 Ladies and gentlemen, let me see something here Get this here Set up a little book there one is in Florence. Hope y'all get the read that if you haven't read it yet I've been seeing it posted a little bit on on Instagram, so I try to repost it when I see it Y'all got to forgive me I Just decided to do this. I know it's last minute, but um wife had a run of air So I figure have a little time. I've been meaning to pop on here and do a Q&A here recently and just been Lot going on so family and moving stuff around so y'all forgive me but not being able to be as regular as I Would like to be hopefully next week. I could crank up Do these a little a little more often. Um, I Really don't get time to do the What you call it Instagram Q&A. So hopefully y'all catch me here Keisha Taylor God bless you. How do you stay calm when your business is taking off? um I don't know. You know, I me personally I really don't call my business taking off yet but um not not based on what the lord and show me he's gonna do with me but um I just remind myself of of humility And understanding the bible say pride come before fall So I just try to always center myself every day and remember to say hey, you know Be humble be humble be respectful be gracious Have mercy because sometimes when stuff go to taking off you can get arrogant You can start talking down to people belittling people. So I just remind myself What do you think about inconsistent men That you ought to leave him if you're dealing with an inconsistent man What it means is that he's not into you a man is not Inconsistent unless he's not into you And so anything a man want he's gonna be he's gonna be about that New day to see god bless you now Welcome to the new members as you know to be in the chat. You got to be a member of the bless tribe And so it's typically right up under the video. It says become a member or something like that Please help me with this toning. He drove from another state to see me And family but things seem different Well, that's what you need sometimes sometimes you got to meet somebody in person just to really get that feel But at the same time too, you can't put too much stock in that because A man could be very nervous when he comes to meet you. He could be very nervous seeing you for the first time So you got to think about that My ex-husband won't pay his won't pay his car that is in both our names because He pays child support for our son. Why are males like this? Well at the end of the day, you know one thing that men hold on to a lot of times is pride Men really hold on to pride and so you got to understand that but what you have to realize is that In a situation like you're in you got to show a man that you don't need him so you have to Either take that hit on that credit and take that as a lesson remember to say it's not a loss It's a lesson. So you got to remember this the male that You chose to lie down with So you got to take that on chin and just say, you know what next time I'm gonna choose better Next time I'm gonna know the red flags next time I'm gonna pay attention Next time I'm not gonna ignore the red flag. So let me let me get this bad credit Let me get this lesson so that I never make this mistake again So you got to take it like that But if you go begging him and you bothering him and you you know, you chasing him now you empowering his ignorance MBB god bless you God bless. I appreciate that blessing Now let me see. I'm gonna try to keep up with some of these questions. What were they coming now? All right now How to restore my marriage after infidelity you're gonna need some coaching You're gonna need about four to twelve sessions of coaching Do I need to have a social media following before I write and publish my book? No When I wrote my book, I didn't have any social media. You know, I was I was um selling at the mall Outside the mall. I made little business cards for my book. Everybody come out the mall I'm putting them in the hand I went in the mall handling everybody in the security guard came and kicked me out to them. Hey, that's a listen You can't do that in here. So I went outside. All right, kick my parking lot then Put it in everybody hand Jackie em God bless you held x accountable for actions he left and now he has so much anger towards me. Why? Because he lost He lost he angry men hate the lose and he lost So you held him accountable when and that's the best thing you want to happen When you hold somebody accountable and they move on. That's what you want to happen Um, tree, but I think I got a video on online dating. I'm against online dating unless it's a um specific prescription Y'all hold on. I forgot to bite the Lord in the room. All right, I'm back from the commercial break I forgot to pray for I got on here now. I had to bite the Lord in the room um Eve Even God bless you now. I've been knowing a guy for a month. We haven't went on a date yet. He asked I don't want to is it a red flag that he always talks about the people he dates but says he's interested in me red flag Um, what it means that's kind of like schoolyard love what y'all got going on But then you got to ask yourself Now do you not want to go on a date because you worried about catching in 19 You know that is that what you worried about? So you got to ask yourself that Because if you talking to a guy you've been talking a month and he want to go on a little date Now y'all can still social distance at a date or you can have your mask on But if he want to go on a date and you don't want to go on a date Then You wasting your time Because you should want to go on a date With the man that you talking to because you're not going to get this time back So go ahead and make a decision. Do you want to date the man or not? And so that way you can move on with your life He can move on with his life now the other side of this too What you have to realize he talking about the other people That he dates because he's trying to increase his stock in your mind He's trying to make you think that he's desirable that somebody want him Because we always want what we can't have so he is just immature He's not really used to women. He's not really too familiar with women. He's not really He ain't no player for one because the player ain't gonna never tell you what the left hand doing Or what the right hand doing so He he like a deer in head like you know, he he next to being harmless So you got to decide and that might be why you turned off Because women y'all so used to getting played that when a man come and be genuine and be open Y'all be I don't want to go on no date I told him my child's father and I are cool, but I keep it short with him Usually only discussing our son lately. He's been inviting us to everything he does and telling me his plans to self-improve Well, hey Either you looking good or you don't glow it up or you got some more money on you or He's been listening to some messages. He's been talking to somebody He's a bump into a video somewhere and he's feeling like a scrub. He's feeling like grown boy Lord dealing with his heart. It's a reckoning in his spirit So you just you have to look at it because you in the situation and If it's if you've been dealing with another man or seeming like you're dealing with another man That's one reason why he could be acting right If you didn't you know Did something to your body you didn't tone it up or down, you know loss weight gain weight where you need to You just made a change That's another reason And if it's nothing to do with you you dealing with another man or you you know glowing up Then it could be something internal that soul tie is strangling and He's starting to realize I want to be in my child life actively So you never know, but you just got to pay attention to the signs um Y'all make sure y'all put hashtag Q in front of your question so I can identify your question and Try to keep the chat clear. You're gonna see the moderator deleting Messages and now that's not a question. So only put questions in the in the chat so I could see it a little easier Tiffany Lane. God bless you. Hi, mr. Gaskins. I just checked my boyfriend respectfully about a female coworker bringing him cooked lunch He received it. Well, I said just out of respect stated it won't happen again Was I right to check this behavior? You absolutely right to check the behavior That don't mean it ain't gonna happen again, though, unless you work with them unless you work with them I'll be up there trying to put a job in put an application in I'm just playing about that, but now Um, so yeah, it's good you checked them now and I don't know how you found out if he told you It's a little guilty conscience. He want to make you jealous a little bit He want to make you jealous. He might want to cook lunch. He might be trying to throw Hand hand can you cook some lunch that I could take the work? Which I would not be doing because that's a boyfriend and not a husband So, you know, it's only popping now, but you're really not going to be able to tell to be honest with you You're not going to know if he's getting them cooked lunches unless y'all work together I feel like I go for bad boys. Why do you think that is the case? Um, you just lost You just lost You know, just it's it's a lot of it's a lot of men and women who you just you just in a lost state to where you really have manhood and what security and what manhood is Just kind of got it mixed up See a lot of time we think that the bad boy Women think that the bad boy is tough When really the bad boy is scared Women think that the bad boy is is a real man when really he's the furthest thing from it It's the guy that you think is Wouldn't bust a great The guy that you kind of look like is lame, but he bought his business Dole the guys that get overlooked Because the other guy's posturing And a lot of time women can't tell the difference because a lot of times as a woman you're looking for security And you want somebody that's tough Zidra king god bless you. How do I book a coaching session with you on my mentor dot life? You're truthful and hilarious at the same time. Blessing to you and your family. Hey, thank you. Thank you so much um If you go to my mentor dot life and you click on um browse coaches, you'll see me right there Then it just says book now Real real simple and smooth process on there Ebony god bless you not Tony What am What I am having a hard time understanding is why do men say they want a second chance But when they get held accountable for lack of consistency, they go ghost or have excuses What is that ego or boredom? It's ego And really it's just a man does not want to lose so he wanted a second chance because He want to leave on his terms So he want to be able to come back Know that he could get back in know that you just let him in and then he leave you So now he got the last lick. He got the last laugh And so it's like if you give a second chance and that happened, but now give a third chance now now you give a third chance You slap crazy you give a third chance. You slap crazy Tiffany Lane god bless you now Okay, y'all video chat on these breaks. All right May say you video challenge break because you don't video chat one day. He's eating that beef stew from that lady It brands on hot beef stew Bless the bill blessing heights on this god bless you I am married to an alcoholic for six years and together for ten all together right now My husband is living with another woman going on two years and won't discuss divorce What sister, you know, um, I I don't know the divorce laws Okay, and I don't know what state you in But I know it's got to be some kind of law out there for a situation like yours So you might have to do a little research talk to the lawyer Or get online and get a good google search going and go ahead and file that divorce paper and Survent him and go on about your business Go on about your bid. Don't don't don't use that as an excuse to stay stuck All right, because I know it's systems out there to where a person can't hold you hostage in marriage So go and find that that little loophole and go on about your business Does a man know when he lost a good woman? Yes, he does but not all the time. Does he care Shanice god bless you. Hi Tony. I watch your video the three year rule I decided to leave my boyfriend. He tells me I would regret it and I won't be happy We did business together and I felt he wanted To the money first to get to the money first rather than get married thoughts You probably felt right. You probably was right And a lot of times you build with a man y'all doing business and you're not married That was the first mistake. So you learned from it. You left Now I hate to hear that you decided to leave your boyfriend after you say tone. I watch your video the three year rule Okay, so when you talk to him Don't say my name. All right, you don't know who I am You never heard because you come to me Who I don't know you talk about video. I don't make videos. What you talking about boy. Hey, bro. Hey You're me because now I don't like when y'all make changes and then put me in the change. All right You talk to the lord. All right. You talk to the lord. You woke up your spirit said Leslie Okay, I'm going forward as you tell this story take my video up out of there Because that's why I got that keep still on me now because y'all leaving these men after watching the video Put that in your bio. Put that in your testimony. Then the man comes looking for me And then I got to go sit on the meet the lord and claim self-defense. So hey That's it. Oh, you know, I woke up one day and the lord said it's time to go Tony asking who I don't know Tony gas and coach Erica. God bless you now great relationship But boyfriend has told me he is struggling with showing emotion because he never received love from parents growing up He's starting therapy. Should I back away so he can focus on healing? Coach Erica me personally as a man, I would recommend you back away. So he so he could focus on healing I would also recommend that you not wait around that you focus on your life and and you move on with your life because You know if a man tell you he struggled with showing emotions because he didn't receive love from his parents growing up That means he already understand the root cause of the problem and so if you understand the root cause of the problem you can address that but You know, it's not a man innately desires a woman unless he desires a man So when a man desires a woman, it don't matter if he was raised by Boogoo bugaloo the bear He gonna want to hug on him a woman kiss on him a woman grab him some booty Now this is the thing now and I'm not saying this about your man I'm just saying this for all of y'all ladies. What I've been noticing now Is a lot of y'all boyfriend got a boyfriend And the boyfriend might just be on the screen might just be on the screen now but You know This thing picking up is picking up To like Sodom and Gomorrah. You see what we're going through in the world. You see what's going on out here A lot of these men's a lot of y'all boyfriend's got a boyfriend And I'm gonna tell you not because I've been really sensing these spirits out here with these men these men out here real All right him from both sides of the plate. So when a man acting iffy Going about your business when a man acting iffy going about your business because he'd be done Dipped that stick in the fudge pool And then brought back a recompense in his body Brought that heel bite put that heel right in you because he'd been out there tiptoeing with men And the devil running rampant right now. You see what's going on with this 19 You see what's going on in politics. You see what's going on in the financial world. You see what's going on One thing I've been noticing now. This this is this a signal to y'all You know a man. All right, you know a man When you up close the purse to this man And you sniff a little something on That like he might like me All right. Okay. That's between him and that's between him and the lord you go ahead and remove yourself Because you don't want him dipping the same stick in you Double dipping and that's what i'm seeing out here. That's happening a lot Okay, because a lot of times y'all see a woman who got a man and you like how she got a man Well, her man like men So he anybody to do he just that's her he she his cover up So that's why I tell you can't be jealous of people now. You can't be jealous of the next woman and her man because Her man might not be just her man Tracy god bless you. Thank you for all you do. I've learned so much and will continue to work on myself a god bless you Bridget bless you. Hi tony question. I've been talking to a man who I knew from childhood he 59 years says Says he sees ghosts, but don't read the bible. Should I block him? Yeah, go ahead and block him go ahead and block him says come on now Asked by the man who see ghost Sarah god bless you eight month relationship His female friend comes over unannounced I last shout, but I feel like my feeling But I feel like my feelings were valid haven't heard from him in two weeks feel like I might have sabotaged thing Sarah you did the right thing Okay, you did the right thing you didn't sabotage anything you expose things you didn't sabotage anything You know he got a female friend and she popped up Now it was too late to tell me the day that the word female is derogatory now two women said female alone here now I just want y'all to take note now how y'all picking the choosing and then somebody say men say the word female in a derogatory way I really don't think there's no way you could call me a male that i'm gonna feel like that's derogatory And I'll let it say some men say female the same like the b-word come on now the b-word is a female dog All right Now y'all y'all got the don't don't don't don't don't live in the world that sensitive That's like me getting offended. You know somebody called a male man. Hey man Did you just cuss at me? So y'all come on now y'all don't don't don't don't Don't let the devil do y'all like that Don't let the devil do y'all like that. How you walking on eggshells and you tiptoeing by every little thing somebody say Come on. I don't let don't don't don't get caught up in that. You're gonna lose all your peace T lets it go out blessing my man contracted co-ed after his mama And I advised him not to go to houston. He's quarantining. He asked me to be his caretaker, but I told him no I have to protect myself and my fam. Was that wrong? No, that wasn't wrong. No, that wasn't wrong. Now Okay, must forgot who you were asking. No, that wasn't wrong. I would even on the phone. I said, what a That code it that night team might come through the phone waves. What? a similar similar telegram some But yeah, that's not wrong now. That's not wrong. That's not your husband And it's a lot of women who then caught the night team from their husband. So I'm blood type. Oh, so I probably couldn't have had it and then didn't beat it and passed it and asymptomatic and everything Melissa God bless this guy. I'm dating has a female roommate. All right, another person saying female now y'all confusing me How y'all keep throwing female like you supposed to say This guy I'm dating has a woman as his room Now we're getting on me about the word female. Now. It's the third woman that said female. Okay. I just want you all to know I ain't making this stuff up. I didn't know he had a roommate And on facebook he refers to her as his roommate. Do I need to be concerned or should I drop him and move on? Why tell you like this right here, Melissa I'll tell you like this right here. Melissa if he likes women, which he's talking to you So he must like women Me myself personally as a man I don't trust a man who has a woman as his roommate Me myself personally they she might have an understanding that he'll never be heard that they're not there But they cool with the wound bound. She cool with the wound bound Thank you, man Because she might not have her nobody and she may rather have her a piece of a man than no man at all Me myself personally I never condone or recommend That you deal with a man that got a roommate period Even if the roommate male Once he wants a man cross 25 if y'all over 25, he'll need to have no roommate Like brother listen if you got to rent you a room In somebody house off air bnb That's what you need to do to not have no roommate now Too grown to have a roommate and then a woman has the roommate. No, brother. I got to go You got to go Love the old god bless. I'm 24 and my ex is 23 together five years He broke up with me four months ago when I found god He called me one month ago saying he wanted to be friends Refuse call yesterday three times same question why? That's the devil It's just the devil you the founder lord and he found a devil and he calling you back to trip you up He want to put you in friends with benefits role He want to have you on your bike in sin to prove to himself that you really ain't fine god You just trying to look classy. That's all he's trying to do. Keep keep going about your business True letter god bless you felt I put more effort and That he was too closed off And didn't value me as much Hurt but now he is tweeting like he's regretful. Should I try to talk it out? He didn't call or text. No, you shouldn't try to call You shouldn't try to talk it out because He could be talking about another woman He could be talking about his other ex. He could be talking about his side woman He could be talking about a woman that he just left that he just lost a week ago You see what I mean? So you can't read people messages and Take the subliminal as this talking to you because Don't ever do that because that's one that's the quickest way to make yourself look like a fool of man That wants you and regretful about you. He gonna call you he gonna write you He not gonna be on social media Because that's lame. No, he gonna talk to you personally and if he ain't doing that You need to block him ignore his social media and keep moving about your business But don't ever read a man's social media and just assume it's talking about you and then put yourself on the line And then he like wow She thought l by her Kai god bless you. Hi. What does it mean when a guy easily moves on from one to the other? Even he said he was in love found out he got with me after his Two year and now he's with another after hour one year He looking he actively looking and does not know what he's looking for And and a lot of men do that. He just he lost He's looking for a woman to find him a real god bless you And so you can't get caught up in it and when he telling everybody he loved him he tell everybody love I was I was the same way as a man You know, I was looking for my wife, but I really didn't know what she looked like Didn't know how I was gonna meet her you meet a woman and everything cool But then you realize I she really ain't the one But men don't like to be alone So if the woman willing to be with you you keep the woman there And then when you finally meet somebody else that you can leave that woman for then you leave And that's the game that men play. It's it's ignorant. It's childish. But that's why Each of us have to protect ourselves. So as a woman, you got to get the knowledge To kind of be able to read the red flags Read the room and see what's going on So you could tell about his consistency and his energy and what he's saying what he's doing Highs lining up so that you know You could get out before he dragged you along using you as a hold me down So until he meet the next woman and a lot of time he meet that next woman before he even break up with you Pretty flower. God bless you. Hello, man of God. I dated a man off and on for two and a half years I never met his seven-year-old daughter. I think he Still sleeping with her mother um You probably right You probably absolutely a hundred percent right And that's probably why you didn't meet his daughter because he men don't care that much about their kids Of a man like a woman His daughter meet that meet that new woman in the first month. Hey, this my friend This my friend Ashley she um worked with me and you know, she helping me with homework Oh daddy, you're not in school. Oh, I tell you about that. Yeah, I'm in school now, baby girl And she helped me she's a tutor That's it's old tutors help and she can also help you that's how a man gonna do If he like if he like a woman he go introduce you to that daughter ace out quick son daughter, so when You don't get to meet the seven-year-old daughter That's because she know how to talk and she talked good So because she talked good if he If you meet her now she go and tell her mama met daddy new um lady friend Ashley better. God bless you now God bless you now. I'm missing some of these questions now. So y'all got to give him a second here. I'm trying to catch up Thanks, Tony. I feel the same way. I'm gonna drop him and move on Now if you put the the question that come in the blue Those disappear those disappear on my end the one that's in yellow and orange those they stay up there longer So I could see them. So y'all got to forgive me if I miss it But I go back to the chatting scroll In a second here Dean. God bless you. He says He loves me and I didn't know and I didn't know how much but Every little petty disagreement push him further away. We didn't curse or yell Why move out over this? You leave then leave again Um Now y'all forgive me only on y'all questions if it's a little typo if I read it wrong Because I want sometimes one word to throw the whole thing off now, but basically what you're dealing with right here is He lying to you. He don't really like you that much And that's why we all disagree it push him further away And the reason why I push him further away because he entertained another woman So see men real finicky and men real bothered men get real bothered and annoyed when they can't cheat in peace When you interrupt and so he got this other woman. She's the vacation Because she fun. She knew you know, he don't get to talk to a whole lot. So when you get to talk to her, it's You feel me? It's all of that. And so when y'all get into it. It's like You're interrupting what we got going on. I'm trying. I'm talking to her over here And so he get real finicky and that's why he moved out He moved out because then he get to cheat in peace and the reason why he get to cheat in peace When he get to cheat in peace what the man is doing is he trying to see if she worth leaving you for So that's why he moved out or that's why he leave because now he cheated in peace In cheating in peace meaning he don't have to answer to you. You can't check his phone You can't be there to argue he get to really assess her Then he realized that she's not the one and then that's when he come back That's when he comes back and see the thing is is You can't leave that door open You can't leave that door open if a man leave you And you ain't do nothing to him meaning you didn't curse him out You didn't cheat on him You didn't lie to him and a man leave you a lesson I'm gonna tell you like this right here Don't let a man come back now. Don't let a man come back now When a man leave you because understand this right here the way men will we only nothing that we really want? Okay, not a car Not a job not a pal socks You hear me me and hard to let stuff go You know, I got draws all kind of holes in And I'm just like every time I think I got these draws on I'm like man I need to throw these draws way while I'm still wearing these draw He holds on thing coming out the hole And it take a while for it really click I just put on some socks the other day and my big toe popped out the hole And I'm like, why do I still got these socks? I'm not in this that kind of struggle But man, we hard to part ways with stuff we hold on the stuff my daddy got two My daddy got two lexes That don't run You can't pay it to run. It won't think about running You can't jump it off and he got both of them sitting in his garage He got him a new car And why you got a new car? He parked their cars outside the garage And let his two old broke down car sit in the garage That's how men is so I say all that to say if a man leave you don't ever let him come back Especially if he left you and you ain't do nothing to him If y'all getting an argument and he leave over argument you didn't Spit on his mama grade. You didn't cuss him out. You didn't Call this thing little you didn't attack him like that verbally You didn't cheat on him lie to him steal from him and he just leave over a disagreement That's that's that's one of the reddest flags you could see That's one of the reddest flag because a man don't do that. I should key the hair of god bless you now y'all give me a second now y'all um In the key to fame god bless you now. I see you y'all give me a second Let me grab some of these here questions that I missed because some of these ones here Popped up here Let me see here Now it's crazy how you two do y'all Because because y'all send me a little blessing and you know it's blessing You know maxine god bless you blessing might not be you know all the way Up there and and and you just get discriminated on against and I apologize about that But this ain't my system. I ain't created I've been looking forward to hearing. Let's keep the chat clear. Joy of god blessing. I thank you for going live It was it was a shrubber now. I had to push through I said lord, ain't got no support out there to be going live all the time The lord said man go ahead. Go on get on now. All right, I see now Now hey, if I miss your question y'all got to please understand on one human over here. All right Neil god bless you knee. I see you right there Ariel Henry may god continue to bless you on your family. I'll see you Elmorel the boyfriend of six months Ex-girlfriend and child's mom coming back into his life After she had protective order against him For threats now. He's being weird and distant help. Let him go. Let him go Elmorel Elmorel the let him go ace out. Let him go. Let him go. All right Let him go. Let him go Let him go. Don't hold on now. It's only been six months. Don't hold on. Don't drag yourself out get dog That it's only been six months six months. It's the lord trying to let you see a sign You can't compete with that woman. You can't compete compete with that woman Because if he get her back, that's the ultimate victory He get to tell everybody you see that she was crazy You see that you see I really didn't do nothing to her because if I really did something to her She wouldn't let me she wouldn't took that protective order off. She wouldn't came back. So that's what he's saying So you got to go on about your business Ashley Beverly I saw that I saw that MBB god that's your ambi Now Tony you skipped my question. Um, uh, you have to post your question again ambi Uh, because I I so I miss your question. I ain't skip your question. I miss your question. All right, get it together Uh, two letter was dating for eight months. I broke up sunday Okay, two letter. God bless you Key to her now when y'all put them chats that go in the chat I don't get to see those now. There's too many messages. So you got to put the one that go up top Which I don't and I don't know the difference between whether one of them Is a sticker one is a sticker. I think Maybe and one is a super chat. So I imagine the super chat going to chat But those right there. I'm gonna miss those all day every day What do you think of a man taking care of his child and helping his girlfriend out and now just slacks and doesn't keep his word I don't know what's going on in his mind. Get ready to leave getting ready to leave So you need to go and get ready to leave Veronica, how do you keep your boyfriend interested and not wanting to cheat How do you keep your boyfriend interested and not wanting to cheat? Um, it's nothing that you can do. It's nothing that you can do. It has to be him So what you how do you do that is you look at him to see what kind of man he is That's what you got to do. You look at him to see Does he have integrity? Does he have character? Is he tapping into his purpose? Is he looking for his purpose trying to discover his purpose? If the answers know to that You you're gonna get cheated on And you could slide down poles. You could be singing on the microphone like you hit me Layla Hathaway, you could be Anything you want to do flipping tossing Up and down. All right All day every day three times a day. He's still gonna cheat if he's not a man It is nothing a woman that could do to keep a man faithful Because women who do everything women who cook three meals a day women who suck and duck and Pluck I don't curse. I know y'all trying to put a curse word in there And fly and flip and toss and go up and down left and right still get cheated on You know why because if a man ain't a man ain't nothing a woman could do So you got to look at him to see if he could keep his self faithful Because that's not a that's not a woman's job to keep a man faithful The mom boss and a lot of women think it is a lot of women think that oh if I cook more if I clean more if I Be a little more frisky. Nope Nope ain't none of that gonna work because I don't make I don't ask my wife or make her or try to demand that she cook that she clean I don't do none of that clean when you want to clean cook when you want to cook I'm faithful regardless We we come together You know love When she feel like it if she got a headache for a whole week From getting up too early or going to bed too late. Then okay. I'm just out of luck I'm just out of luck I got to figure out a system to help her go to bed early help her wake up early help Help her do something. You know final way around the house. I'm out of luck And if she ain't feeling good, I got to be faithful for me not based off what she's doing Husband of seven years cheated says he will do whatever to repair. I asked him to move out He didn't want to but did he's still paying bills here and getting counseling Is it worth working on you're gonna need coaching That chat ain't gonna do it for your sister Um, I as you as you know, I really don't speak too much on On marriage on here, especially on something like that. You're gonna need coaching system It's too deep. You just can't you know This right here kind of for the fly-by-night relationships the boyfriend girlfriend's not as much involved with what you got You're gonna need coaching you visit my mentor dot life several coaches on there Coaches divorce divorce a coaches, you know Break up relationship all kind of coaches on there that they really could help you need to have a few conversations Jackie god bless you mentioned in videos that men can only change through god If men believe in god, but don't have god in their hearts. Does that mean there's no hope for any Men to change for those men to change correct. You're right. If god ain't in their heart, then they lost They ain't got a chance. They got a chance. I really ain't never met a good man That don't have god in his heart. They're a good man. I never met. He'd know god I ain't never met a man who say he'll hate this that I feel like I do business with and and trust With my life with my money You know around my daughter or sister and got no god got no your creator because you need to make yourself Andrea god bless you broke up with x two years ago He's 13 years older. He cheated. I blocked him He emails every one to two months. Sometimes I would respond most times. I don't He stopped for four months, but email yesterday checking on me. I'm a nurse. I didn't respond Thoughts you need to block him all the way, you know, or you don't got to block him, but just don't respond It's just a soul tie, you know, you're just a soul tie and he too old for you anyways He too old for you. So he's just keeping tabs on you just like a daddy Because 13 he owed nothing to be daddy. So just don't respond keep keep going and you need to never respond If you're not going to block him save his name as spam Or overseas scam So that way if you go into another relationship And delete all your sent messages delete all your sent emails to him So if you go into another relationship and you happen to be dating Colombo blues clues Sherlock Holmes And he happened to be sitting by your computer and his email just so happened to pop up He see the name overseas scam And that way he like, oh, okay. What that is and Man, you know how them guys be trying to get you in these dating scams think they're gonna get some money out You don't know why this man keep emailing me. You see what I mean out of sight out of mind You ain't got to claim him the only people you claim is your child father and your ex-husband That's the only people you got to claim anybody else They ain't got to get clean They ain't got to get clean because man ain't gonna claim The equivalent of man not gonna claim the equivalent for you So don't don't as a woman you shouldn't be claiming men that you didn't have a child with or you didn't get married to Be a just God bless you how early it's too early to meet a guy in person Just started talking to a guy from a mutual friend Lives in different states. He's already talking about meeting up for a weekend been talking about a week. All right Let him talk. Let him talk. Let him keep talking. Let him talking. Let him keep talking and you go ahead and look at your calendar Okay, let me um Yeah, one second here All right. Well, I have you on the phone. I'm just looking my calendar One second and just and and your phone by your mouth Put the calendar close to the phone So he could hear this Okay. Yeah, one second. Let me see. Okay So what is july 9? Whoo, man all these weekends. I got all these view. Oh, okay. Wow. So look I'm open august 29th Saturday, you see what I mean? So what you doing? What you trying to do? You putting him out about You putting him out about 10 10 dates out. So y'all have phone dates y'all need to have phone dates y'all need the You need to have about 10 hours make sure you have at least 10 hours of talk time Which is like a phone date before you meet him in person And then when you meet in person, it's like listen, brother You're gonna have to learn how to smile Because you got to look me in the eyes because I got this mask on because you could could be bringing a 19 from your state And my lungs is not all the way where they need to be so I got the mask on if you can't smile and follow for me by the eyes Then we out of luck right now because this mask not coming off of this ear right now in the midst of this 19 So help him understand that and then Y'all go out to Downtown the outside. He want to come in town. Okay. Oh, yeah, we got a hotel not too far from me. All right He's staying at the hotel when y'all meet up. Um, yeah, you could uber And I'll meet you or if you want to pick him up Okay, but I wouldn't let the 19 get in your car because you don't know you can have it on his shirt It's they on surfaces for days. So uber Get a 19 and somebody uber and see you. Hey, you know social distance great to see you and y'all sit out there and y'all talk And this right here. That's how you got to date right now This is how you got date right now. You got to be serious about that And don't play with it because you play with it. You're playing with your life See, love god bless you. My mom got five bookings on my mentor dot life first one was this week Who my mom got five bookings on Wow, I don't even believe that I don't even believe that see love. Wow She might uh, she might be getting more booking than me No, now you're on your line. See love now. What's your mama name on there? Now tell your mama name so we can get us some more. Um, get us some more clients on here See love put it put your mama name in the chat Now see what she's saying is her mom Certified life coach join my mentor dot life the link in the description Get your life together Len Butler. All right, Len y'all got a certain Len I hope it ain't two lends because they don't show last names on my mentor dot life It only show First name Nikita. God bless you. He saw me for six months after hearing me the first time He said I'm a good person and I deserve better He saw me for six months after hearing me for the first time He said I'm a good person. I deserve better and he doesn't want to be a distraction Why um Nikita, um Just don't worry about that sister, you know, just don't worry about that just Just just that could be Ted Bundy nephew. That's how you got to take it. All right because On the truth of the matter It's just not necessary to feed yourself that negativity It's not necessary for you to be telling yourself. Oh, I'm not good enough. He don't want me You know, it's not necessary to be thinking like that. It's just You dodge the bullet. He's not the one God say not that could be Ted Bundy nephew You know, and he's he basically saying, you know what I got a list of what I'm looking for to take out and I just don't feel like you deserve that So you just take him at his word And you go on about your business Go on about your business and tell yourself whatever story you need to tell yourself. They're going about your business Lola god bless you. Do you wait until you are engaged with a man to introduce him to your child's father? Since the new man will be around the child. Do you wait until you engage? Yep, wait until you engage Because if the child father cares so much, he should have stayed in your life to begin with So when the child father not there, he don't get no say so it come down to your discretion And vice versa and a lot of time women don't like that when a man bring another woman around Hey that's the man you chose And you told to sleep with him now y'all not together. He do what he want to do with his life You can't tell him who to date who not to date. We just don't get that right It's a part of what we lose when the gamble the when we gambling for love So He lost that right. He uh x has no say so in your life So it's up to your discretion and what you feel and then from there you able to choose Now y'all hold on one second right here. Let me see if I I feel like I might have Miss a couple of Sherry T my husband really sucks as a provider. I have never felt secure in our 12 year marriage He doesn't take care of home. I can't do this anymore God bless you Sherry God bless your not praying for you Um, you know if it's if if you able find a coach on my mentor dot life You know to help you through that tough time Then you ain't got to go at that alone Joanne god bless. Is it weird for a man to talk about marriage on the first date? Yes, yes, it is. Yes, it is. That's that's um Yes, it is That's scammard's vibes when a man talking about marriage because see A man ain't trying to sniff a ring inside of two years So when he talked about marriage on the first date sum up sum up It's either he needs some help financially he needs somewhere to stay Or he he thinks that that's the key to get a woman on a bike And he want to get you on your bike So if he talked marriage he think them let them guards gonna drop And then he gonna have you just like this right here Guard drop Millie rock body rock Catherine Taylor god bless you And and you know what it worked for so many women because it's a lot of so many women And that's why he doing that because so many women have heard marriage and Oh, all right. Oh, and now they feel all kind of chemistry next thing, you know That night or the next night within three nights within three dates. They own their bike And the man say, all right, I've been talking about marriage on the first date every woman I meet Trust me. I'd have been there. I'd have been that man and was no good. I was sorry at two left shoe Reacquainted with an ex Sabrina. God bless real acquainted with an ex After a year to get an item of mine Received it through the mail and then cut ties. He wanted to stay friends and I tricked them All right, you did the right thing now. Hopefully it don't don't don't Don't change the stance because he might come back Tall girls rock god bless you now was getting serious went ring shopping said he would propose Soon caught him talking to three women Selling different love stories. They all live over a thousand miles away said he was insecure That's why That's why should I leave? um Now Do you want to leave me now me personally? I was gone before I finished reading your message me personally now I put a hand on strain taking off so fast for you. You see what I mean? I was out of them I was gone, but To eat their own. I don't recommend staying because again, he got problems Now I'd rather him had been talking to three women locally Because that's a little more sane talking to somebody you could see In touch first talking to women over a thousand miles away. You build an international love For what to be sending cash apps in western unions? and Running a love triangle scam So, you know getting Nasty pictures So it's like he a little more off like it's bad enough for a man to cheat locally But he's going different all kind of different error codes different states You know, he's really dealing with some some deep inner lustation Some some some childhood issues he dealing with you see what I mean? So He he getting a little overboard and not just one one, but three women So guess what if you caught three that mean it could be 30 not literally, but that mean it could be 13 That mean it could be nine Because you never really catch everything you don't catch a man and everything You catch some of you don't catch them and everything Um court and tea god bless you just a little support since I watch your videos daily Your true and wrong message is desperately needed in the world today court and tea god bless you now God bless you there so bless my heart y'all And so appreciate that Tessie channel god bless you Tony is it right for a man Or a woman to continue talking to friends in messenger After nine months of courting And the two people and the two people do not live together um I don't fully understand if you're saying That y'all friends And it's been nine months And y'all still just talking on the messenger or if you're saying You dealing with a man who talking to a woman That he calls a friend for nine months in the messenger And they don't live together, you know or y'all two don't live together So i'm a little confused on that tessie, but either way you put it no that's that's not That's not right Nine months in the messenger courting. That's some funny business. That's some funny business there. So no, that's not right Trevor travel god bless you ambi Be all right ambi. I see you now. You you you've learned how to put that that message up there. Now you see how i've seen you All right. I don't know where your other message went to god bless you god bless. I'm glad you made it back around ambi What should you do if you're in love with a man who has a girlfriend with a baby on the way? I told his girl about us ambi, um Give me one second. Let me get my verse together for you. Um Um ambi, you know, I got a video Call I think I I think it might be called a cheating man and the other woman Or it's something with the other woman. Okay ambi. I want you to watch that video watch it twice. All right What I need you to understand ambi is that you're not in love You in lack So what I mean is that you lacking? self-love You're lacking confidence right now You lacking Will determination purpose So you falling for a lackey Meaning he's slacking and he lacking and that's why he dealing with you and got a girlfriend and a babe on the way Now what you got to understand what you so? You gonna read So if you in the way or that woman's situation and you willingly being a temptress And willing being a volunteer to his nastiness You someone sees that you gonna have to read because if he dealing with you And that's how you in love because now If you in love and the man ain't dealing with you All right now Okay, you're gonna need my mentor dot like times 10. All right So understand that now if you in love with the man the man not dealing with you I need you to get to my mentor a South Now if he dealing with you, guess what? That means he's a piece of trash Okay, I'm finding some trash. See this y'all remember this hill y'all know that blue shirt I have Didn't say my mentor dot life on it. This right here come out to sleep What you gonna do with this this what this man that you dealing with that's what he is right here a piece of trash Because and man and this what you got to realize what you dealing with how you dealing with this here man This man so sorry This man so raggedy rat nine So worthless rat nine his life because he ain't trying to get to know god He ain't trying to change his life If a man Will talk to you while he got a girlfriend and not just a girlfriend because they ain't they ain't the end of the world But he got a baby on the way With her and he entertaining you That's one of the low down dirtiest men in the world. That's the nastiest thing you could do I was a dog all my life. I was the dog of dogs You hit me dog pound snoop dog Doggy dog. I was the absolute worst when I got with my wife And she got pregnant I was an angel. You hit me. I was rubbing on stomach Rubbing on stomach Baby bump licking on baby bump rubbing all kind of lotion All the oil hand sanitizer Talking to the baby and I was a dog So that let me know If a man dealing with enough if he got a girlfriend and she got a child on the way and he cheated Me personally as a man. I'm scared of that man because he slapped crazy. He slapped crazy So listen to me. You got to run Don't ever allow yourself to be the other woman. That's the trashy place to be in. Remember when I said in that video, I say He the he a trash bag and you the trash can And ain't neither one of them Worth being come on now when you got your whole life ahead of you and you got all these men out here Come on now any worth being in there in that place Come on now. We got to do better than that. Barbara M. God bless you now been coaching an ex for three months Two times a week sessions going great He called me and put me on speaker for a girlfriend For me to tell her nothing is going on with us Should I continue coaching? I refer him to you once He proposes Since that's where I have gotten him Barbara Barbara Barbara now Barbara you need to be coaching with me Okay, Barbara Barbara Barbara you need to hire me. He don't need me Okay, he don't need me because he live in the light. He know what he's doing So Barbara, he don't need me Barbara. He got her over here believing He ain't emotionally cheating and lusting after you while y'all on the phone He got you on the phone got you stuck You think you coaching him? You ain't coaching him. He coaching you He coaching you on how to be stuck on how to feed a soul type He coaching you Barbara, okay, so Barbara you need to come hire me All right, because he just played you like a deck of cards He played you like a deck of cards and you know what he breaking you down He breaking her down. He break it. Okay, you imagine now. Come on now, Barbara. Think about this now. Think about this now, Barbara. Think about this No, not because it ain't both of them because He put you on the phone to talk to her to tell her ain't nothing going on So now you say you coaching him You say you coach them you coaching him now, Barbara. Don't try to don't try to get out of here I'm not Barbara. Okay. Listen, Barbara You played yourself. All right, you played yourself. He played you But so what you got to look at is like, why am I doing this because see what I want to think about Barbara think about being the Think about being the fiance Think about your fiance having coaching sessions twice a week with his ex And then put the ex on the phone with you to tell you ain't nothing going on Well, it should not be nothing going on because he should not be talking to her period So think about being her now And how crazy this will look and I think about being us on the outside looking in Y'all look y'all look Whoo, yeah me Like that. That's how y'all look to us. All right So Barbara listen how you need to do a session with me because you need to heal and you need to grow And I don't not now and remember this now if you took my life code certification in section in section Section seven I think I got a a Chapter a section on Coaching etiquette now that right there will be breaking coaching etiquette You you you never coach your ex you never coach somebody in relationship with you never coach your ex You you know, especially he in a whole another relationship And so what he doing Barbara he got a soul tied with you He got a soul tied with you So him doing coaching with you ensures him that you're not engaged to another man because he know another man It ensures him. You ain't even in a relationship because he know another man Ain't gonna let you come know what near his phone line He you can sniff Your telephone if he gonna be on the other end You can't touch your phone with a 10 foot pole if he gonna be on the line So by him dealing with you two times a week it let him know that you stuck That you in a trance Stuck like a duck in a truck About to get pluck You hear me that's how he played you so he could see what you're doing keep eyes and hands on you And then manipulate And dawg got his fiance he treating her like gum on the bottom of his shoe Again, he's a trash can man He's a trash bag man Because ain't no man in his right god giving righteous mind Going to be doing coaching sessions with his ex when he is engaged And I hope this that she see this I hope somehow She know Me And if you hit his sister counselor that wedding Give him that rain bite and gone about your business because you Sister is with a psycho and that man gonna have you Stooing your toenails and drinking it With some castor oil in about five years Because he crazy because I'm now see this what I try to tell y'all this how I could gauge crazy because I was a Complete dawg. You hear me if I tell you how much a dawg I was you'll throw up in your mouth And and I would never do what this man doing That is the most foolish thing dumbest ruthless thing I've ever heard of Not ever heard of but that's that's up there. That's nasty. That's cold hearted. That's cold blooded. That's just disgusting Boy, you ought to be ashamed of yourself. I hope he see this boy You ought to be ashamed of yourself you running your whole life. You need to get your whole life together And got these women sitting around here looking like boo boo the fool looking like Who shot john and forgot to kill him around here with your grown musty behind you can't achieve success You can't even be the man that god called you to be because you Deceiving two women at the same time got your ex stuck on hold Thinking that she living in her purpose coaching you and you ain't heard a word She didn't say it and then you got this other woman over here You calling your fiance who she broke busted and disgusted Because she can't see between your lies and your games. See that's what I'm gonna tell y'all When I get the money when I get the money I'm giving me a network How oprah got that network? I'm giving me a network and you know what I've been doing It's gonna be shows 24 hours a day round the clock with me Ripping y'all a new one telling y'all the whole truth Because the stuff that's going on out here. This is absolutely crazy So yeah, because see this right here blows me how and this what this what sick is me Now if you send a question and y'all forgive me now, I got to preach for a second This what sick is me. That's why I do the work that I do How Can a grown man Get two grown women to believe That he innocent When he engaged the one and doing coaching sessions with his ex How did this happen? See this because see me as a man. I see this stuff and I'm like Come on now ladies. Come on now ladies. Y'all come on now ladies. Y'all can't see this This made me mad and see what made me mad Is Because I'm living faithful. I'm 100% faithful And how y'all be saying ho be winning. That's how I be sometimes. I'll be like grown boys be winning So you mean tell me this man got a fiance And he get the tickle his fancy Tickle his soul tie by doing two sessions a week with his ex He ain't even got to suffer He don't have to go through the pain of breaking a soul tie stomach aches sleepless nights Growing up becoming a man Losing a woman he don't have to go through that because he get to keep both of y'all And then he get to convince the ex to tell the next That ain't nothing going on. Well, yeah, ain't nothing going on Ain't nothing going on because he's still he's still laying the groundwork But once he gets you by another year in And you don't fail for him because you think you've been coaching him two times a week and he's been coaching you He's been courting you two times a week in the name of coaching get you by another year You're gonna start to fall in love again And you're gonna be weak and he's gonna catch you in a vulnerable moment And he's gonna have you right on your back and then what he's gonna be doing He's gonna be sleeping with his wife Monday, Wednesday, Friday, and he'll be sleeping with you to the third of saturday And then sleep with both of y'all on sunday Listen what i'm telling you now That's why i got to go harder. That's why i got to go harder That's why i got i got i might have to up the two videos a day because the stuff y'all be falling for just be having I'll just be I just be i go to i'll be looking at my wife like Will you fall for one game? just fall for one like let me I'm ready to do something. I'll be telling my wife. I'll be like baby. Hey, sometimes I just gonna like change just so we could be regular I'm like, baby. Can I yell at you for a second? Hey, let me yell at you and cut you out real quick Just to be regular like what's going on? How the world we happy and in love without arguing Without cussing without breaking up the makeup And i'm in this all i'm dealing with is grown boys getting over Come on ladies all got to do better than this Y'all got to do better than this nine. This ain't be bothering me if you keep me up at night If you wake me up one two o'clock in the morning, I'll be trying to come up with video topics I'm like what I I saw yesterday A lady She looked like a cheerleader She looked like a cheerleader now sometimes cheerleaders Okay, some cheerleaders stereotypically could be A fry short of happy meal but I'm not casting no blanket over them, but she looked like a cheerleader The lady met a man online She and her early 20s The lady then gave the man over $200,000. I'm like, is her daddy bill gates? Like it's her daddy. Uh, what's the amazon man? I'm like so so at At $1,500 something strike you At $5,000 something hit you $10,000 $50,000 A hundred thousand something had to hit you at a hundred thousand sister. So it's over $200,000 Who was you talking to? Who is this the spawn of satan that he looked like everything you'd have ever dreamt of in a man Like how do a man get $200,000 out of you and see for me being a hundred percent faithful It's demoralizing for me because I'll be sitting there like lord. I need to run me a dating scam I need me some money I'm like, I need to get on match.com and have me three four profile and put some fake abs up there And I know how to shoot game. Let me get me 200,000. I'm like, this a grown boy This a grown boy got a hot space in satan's house and he done got $200,000 from this woman Who in her early 20s Posted no bell. You got tip talk. You got instagram. You got google. You got twitter and this man got you out of $200,000 Come on now Come on now and see now. I'll be reading these questions and what I want y'all to do I want y'all to read these questions Read these questions that y'all be asked that other people be asking Read the question and really take it in and then turn the mirror on yourself and say, okay That question right there sounded real Whatever words you want to use. All right, let me look myself in the in the face in the mirror and ask myself Where am I making a mistake that seems that blatant because see we always see other people problem But we never see our own Hey Let me see now. Let me get my hat to preach now y'all forgive me. I'm trying to catch some of these questions How soon will a man realistically tell you that he loves you? We have been talking almost three months and he told me at two and a half months. He seems different 45 years and mature, but I guess I'm just hyper village and not very trusting Um, well, you say he seems different and then you say 45 years and mature And then you say but I guess I'm hyper village and not trust no you very trusting You very trusting because you giving a 45 year old man credit for being mature At 45. What else is he supposed to be? You see what I'm saying and the other thing is is you actually considering if he truly loves you at two and a half months A man don't even know you before 12 months. He can't even spell your middle name So it's no possible way for him to love you because men don't fall in love like that You see what I mean? So you got to realize with a man. It's gonna take a man a minimum Of two years of falling love a minimum. You hear me? I know the word is minimum. All right Got the english majors on him. Oh my goodness. Let me get off of this channel. He just did he just say mental mom Oh my god, who put these guys in a position to give advice? He said minimum I know it's minimum. All right. Thank you Key to God blesses those things you are speaking on Tony is why I just shake my head and disbelief Thank you for the work and teachings you do blessing the you and your family. God bless you key to key to be blessed me now key to be blessed me now Uh dd 85 Tony you on fire learn so much from you. Hey, God bless you now. God bless you. All right now Here go see love. Look at see love. Whoo What's he love? Bless me now. Yeah y'all bless me now. Hey What I think I so see love say but he needed this Stay strong your diligence and commitment are appreciated and even when we act like we just fell off a watermelon truck Thank you. And here's a bless. Hey bless you. Bless you now bless Tony, please preach. I wish I heard that message before my same situation of being The other one the ladies, please listen to Tony. He's speaking the truth. Hey, I'm glad you shared that now Glad you shared that now y'all give him a second to see um, because I know it's some, uh Tamanica stringer, I miss your question there. I see you then Deleted off the Tamanica self into a charge back on this now. Hey man, I miss my question Thank God bless you now. Let me see. I'll miss some of these questions because I was I had to talk to y'all for a second now I had to talk to y'all for a second. Hold on. He cheated three kids No, not staying wrong to live together till I get my finances right While keeping boundaries like staying off my back If why how long if yes, how long He cheated three kids. No, you're not staying um Just that's a tough one. You know, you got three kids. So it'll be wrong for me to say, hey, take your kid to the shelter He cheated. So if you stay Then y'all roommates, but not necessarily because y'all got three kids. So It's nothing wrong Which you stand if he'll let you stay But the thing is you need to be open and honest You need to let him know that we're not together. We're not sleeping together I'm just here because we've got these three kids and I ain't got nowhere else to go But I need to get my stuff together and if he say, all right, cool. I understand and I'm sorry for what I did I understand if he say no, no, it ain't gonna work. No, you're gonna be here. You finna be on your back If you gonna stay here, I'm paying these bills If he say that then now you got to find somewhere to go because because One thing you don't want to do is play with a man in a sense of using him because a man Is me and we real short-circuited and that's why when you turn on the news It's a lot of women come up missing and the reason why it's because She didn't she wasn't prepared for the red flag. She she didn't see the red flags and she didn't recognize crazy Early, that's why I got a video to say recognize crazy early See a man and women too now because I watch snap almost every night My wife you watch a snap So that's why I keep me on straight and narrow because I know she know how to get me up out of here Without leaving a trace if I do act up So We were watching snap and you women be snapping but me same thing Same thing. So listen don't you don't use nobody If he cool with you staying there and y'all not sleeping together and it's because it's his three kids And he cool with you getting on your feet Then all right, but if he's saying no, I ain't with that. I ain't with that You ain't gonna be living on me and you ain't coming off nothing. You ain't giving me nothing. All right You got to get on google find your foundation. It's it's a foundation in your city right now You ask to do that right now. It's a foundation in your city If you google enough you're gonna find a foundation in your city that help women Relocate help women get first and last month rent to get into a place to get on their feet or Or get an apartment that is just you and your chair, you know All right, caramel kids to the moderators. Thank y'all for keeping the chat clear as much as you can the chat open now So my moderators get the rest a little bit Just long don't say nothing crazy in the chat now Because now y'all see somebody say something crazy. Go on still Block them on out of there. Block them on out of there now Lauren God bless you. Hey Tony my boyfriend and I love your videos. Thanks for your wisdom. Hey, Lauren God bless you I'm glad your boyfriend watching with you. Hopefully that keep them on Danny. Yes. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Hey, God bless you. Now y'all give me one second here Let me see back See if I can catch anything I missed up here I apologize. I really want to apologize for those of y'all who you put a question in there if it was it was Just so many questions coming in there I couldn't see them all. I really apologize if I miss you I pray the lord it wasn't bill money or rent Or what have you and then it don't put you out of house and home I'm trying to go through here to just to see if I could catch anything because see they kind of They'll they cut the chat off too. I think I might have got these now Let me grab a couple of these other questions in here that was in the chat In the chat I'm gonna try to see some some of y'all that I ain't answer before I made my husband leave due to intermittent Abandonment and his drunken disrespect. I filed for divorce But then felt like I needed to take a step back and stop the divorce. Why can't I let go? Well, you where you love you love him and you got a soul time They believe something man. All right now if I can't get to your question put your question in here Now I can't I can't because they keep moving it. So See if I could get it Danny s All right I told my husband we got the part ways because it's been too much head bumping for 10 years His response was okay. No problem. I got nothing to say what you think want to cry Cry go ahead and cry sister cry feel it and then let him go on about his business You know, let him go about the heat the reason why he said like that Because uh, see my wife ain't here and she she got the act addition control on her phone And she's showing her mama her new her new house that we got for a new place to live And so I mean he'll sweat under these bright lights. So y'all got to forgive me. He'll look on nice bright chicken in the oil um, the divinity principles god bless you Well, well made 31 today and thanks to your videos I feel much wiser when you know better you do better bless you been delivered from desperation. God bless you now oh so shy god bless you in a new state guy from church Face time and comes far to see me Three times a week. Okay I visit Told not to be phased by what I see at church said Was happening before me and there's money there has church position and was with pastor's child test um Yep, that sounded like a test And I don't understand what you mean happened before me and there's money there And to me it kind of sound like Uh He working in the church for the money So I'm gonna look confused on that when you might need a session on that But yeah, it sound like he working for the devil And coming over there to get you on your bike and what you got to realize y'all go to church Y'all go to church y'all go to same church He was he used to be with the pastor child He might be using you to make the pastor child jealous make her jealous and then what you got to do What you got to realize is also Some men that's their thing because if they could sleep with A child of god that make him feel more powerful than god Because that means you giving him more say so in your life than you give god if he could get you on your bike And he really is an atheist don't even believe in god if he gets you on your bike And he trying to get you on your bike. So you got to pay attention to that now Pay attention to that Joy god bless you high tonic god bless you is age and issue in a relationship Do you advise dating and marriage too? For a lady who is four years older than the guy Um age is an issue But y'all within Uh, sort of safe space. You typically don't want to be outside of five years Up or down five years older or five years younger, you know, I mean six years older or six years younger Four years you're still close. You're close enough in age to still kind of be on the same wavelength You know same generation Same trends same lifetime same tv shows same music You know same trends. So you're close enough if it was 10 year difference. All right now we're getting to look We're getting a lot of hand Esmeralda god bless you now tonic boyfriend ex-girlfriend back Around after protective order He's weird and distant She's 29. We are 45. He said he only lusted for her They were together five years with three-year-old help. I think he's still in love with her Now esmeralda, I yeah, you probably got a phone call earlier when I answer your question And I told you to leave All right, and I told you just go on get on up out of there Okay It's your boyfriend and I think the last message you said y'all only been talking six months So six months she then came back around she ain't planning to go no well And if a woman put a protective order on a man And then she come back She crazy She crazy because now she weaponized her privilege. Oh protect the order police Don't believe me and then oh now I'm coming back. How are you coming back to somebody that you needed a protective order on? She's loud crazy So you'll be riding down the road and your lug nut come off your tire And you find yourself the ran into the median because she trying to get you up out of there. She crazy You don't come back to somebody after you put a protective order against them and she 29 So he 45 That's nasty That is nasty Because he is too old for that girl She young enough to be his daughter So she nasty Because and so really when the 29 getting with the 45 a lot of time That's a woman with daddy issues She looking for a daddy. She could sleep with or she looking for a sugar daddy You hear me a lot of time that right up that that because ain't nothing to track about being 29 with Yo, because this man Stuff them drop soggy saggy She 29 You you young you still together you still And then here he is 45. Okay, his body training. He's starting, you know, he and a whole another generation And so for her to be attracted to that Some off you shouldn't be attracting nobody that much older than you And yeah, you can say oh you look good, but the former relationship with And then now they was together five years Soul tie Got a child three years old. That means they're gonna be together for life And now you in the way and then now she come back And he's weird and distant. He got a soul tie with her. He missed the he wanted pretty young thing Because to him it's a win because pretty young thing 45 she 29 you 45 So To a man nine is the opposite what you think he gonna like better 45 Skin that's them been here 45 years for skin. That's them been here 29 years. You see what I mean A grown boy like that. He don't see you like wine. He won't soda He ain't looking for wine. See you like wine He wants some soda. You see what I'm saying He want a bill that was here So, yeah, you you got the going about you being an alma mater Ruben L. God bless you always a blessing us with your content. Thanks, Tony God bless you your fam and blessings to the blessed tribe Bless you There's a guy on my pool team. Okay. Wow. All right. So you play pool Y'all got a team Now y'all seeing that pool stick right now that COVID All right All right Everybody go to coffin There's a guy on my pool team who coaches me sometimes Pays for the table and drinks doesn't let me pay my share Is he about to make a move or just being a gentleman by helping my game? He's gonna help your game. All right. Yeah, so he finna help your game. All right. Get ready for it Get ready. Get your answer ready Unless he completely single and that's your and you feel like this this could be something That could be what the Lord doing in your life right now Because I always tell women who ready to meet a man get on out the house get out the house join a team I ain't no as a pool team out there. God bless you. That's very Adventurous, that's out there. Yeah, I did not know such thing as a pool team So now I'm gonna look for me a pool team after the 19 because I'm kind of nice On that pool table. So God bless you now What you need to realize is is he all the way single if he all the way single then He trying to inch on in there if he married or he in a relationship. All right pool sessions over So next session If he got a girlfriend or he married what you have to do on that next session just Over there in the corner Just go to coffin let them let them hit at 19 in you and say listen, you know what I'm gonna put this mask back on. I'm not feeling too good. I think all the go out there I probably have to get a test and then now you get you 14 days off now. You got your quarantine Oh, I'm still feeling antibodies. I need another 14 So now you gonna get you another 14, but go on get you some separation If you find out he got somebody but a man don't do what he's doing if he not getting ready to make a move We just as men we now we could be nice now, but that move about to get made Lisa god bless your grown boy used to hold me down She paid rent bills food while we dated She ended it and messaged me when she saw he made me his I left He got his own pad Don't drink smoke Read the bible daily Take them back now go about your business Go on about your business because how you know all that how you know you read the bible daily How you know you read the bible that he live by I say he got a long pad How you know you read the bible daily? So if you know you read the bible daily He's doing that just for you to see it because they read the bible But then using the woman for rent and bills and food. That's not godly You said I mean you got to look at a person actions And then he made you his and then she messaged you both of y'all playing boo boo the fool. All right Both of you playing both of y'all. All right. He worked for satan He don't work for god's sister. All right And that's why I want y'all to understand y'all need to keep reading your bible So you understand the attributes of god god is not the author of confusion god is not the author of confusion So god now i'm gonna send you no man. It's gonna have you scratching your head confused On the q&a The man god sent you gonna have answers for you not Causing questions So always understand that always understand he's not gonna be perfect But he's not gonna be causing confusion Sunshine jay garb bless you now I slept with this guy from my job within a month. He doesn't Now know the nine hml But comes to my department. He doesn't hml All cool How should I act? Okay. All right hit my line. Okay hit my line Okay. All right hit my line. That's what that means hml All right, so everybody on here who watching this when you when you Hear me say hml in a video y'all know where I got it from So hml feel to be using that i'm feeling old now So y'all have that many people hitting y'all line that y'all to come up with a acronym for it I've been out the game too long because I ain't got nobody hml So now let me read this again because that hml told me y'all I thought i'm out of website or coding. I was like, he don't html. He don't know how to code He ain't built a website I'm like his mom living like home life I was like Okay, so he I slept with a guy from my job within a month He doesn't hit my line anymore, but come to my department. All cool. How should I act? Um Like you don't see him Act like you don't see him act like when he come to your department You got you got the you got a bathroom break You just how they do this right here at the church how they used to do this at the church and they go to Get on up out of the every time he come to your department. All right Okay, all right Just like that that meme of lebron grabbing his purse and getting up off and walking off the stage with a big Birkin bag That's what you got to do the same thing grab that All right Just like that because what it is the reason why he don't hit your line is because he got a woman So she got access to his phone. She could check his phone Now he got his woman. See he got his own the job Wham-bam. Thank you ma'am got you. All right in one month now. He don't hit your line hml because His woman gonna see that call so I want y'all to Understand that right there now and go on about your business now y'all hold on now. No more question. Let me get through these last couple questions Trevor gone been talking to a guy met online for about three weeks Face time and phone for an hour or more How long do I need to wait? before he For I ask him his motives friend dating long term short term About three weeks um You don't hit now you didn't say your age If you over 50 You ask them around a month and a half You know two months because Your time get more precious once you cross 50 When you when you under 50 you got a little bit more time in the court, you know, you take a little bit more time So but you don't so under 50 you don't ask a man What his motives are you look to see what his motives are Go the man give you that much time He only going to be able to give you that much time consistently if he's single and he ready So it's three weeks. It's still super early. So make sure you don't get on your back If he's still giving you his time at the three month mark, that's when he should be saying a I want to make this hell thing work, but now I think you said you met him online. All right Mm-hmm That's a huge red flag. You can't ever believe nothing you hear from a man when you meet him online The vet and period got to be a whole lot more serious online So i'm gonna tell you what you need to do alice heart of god bless you what you need to do with this online um What you got to do with this online is You need to set some rules don't send them no money Don't send them no nasty pictures because he'll have you on he'll have your only fan with your pictures Turn your picture into a gift and making money off your pictures because they'll think it's a real person moving Don't send them no nasty pictures. Don't send them no money Don't go meet up with them. Don't go meet up with them until you don't talk to them at least 10 hours or more Online. All right. Don't let them move in with you. Don't let them You know come on tell you and say I want to be with you if that means moving in or if that means sleeping together When you come online, it's a whole lot more scams. You got to look out for Esmeralda, all right. Esmeralda third time popping up here You don't got a coaching session for 30 dollars Esmeralda. You need a coaching session Esmeralda His ex is dealing with him as it pertains to the child not romantic So you think so he told you He and I are still in relationship, but he's being weird. All right Okay, put that together Esmeralda She dealing with him and he being weird Okay, put that together right there He jumped from that relationship five years or five years to me within one month. So I'm guessing unresolved All right, Esmeralda. You guessing accurately You guessing accurately you write on a you write on it. Esmeralda. You hitting right on the head You hit it right on the head. You got the answer. You got the answer. Trust yourself Trust yourself. All right Trust yourself. Trust yourself. You got it. You got it. Trust me. Listen to what I'm telling Esmeralda It's the it's a woman's intuition That intuition you trying to give him the benefit of the doubt you trying to like, ah, maybe ain't nothing Ah, maybe they just talk about the day they child Ah, you know, he got right with me after five years. Maybe it don't mean nothing. No, your intuition is telling you Some ain't right some ain't right Hey, y'all now see reading why I'm going a little longer tonight because my wife still out with Hey, baby My wife's still out with her mama. So that get me a little time because of the body what I'm doing sitting on the couch Looking at tv. I might be working for the lord So sitting on the other tv. They've been on the walk the booty cross the screen Uh-oh. All right, my phone got 20% so I'm getting ready to go. God bless you Tony. What does peace mean to a grown man in a marriage Um, that's a that's a good thing. That's a good question And peace can mean a whole lot, but I'll tell you what peace really comes from his faithfulness And her faithfulness peace means that you're not cheating You're not lying. You're not deceiving But you're just loving that's what peace means honestly It really peace ain't even about money because money gonna come Hey, y'all, let me wrap on up now. You let me wrap on up. Oh, all right, somebody else popped on in here. All right Embrace god bless you just sent my exams in for coaching. I am so excited. We'll be coaching on the message of you May god continue to bless you and your family Um, sis. I'm not I don't now you could coach on that now, but I don't know if we got that on my mentor dot life I don't know if we got that on my mentor dot life. So if we don't have it on my mentor dot life Make them put um toxic relationships Make them put toxic relationship because when you coach on when you coach on that right there you increase in liability because what comes with domestic of you is homicide Homicide. All right. Now y'all try. I got to say the word different because sometimes get flagged on here Homicide. All right. Suicide Okay, so when you dealing with that a word that you want to coach on A lot of time that thing can result that incident can result in Meeting the lord early. So what happens is you increase your liability because If this woman says, you know, I don't know what to do I just need like another week to get stuff together and you're like, hey, all right Just tough it out one week. Just like don't communicate Stay in your own room. You know, just try to be gone as much as possible And you give her this plan And she listens to you And she called her sister. Okay. I'm working with my coach. She told me just kind of tuck out over here in the room and then boom He popped up It go down Things get out of hand Now she say I did what my coach told me to do Sister say sewer Sewer take everything she got because she should know better So with that one right there, you got to be very careful. All right Because when anything that's dealing with medical stuff in the body and stuff that's dealing with life and death and You know toxic You got to be you got to tread lightly So you got to be able to say, hey, you know What do you think you should do? This is a this is a choice. This is a big choice for you to make I'm going to support you in your choice, but this choice is solely yours You probably should consider, you know, talking to an officer or talking to a therapist or counselor as well And so you you kind of got to Move a little different with that one. Ms. J will marriage change your relationship or amplify the problems It'll amplify the problems marriage won't change nothing Hey, y'all y'all give me one second. I hold on. I'm gonna wrap this on up now. I'm getting ready to go now Now hey now listen if you look back over the night and some of these questions that I'm asking and you saw some of my frustration and some of my frustration because You know when you call to this and you just ain't come to this some people just came to this and some people call to it When you call to it, you have a righteous indignation You you'd rather flip over tables like Jesus when Jesus went into that temple and they were selling all that merchandise and now he He flipped that table. Oh, he flipped that table over for the same thing that happened in a lot of churches today that we ignore but Listen, I'll be ready to flip tables over. You hear me when I hear some of the stuff that y'all dealing with Some of the stuff y'all putting up with listen Sometime what you got to do is you got to look at somebody else relationship You got to look at somebody else mess what I want you to do every night. Watch your local news See the domestic stuff that's going on watch snap Watch these different love shows killer couples Get your 30 minutes of that in now um Get online look look search online dating scams On youtube watch watch some of that and get that in your spirit And because when you look at somebody else doing something that makes no sense That's going to help you look at your life and say, what am I doing? That's not making sense Because a lot of the stuff that y'all doing is you're doing out of desperation You're doing out of loneliness. You're not ignorant. You're not dumb. You're not unlearned You know right from wrong. You know, you shouldn't be dealing with it You know sure you shouldn't be putting up with it But you're doing it because you want a man so bad and you're doing it because you fear man You're doing it because you don't understand man You're doing it because you don't understand your influence. You're doing it because you don't know your power You're doing it because you think that he will run you and you don't understand that you can run him Just as much as he running you that you can influence him just as much as he influencing you You don't understand your power. You don't understand that he's not looking for a woman. He can run over He's looking for a woman that's gonna stand up He looking for a woman that's gonna stand up meet him head up and say What's up? Who you like who you scan like what what's going on like? Where you think that's gonna fly at If that's what you think finna go down you go about your business That's what he's looking for. He's looking for a woman who knows who she is But see most women a man do something. He act up. He get crazy. She Oh my god, I don't know what to do. Oh my god. I'm just I'm just give it everything Tony, please help me. I don't know how to get over this. I don't know what's going on And then so he look at that and he say all right got a right Well, I want to so I'm finna just drag her out and then he's just gonna drag you He gonna drag it. He gonna use you and then when he use you all up He leaving you for the woman That he tried to holler at at work and she said no playboy. I don't get down like that. Don't you got a girlfriend? And then he had a lie break up with you Be done with you say he done with you soul type broke and then Then she say oh really? Oh y'all all the way done. All right So not a woman who refused to play boo boo the fool who refused to settle who refused to compromise He tried her any kind of way. She checking him every time cool comic collected. She checking him every time That's who he ended up marrying That's who he ended up being with if it's a grown man inside of him So you got to understand a lot of times you might be missing your husband just because He wasn't ready as a man and you weren't ready as a woman because see the woman is the activator The woman is the activator because the man he gonna do Whatever he could get away with He's not gonna come and be amazing for no reason He's gonna be amazing because you look like you deserve amazing And when you reinforce that you deserve amazing, he's gonna be amazing A wife just got back home, you know, her mama just got behind she was showing her mama her new place You know, and it's all this his situation You know, you want y'all to understand that you serve god you love god you live for the lord He's gonna take care of you. You're gonna have what you need You know, it's one of the most tumultuous years in in the history of years In all my lifetime and and god ain't left my side yet You know, we was able to put my my mom in a new place put her mom in a new place You know and just be a blessing to our family just so sometimes you give them from lack Sometimes you ain't even got it even got it But god get your peace and get your peace and get your assurance to say hey Just love your neighbor like you love yourself. You know help them out if they need a little help Don't get taken advantage of but be a blessing if you could be a blessing And a that's that right there that come from the peace on high But god bless y'all and um Let me see these compilations. Hey god, but not these compilations. He put a message in here and uh These compilations got a youtube channel And god bless you it's called these compilations y'all look at her name Or his or her I don't know if that's a he or she these compilations I think it was a woman who owned the channel But she got a youtube channel and she put compilations of people that she watch on youtube But she got mine on there ain't telling to go watch the other people that she do them Uh, but she got some of me on there just put some little funny clips together And somehow somebody sent it to me. Okay. It's a she god bless your sister And um, it's a lot of work what she doing. So, you know y'all give her subscription on there And um, look Quincy god bless you. Hey, Tony, I pray all is well with you and your family I've been knowing this guy for four years. He fails to answer questions about his intentions um well Look Quincy, he doesn't have answers about his intentions because You've been knowing him for four years and he has not really made a move He you just been knowing them and the reason why he just let you know him Without being with him is because he really Doesn't want anything so that's he wants you to be friends with benefits He want to use you for what you got what the lord gave you But he don't want anything with you and that's why he don't have answers because he really He know he can't lie to your face because you've been knowing them for years Hey, god bless you Y'all take care Please take everything I said tonight with love. Please take it with love. I don't mean anything in negative way Don't mean to bash you make fun of you or make you feel any kind of way So, please take everything I said with love. It's it's coming from A place of love. God bless you. We'll talk soon