 Hi, I'm Matthew Coast, head dating coach and founder at CommitmentConnection.com and in today's video I'm going to tell you do not marry a man who has these six habits. So there are six habits that I want to talk about of a man that you do not want to marry a guy like that. So if this is your first time to this channel make sure that you go and hit the subscribe button to get more videos on how to have the relationship that you've always wanted. So what are some red flags, some big red flags that you should look for in a guy that you're looking to potentially marry? Here's the first one. Number one is that he's really narrow-minded. So if a guy isn't open to experiencing new things or kind of going outside his box or looking at different perspectives, you know, as long as you're not also narrow-minded, I mean if you're narrow-minded maybe that's a great guy for you, but you know usually it's going to create a ton of different amounts of friction in your future and there's a high probability that you're going to be in lots of fights and it's going to be really difficult to get anywhere with this guy or have the relationship that you really want. Habit number two is that he intentionally breaks all of your boundaries and so you know your boundaries are what determine how valuable you are to a man and so if you've got a guy that's constantly challenging those boundaries and breaking those boundaries and doing it intentionally, it's just going to be really painful for you in the long run trying to maintain a relationship with this guy. You know this is a path that could go into emotional abuse or even possibly physical abuse. It's really hard to maintain a relationship with someone who's constantly breaking your boundaries. I know several people who have been in relationships like these and they never end up lasting because you know there's no respect there. There's no respect for you as a human being. There's no respect for you know what you want and you end up just kind of getting shat on the entire relationship and it ends up being really difficult. Habit number three that you want to watch out for is a liar. So lying is kind of like it's you know there's a you know I think there's a lot of people that will say that there's some kind of psychological like kind of dysfunction with people that lie but really I think you know part of that is also just immature behavior right so children lie a lot of you know they feel that it's okay to lie and when you become an adult it's about kind of taking responsibility for yourself especially as a man it's about taking responsibility it's about owning things it's about being honest and dating or being a relationship with a liar you know especially long-term marriage with somebody that lies it's like how can you trust them it's like you know how can you you know how can you know what's even going on in the relationship it's you know I know there's some great people out there that are liars that that do a lot of great things and at the same time you know every relationship even you know platonic relationships that I've had with people that are liars is like you know it's just something that can't last for me for a long time because there's just you know it's like you can say something to them and it's like it's like you're talking to a crazy person or something because they'll lie so much about so many different things that you don't even know really what's going on you don't even know really what your relationship is to them because it could mean something completely different than what you think it means because of all the jumbled up lies that they have in their head about it so habit number four is the promise breaker and you've probably experienced people like this in your life before you know people that are like you know they promise the world but then they you know don't deliver anything it's um they you know and then they try to make you feel well it ends up making you feel stupid and it ends up making you feel disappointed it ends up making you feel like um like you were scammed out of something um you know this is like the uh the the used car salesman of personalities you know one of the things that a lot of women do is they end up falling in love with a man's potential and my suggestion is that you try as much as you can not to do that you know um if you get into a relationship with a guy who makes lots of big promises and then doesn't fulfill on him um you are going to be really really disappointed in your future unless you know that you just love the guy for who he is even with his stupid promises um and usually that's not the case for most of the women that I talk to um in our community so habit number five is the emotionally abusive guy and so you know this is obviously a big problem um I mean physical abuse is one of those things where you can see it right emotional abuse is a little bit more subtle um it's not something that you can necessarily know off the get go and it might be you might be deep in a relationship before you start realizing that a guy is emotionally abusive and so you know things that emotionally abusive guys do or you know one he um you know he insults you a lot or two he might like um when you need him the most he might not really be there for you and he might not really like uh connect with you um or or try to support you and what's going on with you another sign of emotional abuse is a guy that kind of punishes you a lot and really it's kind of this manipulation thing to try to get you to do what he wants you to do so habit number six is the guy with the drug or alcohol problem that only seems to get worse and doesn't seem to get better usually people that have serious alcohol or drug problems don't even realize that they have serious alcohol or drug problems and they're like yeah what what yeah what are you talking about what's the problem here and um but you notice like I've I actually had a step parent that was like this who um he used to like drink in the car I mean he was always drunk you know never knew that he had a problem um and you know it's it's uh it's a really really painful thing because they end up putting that drug above everything else I was um hanging out with a really really close friend of mine not too long ago who um is a severe alcoholic and he's been sober for a while now but you know just talking to him about um alcohol was just this wild crazy ride into this like alternate universe I mean the guy was like telling me these these romance stories that he had in his mind about you know drinking it was like oh yeah you know I can't wait until I drink again you know it'll be this time and you know my my dream is that you know I can just get drunk and take an uber down to the bar and then you know get really drunk at a at a bar and then just take an uber home and I'm like holy shit is that's your dream like man that's crazy and so um if you uh end up dating or getting married to a guy that has a serious drug or alcohol problem you're always you're never going to be the priority you will never ever be the priority in his life because his priority will always be to get high and that is a very very painful thing to experience thanks for watching this video if you're ready to know exactly what to say and do to attract the man and the relationship you've always wanted click on the button on the right hand side of this video and go to our website