 Warning, the narcissist is coming back. I know a lot of you, you may think you finally got rid of this person. You told them you're done, you don't want to deal with them anymore or maybe you confronted them and they finally got fed up. They left you alone and now you think it's all over. You isolated yourself. You may have cut off everyone around you because you just want to be left alone in peace, solitude and you're finally starting to heal and grow. After all of the abuse that you endured, I mean I know some of you, you may have gone for it for years, maybe even decades in some cases and you think it's done, it's finally over. They've gone off, they're gonna move on with their lives. They've left you alone. Maybe they can see you just decide some peace. When in actuality that is the very moment when they return and pay attention to the moment when they return because they're very crafty, they're very sneaky, they're cognitive, they know when you are vulnerable to attack, they get you when you are alone. When no one else is around you, when you are isolated, when you don't have any support, there's no other influences around you, there's no one else there who could tell you otherwise. So it's very easy for them to come in and gas like you and make you believe whatever they want you to believe so that they can have you under their control and it puts you in a very dangerous situation. The problem is with a lot of people when they leave the narcissist, when the narcissist discards them, they think that it's finally all over and you feel like you found this position of power and strength in your isolation. You think that you finally found some peace but in actuality that is the moment when you are most vulnerable. It's the moment when you are most susceptible to the attack and they know that they're aware of it which is why that is the moment when they will get you. They will wait for that very moment when you are alone, when you desire nothing but some peace. That is the moment when they will get you and it can be very difficult because you're already in a vulnerable place. It's like they kicked you down and you were just starting to get back up off the floor and then they come back just to kick you back down again, just to beat you back down to the floor as if you hadn't already had enough because what you need to understand about narcissist is that they have never had enough. It is not about you, it has nothing to do with you, they do not even see what's a person, you are an object that exists to meet their needs. So it's all about how you can serve them, what you can do for them. It's not about you, they don't care that your thinker of moving on, you're trying to heal, you're trying to find some peace. That means nothing to them because they see you as their possession. They see you as an extension of them. So in their minds you've got to be at their back and call, you've got to be ready to do whatever they want you to do, whenever they want you to do it. There is no you just finding your own peace, thinking for yourself, or doing what you want to do because that's not on them. Remember all they want is supply. They want to have this sense of power and control over you, their target, their victim. So they will get you, usually the moment when they think that you at least expect it. Just as you're starting to move on and you're shifting your energy away from them. Just as you're starting to heal from all of the conditions and the disorders that they imprinted upon you. Just as you're starting to shift all of that away and you're finally starting to grow and become a better version of yourself. That is when they will come back because they're sensing that your energy is shifting away from them and they know that you're alone, they know that you're isolated, you haven't got any support. It's pretty much like a predator, a child molester. They see a child playing on their own, their parents aren't around, no one is there and then they come along, they try to tune into you into what they think that you might want. It's like they go to the child, they give them some candy, maybe they give them a toy and then they've got you in their clutches, they've lured you in and you're vulnerable to attack. They've already groomed you, they've prepared you for abuse, so at that point they've got you and you're all alone, no one is around, no one's there who cares about you, who supports you and I already know that because the majority of people who watch my videos, I already know that they're all alone, they don't have any support, that's why I make these videos to give you the support that you need, to give you that validation because these creditors, yes they target people who are alone and if you're not alone they will wait until you are, they will wait until you are vulnerable, until you're isolated and if it's a long wait then they will isolate you themselves, they will start a smear campaign and turn everyone against you, so that it's the perfect situation for these creditors to prey on you, they're always waiting in the shadows for the right moment, but many of you you think they've finally gone away when that is not the case at all, many times they don't just go away, they can't just go away because they need supply, they need your emotional energy and they're there to feed off that from you, just like a child molester who targets a child, only in those cases are made for a sexual purpose, with you it may just be your emotional energy, the supply, a sense of power and control, either way it is exactly the same thing, it's the same situation, the only difference is you're not a child, you're an adult, it's still the exact same process, you've got the love bombing, the grooming phase, the idealization, the immobilization and then they go to devalue you, to control you, to blame you, to shame you, to tell you that no one's gonna believe you, so they can keep you stuck, so they can contain you, so yes this is a warning to you, those of you who think that you have moved on, you are safe, I can tell you that that is the very moment when they will come back, they want to give you that moment of feeling safe, feeling like you've got nothing to worry about, so then it's so much more impactful when they do come back, now as to say it's after the love bombing phase they don't really want to put you on a pedestal, but just that separation from the abuse, you know that moment you get when you experience just a little bit of peace, where you can finally feel comfortable, in that moment just being away from the abuse, it's like a breath of fresh air, it's like you almost feel like you are on a pedestal in that moment, so when they come back you're that further away from the ground, when they finally try to destroy you all over again, because that's all they're going to do, they just come back to use and abuse you, they never come back to make amends, it's all an illusion, so yeah I just wanted to put this out to make you aware of it, because I know there's a lot of vulnerable people out there, a lot of people who are isolated without support, and I know what that's like, I've been through these situations again and again throughout my life since I was a child, and it's not nice, but yes you will often find that groups of predators come together to target you, that's just what they tend to do, and it's seen as a phenomenon, it was to me at one point in the past, but now after all of my experience and research it begins to make perfect sense, they're like-minded people, so they associate with each other, you are special, you are different, and I'm not saying this to patronize you, that is actually the truth, if you're watching this you are most likely an empath, you're a highly sensitive person, so you're sensitive to other people's feelings of needs, which means that you're willing to give people a chance, even those who are only coming around you to abuse you, you're still open to them, and I can tell you that when you are open to a narcissist, every time you do that they're gonna show you every time that you are making a big mistake by giving them another chance, that's all they're ever going to do, I don't know about you but I've given narcissist probably thousands of chances throughout my life doing the right thing, and every single time they have proven me wrong, they have shown me that I have made the wrong decision by giving them another chance every single time, and that is all that they're ever going to do, doesn't matter how many chances you give them, you can give them another chance every day for the rest of your life, nothing is going to change, they are always going to be the same, they're just going to get better at hiding it, all you've got to do is look up what the narcissist was like in the past, keep the exact same thing again, just like anyone else, even people who are not narcissists, they're going to repeat the same pattern of behavior, going to suddenly do something completely different, and then continue along that course, that doesn't make any sense, there is no incentive for them to do that, they're going to keep doing what they've always done, as long as it was working for them, if it was working for them, and they felt the sense of power and control, they felt validated, they got your emotional energy, then why would they stop, there's no reason for them to stop, especially if you're unknown, you're isolated, you have no support, that makes you the perfect victim for a narcissist, that is exactly what they are looking for, they are not going to target someone who has tons of supportive family and friends, people who are always by their side, people who validate them, people who are there for them, I don't care what anyone says, there is no way that a narcissist will continuously target someone like that, they are not going to put themselves in a position where they could be harmed, or where the shoe could be on the other foot, and where a group of people, they go out and, they're not going to target them, but push them away, they are not going to put themselves in a situation like that, they will wait until you are alone, or if you're not alone, they will try to turn everyone against you, they will target your support network, so you have no other influence other than them, so then you're highly suggestible, they can brainwash you, they can indoctrinate you, they can make you believe whatever they want you to believe about yourself, other people and the world around you, and then they've got you all to themselves, they can call you crazy, they can tell you the sky is any colour they like, and if they tell you that enough times, maybe eventually you will believe it, because there's so many people, so many victims, victims, targets who have been driven insane by narcissists and personalities, it's nothing new, there's potentially, well there are, actually there are hundreds of millions of victims around the world who have been affected by this, and I'm sure they have all been driven to some level, some degree of insanity, I know myself and my own experiences, I had felt like I was losing my mind, and I'm sure those of you who are watching this right now, I'm sure you felt like that at some point as well, and they gas like you, maybe they move things around the house, and they tell you they didn't move anything, and you start to question yourself, you start to doubt your own memory, perception, insanity, you start to think that you're losing your mind, and that is exactly what they want to do to you, that is the exact effect that they are trying to have, and of course I haven't been through that myself, I don't want anyone to go through that, to continue to go through that, and that's just more motivation for me to get on here, to make these videos every day, to put out these messages, to validate you, to ground you in reality, because it's really the only thing they're ever going to do to you, they're only ever going to drive you crazy and make you feel like you're losing your mind, because again as I said you're likely an empath, you're highly sensitive, that also means that you could be highly suggestible, which means that you can be very agreeable, you're willing to believe whatever they say just to keep the peace, because you don't want conflict, and by doing that you end up losing parts of yourself, just getting back in the car here, I know it is a bit windy, hopefully it shouldn't be too noisy in here, but yes, this is exactly what it does to you, the abuse that destroys every part of who you are, it makes you lose touch with yourself, so what you need to do, whether you're away from them right now, or they're trying to come back, or maybe you're back with them already, to keep your memory, your perception of yourself and your sanity, what you need to do is hopefully you have taken pictures or videos of your experiences, maybe a holiday of yourself before you got involved with them, long before you met them, or even just that space, in between when they left or you left them, what you need to do is refer to those pictures and videos of yourself and your experiences, look back through that, that will validate you, it will remind you of the person that you are, it will remind you that you are okay, you are not losing your mind, you are fine, look back through old pictures and videos, it will remind you that you were fine before you met them, or you were fine during that time when they left, there was nothing wrong with you then, you were at peace, you were happy, you were comfortable, you didn't have any anxiety or stress, maybe you did a little bit but you were healing, you were recovering, you were getting better, so this is a very important thing for you to do, to remind yourself of who you are, because the longer that you are around them you will begin to lose touch with yourself, so it's very important for you to constantly remind yourself of who you are, and other than that you can also practice daily affirmations, every morning first thing when you wake up, last thing before you go to sleep, you can search on YouTube for positive affirmations, there are tons of videos on here, and just read these affirmations out loud to yourself, tell yourself, I am happy, I am confident, I am at peace with myself, I am independent, all of these types of positive things, because what happens is as soon as you get around the narcissist, for them to survive emotionally they have to indoctrinate you, they have to brainwash you, they have to change you, so you need to brainwash yourself in the right direction, that is what will keep you sane and stable emotionally, because when they come around you they will keep you off balance in your emotions, they will use reactive abuse to make you feel like you are losing your mind, they will get you to react and then they will gas like you, and then they will blame you for everything, so yes this is a very important message, I am so glad to see we have got 90 live viewers right now receiving this information, it is very important for you to hear, because this is what they do to us, and you do need to be aware of it, so that you can protect yourself, so yes that is the message for today, I hope it was helpful and I hope you enjoyed the scenery outside by the beach as well, thank you all for joining me, and if it was helpful for you, you can show your support by giving it a thumbs up down below, let me know your thoughts in the comment section, share and subscribe, and if you would like to speak to me one-on-one, you can book a session on my website, it is narksurvivor.co.uk, and I do have my Instagram as well, I have got new pictures and videos of my travels every day on there, it is narksurvivor YouTube and Instagram, again thank you all, and I will talk to you in another one very soon.