 Every day woman, woman, woman. Welcome to Every Way Woman. There are some major changes happening in the culture world. I'm living my life, living day by day. From Los Angeles, here's Every Way Woman. So you're dating Anna. What do you feel? I'm not dating right now. I used to date. You used to date? Right now I'm on a little break finding myself. But yeah, I used to date a lot. Yeah, but OK. But don't you think men expect a lot out of us now? I think it's like the older generation. Like if they were the younger generation is I didn't just want sex. To be honest with you, I'm just going to be honest with you. That doesn't change no matter what generation you're looking at. Yeah, I don't know how to go around it. Yeah, younger generation, older generation, they all want the same thing. Yeah. But don't we all ask but not on the first date when, you know, like when I was dating, when I was younger, that I didn't even think about that. I grew up in a very conservative town and I was in a long term relationship. And now in my late 20s, I get, you know, sucked into this dating world. And it is weird and awkward. And you know, I don't want to sleep with you. You cannot expect me to pay half my bill and then get laid. So how do you find a guy? Because isn't it like you go on a date where you pay half the bill? Well, no, I did on dates where guys expect me to pay half the bill. And I didn't expect it. And then at the end of the night, he's like puts his car down. He's like, well, we'll go houseies. And I was like, what? Oh, no, you know what, you know, that gentleman, first of all, that gentleman would not get a second date for me. And actually, I'd probably give them a side eye for trying to expect that. Yeah. Yeah. I think she went on a date with a guy and they went to Popeyes. First of all, that's a no no. And then and then he had a nerve to say he had to go pee and it was closing and he went outside and put pee on the side of the car. She called me up. She was like, should I still go on a second date? This was the first date. After you go on a date. She probably knows the bus routes. Don't leave them there. Madison, you expect a lot on the first date? I absolutely expect a lot on the first date. You know, I have to go back to the paying the bill thing. The only time I ever pay a bill is if I want out. If I don't not, if I'm not having a good time and I want out, I will pay the bill and leave very much. Sure. Right. But yes, I do expect a lot. But I don't expect a man to pay for my bill. I want a gentleman who would treat his lady to that. I don't expect it, but I appreciate it. I think we get it twisted a lot because a lot of ladies want a husband and so instead, they're really dating a boyfriend kind of material. So you need to know what you're expecting. There's a difference. I want that. You pay my bill, you do this and you want a husband. And really, he's really saying to you that, no, I'm just trying to be a boyfriend. Right. I'm not trying to go further than a husband kind of thing. So I mean, I don't know. It's because women tend to look at the future, look at the future and reach for it. Oh, yeah, we're not dealing with that. You wouldn't deal with it. Women all like, we write down our names with his last date. Yeah. We're there doing little hearts. We're not here. No, no, no, no, I don't mean, not me. I don't jump in like that. Yes, I date with a purpose. I'm only just now getting back to the dating world myself because I've been in a relationship for four years that I just got out of. But that said, in terms of like someone paying for a first date, it's about laying the kind of foundation for the relationship you expect to have, OK? Because I grew up in a household where my dad was the one who took care of everything. Even when we would go to dinner for his birthday party, he would still be the one to pull out the credit card. And my mom never pulled out her purse. And sorry, that's what I'm looking for. I think that's a good point that you made because before, well, since I've been taking a break obviously because my last boyfriend passed away. So right now, I am just trying to find myself. But if I were to date, I would find that. Even though I'm independent and I can pay my own bills and stuff, I want someone to take care of me. Why not? I deserve it. And thank you to that person. Right, now, do you think that, to show me that, do you think that that might be something that men have a hard time with their expectations? Like what we expect from them? Well, I don't think men know how to manage their expectations nowadays. Because dancing around all these feminists who might want to pay their side of the bill, who don't want them to open their car door. Right, they give a bad rep. Yeah, and so there are a lot of actually nice guys. There are gentlemen out there, but they don't even dare to be gentlemen because they don't even know how women are going to receive anymore. Right, they don't know how. I love the car door open. One of the things that I started, when I started back into the dating world, it was a little bit confusing at first. And I have to admit, there was a lot of pressure for the guy who was sitting in front of me. Because I already know who I am now. I know what I want. I know what I want in a relationship. And I have no problem laying that down. But I have a question though. Like how do you guys find these guys? Like it's not like back in the day where you can go to church, you're like, oh, you're cute. You know, I mean, I have a lot of friends who date on the internet. And I've never done that. Isn't that scary? I tried that. I have a lot of friends who have actually been setting me up with their friends. So I've gone on these series of weird, awkward client dates where I don't even know who they are. But I'm just, you know, I'm trusting their judgment. I don't know why. You know, some of them have been gentlemen, but it's so weird when you don't know somebody. You know, how much do you let them in? And give into what they expect to be. And then even when they walk up and they're like, they want to kiss you. And they just kiss you. Really? On the cheek, right? No! I've had so many guys just allow them to be like, yeah! Yeah! You just let them be like, all right. Do you try? I mean, it depends. Well, you know what the expectation is then. Yeah. You need to put on your internet thing, like, I am not a freak. Don't try and lick me. And no, if you don't, you can't really kiss. Just don't hold my hand. I'm a freak of a holding hand. You're a freak of a holding hand. I love to hold hands. It's too intimate. I'm sweet. I'm like an animal. We're still ladies, gentlemen. If you're out of the way, a woman will come back. After this commercial break, more Every Way Woman. Are you an Every Way Woman? When Every Way Woman returns, Dr. Sherry Thomas and I will be talking about fibroids. Stay tuned. Here at Every Way Woman, we talk about everything, including taboo health topics. Today, Dr. Sherry Thomas is here to give us the 411 on fibroids. Dr. Sherry, thank you for joining us. Thank you for inviting me. What are fibroids? Fibroids are, unfortunately, a very common process that occur about 75% of women, where fiber cells in the uterus, the uterus is where the baby grows for nine months, these fiber cells just get out of control and grow very large. I'm talking about the size of not just the grapefruit, but five, six, seven-week pregnancy. Wow. So your abdomen looks like you are pregnant, but in fact, you just have some fibroids. Now, this is intimate to me because I had a hysterectomy because I had a fibroid that was the size of a five-month fetus. So my stomach was out to hear. So I'm very familiar with it, but what causes fibroids? Well, fibroids are genetically predetermined. If your mother had fibroids, your older sister, your aunts, you're probably going to have fibroids. They're also more common in different races. African-Americans, about 90% of women have fibroids. Caucasian women, more like 75%. Is that attached to anything genetic? Is it food or we don't know maybe a chromosome that causes the muscle cells of the fibroid to just get out of control and grow? And interesting, they're mostly benign, but occasionally they can become malignant. And that's why you really want to see your doctor and follow up and have them checked. OK. So tell me, what are some of the symptoms so women can know if she has fibroids? What are some of the symptoms? Well, the symptoms are, as you had, just your stomach's growing larger. Also large. They can be all the way up and press up against the lungs and diaphragm and cause shortness of breath. They also push against the bladder. So you have more urgency, frequency against the bowel. So you may have problems with bowel movements and back pain. With your periods, you may have irregular, heavy, heavy bleeding to the point where you become anemic. So you can have a lot of symptoms. Or if many women have smaller fibroids and they don't really know they have, and their doctor just says, oh, I think I feel some fibroids on your exam and send your friend ultrasound. And in fact, you have these fibroids that they follow over time. OK, so when we talk about pain, how does a woman differentiate between fibroid pain and menstrual cramps? Because if you're not familiar, you don't necessarily know which one is. How do you do that? Well, menstrual cramps usually occur during your period. But fibroid pain, you'll have pain and pressure most of the time. And it'll become worse during the period. But those are the differentiating. With fibroids, you're going to always have that pain. Now, interesting enough, when I had my fibroids, I had them before I had children. And I also had my fibroid while I was pregnant. And I thought that there was a risk to my baby. Talk about having fibroids and being pregnant. Sure, it depends on where they're located. If the fibroids are located in the lining of the uterus where the child's growing, it may prevent them from actually growing or actually implanting and starting to grow. So some women before becoming pregnant actually have those fibroids removed so they can become pregnant. Right, which was my situation, because my fibroid was attached to my fundus. And so subsequently, I had a miscarriage. And it's when I went to the doctor that he recognized he said you had an obstruction there. And so I had a myomectomy. And I was going to ask you, what are some of the options for removing your fibroid if you find out that you have them? Well, not all fibroids, as I said, need to be removed. We watch them to see if they grow. If they don't grow, we wait. Because at menopause, a lot of times they become smaller. So if you're asymptomatic, you're not having pain, you're not having a regular period and you're not bleeding, there's no reason to really do anything. If they start growing and they're growing rapidly, whether they're bleeding or causing pain, they should be removed because that's concerning they may be cancerous. Doctor, I was thinking of a young lady that I know, she's in her early 30s and she's having a lot of problems with her fibroids. And she went to her physician and they will not give her his directive. How can someone be an advocate for her because she said, I don't even want to have children. I want it out. Sure. So if a woman has finished childbearing or she says, I've had women in their 20s saying, I just don't want to have kids. I don't want to deal with them. Right. And I'm having severe pain either endometriosis, fibroids, whatever. There are some medications we can use that actually stop the growth and that's medicine that stops the production of estrogen. And then ultimately a hysterectomy or removing the fibroids if it's just one or two large ones. But if a woman's finished having children and has several fibroids that are causing issues, it's probably better to remove the uterus because it turns out once you remove the fibroid, 50% of chance they grow back. So why go through two procedures if you really know what you want? Which is interesting for my story because again, before I had children, I had a fibroid. Then I had to remove. Then while I was pregnant, I had more fibroids. And then finally I just said, take it. I don't want my uterus anymore because I was starting to have those problems. So I would encourage women out there to really go to their doctors and get that looked at because there's so many wonderful options out there now for women that they don't have to deal with this pain anymore. Oh, absolutely. But as you said, it's so important to have that communication with your physician because if you tell me I'm 25 but I have huge fibroids and I just don't want to have kids, yes, why go through both procedures? I couldn't agree more with him. Thank you, Dr. Thomas. Like, for you can take care of others, you have to take care of yourself. Stay tuned to Every Way Woman. We will be right back. Are you an Every Way Woman? Every Day Kitchen is next with Every Way Woman. Are you an Every Way Woman? Up next, we have Mangy from 88 Tequila exploring 88 Dreams. We're back with Mangy Rios and we are bringing the bar to our home. So welcome back today. Of course, we're making another one of your fabulous tequila drinks. Yes, we're making the 88 Dreams. Before we get all the way to Dreamland, did you come up with this recipe? Yeah, it was kind of like a joint thing at a family barbecue. So we had a bunch of different things laid out and we're like, let's just make some cool drinks. Let me guess, there's tequila at every family barbecue. Oh, yes. At every family occasion, there's always tequila. The Rios family equals tequila. Yes, the Demon Rios family. The Demon Rios family, excuse me. So obviously it's tequila, 88 Tequila that we're talking about today and you're featuring the Blanco. Yes, this one goes with the Blanco just because the Blanco has less flavors. It's the first one that comes out of the tanks. So it's the youngest. Yes, it's the youngest out of all of them. Sure, and why this one today? Just because it mixes better? This one mixes better with really any other cocktails because it won't add that oaky wood flavor that the older ones have from the bourbon barrels because that's what it's rusted in. So it's got a sweeter, more citrusy flavor to it. Do women prefer the sweeter drinks because I feel like tequila sometimes is like seems like a man's drink. Tequila is, you'd be surprised to find out that there is more women that probably drink tequila than any other type of liquor. There are more women who admittedly drink tequila because that's the thing. I feel like tequila only happens on like those girls' nights that we don't really talk anybody about. Exactly, we have events that we do call like margaritas and mamacitas. So, you know, it's a fun way to incorporate it. It really is, and I love to entertain at home and I'm so excited to be able to have something with tequila that's not just a margarita. Exactly. Tell me how to make this cocktail. Okay, so we are going to start with some ice. Okay. And, you know, typically with tequila drinks I always see a rim on the glass. You do, but we like to change it up because not everybody likes the rim around the glass because it gets all over, it ruins your lipstick or your liner. I like a salty rim. Get your hands sticky. Some people do and that's totally fine. You could totally do some sort of like crystal sugar on this or you could do just regular sugar on here, whatever floats your boat. Okay, okay, I think it's all about the garnish and the presentation. Exactly. For me. Exactly. Find the pretty glass. Is there a typical tequila glass, by the way? Besides those little cactus glasses. Yeah. Because I know there's the whiskey glass, there's the rocks glass. This is the tequila glass that I know. It's shot glass. Yeah. This is how I know tequila. And our tequila is actually a premium sipping tequila. So to sip tequila, the best way to do that is in a Riedel. It's called a Riedel. It looks like a wine glass, but it's a little slimmer. You get the best smells. You're drinking tequila from a wine glass. That is classy. That is classy. I don't know anyone else who drinks tequila from a wine glass. Yes. Okay, so. Well, it gets the best smells. We don't have a Riedel, but just a regular, you know, eight ounce glass will do the trick. Exactly. Okay, sure. For cocktails, pick your favorite glass, use it and enjoy it. Okay. So we're going to do orange soda. This is a childhood favorite of mine. The nose on the orange soda. It just brings back memories, doesn't it? Orange soda is always good. Good, good. I totally spilled that, by the way. Okay, so how much orange soda are we putting in there? I mean, this is the preference. I would go about three to four ounces. This is just something we use for now. Sure, sure. I'd like less soda, more tequila. What's next? Sounds good to me. So we're going to go ahead and get some tequila now, and we are using the Blanco. Sure. So this is a two ounce shot glass. You're more than welcome to use as much as you like. Are all shot glasses two ounces, by the way, for the non-all glasses? Some are one and a half, some are one, but a traditional bar will carry two ounce shot glasses. Okay, so a shot is typically two ounces. Which equals a glass of wine, which equals a beer? I don't know about that. For all those of you who are measuring your drinks before you drive home or get your Uber, do not drink a drive. Okay. All right, so we're going to go ahead and pour that in here. Okay, pouring it in. Man. Woo! That brings back memories too. Those were not childhood memories. And then we're going to get, this is cream of coconut. So we're going to use a little bit of this. I use that on my legs. Do you really? Well, I use coconut oil, isn't it the same thing? I think it's a little different. Okay. Well, I use coconut oil as all the rage right now. I just like to mix it up. You're really going at it with that coconut oil, aren't you? Okay, cream, cream. Ooh, it is creamy. Look at that. Okay, I would stop there or it's going to taste like a pina colada. I like pina coladas, all right? That tastes like vacation to me. Okay, what else? All right, and that's it. And then we just add a little garnish. That's not it. Okay, I need some lemon. Yes. I need some mint. You know, my roommate always said that classy drink wasn't classy without mint. We toss in a slice of lemon. A little bit of lemon. And then we're just going to take a little bit of mint and throw that on top. My good friend Cheryl, who's got the best job on set, is going to do the tasting for me. How do we say it in Spanish? I mean. Salud. Salud, salud. I mean, you don't drink your own creations but kind of bartending. I will try some. Yeah, you should try some. Is there any other alterations to this cocktail? Can we make it a shot? You definitely could. You could pour it up in a shot glass. Okay. And cut down some of the ingredients, just go halfway on everything. Sure, sure. Well, you can find more of those ingredients on everywaywoman.com. Thank you so much, Mandy Rios, for being here. Cheers, Salud. I'm going to get a little nose on this one. Are you an everyway woman? Stay with us for tomorrow's stars. A woman celebrates tomorrow's stars. And today we'd like to welcome Naima to the show. Welcome. Welcome. Hello. Hello, how are you? Oh, I'm very well. Thank you. We're really excited to have you. Take it away. Thank you. Thank you so much. Hi, you guys. I'm Naima Tannenbaum. Thank you so much. I just got back from a job interview. I need another round of applause for that. Yeah, thank you. I don't know. I'm not really too optimistic about it. I just, I don't think that I got this job, you guys, because at the end of the interview, the guy looked at me and said, we're not hiring. Yeah, it's kind of messed up, right? I come from a really dysfunctional family. My dad was an alcoholic and my mom had depression and I'm a stand-up comedian. I was one molestation away from being a stripper. Yeah. I knew I was going to have a hard time in life, like the first day of kindergarten when I got to school, this little girl comes running up to me and is like, she's like, hey, do you want to play house? I was like, I don't know how to play that, but can we play apartment? Can we play, can we play, I'm staying with grandma and grandpa until some stuff gets straightened out? I will dominate. My mom couldn't even get through small talk. Her depression was so bad. We'd be at the grocery store, the checkout clerk is like, hi, Ms. Tannenbaum, how are you today? Oh my God, oh my God, how am I? How do I look? Okay, first of all, I've been up since Tuesday with a migraine headache. Then they killed off my favorite character on days of our lives. And now I'm here and you are yelling at me, asking me all about how I am. You're like, mom, can you please just give her your coupons and your rewards cards so we can get out of here? This is so embarrassing. God, what else? Oh, you know, these bill collectors, does anybody else have bill collectors calling them? Yes, thank you. They ask the dumbest questions, don't they? This guy called the other day and was like, hey Naima, can you tell me why you're 124 days late with your car payment? Yeah, I'm poor. The student loan people though, they need to figure it out. This guy was like, hey Naima, you haven't made a student loan payment in about two months, what's going on? I was like, you know, you're the one that gave me seven years and $30,000 to go spend at Glendale Community College. Stop asking me for your money. All right, you guys, I'm Naima Tannenbaum, thank you. Thank you so much, Naima. It's so incredible to celebrate a woman in a man's world. What advice would you give to other female convenience out there? Oh, I would just say, keep going. You know, they say it's a man's world, but women are funny. I think the times are changing and people really wanna see women do their thing on stage, so go for it. Well, I know we'd like to see more of you. Thank you so much for being here. Thank you. Thank you very much. To find out how you two can match our donations for undergarments for needy kids, please visit everywaywoman.com. Will you see you next time? Say funny, everybody. I love it here, I will never leave. Are you an every-way woman? waywoman.com to find out how you can match our donations of undergarments for needy kids. Thanks for getting to know every-way woman. This has been an every-way woman production. I'm just waiting on sitting at home, staying just to watch my clothes. I'm gonna go and live my life. That means working nine to five, cause I'm an every-way woman planted. It's no surprise. Hard work in 24-7, man. I'm just waiting on sitting at home, staying just to watch my clothes. I'm gonna go and live my life. 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