 You know, how women, I'll say used to, I don't even know if that's the case, how women used to guard like their vagina is the way that men guard their hearts. You know what I'm saying? Now, a lot of people these days try to rape us emotionally, like express yourself, tell me how you feel. It's like I'm not ready. Listen, it's the message right here, black boy tell me how you really feel, because I just want to build with you, black girl tell me how you really feel, I want to keep it real with you, I want to live better, eat better, I want to love better, sleep better, yeah, I want to feel so aligned. So when it comes to, I understand because I've always told myself, I've become fit for myself. When it comes to eating, you know, I am on this big health journey, just because growing up diabetes, high blood pressure, low sugar, arthritis, all these health issues ran in the family because of how we ate the things that we drink. And when I go in the gym, I don't see many of us. I see men, I'd always see black men in the gym, but I don't see many of us because many of us are now resulting to surgery and BBLs versus actually working out. And it's no shame because some people do it for certain reasons like mummy makeovers where some people don't have a choice. But the ones who do have a choice, it's not, I've learned that men appreciate authentic and real. So even though you may look good to them, they know that it's not real. When it comes to being like obese, unless you obese too, I don't know how much you could kind of like get on a female about being obese because if you want her to watch her weight, you need to do the same thing. You can't be down in her, but that doesn't give her a right to talk to you in any kind of way either. And I think that's a lot of, what is it, self-reflection. They're ugly to you because that's how they actually feel in the inside. But if they actually cared about their mental more, their fitness, their career, their goals, then they will have more respect for you as a man or as an individual. Now all depends. Some people are just arrogant. So even if they're high value, they feel like everybody's lower than them. But typically those are the people who are furious with those and can't wait until they get high up just so they can make people feel little. But I don't feel like it's fair for a woman to penalize a man and be disrespectful to a man because of how you feel internally. Now you have some men that do love BBWs and there's nothing wrong with that if that's your preference. But in your aspect, I completely understand because if you think about a wife too, you think about your kids and if your wife is like this, then what habits are you going to pass? And that's why most of the men who like or prefer BBWs are not high value guys. Yeah. Because again, there's a foresight that's necessary to be a high functioning man. Right. And it's more about, oh, I like you being soft and shit like that. But what example are you setting for my children? Right. And I mean, it doesn't even increase your likelihood of complications during childbirth. You know what I'm saying? So like this thing we keep hearing, yeah, some niggas like BBLs, rich niggas like BBLs, this and that, they'll fuck you. But as far as longevity, as far as growing, real niggas understand, you get somebody who's petite with some curves, she has a kid, not she thick, but you get a thick motherfucker, she has a kid. You know what I'm saying? There's a sense of an investment. There's a sense of longevity. What is this going to look like? What is this going to be? What is this going to mean 10, 20, 30 years from now? Yeah. You know, and you want a man who's able to think like that. Right. Not the motherfuckers who are paying 800 pound women to sit on them. Yeah. Yeah. Like, and that's, that's, and I never thought about it until, you know, the late Kevin Samuels would bring it up like he'll ask a woman, how tall are you? I'm five, three. How much do you weigh 250 pounds? And then Kevin Samuels would be like, yo, this NFL running back, who's your height, who's a full grown man in the national football league being tackled by 300, 400 pound motherfuckers is half your size. And what species are the females larger than the males? Because muscle weighs more than fat, right? I mean, honestly, if you look at other countries, period, they don't have a lot of obese people in there, but it also has to do with what we eat. But I understand that. And that's why, again, I'm comparing the men to the women in the same circumstance. So if, if we're in America, we're all eating shit, but, and we understand muscle weighs more than fat. Men have more bone density. There's no reason a man who is your height should weigh less than you. That is very true. No reason at all. That is very true. No, because at the end of the day, if he's your height, his bone density should make him heavier. His muscle mass should make him heavier. So if you're bigger than him, like, that makes no sense. Yeah. Yeah. You know, just like, I mean, the opposite is true for men. Men don't want to be smaller than their women. Right. You know, you don't want a nigga whose voice ain't as deep as yours, ain't deeper than yours. You see what I'm saying? Like those things are obvious. Just like a woman would want a man whose voice is higher than hers. So like, why is it that a lot of these things, and I don't think black men get enough credit for we're the most liberal men as far as what we'll tolerate. Black men marry single mothers, black men, black men marry and partner with women who are obese in the old nine. And it's like, yeah, that's all we feel like I'll deserve. And I think that's what the man is fear and all these, you know, spaces are finally starting to say like, no, we deserve better. We deserve better attitudes. We deserve better aesthetics, how you look. We deserve better energy, especially if we're coming to the table saying, all right, you wanted me to provide and protect, boom, I'm a top 1% dude, boom, boom. All I want you to do is look good and be nice. And women are saying, oh, I can't even do that, or you don't even deserve me to do that. That shit hurt. I mean, that's pretty screwed up, in my opinion, just screwed up because I try to, I do try to strive to be nice and to stay fit and to know that there's so many men out there that feel that way. And it's only a small percentage of women like myself who try to have a voice and like, hey, no, we've been working out over here. We, we can cook over here, we're going to appreciate you over here. But then it's so many that haven't appreciated our black men that they don't sometimes even take the time out to look at us over here. So that part of what that percentage of men feels, any other woman that is similar to myself, we're over here in the corner like, but we're still here. You know, the whole prize argument, like, who's the prize, who's the prize? You know, y'all are supposed to be the prize. Y'all as a woman is supposed to be the validation of all the work a good man puts in. Like, yo, I became a doctor, you know what I'm saying? I worked hard. I worked out the whole nine. And here's what I got. She's supposed to be the prize. She's supposed to be the motherfucking you walk into the governor's ball with and they're like, I need to shake that young man's hand. We're supposed to be able to walk to the walk into the cookout. And my uncles are like, I see you, young man, I see you. A woman is supposed to be the prize. Yeah. You know, I got to the NFL. I became a doctor. I now make six figures more than even white men. And that's not just how she looks. It's also how she carries herself. It's also how she speaks. Like, the woman is supposed to be able to, like I said, in that same governor's ball, like the fucking one of the congressmen and his wife, they're having a conversation with your wife. Hey, honey, you got to meet the congressman. But she has to look good to attract people, right? Not just you, but she also has to have the mouthpiece. Also has to have the disposition in the whole nine. A woman is supposed to be the prize. A woman is supposed to be the person who helps you multiply the shit that you've already established. Cultivate your children in a way that they're going to be able to be great, even in your absence. A woman is supposed to be the prize. But now these days of, yeah, you're going to love me as I am, any size, and anything else is body shaming and misogyny and this and that. It's telling men that, oh, you don't deserve a prize. You deserve however the fuck I show up. That's not right. No, it's not. It's not right. It's not right. I'm just going to admit it's finally starting to speak up. No, they should, because it's not right. I don't. It's not cool. No, because I'm really thinking about it, and it's like, operate how I operate. But I'm not like other women. So when I hear this, it is, I'm going to say it's discouraging, but it does make you feel like, dang, what do we do? I'm talking about a woman like myself, like, y'all, what do we do? The opposite. We do do the opposite, though. But it's so, I mean, hurt is different on men than it is women. So men are be hurt by three black women, but that fourth one, he should have tried, but he didn't try, because now he just threw with it, because he's given all his all and has received scraps. But if he had just went to the fourth one, boom, there you go. But you see, that's why I say all the time, men love more authentically than women. A woman can fall in love 15 times in a lifetime. And every time, hell, you to love, I've never loved nobody like I love you. A man, we got a couple of times, and after that, we died. Men, and we don't get enough credit for it, but men love authentically. The best analogy I can give is how women, I'll say used to. I don't even know if that's the case, how women used to guard like their vagina is the way that men guard their hearts, you know what I'm saying? Now, a lot of people these days try to rape us emotionally, like express yourself, tell me how you feel. It's like, I'm not ready. I'm not ready. We understand that in the context of a woman, like you're trying to have sex when she's like, I'm not ready. I don't mean I'm not that comfortable yet. But with men, it's like, oh, you owe me this. And it goes back to the ownership piece. It goes back to you're a disposable handbag to me. And it's just about fulfilling my physical desires and my emotional desires. So like I said, I'm happy men are starting to speak up, because hopefully the women who care know how to position themselves. But again, it starts with, are you done being a fixer up because that's usually the case. Men do it too. Like some men are great men. But for whatever reason, they have a thing for fucking project hose. And until he gets through that, he can't join with a good woman. Because it's like, I don't really want her, because she's not a problem. Like I talk about how, and I don't know what the female equivalent is. But some niggas, the reason they seek out like project hose and shit like that, like the crazy girls, is because in a weird way, that type of woman validates his masculinity. Because we're being told nowadays that if you dick her down properly, she's going to be keying your car and all that shit. So some men psychologically, subconsciously, seek out those round, round crazy girls, because it makes him feel good about himself in a weird, perverse way. And I'm sure that it's the same for women on the inverse. And then we keep pushing these myths like, yeah, hood bitches got the best pussy, and hood niggas got the best dick. It's like, it's not true. But it feeds. That sucks. That's crazy. That's crazy. And it's even more crazy because majority thinks like this. They're all but majority. I mean, we know where it comes from, what people watch, what they listen to, what they feel. If they don't have anything else to do but feed into all of that. And once you feed something into you so much, then you become that. You start to act like that. I mean, I eat chicken one time and then I figure out, I love chicken. I'm going to keep wanting more and more chicken. And then after a while, when I'm sick, like maybe I shouldn't have ate that. Now it's hard for me to get off of it because I love it so much. It's feeding even if it's not the best for me. It hurts so good. It hurts so good. Real bad. Real bad. Real bad. So it's sad. Have you ever heard of that term? I want to make sure I'm saying it right. Dopamine. And I feel like that's, I was reading, I was watching this YouTube and it was talking about how sometimes we love what's not good for us because temporarily it makes us feel good and give us that satisfaction. Yeah, our brain releases dopamine, yeah. So then we keep going back to that same thing over and over again. Even if we know it's not good for us, we keep going back for it. Because for some of our reasons, a part of the dopamine that's released in us make us feel like I need to be here. But in reality, you don't need to be here. And I do believe that is a lot of the reason why I'm not going to use toxic. I'm going to say we keep ourselves in unhealthy situations because of that reason and when we don't realize, like look, this is not the way you're supposed to be going. This is not the most healthy route. It's not giving you the results that you want. We've all been here. You just have to learn from it. So I think the saddest part about it, and I was thinking about this while I was in New York this past week, the whole time, because for whatever reason, we chose to drive. So it was me and my own boy. We were driving through New York. Never do that. Never drive in New York. It's a terrible idea. But this particular time he was driving, so I was in the passenger seat just kind of looking. And everybody looked so frustrated. Like, you can kind of tell the motherfuckers who actually lived there. But I couldn't help but think to myself, like, yo, if you move to South Carolina, if you move to North Carolina, whatever the case may be, you'd probably go crazy. Because this is your life and you're used to waking up on 10 and ready to pop off and like, yo, with the shits in the whole nine, that that's your normal. And like, you wouldn't even know how to operate in Greenville. You wouldn't even know how to operate in Charlotte. You'll probably run back to New York. Because like, it's too slow. And unfortunately, that's what happens even with our women and even with our men. Like, I don't even think I deserve any better. I grew up sleeping on the ground, so now beds are uncomfortable. Well, that thrill, the thrill of someone writing to slash my tires, it just turns me on. But you have someone here that don't want to slash your tires. She just want to love when you rub your back, cook for you. And you're like, nah, that's not exciting anymore. Or you have that men that want to come home and rub your feet in, rub your back, and want to hear your day. And you're like, mm, that's boring. I want to go out and do something wild. I want to get super drunk and have a city girl day with the friends while my scammer man throwing wands and dollars at me. I want that. I don't want to hear, I don't want to talk about that. My day was fine. Now what? We going out to eat? You going to take me shopping? I need my nails, my hair, and my feet done. You got me? You going to pay my rent too? You know what it is? And I feel like we haven't really, as a community, we haven't really called it what it really is. I'm going to say we have a mental health epidemic in our community. And a lot of what that is is depression. A lot of what that is is anxiety, ADHD. And it's easy to distract yourself from dealing with yourself when you're always on the move, or you always got some liquor in you, or you always on somebody yacht, or you always on somebody's beach. Like, can you think of what it's like for the IG models for the only thing girls when they ain't shit going on, they just in the house by themselves just sitting alone and thinking, that must be miserable. So yeah, I have to keep myself preoccupied. I have to keep myself busy because I'm running away from myself. Voids. And this good man means I might have to confront myself and I don't like myself. I don't want to see myself. Accountability. A lot of people don't like accountability. They don't want to be wrong. Instead, oh, you, I'm wrong? Okay, well, I just won't deal with you no more. I don't go deal with somebody else. So you would rather miss out on this good man or good woman and go deal with somebody who don't care about you just because you don't want to admit you're wrong. I think what's counterintuitive, but I think they know they're wrong. Yeah. I think deep, deep down they know they're wrong, but, you know, kind of like the metaverse, kind of like social media, I can keep playing this character. Right. And this character is never wrong and is always right and is beautiful even though deep down in my heart of hearts, I know it's all bullshit. I know I think I'm a piece of shit. Yeah. And that's so scary because again, we're making these fantasies realer than the real world. So people are just going to continue to escape. Should I think about, man? Should I think? I mean, I think about this stuff too, but it's going to take like-minded people to just keep being us so that other people can see that there is different. Everybody's not going to see it, but I firmly believe that if we keep being us, more people are going to see it, more people are going to listen, more people are going to understand. You have, we need to talk. You've allowed- I want to talk. What? What did I say? I want to talk the first time. I'll play with you. I'll play with you. Wait, wait, wait, I said it right. But you've given people a different perspective of how to look at things that they didn't look at it that way. You've had people on your channel who have voiced things, different women, different men that have allowed for some men and some women to look at things in a different way just by you being you and doing what you want to do. So other people like you, other people like myself who wake up and this is you. This is what you do. We will make an impact. It won't be on everybody, but as long as you could touch one person, then it's going to take that one person. It's going to be like, hey bro, you need to check this out. And then it's a ripple effect. Same for me or anybody else who is on a positive wave. It just takes one person and then they are going to start telling other people. So I would say, I remember you say, how can we fix this? And just like we can't fix relationships. We can't be fixers. We can't fix it. All we can do is be ourselves, speak, share, and who's for us is going to gravitate. Who's not for us. They're just going to turn a blind eye and keep being in this avatar character that they have. And they're just going to miss out. You can't save everybody. You can't save everybody in a friendship. You can't save everybody in a relationship. And as bad as we want to save our culture, we can only save some people. We can't save everybody because everybody don't want to be better. And it's disheartening because we feel like, like just sit down for a second. Just listen to me. But some people just don't want to listen. Some people, it has gotten to a place where they don't believe in anything. They just out here cruising through life. And a lot of people are lost. And no matter how much you try to fix a lost soul, the only way a lost soul is going to be fixed is if some way they see the light and want to go in a different direction. Maybe something that you say one day down the line a click, but men and women cannot keep exhausting themselves and other black men and women if they don't want to hear it. Keep being voice, keep doing your thing, keep talking. The world will rock with you. And even some people that are trying to grow and you're helping them, they're gonna rock with you. But we can't fix our whole culture. It's impossible. It's impossible. I'ma try. I'ma try, cause... And you can't keep trying. Cause, I mean, to your point, it's a cultural thing. It's about what we value as a culture. It's even with my daughter, like myself, her mom can only do this so much. But if she's growing up in an environment who keeps celebrating certain things and keeps downing certain things, she's going to be pulled in that direction. So as a father, I'm really concerned about how to fix. And that's why like even, for instance, the nation of Islam, that's why I have such a deep reverence in respect for what they've done. They've created like a community within a community to like say, this is how we do things. And if you see a nation of Islam, I'ma fuck it like they skin smoothing anybody else. They walk taller than anybody else. Their diction is better than anybody else. So I think it's possible, but I think we're gonna have to make sacrifices. I have to be optimistic. Cause I want more kids too. That's the other thing. I don't feel like it's impossible to get your pointer calls and it clicked us on people. But just how you literally say, you cannot fix everybody when it comes to a relationship, it's the same thing as our culture. How you say some women, you can explain this, but they still don't get it. You can explain, you can lay the blueprint out there for a man and they still don't get it. Some people because of conditioning just won't get it. They don't even believe that it could be more than what it is just because of condition. It's gonna literally have to take them to want to get out of it. So that's why I say we be ourselves. Because we're gonna keep attracting more and more people and the more people attract, the more people start asking questions, more people start healing, but God can't even save everybody. He can only save the people that want to be saved. You can give them a blueprint. You can guide them the right way, but it's ultimately, we are our worst enemy because it's just a choice. Like good and evil, it's not a person that exists that can make you evil. A situation can happen that can cause you a lot of pain, but being evil is all you. You choose to be a good person or a bad person. Know why make you go and harm someone? You chose to do that unless you were like laced, drug or chemically messed up and you didn't know or someone's controlling your mind. That's a choice to be better as a choice. I could read books all day long about being a scientist, but if I really don't want to be a scientist, then no matter how much was poured into me, I'm not gonna be a scientist. I want to be a rapper. I'm gonna be a rapper, but your parent can feed you this all this time, no matter how long, if you don't want to do it, it's not gonna happen. It's not gonna happen. No matter how much we pour into our culture, it's gonna have to take the other side of people who are conditioned to step outside of it. It's hard for us to change traits and behaviors. It takes consistency. What they say, 30 days, it takes to break a habit, 60 days to learn a habit, 90 days for it to become a lifestyle. And some people can't even break, go two days without doing something that's a habit. That's not good for them.