if he's single and available and you start to feel and look more and more like his wife that he has envisioned he gonna go and shoot that shot he gonna go and shoot that shot and it's not the type of man to let a movement or anything especially if he know he being respectful you know he know he being respectful and it's of the essence that a man is mature enough to shoot a shot you can't can't roll out the red carpet form because now you don't know if he a man if you make it too easy so it got to be a normal interaction and he got to get the kahunas to be able to you know make his approach and if he can't do that he's not he's not ready for a relationship anyways dainty the food i god bless and i thank for joining the bless tribe cut off every guy was dating and shout out to the moderator thank y'all so much for your help for your help and support i really appreciate that cut off every guy was dating because i keep feeling like i'm not where i want to be in life and associating with them isn't helping that's wrong question mark uh say every guy you would date well with all you had your roster you like that with a roster you sound like a gm like okay you gotta get you cut so it's like if it's like that now i guess you could not be where you are in life because you were dating too many of them instead of cutting all of them you probably should just weed it down to the one that you got that you feel is the best fit for you and just try to focus and build with him that could be the problem now so but it ain't wrong if that's what you feel you need to do ain't nothing wrong it's never wrong being by yourself it's never wrong being by yourself how did you know and how would i know when i am ready to coach on a certain topic such as thriving as a single woman well when when you thriving meaning even if you in a struggle you at peace you could see the positive you could you could be peaceful you could choose joy you could choose happiness you could choose peace you thriving even if your money not where you want it to be even if you're not in your own place even if you ain't got no car if you have found peace in your process then you thriving you define your success okay nobody else define your success but you so when you know you're successful that's when you ready to coach and so me i started too early i wasn't ready to coach when i started coaching i was 23 years old but it took me a few years to get really where i needed to be and then after i got what i need to be it still took me a couple years and so before i really had grew and but one thing about coaching is like our coaches on like our coaches on my mentor dot life y'all got to forgive him a computer trying to die on me i mean my phone trying to die on me one thing about coaching is it helped me because as i was speaking into other people lives i was inadvertently speaking into my own life so words have so much power that as i was telling a woman what her man need to be doing it was reminding me what i wasn't doing for my wife and when i was telling a man what he need to be doing for his woman it would remind me what i need to be doing for my woman and so that helped me that helped me grow and so because of that i then was able to become a better person by helping other people so sometimes serving others is also serving us and that's what you got to realize but it's never the right time technically boyfriend of two years would yell and cuss at me when we would argue so i finally broke it off a month ago he was great in every other area of loving me thoughts on this situation going forward thoughts on this situation and don't look back don't look back man yelling at you and cussing at you that mean when he marry you he'll be putting hands on you so you can't look back on that situation and what you also have to realize is sometimes a man is not great in every other area sometimes he just doesn't exist to make up and to give him some cushion so he could take you down in that one area he want to take you down in but i always know that the verbal come before the physical so if the verbal there and the verbal keep going and keep going and keep going eventually the physical coming so you got to be ready for that and you did the right thing and two years that's a you know you you gave it an ample amount of time so if you two years in and you got to leave that mean it's a dead relationship at six months in y'all don't know each other nine months y'all know each other but when you have to leave somebody after the 12 month mark that's a good move that's a good move summer welcome to the blessed trial why so many married men cheating on their wives this ain't nothing new under the sun sister ain't nothing new under the sun i get approached by most of married men more than single men this is really starting to air me for my future relationship marriage ain't nothing new under the sun and the thing is you just got to eat when you meet a man you just got to look at his character you got to look at a character and then too you know it's just it shows you where the world at show you where the world at y'all let me see something i let me see something i'm trying to figure out how to charge this hill phone now y'all tell me when i take this hill microphone the sound gonna change now y'all got to forgive him y'all got to forgive him my phone popping up and it's saying trust this computer i get the computer so old i ain't got my new computer in here y'all got to forgive him i'm trying to put my phone charge in old raggedy computer get that computer too old give me one second yeah i'm making it freeze because keep popping up saying trust this hill phone i'm gonna trust this hill computer old raggedy computer give me one second now listen to me now listen to me now i know what i know how to say computer so for the people who just be eavesdropping just be popping in oh see that's why i'm gonna keep listening to the man in the dark cuz he don't even know how to talk he talk about computer girl what kind of girl what kind of coach you listening to talk about computer i know how to say computer okay i get i say computer because i i chose as a as a i chose at a young age to say my words wrong because i wanted to sound like my grandmother because she was from Selma Alabama and you could imagine her being born in 1925 she didn't have the world's greatest education as a black woman in Selma Alabama so because of that i i talked like my grandma because i was around her at a young age so when you hear me country that's why it's intentional because my school teachers were another race and we come from a very you know racist area so i didn't want to talk like people who didn't look like me but talking like the people who look like me they said a words wrong because they didn't read a lot and they didn't know the real pronunciation of a word so that's why we say amelands instead of ambulance we say amelands we say my name instead of mayonnaise we say computer instead of computer and and everything other words you hear like scree and straight and sprawlberry and e must instead of even must we say e must ask me that i want to go we say finna instead of fixing to so it's a whole another language that we bilingual because i know how to speak english proper english but i also know how to speak my language so that when i'm in my neighborhood i can speak my language and they could understand me because you come from certain areas you say a word the right way they don't know what you said so you got to throw your word out of context like context you got to say contact so that so they'll oh yeah and i used to have uncles and stuff that they'll just they'll be around they white co-workers and learn one word and come back yeah man it's like it's just astronomical it's like it's just it's just so diabolical and you'd be like oh my god what what you to learn it what what you to heard that word that and it just and so you got to understand with me for the people that just be passing through i talk like i talk on purpose i can talk like a doctor i can talk like a lawyer i can talk like whoever but i talk in my comfort in my comfort ain't nothing ain't nothing about me dumb though ain't nothing about me dumb so understand that so let me see now um put your uh a hashtag cue in front of your question i ain't gonna be on here much longer what time it is i'm gonna do uh 25 23 more minutes so men why i could keep talking about this here man who tried my son today i broke up with a guy after six months due to being inconsistent and found out he was lying about where he lives etc i'm tempted to reach out to ask for the truth but i know i won't get it struggling with why that right there is a lesson that every woman got to learn is you got to move on now men a lot of time men we move on the wrong way we do stuff the wrong way and for the wrong reasons but that is a lesson that i feel every woman is you got to get to the place where you can give yourself closure you got to get to that place to give yourself closure and as long as you wait no closure from somebody else you'll always be wide open and susceptible to attack so you got to get yourself closure and go on about your business toni you mentioned before if a man sees you as a wife 70% but after you leave him and he sees you as a wife 90 to 100% because you stood your ground and left now he's willing to try now he's willing to change try or run under 25 now the part you're not listening to is that you should not be dating under 25 and the reason being is because under 25 y'all raised by social media so yes the man you're dealing with is totally different totally different you're raised by social media so now you could take a chance and the fact that you left that is true a man sees you as more as wife material when you're willing to walk away now if you're gonna try he has to do the work so y'all too young to afford coaching with me i wouldn't even want y'all to spend coaching with me but we got coaches for $25 $25 an hour you might want to spend that he need to do four to 12 sessions of coaching with a coach on my mentor dot life so you see he's willing to put in work if you're going to go ahead and be with him because i could tell you what you should not do but you've grown so you're going to do what you want to do so if you're going to do it i want you to make sure you're going about it the right way and what that is is making sure that he puts in the work that you see him that he does sessions and he could do sessions by itself and tell you what it was about and then you need to do at least four sessions with him so you hear what he's being told by the life coach too and you get and you get told because you're gonna get told too and now if the life coach y'all with is biased one way or the other because life coaches are human then you go to another coach and you could try a coach of each gender and because some people still even though a person is a coach or a counselor they still operate from from where they are they're still a human you're not it's not an automated system a coach is a human a counselor is a human so understand that then what you want to do because he's under 25 y'all need to read a book together so read uh you need to read a woman's influence you need to read a woman's influence and this need to be a prerequisite for everybody before you every woman especially before you start dating before you get married and then together y'all need to read uh make it work and what y'all do the way you do this as a couple is you read a chapter a day you read or you listen to a chapter a day and then you talk about it now this comes from a successful marriage so if the person you disagreeing with everything that's how you know it's a red flag and that's how you know you're about to be up a creek without a paddle because that's coming from somebody that's unbiased and that's in a successful marriage meaning i'ma call it like it is whether it feel good or whether it hurt i'ma call it like it is so that's a red flag you get you somebody oh well i don't i don't really agree with that right now do all that right there and they never had no successful marriage obviously didn't if you with them and and y'all's marriage ain't successful then that's when you know okay something a little biased right here tone i feel like men put in a lot of effort impressing other guys instead of their woman why is this why is this is he interested in men i'm just curious no it's just men and women do the same thing if you really think about it women do the same thing a lot of times women doing stuff to impress other women and the same thing men doing and the reason being is when you have the same gender you kind of competing for supremacy you competing for that front spot so like i don't really like eyelashes but like lashes on but my wife will lashes for y'all for other women the lashes ain't for me because i really don't care for lashes but it make her feel more beautiful as a woman i think she looked just fine i know all her life all our relationship without lashes to this last year or so she went to try some lashes classic volume single tell me if you can see me sometimes raggedy wi-fi oh you know what i got my proof on right here let me see can you hit him on here because it's showing to me let me see you can see me okay you can see me all right so i went to my form service sometimes that old raggedy wi-fi it'll just go out on me say you lost connection i thought it was the illumination you know sometimes when you telling the truth the more illumination get the acne up with you and so or you two sitting over there watching say you know what let us shut this down you're doing a little too much good teaching over here let us go oh yeah they'll mess with you now they'll mess with you now let me tell you on instagram um um shadow band on instagram because you gotta think about it i post a video on instagram but from me going live whenever you go live whatever network you own they have to have a staff or own working around the clock so even if you go live four a.m your time it's eight a.m it's nine a.m somewhere else three p.m somewhere else so that staff might be overseas but whenever you go live on a network they gotta have somebody watching so that they could tell what you're doing so on instagram i go live and i'll be talking and i'll be talking about they and i'll be talking about the system and so they will put you in a category of an extremist and then they'll go ahead and shadow band your account to where it cut your reach because there ain't no way i should be getting two thousand views on a video with nine hundred thousand real followers even in one percent of nine hundred thousand is uh nine thousand so i post a video and get a thousand views that literally mean and you know people knows it so if people see it they count a view after like three seconds on youtube it's 31 seconds so people knows it so the view going to be up there just by happenstance but that'll show you how does here system work and then people say sometimes oh i talk about toning tool but even if i do toning tool and the way i could talk about whatever i want to talk about it's still on um de chenay god bless you it's still on apple ios so if they don't like what you're talking about or they feel like you move you got a movement apple could take you out the out store who who you buy your domain from if they if you got a website and they don't like your movement or they feel like your movement is whatever that the domain come go daddy have shut down websites and so the thing about it is we never really have true ownership unless you're meeting in person and then when you meet in person you still could get took out as we saw with Malcolm X and Martin Luther King so the thing about it is the truth in our world is shunned and in a different version of the truth you know a different truth's being told but if it's a truth that'll take a class of people from the bottom to the top by building healthy relationships because you stronger together than you are apart two and a over let me talk to you for a little bit you stronger together than you are apart so if it's a group of people who can reverse the cycle a group of people who have been marginalized and oppressed and suppressed can come together and create unions that are strong bonds rooted in love and raising children in love on the same page the access that is available will not be able to be denied so in order to be denied it will have to be blatant so the ways that you are kept from ascension is is underhanded it's a secret so if an artist goes into a label and the artist is heterosexual with a positive uplifting message the label will tell that artist we don't think there's a fit for your music if it's an artist of color if an artist goes in and that artist is a man and he say that he like men and he want to do a show as as he pregnant and he want to slide down a pole and he want to twerk on the devil and he is a man of color which is a color of strength they're gonna say you know what they're gonna take that leg and they're gonna pop that leg up there they're gonna cross that leg you know what you know you're on to something you really on to something now okay and so now what does the X mean at the end of your name is that is that like kind of like Malcolm well not exactly and so now if he if he say this what he wants to do now they finish say you know what we're gonna instead of just giving you a record deal we're gonna we're gonna let you perform this at the the largest most watch award show in the world now if somebody want to come and say about positivity oh dude we're not gonna have you perform at the show and this the thing so you got to realize that the world we live in in is very strategic and that's why I say you got to take care of your household so my son he know who all the rappers are because he live in the world he go to school but what I have to do is his dad is I gotta sit down and I gotta say okay now listen let's look at this here rapper where does he come from what was he raised in what lessons was he taught when he was your age and what is his music talking about I just saw somebody post about all other rates that don't win up these rates here that don't win up in all these cities do you know why all them rates are setting record highs it ain't got nothing to do with the pande it ain't got nothing to do with that because that ain't driving nobody's third crazy because you go outside and just sit on the little green thing outside in the neighborhood the little green thing that we sit on you go outside and sit on that you ain't got to go no well like and nobody's worried about that people don't barely like people in the ways but what got them rates up them here them trigger rates what it got it up is their music the music is getting worse and worse and worse and all it's talking about even the mainstream artist it's talking about taking people a lot taking people a lot taking people a lot sliding on your ops sliding on your ops knocking heads off doing this doing that and then when it's not talking about that it's talking about self medicaid and so that right there go into the mind of your youth and because you busy as a parent working and trying to make a living because you have always been told love don't pay bills you're not expressing enough love to your child and not realizing that your child is being raised by a degenerate rapper male or female so the women rappers and artists majority of them talking nasty giving a body away selling a body being okay with open relationships fornication you know this and that all of this his stuff that's being fed to your to your daughter and then all the stuff that men talking about is self medicaid and taking lives that's being fed to your son so now your daughter won't your daughter won't a man who gonna take lives and self medicaid and then your son won't a woman that's gonna have a a wop and so this right here is making your yours what you trying to raise it got them as degenerates but you're afraid of them being different you're afraid of them being talked about and mistreated so which my wife it was a boy at the school who did something to my son my wife went to the school and went up to the boy and said listen that's my son lunchbox don't you ever touch it again little boy never touch it again now she shouldn't did that you probably you know but you got to protect yours you ain't got to go throw hands with nobody but just you being there and your child ain't gonna understand everything you do as a loving parent but they'll understand it later and so you have to think about this and this was happening in this here world so that's why the voices like mine you'll see one of these rappers you'll see them get on live and they hold they hold audiences on the live because we live in a world where people will buy a ticket to watch you set yourself on fire and burn we live in a world where people will buy a ticket to watch you climb to the top and then jump or be pushed off that's the world we live in so when somebody talking like i'm talking they're not going to make that go viral because it's too empowering it's too enlightening it's too educating and so they got to make the nonsense go viral because as long as you being fed with just gossip you easy to control but the moment that you learn who you are and you learn why you hear you powerful so when you get in the room with somebody who want to get over on you and you able to speak truth to power now you shift the culture and they look at you and they're like whoa something different about this person here because i ain't able to get over i thought like that man who tried my son today he thought he could talk as a elderly white man he thought he could talk anyway he want to to a young black boy but now when he when he heard from me when he heard from me now he's going to be he's going to oh wow um oh this kid got representation oh this kid not here on financial aid oh this kid ain't here just because he a athlete oh this child got a dad in the home and the dad articulate and in the dad signature is several wealth sites that look like millions of dollars oh my goodness this what they're doing today they you mean to tell me they're not just athletes you mean to tell me they're not just rappers oh and i wrote that man i say let me know if i need to come see you face to face to get a better understanding and i want i wanted him to feel me and i said to that man i say i raised my son right so that he don't meet somebody like you with implicit bias but got a gun because the demerit you gave him could be a bullet that somebody else like you judging him want to put in his back so now when he hear that oh yeah and they get mad about that they get mad oh you know you want to pull the race car absolutely absolutely because it's being used already against me because of how you talking to me because of how you look at me so i might well put it so that you know i know what's going on and so this the thing we have to get to a place to where we go into a space of emotional intelligence and we get to a place to where you can articulate yourself without being ghetto and what i mean ghetto is being unemotionally intelligent emotionally unintelligent meaning you going to a place to where you got to be yelling and screaming and cursing instead of articulating yourself in a way that somebody could hear you see take a note from how i'm talking to you right now because what i'm saying to you most people that look like me will be hooping and hollering right now with a bunch of well and a bunch of a man's and a huffing and puffing but see that's gonna raise your blood level your brain waves gonna start firing so fast that you actually can't hear me but the reason why i'm talking low and slow is to give your mind enough time to process every word i'm saying the reason why i'm not using real big words like some people try to do trying to sound smart is so that no matter what level of education you have you can understand me clearly and we have to come to a place that we look in the mirror and we see what we are allowing to affect us that we see what we are allowing to control us that we see what we are allowing to permeate the minds of our children to enter the minds of our children because when your child being raised by youtube Netflix and the streaming services you're going to raise a degenerate and so you got to get to the place to where you shift the culture and you elevate and you don't let nobody play on you because some people try to play on your insecurity they'll try to play on your trauma they'll try to play on your brokenness to get you to spend more money and i used to do that i go somewhere and somebody look at me like i'm less than i buy the most expensive thing in the store they just want they just want and i realized later i said tony you got to grow you got to have some agency over your life and you got to come in here and you got to ask to see every piece of clothing that you want to see try on every single thing you want to try on because you know you got the money to afford it and even though they turning their nose up at you the fact that they turning their nose up at you try on everything and then walk out the store because you've seen people who don't look like you come in here and do the same thing because they feel like they own their money and you feel like your money was given to you alone to you and that you got to prove something to somebody else by buying what you cannot afford and so i had to grow on that so now i talk to people i talk to the sales people i let them do their whole spill i let them do they follow up call because they want to do all their sales tactics i let them do they follow up call if i got the time to give i ask them the tough questions i ask the real questions and if it don't make sense to me at the end of i say no thank you that that ain't gonna work for me excuse me excuse me um sir well you know if you don't get this today you know this gonna this could be gone tomorrow i'll say what else all right it ain't for me if it gone tomorrow you know i need time to think on my money i work hard for it well yeah you're right about that you know i understand that but you know what you know we really want to you know get you to go ahead and sign up because we really feel like there's a benefit and they do all their sales and they used to playing on your insecurity and the same thing with the school you go to the school house you go to your son's sports team i don't have to go out to the referee after the game because i see him call a file on my son over and over and over that he won't call on the boy that looked like him because he see my son as aggressive because of his skin color i have to go up and tell that rough listen you need to check your implicit bias and you need to be mindful of that and leave your little racism at home and then walk on off on and just let them sleep on that tonight just let them sleep on that and the same thing with the school you got to be able to speak up for yourself and for your children and express yourself and don't worry about they oh when you pulling this kind of card and you pulling that kind of card yes i come here with a whole deck i'm finna hit you with a king i'm finna hit you with a ace of space i'm finna hit you with every deck every card in the deck you right i'm pulling that card i'm finna pull another card and because you reminded me about the card i just pulled i'm finna pull another card on you and you got to do the same thing with your job and you got to stop letting people try you like a baser that's a drug at it and you got to be able to stand up for yourself and you got to know what's going on you got to know what's going on you got to be able to look around and look at the messages you got to not just look at the message but you got to look at the messenger a lot of time people say oh ignore the messenger and just listen to the message no because because the validity of the message determines is determined by the messenger so that's why the message that jesus came with god didn't send just know anybody with that message the person who carried that message had to be blameless and spot-free had to be without fault the messenger matter so a lot of time we looking at people and we listening and we we're not paying attention just because it sounds good to our ears but we looking at the person life who behind that message and are they implementing what they talking about so if a man sitting up here getting wimp trying to get women ready for a relationship but he ain't getting men ready for a relationship then he won't side it if a man sitting up here trying to get women ready for a relationship but he not in a relationship that mean he don't know how to be ready as a man and that's something that ain't ought to be listened to if somebody coming in they giving all kind of advice financial advice or any kind of advice they ought to represent that it ought to they ought to look like that you don't want no out of shape trainer you don't want no broke financial advisor but that's what we got today you don't want no single marriage coach no single relationship coach okay if you single and you mastering single season then talk about self love and being happy as a single and you could share lessons from your failed relationships but you don't have to pitch and position yourself as a relationship expert if you ain't had a relationship that then worked out and see that's the world we in and we just don't pay attention so the reason why i got to be i got to talk and talk and talk and you got to understand this and this for everybody that's in this lane in the lane of you're in a slow lane meaning that it's a climb and it's a grind you got to understand that the ones who come from the people who ain't here to do no good they're going to go from the bottom to the top real fast and that's because the adversary own the channels in between and everything based on an algorithm and so if what you're doing going to be detrimental if the people behind the algorithm don't care about your people and what you're doing is detrimental they're going to open your they're going to open your reach they're going to put you on the homepage they're going to put you they're going to push you but if you sound like you could start a movement of positivity and have people thinking right now see you could be talking right but if you also sound like you off your rocker and you're not emotionally intelligent then they'll let you go too because they know that you're going to lose your way they know that you're going to show that you ignorant or that you immature eventually so they're going to let you go viral because they know they could tell it princess thank you join the blessed tribe and so you got to be able to evaluate yourself and evaluate what you listening to and I tell people all the time now if you got hot water and you got cold water then what that may look warm water and so it's a lot of people that want to be hot and cold you could be on fire for your purpose but you can't be on fire and on ice it don't go together regardless if that's a song name or a band name you can't be on fire and on ice so you got that you're going to have to pick a side and so what I mean by this is I see people on my channel in the comments and I go so I'll be on the channel or somebody somebody send me a video or some some some some ratchetness some some tea that's out there to give me a topic for a video and I see people who be in the comments on my channel on it on on on this hill Instagram page or this I'm like okay so you okay that's why you confuse because you confuse because you want to be on fire and you want to be on ice so now you're just stuck in the middle and that's that right there is is the issue you can't be an atheist and a believer you're going to have to you're going to have to pick a side you can't say oh I'm a uh a republic rat they're like oh well we don't have anybody running for the republic rats now you independent maybe but whichever one you vote for is one of the other and so in in life imagine you living in a city that got red and blue flags in the streets you can't walk down the street with a red flag hanging out your back pocket and a blue flag hanging out your back pocket if you choose that lifestyle you got to choose a side so if you choose a lifestyle of positivity you're going to have to choose to be positive because if you trying to be positive but you also filling up with jump now the jump just canceling out all the positive and that's what keep you stuck so understanding like this now if you put the car in drive and you hit the gas and then you hit the brake and you put the car in reverse and you hit the gas where have you gone so when you come and you get filled up with a message by your pastor or your coach or what have you and then you go full up fill up with junk music or with junk content where have you gone you have not grown so you're going to have to dedicate yourself to the lessons and the lifestyle that you want to see fruit from excellent beauty god bless you now thank you for joining us bless tribe and so this what we got to understand and so the voices of the righteous meaning living right the narrow road the slow the slow road the slow grind uh slow grind i think i got it from azea tonus the the little NBA player now the voices that's positive gonna have to be intentionally sought out because voices that's positive so listen to ask yourself the question why a man who is faithful to his wife and going on 15 years of marriage can get online and talk and share a message and not go from zero to a million subscribers in a matter of months but men who get online with toxicity and one-sidedness and passive aggressiveness and belittling people and cursing at people can go from zero to five hundred thousand or two a million or two million in a matter of months because the messier you are the more momentum you're gonna have my goodness glorious crown resource collaborator god bless you god bless you you have to do that now you have to do that but you're dead god bless thank you for spreading your message from the lord i was a lost sheep and god sent you to bring me back a god bless you god bless you and some people use that word sheep against you now but we rebuke the devil in the name of Jesus Lisa Bowman welcome to the blessed tribe Jenaeus or Jenaeus Jenaeus welcome to the blessed tribe and so now listen to me now so you got to think about that now let me ask you this you think about your favorite you know all the way conscious rapper and somebody who really speak truth to power and then you ask yourself how long it took them to make it versus somebody who is love this or love that and who get the biggest and who spend the most time on the billboard chart the one that's really challenging you to think and to grow or the one that just got a good beat and a message that is messiness and then you see the difference of what the world going to celebrate so that's what you have to realize you got to realize and then the ones who trying to be positive and get ran up out there you really don't really see positive reality shows all these networks all the 24 hours in the day they can't find a single hour for a positive uplifting reality show because they think it ain't gonna be no viewers we all want to see somebody win at the end of at the end of the movie we all want to see that so what make the the tv thing positive reality shows not going to work they ain't trying now they ain't trying they ain't trying now not in no prime time what they going to do to mess because that mess is going to play on the brokenness and the ignorance and the insecurity of the people because we so unhappy in our lives we like to see somebody else with a worse life so if somebody on tv getting flamed they getting wore out the frame we call that our ratchet messy entertainment because of how we feel about our life but when you get into a good place in your life you don't even want to entertain that you don't even want to watch that i can't i don't watch reality tv if it come out i watch one episode that's what people be in my comments and say tony what you think about this show tony what you think about this show tony what you think about this show listen i can't do what i do on the level that i do it and fill my mind with those shows so if you're trying to go forward you're going to have to start watching them shows too because that's just junking you up and it's just messing with your subconscious mind and and if you're not refuting the message it's going to your conscious mind so now you doing the same thing they doing and you end up in the same mess they in and a lot of people don't get no sense a lot of people don't get no sense and so we'll watch somebody we'll watch a woman on the show get with a man who only want her for her money but she want a man so bad for a storyline that she don't even care that the man only want her for her money but because you watch that show you will go into the real world and you will get a man who only want you for your money because this woman that you watch on your favorite junk reality show did the same thing and subconsciously you didn't refute the message so you did the same thing and that's what we see happening today over and over and over so listen to me now I don't win over my time I don't win over my time but see sometime when I go to talking now I get to talking and not just answering them questions because sometimes the question be whoo all over the place but I want y'all think about this because see one thing that I'm about one thing that I'm about especially this here y'all after losing my videographer uh last Monday it really done it put some things into perspective for them because my videographer who shot all the courses and he shot some of the youtube videos that you see with graphics on it he was 24 years old and he was sitting in traffic at a red light and a cement truck was not paying attention and going full speed ran into the back of him they believed he was his life was lost on impact and his car burst into flames and it pushed him from being the seventh car up through the light it put four other cars in all four cars was in flames and he was burned unrecognizable at 24 years old doing everything right living for the Lord then curse then drain then smoke then club then fornicate living right so it helped me put something into perspective tomorrow ain't promise so you got to be able to speak your truth got to be able to tell the truth you got to be able to analyze your life you got to be able to make sure you write you got to make sure your ducks in in order your ducks in a row you got to make sure your priorities in order because we live and breathe as if we'll be living and breathing until we ready to say Lord I'm ready to come home and that ain't always the case so in a year of growth you got to start analyzing your life and you have to get to the place to where you can appreciate being uncomfortable for growth and you got to get to a place to where you can look at your influences and look at what you're doing and you can realize that not everything is worth doing for money don't do nothing for money do everything for purpose and you can make money from living your purpose but you got to be on purpose you got to be intentional you got to operate with integrity you got to be genuine you got to keep your word and you got to do right and you got to get that at you you got to get that toxicity out you got to get that scarcity mindset out you got to get that that that mentality that comes from your people or your race or your culture or your gender being oppressed or being spoiled whichever side you own you got to recognize where you operate from and you got to do a cleanse and you got to get to a place where you could be productive and you got to evaluate the things in your life because the thing about it is a lot of people will say how to be successful how to be this how to be that but they want to mix the sacred with the profane and you cannot mix the sacred with the profane you got to pick a side you got the tools am I going to put toxins into my body or am I going to put healthy things into my body you got the tool because if you put the healthy then you put the toxin now you just cancel it out the healthy so it got it can't be a diet it got to be a lifestyle change and I'm not just talking about like eating I'm talking about in life it can't be a diet something that you just oh you know I'm gonna read I'm gonna read or I'm gonna listen or I'm gonna watch for a week for a month and then I'm gonna go back to watch it without watching and get some of the messiness in and there was so many people who I remember when Scandal was on tv and Empire was on tv and I never watched I watch an episode of Scandal one episode of Scandal all the seasons it was on there and I watched maybe a half an episode of Empire and now to show that something TV Harlem me and my wife watch a half an episode on there we watched it to see what the devil doing because we know he used the media and music to get to get his message out and after that I don't watch them I don't watch the stuff I don't watch it no more and the reason being is because that stuff take root it take hold in your life and you will start to attract that same mess and what it'll do is the hour that you call relighting you call that relighting and you watching something that ain't teaching you nothing it's not moving your life forward it's not bettering you but it's your it's your little cool down it's your little wind down because you on a dead-end job but really that hour you giving to the stuff that's not moving you ought to be given to your purpose to help you get off your dead-end job instead of giving that time to junk to help you forget about your dead-end job and see that's the backwardness that we engage in we put the car in drive we go for a little bit we hit the brake and then we put the car in reverse and we hit the gas again so all you're doing is you're doing nothing right now that's all you're doing but when you make a decision you got to make a decision and when you make that decision you got to get going and when you get to going you got to keep going and when you get going you can't spend too much time looking in the rear view mirror you can't spend too much time at the rest stop you can't be picking up every hitchhiker you can't be looking left looking right and looking left you can't be doing that you got to keep your eyes on the mark and you got to get the way you're trying to go and that's what we're not doing because we want a little bit of righteousness and we want a little bit of ratchet we want a little bit of good and we want a little bit of bad not realizing it's canceling the bad canceling out the good and and and we make excuses for it and we want to be regular women come to me and say tony i'm a great catch why don't i have a husband then i go to talking to them and they smoke weed don't know a good man who's going to be faithful and and a good man in his household won't know we smoke a woman and he's not going to be no weed smoker man because he understand that's an addiction and he understand it has control over his life so he's not going to be into that don't don't don't know man won't know women who enter nasty movies because he understand that's an addiction and he understand that's feeding lust so he understand lust can't be quenched lust got to be starved because lust will destroy you he understand that and vice versa man say oh man you know why i can't get no woman all this right here it's because you want a woman that's perfect you want a woman that got every little body part you like and that's been to cook seven days a week and clean every day when that woman is a human and just like you get lazy and just like you don't want to do stuff every single day neither does she but what you want what you're asking for is unrealistic that's why you're single and see that's what a lot of time we don't realize because we want a little bit of righteous and we want a little bit of ratchet we want a little bit of good want a little bit of bad and it just cancels out and now you can't make no progress so you got to get to the place the way you know who you are you know what you want and you take action toward it and you stay on that path and when you stay on that path you're gonna get a reward and when you get the reward or you never want to go back because now you don't got the reward so now when you see so listen when i was when i was a cheater as a young man 18 19 20 i'm cheating and i'm thinking that's the life but now when you be faithful and you get the rewards of being faithful because now you realize you got focus now you realize you got favor and that you realize it come from your faithfulness so when i was out there my mind was here and there you all over the place you really not producing anything but when you get focused and you put that magnifying glass on one blade of grass and you let that sunshine through you're going to spark something but if you just hopping from blade to blade to blade to blade ain't nothing going to spark so you got to realize it take intense focus in order to get where you're trying to go and once you experience intense focus you never want to be unfocused again and so so many people want to arrive but don't want to drive you cannot arrive if you unwilling to drive you can't keep going and driving going in reverse if you want to arrive you got to be willing to drive meaning you're gonna have to put the pedal to the metal and keep your eyes on the prize so you can arrive now these rhymes i might need to start being a rapper they're coming off top of the donut so now understand this and and people come all the time tony you know i want to do this i want to do that i want to be this i want to be that and they don't understand what it takes so when when somebody come and they see a fruit they see a reward they don't understand the work that went in so when a young man come to me and he see that i don't have a team and that i produce what i produce without a team without a partner without a publicist without a manager without none of that and he said well man how you did this i say i'm with one woman and i'm 100 faithful and i don't cheat on her with nasty movies or not i don't hear i don't cheat on her with handula i don't cheat on her with marijuana we're getting drunk we're gambling we're smoking i don't cheat on her with no vices i had to lock in and be faithful so when a man hear that okay if you so you went from being a drug dealer and a womanizer to who you are today and you work alone and you work from home and you can make seven figures but then when they hear that sacrifice oh i got to give up my weed i got to give up my hooker i got to give up the scrub club i got to give up my my only fans subscriptions i got to stop sending my cash out to get the to get the news on snapchat ooh you mean i got to be honest with with more with my woman i got to be fair with her i can't talk to her like the limp between my toes ooh you know what i don't know you know what i don't know if i want their lifestyle brother gaskin that's exactly so when you look over and you see somebody blessed but see i ain't talking about just blessed financially i'm talking about peace and prosperity because a lot of people got financial blessings but they got to self medicate so listen to all the millionaires on music who telling you they popping pills and they on the lean and they on this and that but got millions of dollars see your peace is going to be your real prosperity and that's what you got to get to in order to get peace you got to cut out toxicity and cut not talk sensitive may mean you could not you might have to step away from your mama from a look for a little bit phase food god bless you might have to step away from your mama for a little bit you might have to step away from your daddy for a little bit your sister your best friend your husband your wife your boyfriend your girlfriend the cut out toxicity listen blood running through your veins don't mean somebody got the right to run to run you to a early grade so you got to understand that came nobody not even your own child run you to a early grade you got to put people in place you got to have people in order you got to let people know what to bring in your life and what not to bring in your life and you got to set those boundaries so like right now i'm not texting after seven p.m call jesus call jesus now i text close family but i told my wife last night i said i'm gonna stop texting my sister at 10 p.m so that she know i'm married don't be texting me because you single so you might be thinking my marriage ain't doing too good because i'm texting you at 10 o'clock i don't even want my own sister to have a thought in her head that my marriage ain't on the right page you say don't say my sister she wrote me today hey tonic can i go to the game with you sunday no because it's a man's meeting this sunday in my suite and she said i just built fly on the wall i said i don't want no feminine energy in there because it's gonna be all men and we're talking about these my and it's my mentees and we're talking about their hopes and their dreams and we and the reason why i'm doing that is because my wife gonna be out of town so this is my blood sister and i and i still set boundaries that just because you my blood don't mean you can have any and everything that i got but see in our world we don't believe in boundaries we've been told that if you do good you owe everybody who got your same dna's or some of your DNA that you got to put everybody in a car everybody in a house that you got to divvy your money up across everybody even if those people didn't want to sacrifice with you and we will feel bad about it and we will feel so bad about it that we actually will flip the narrative and brag about it and we will go and we will do interviews and we will sit down and we will brag about basically going broke for people who are unwilling to sacrifice the way we sacrifice and see that's the narrative that got to change to where if you gonna go get yours you getting yours got to be inspiration to everybody around you to get theirs if they able-bodied and they adults and the kids got to be inspired to get on the right track i pulled up to the barbershop i was in my wife car and a little boy he said hey he said man i like g-wagon i said you want one you got to keep doing the right thing don't just like it now and think that it just gonna come without doing the right thing he looked at me that was kind of weird but i know when his head hit that pillow because he's probably 12 years old when his head hit that pillow he said man he told him i got to keep doing my school work if i want to call like that because that because that he now he know this don't come from hustling this don't come from ratchet rap music no they come from dedication and sacrifice righteousness doing the right thing and see so you got to get to where you want to be by operating with integrity and then you got to let people know you got to let people know what you did to get there because everybody who doing the wrong thing want to show you they bank account and show you they perceived blessings because they know that process jiked up but then when you get blessing up somebody got blocked yesterday because he talking about he had a god name but they don't tell him if it's a guy wanting to keep people have fake stuff he said you used to be humble now all you're doing is bragging now i wrote him back i said if i was bragging i'd be showing off everything i got you don't see me doing no nothing you don't see me do a house tour you don't see me do a car tour and if i want to do anything wrong with it i say don't let my confidence offend your insecurity because you don't tell that rapper who's shoving nonsense not to show you or not to mention his blessings what he called blessings but when somebody living right you think humble mean being quiet you think humble mean poor mountain like my sister called it po mountain like like i got to pretend i'm broke busted and disgusted because i'm doing right if you can't appreciate and respect my blessings the same way you appreciate and respect the opulence and wealth of the gossip bloggers and the rappers brah hide in the world somebody want to live right be faithful to their wife cut out all vices in their life itself for pop our chicken once a month and then can't have no blessings then can't be blessed i say that's sad the world we live in that somebody want me to play small to make them feel comfortable somebody want me to pretend that god ain't been good to me to make them feel comfortable about their life listen it's finna be the it got to be the year of uncomfortability people got to get uncomfortable people got to get uncomfortable and people got to know your boundaries and they gonna have to see your blessings a brother come in the night he said oh yeah this such and such said this right here to my wife about your son a hundred percent complete lie hundred percent complete lie what know what neither true and my son told me the little story and so what happened was the boy who hated on my son is is like a 11th grader but on a varsity soccer team my son get all the playing time and that boy don't get no playing time my son got some shoes that cost a thousand dollars because he had straight eggs so i reward my sons for doing good things to teach them that life rewards you when you do right and so my son got some expensive shoes well the boy who was hating on him who went home to his daddy and created this narrative because he don't get no playing time the boy told his daddy that my son play over him because we funding the program which is a lot we gave a dollar to the soccer program the lesson is is that when you start doing good people gonna start hating when you're doing right people gonna say you wrong so when it ain't a negative narrative about you when some can't be found people gonna make up a lie for their own comfortability you got to get to the place that you okay making people uncomfortable with your excellence the stuff that you the things you sacrifice and the thing you pursue when it elevate you you got to be okay walking in it you got to be okay walking in it but you got to tell your testimony don't let nobody look at you i was at the gas station i was pumping up the car the man say you're a baseball player because a lot of they they think i look young sometimes you're a baseball player um because the car was in and i i said no no sir and my body ain't that fit now to be no pro baseball player i said no sir he said oh you look like one i say you looking at the hell car a man was in the street weed whacking he's turned around and spent weed whacking and he hit another one of my calls on the side we stand there talking he said all right you're some type of ball player i said no i'm an author so i'll be having to shake them up i don't know if i'm gonna let them think that my money or my blessings come from doing what they think i'm supposed to be doing musical sports ah let me tell you about my business model i'm gonna run it all the way down to him i write books i have online courses i'm a consultant i'm a life coach for NCAA sports teams for pro sports teams they fly me to the team to work to the team work with the team i work with celebrities that what what how'd you got into that i wrote a book when i was 22 what when you were 22 i have to shift the culture so as you pursue greatness and as you start to do some things in your life that's different than what your family have done you got to let people know no don't put me in no box until i'm going in the ground and i might not go in a box then if i want to be cremated but don't try to box me in until i'm going in the ground and you got to be okay walking in that you got to be okay walking in that you got to be okay with your pursuit of excellence offending people you're gonna have friends and family and co-workers and schoolmates classmates all kind of people gonna look at you like you think your stuff don't stink and you got to let them have that you got to let them have that and you got to keep being great you got to keep doing you so hey this tonic gas i don't went way too long now went way too long but i appreciate y'all and um shout out again to the to the uh glorious crown resource collaborator send that blessing uh yeah i'll do that now but um y'all sit back now y'all hit the y'all when it's done you watch this here again get that in your spirit uh if you just not showed up it really didn't get started to after the q and a but that's a lesson we got to learn and whichever side you on you got to take the lesson for you so if you on the side of oppressive you got to stop oppressing if you're on the side of oppressed you got to stop being oppressed and so you got to get the lesson that's for you and the thing about it is what i tell people the truth only step on our toes when we walking out of line the truth only step on our toes when we walking out of line so when the truth step on your toes you got to realize i'm out of line i'm out of line and i'm gonna tell you what happened now i'm gonna tell you what happened this is later she hired me for coaching i'll tell you this story how when you mixed the good with the bad it was just later she hired me for coaching and on the first call i'm like man this is a successful woman i mean on real estate i mean just seemed like a go-getter and one times i somebody told me about this woman who been led by the devil was on youtube and she was calling me and another coach narcissist and she was claiming that she got receipts now see me i not not in back in the day is something else i'll do about my name now i'll take you in that court of law defamation of character and and have on everything you got because i know i ain't leaving no receipts but the lady was saying this for clout yeah and tonic gaskins and and rc belates and they are they they doing this and doing that lady don't know me from a can of paint and do you know that the lady who hired me for coaching who was a comment on all my videos was over there on that later page in the in the comment just a clapping and just a just a supporting i say wow and then one day the lady hired me for coach she get on the coaching call and the lady say yeah tonic gaskins so yeah i want to talk about what i was promised that you told me that there will be a opportunity i said excuse me ma'am i say for one ma'am i've been doing it for 14 years i know good and well i'm not gonna promise nobody an opportunity if i ain't got no opportunity to give i said so what are you talking about well you told me that if i did if i started my youtube channel and i posted every day for a year there would be a opportunity i say for one if we talked about your youtube channel i told you to post every day that was so you could get in the algorithm and roll with your channel but i don't have an opportunity for you so what are you talking about you know what my sons know about this and they know what you are doing and so you're telling me that you not putting coach such and such before me i say who i say nah nah what do you mean by putting her before you you promote her and you don't promote me i say now what in the world i say ma'am now what i said hold on nah i say ma'am i really don't understand what you're talking about and she said uh so you didn't change my facebook status and where it says what are you thinking about you didn't write tonic gaskins i say ma'am so so i said man hold on i said let me get this straight i said you on the phone you done paid me for coaching and you telling me i hacked your facebook and wrote my name in there i say oh my goodness and then the lady said yeah and you're not and you're watching me on social media you're watching me on instagram i say i say man i don't watch nobody on instagram i don't even follow nobody on instagram but my wife i say but guess what the lady when somebody told me about this other lady this lady page this lady was talking out the side of her neck she yelling she cussing she sound drunk and i'm like man and i just could feel so many spirits because there's so many spirits out there i could just feel so many spirits and this lady was in her comments so i'm like how can somebody follow me take my courses hire me for coaching and be in and then supporting somebody who calling me all kind of everything but a child of god i say this don't make no sense now and then when the lady got on the phone i say you know what i say wow i say this what the bible meant by turned over to a reprobate mind i don't even know what it mean and then i realized spiritual warfare i also realized how people try to set you up people try to set you up when people see you doing good and this why i tell this why i tell people when you are here posting bible scriptures it's a young man i see he posting reals every real be about god it be about it be about god and i and now i notice he's starting to think he look good he's starting to think he look good he didn't look faces he'd be making i say the devil finish the devil fin to try to take him on out of there because he listened when you're trying to do right people gonna try to set you up and so what the lady was trying to do is almost like she was talking as if she had me had a phone call recorded or she wanted me to say some or some so that she could be the person that had some kind of receipt and so i have receipts of my own so you see people out here that they doing this little stuff and all this like the the the church couple in Atlanta that got exposed for the little conferences and trying to fake money and take money and move money and the bells of money and they members came out on them and and then the other couple up in Philadelphia with the young lady and they say they build apps for people and they ain't building apps so when people who look like me go to doing shady business then people will start coming to you and trying to see if you do shady business somebody come sign up for a course and ask for a refund if they didn't open the course i refunded their money instantly write that book a lady the other day in my growth group in the mastermind group she wrote in hey we didn't have a call in december and i i need to be refunded because i ain't getting enough content refund right there right there book refund no question that then she wrote in the next day well i need to be given a choice if i want a refund or not if that's because if i if i i didn't know that there was going to be more content and that tone was going to do a 10 hour call on january 2nd if i would know that i would stay then listen now you wrote in you asked for a refund here go your refund okay now you're at the group all right because you want to write in and speculate when i could have been in the hospital some could have been wrong with me the lady it was the lady she hired me for coaching and this is a real thing for coaching a lot of people don't understand coaching now a lot of people don't understand coaching let me tell you how this is and this one i'm telling you about integrity i i talked to a guy yesterday he got a bit youtube channel i talked to one of his salespeople this man got a bit youtube channel 10 times the size of mine to talk to him for one hour on zoom is $20,000 $20,000 $20,000 the talk to him in person is $30,000 for a ticket to his seminar entry level ticket bottom ticket just split in the door $2,500 now a lady hired me for coaching business coaching for one year now based on the coaching algorithm how you told to charge for coaching i'm supposed to be charging about $2,500 an hour i charge $400 an hour now with my business coaching program my branding one-on-one branding it comes with a four hour inset in person whether that's zoom or in a conference room intense brand-building session and it comes with monthly calls and it comes with text access so it's $7,500 for the year a lady came and she signed up for that and she i said contact me in two days well i'm gonna contact you in two days now the two days was the weekend it was on the weekend so when i said that i'm talking i'm thinking monday like two business days she text me on sunday hey tony you know you said you're gonna contact me on two days two days have passed now at this time my sons had a tournament so i was going the whole time and i had got sick so i really couldn't even talk couldn't holler move you told me you was gonna contact me in two days if this how business gonna be done then you can send me a refund and i could and we could just go on as friends and first i said oh so sorry for one the day sunday i apologized i i did get sick and i've been ripping and running with my sons the whole weekend i say i apologize about that uh we could set up a call as soon as you ready as soon as i said that my spirit said tony if somebody see your brand see what you represent will right away accuse you of being a thief or a fraud without even checking to see if you're living that ain't the type of person you want to work with so immediately my next text was oh man i'm actually i'm gonna refund your money because i don't want my brand to take any uh negative i don't want anybody to think that i'm not a man of integrity so i'm actually gonna refund you right now and i logged in to paypal and hit refund so fast just like that because if a person came right and say hey tony uh you said two days i realized it's sunday but i haven't heard from you is everything okay are you okay and are you okay if a person came like that and immediately jumped to something negative that got to go so that's the same thing when you got somebody in your corner that the first time they hear something negative or y'all have a disagreement they ready to cut you off when they've known you for years and they know who you are but off of one misunderstanding they ready they don't even want to talk through it they don't want to they just forget my number that's to let you know that person right there been a friend of me the whole time that person been a friend of me the whole time so that's what i mean i know i self in the goal but that's what my family known for them guys and we know we know for that hey all right now i'm finna let you go now hey all right now and then they my dad and my uncle talk a whole another hour be like man you just said we finna go daddy what y'all still talking for then my daddy come get in the car my uncle come to the window they talk another hour he put the car in reverse they still talk he get down the street and stop hey y'all now what you said now now see this what i'm trying to tell they talk some more so y'all got to forgive me when i say and some of y'all be teasing me when you come to my video and it'd be like hey they're popping in for a little quick video then i'll be talking for an hour but see that's how it is though when the lord gives something to say because like i told you we got to say what we got to say when we could say it because because it's a lot of people they're gonna lie four five hours with nonsense and so we got to have that same for those on the righteous side that doing the right thing we got to have the same energy as those who not trying to change lives and only trying to entertain we got to have that same amount of energy so that's why i i do what i do and on january 2nd i was on zoom for 10 hours straight i talked for two hours and i answered question for eight hours and you know how much that zoom session how much i charge for that zoom session 25 and see that's the other thing and it's sad that we got to do like that to show what integrity look like because everybody lump everybody in the same thing oh they all scam artists they all this they all that they all frauds they all fakes instead of looking within to see how somebody moved to see what somebody really represent people just assume oh everything is done for the money and and people don't realize so hey i got to go and i'm gonna tell you one more thing now y'all got to give it now i'm getting ready to go but i'm finna think of something and what i want to do right here first though is i want to praise my wife because see ain't nothing mandela and all what his wife had to put up with ain't Muhammad Ali had to go to prison for years ain't Martin Luther King mouth of mess and what their wives had to put up with but my wife let me sit on here for 173 minutes and don't bother me she don't bother me she don't text me she don't come in here hey you need to get off of that it's time to go the reason being is because she is a woman of purpose understand that she would a man of purpose and she understand that the work got to be done and that right there and if i have to go somewhere i have to do something i'm working on a book proposal for a book that i'm a pitch to my publisher and i got to go saturday to a hotel on the water because i need to listen to the waves for me to think right and when i'm in that hotel my wife she don't ask she don't be bothering me and blowing my phone up and where you at what you know show me the room what you're doing she don't try to steal no time she let me work and that come with a level of trust and i had to earn that trust i had to build that trust but she still give that trust and that's something that i want to say because it's a it's some good it's a man who's trying to be good but see this is the thing depending on your influences if your influence is is only the negative then you won't be able to believe the good about somebody that's why when you see somebody fall from grace you'll see people in the comments i told y'all about them people i told y'all everybody online giving advice living crooked though the worst ones and it's because all they feed into is negative do you know somebody asked why i did interview um with tasha do you know i won't go back and be checking the comments i went that first day do you know it was several people in the comments that said i've never heard of tonic askings so now these black people and i got three and a half million real people online they call them follows 1.8 million on facebook 900 000 on instagram 300 some thousand on twitter and 300 some thousand on youtube and my facebook page used to reach 20 million people a week from my quotes and it was people say i never heard of him and i say wow it ain't that many black people in the united states so if somebody pays reaching 20 million people a week you how did you not hear but that show you how suppressed that show you how suppressed positive voices are that show you how quiet the industry has positive voices now if you ask them uh do you know a podcast that's done in the dark with something spin on the desk oh they they'll know the middle name they'll know the ex-wife middle name but when you ask do you know the man that's going on 15 years of happy healthy marriage with his wife and he talks about relationships uh man who is that i ain't never heard of who tonic that's the world we live in so when people say tonic why are you doing why you did that interview because a few people ask me that for that very reason because i knew there would be people that my message could help that they didn't have a clue that i exist in the world that's why hey god bless you we'll talk soon hey and shout out to my moderators let me thank the moderators real quick thank you so much to the moderators helping keep the chat you know clean and clear they let it go when i'm doing this right here they probably had to go to bed but um thank you so much to the moderators i really appreciate that god bless you we'll talk soon hey now one last thing i'm just i'm just playing now check now for those of you on my youtube course check what i put in there the email i sent you about youtube and how youtube acting up what they're doing to us right now check check that what i sent you god bless