 Namaskar I often meet people at work going in private that are sort of always victims they say they are victim of people behaving bad to them how deal or how to react to people with this victim mentality there's one word which comes to my mind when I heard you say that and that is that the first thing is always compassion you know it's a hard life it's a hard life out there and there's a lot of suffering and there's a lot of also trauma childhood trauma that people carry with them many people are just simply unable to cope so you as a spiritual seeker are already much stronger than most of the people walking around so when you come across people who are exhibiting that victim mentality it is not your job or your duty or even your right to try to change them or correct them the quiet way the steady way the truth way is to simply center yourself when you are confronted with a person who is in that victim mentality the best way that you can diffuse that situation and transform it also is if you tune in to your center it is not about the other person it's about you in that moment and when you tune in to your center you'll see a change in everything around you because when you tune in to your center that is the source of compassion so the other one feels this is a compassionate person this is not somebody who anyway doesn't want to listen to what I'm saying who's anyway deaf to what I'm saying so when you do that you immediately diffuse the situation because the person feels heard because if you tune into yourself it means you're tuning into the other that is a fact that is a indisputable fact that when you tune into yourself you tune thus into the other you know so immediately the person feels understood and that victim mentality expression of it in any case reduces as a spiritual seeker as a spiritual finder it is your bound in duty to tune into yourself in those moments and therefore tune into the other and therefore also alleviate the the pain that a person like that encounters I mean it's a nice phrase victim mentality but what is it that lies behind that that is also human being undergoing something so when you move into that state of compassion it diffuses everything it quiets everything down it brings a sense of balance and a sense of equanimity and a sense of clarity and a sense of peace into that whole moment and then things quiet down you can try it out and see it is actually like that it works like that yes thank you and victim mentality is another way of saying a suffering person that's expressing something it's another way of saying that every year hundreds of seekers come out of their existential crises during their love inspirations free open door satsangs with maharashika please support this noble course by donating generously click the link in the description box below