 AJ says I have a hard time letting him do things for me. I've done things for myself for so long Yeah, I get that a lot. I hear a lot of women, especially strong independent women You know who have been doing a lot of stuff for themselves And I feel like he'll so she says I'll feel and I feel like he'll get burned out I did in my past relationships when I did everything. Does that make? Does that make? Does that make I think you're asking if it makes sense So I've done things for myself for so long and I feel like he'll get burnt out You know, you you can be surprised at how much a guy will do for you when you let him do stuff for you And so I just let him start doing stuff for you and Just open yourself up to it and ask him for help You know and just just make it kind of a stair step thing for yourself Right if you're if you've had problems with kind of opening up and allowing people to do stuff Just kind of walk it walk it up a little bit and don't don't try to put too much on yourself of Trying to let him do things for you too quickly and just just let it kind of escalate over time. That's totally That is totally cool