 There is a bug, okay, I cannot rely on clicking on the terminal to open the link in a browser because there is currently a bug in console with a K that opens links in random browsers. And I learned that I had a browser installed that I didn't know existed. It's called Eric6. And if you have the Eric Python graphical development environment installed, it contains a browser and it maps it to MIME. And if you have a terminal that for some reason opens browsers at random occasion, you get links to open in that. So I'll copy and paste URLs, it will be slightly slower. I think I have five minutes still to go. Time passes quickly when you have fun. Is there what? No, you look at my blog, there's a list of my requirements for terminal emulators and the reason why they all suck. And all the bits that do not work. Now Terminator is in that list, it has things that don't work for me. But we have the upstream for Alex Terminal at the conference that has seen the list and went like that I implemented two days ago. That is in my to-do list now, that, let me have a look at the code. Yes, I can do it, I'm working on it. And so, thank you. Three minutes I believe, two. Well in the meantime I'll read something that everyone I guess should have read before entering, which is I will ramble freely about Debian and everything else I care about. And you are going to have the misfortune of figuring out what it is that I also care about. I will cover topics including but especially not limited to anarchism, relationships, sex violence, society stereotypes and expectations. And I will always be talking about Debian, really. I expect that this talk will be both unsuitable and insightful for pretty much any kind of audience I can think of. And the first three minutes of it are about making sure you understand the tone of what will be the remaining 27 and have a chance to leave. After three minutes if you leave you are kind of seen by everyone or something. But some shy people may find it more difficult, I don't know. But no, at any point in the talk if anyone want to say word out, and I will explain what a safe word is. But if anyone wants out and like, well I don't want to hear anymore, raise your hand, shout stop, I will stop, blank the screen, hopefully my password file won't show up in my clumsy attempt to blank the screen. And wait for you to leave the room before you make. So there will occasionally be quotations that some famous anarchists have said hundreds of years ago about Debian. Like this could be about meaningless discussion, for example. I guess I can begin. Chapter one, disclaimers. Oh sorry, I had to be, I was supposed to be introduced. I was bored, I kind of. It gives me, it gives me. Is it on? It's on. Right. It gives you great pleasure to introduce the man who finally pushed me into you maintain a process about seven years ago, Enrico Zinni. So chapter one, disclaimers. I will let people better, my better introduce it. Just ask a young person or a Google, just don't take your computer for repair immediately afterwards. That song talks about dogging, which is an interesting topic to kind of give an idea about the rest of the thing, to kind of the level of the rest. It's good to give an idea about the level of the rest of the discussion, so that you know what's going to happen. Dogging redirects to public sex. It's one of the famous, anyone say fording out, British thing, apparently, British are famous for tea, steam engines, and dogging. And a bunch of other things, hot and cold water, power plugs, but dogging in this case. And dogging like Debian has a code of conduct. So it's good that we finally caught up with people who are doing things seriously. There's more if you Google. But yeah, so it's sex in public spaces, it's usually done with cars, in cars. I'm not sure someone might, but I personally wouldn't recommend it, it's not my thing. And there's a code like if you want to be seen while you do it, you leave the light on inside the car. If you want to be followed into another place, you flash your light. There's like, I think there was something about raising or not raising the windows, but I'm not sure about that. There's a wonderful documentary from BBC that you can find. Ask the British. So this said, those of a sensitive disposition leave now. We can begin. About the Debian social contract, Emma Goldman said once that every daring attempt to make a great change in existing conditions, every lofty vision of new possibilities for the human race has been labeled utopian. We too. I am going to talk about many topics that we all know have so much in common. Anarchism, polyamory, BDSM and free software. And they, after all, are about people consensually doing things together, right? People consensually doing things together. So it's different communities with some overlaps. And different communities of people consensually doing things together. And there's a lot to talk. There's a lot to learn from each other because for a reason or another, all these communities have focused on different aspects of consensually doing things together. Anarchism may have focused more on the political sides. BDSM may have focused more on the consensual side and on the things that you do. Free software and polyamory have a lot of focus on the political, the doing things, the consensual and pretty much everything else. So chapter two, BDSM. Lisander Spooner talking about proprietary cloud service providers said that a person is no less a slave because they are allowed to choose a new master once in a term of years. So BDSM. We free software people think that we are clever because we have recursive acronyms. BDSM stands for bondage disco is an interesting concept. We could expand it later. I'm sure it can go somewhere. Bondage discipline, dominant submission, who was in the Debian contributor session this afternoon, has worked on code that submits Debian developers, sorry, submits Debian contributors to the site. But it's not the same thing. And then, so it's a chain acronym, BDSM. That's the first thing we have in common, clever acronyms. So it's about some of those things. I think BDSM is really interesting, not just because of whips, but also for having developed over the years a lot of awareness about power relationships. It's in the acronym, dominant submission, discipline. So with that in mind, I have the BDSM free software definition. I refuse to be bound by software I cannot negotiate with. And how do I negotiate with software? Well, if I have source code, I can come to terms with it and kind of negotiate like our interaction, if I don't have the source code or I don't have the ability to change it, then I'm stuck, right? So I think that's a pretty good definition of free software, very proud of that. So that's one other way of conceptualizing free software that I think can be understood really well by people who may struggle with the four freedoms or with the 10 points of the FSG. And so that's one thing that could be carried across. There's another acronym I want to submit to your consideration, which is this. Your kink is not my kink, but your kink is okay, which, right, I said it, but I should expand it for those who don't find it obvious. So kink is something people do. And something other people may not want to do. And so in the BADSM community, it's customary to say your kink is not my kink, but your kink is okay. The idea is to be non-judgmental, but at the same time to pull oneself out from somebody that one doesn't want to do. And this, in my opinion, is the final solution for the VIVSEmax problem. So I'm really eager to carry this into the free software community. That would solve a lot of things. So other interesting things about BADSM is awareness about comfort zones. I know when I'm doing something that I'm comfortable with. I know when I'm pushing my limits. I know the limits I have that I do not want to push. I learn how to communicate all this, otherwise disaster happens. There are safe words to prevent disaster to happen. A safe word means a word that means stop everything right now, no matter what. There's even levels of safe words. Common standard is the traffic light green, yellow, red. Green means yeah, bring it on. Yellow means this is getting intense. Red means stop right now, or I call the police once I manage to wiggle free of this. Incidentally, safe words is something we do not have in Debian, and I would be intrigued to have. There are things I see in mail English that I would like to safe word out. There's the mail browser option, yes. That works pretty well, but then some people may take decisions. And so, I guess, well, it's a concept that I think should be explored. There's this nice gif that tells me that it can zoom, yes. No always means no unless there has been several hours of discussion beforehand and the safe word is in place, in which case fuzzy purple unicorn means no. That's the idea of safe words. And no means no is an important concept in most of the BDSM community. There's some fringes in there, but I think that's an important bit. And there's an interesting thing coming from the BDSM community is the awareness that when no really means no, it's easier to say yes. If I'm around a person that says, would you like to have tea? And I say, and they go like, but do have tea? Tea is good. And I'm like, no. There's really good tea. Then I start feeling really uncomfortable. And chances are I don't want to drink any more tea in my whole life, which will be a shame because I would maybe like tea. So, yeah, incidentally, you can have consent explained with tea. If you're still struggling with consent, just imagine instead of initiating sex, you're making them a cup of tea. You say, hey, would you like a cup of tea? And they go, oh my god, fuck yes, I would fucking love a cup of tea. Thank you. Then you know they want a cup of tea. If you say, hey, would you like a cup of tea? And they're like, I'm not really sure. Then you could make them a cup of tea or not, but be aware they might not drink it. And if they don't drink it, then, and this is the important part, don't make them drink it. Just because you made it doesn't mean you are entitled to watch them drink it. And if they say no, thank you, then don't make them tea at all. I highly recommend watching this video. So consent is important. I'll get back on it later. There's another thing that I really like of BDSM as a concept, which is aftercare. The idea is that after you have taken a person, bound, done things, whatever, and you both had pushed your comfort zones a bit further than usual, when the whole thing ends, there's a moment of recovering, getting back inside the comfort zones of love, of celebration, which is called aftercare, and it's something we don't do much in Debian. We do Debian release parties, aftercare for release. We are out of the bindings of the freeze period, and then we get back into the comfort zone of freedom and GCC transitions and breaking unstable. But there could be moments of celebration after each vote on something, where there could be solidarity towards the people who weren't represented in the results of the election, or high fives after, like, sprints and lots of efforts. That's another thing that we, in part, we do, but we could kind of do it more, because more hugs is nice, except if one doesn't like hugs. Ask first, hug people, approach people from the front if you want to hug, and signal that you would like a hug before entering their personal space. Do not hug people from the back, that sort of thing. OK, chapter previous plus one, polyamory. Emma Goldman said about volunteer projects that if love does not know how to give and take without restrictions, it is not love, but a transaction that never fails to lay stress on a plus and minus. Polyamory is, according to Wikipedia, the practice, desire or acceptance of intimate relationships that are not exclusive with respect to other sexual or intimate relationships, and this is important with knowledge and consent from everyone involved. So, a fling on the side, don't ask, don't tell, is generally not considered polyamory, unless there's knowledge and consent about the don't ask, don't tell part of it. And, yeah, that's kind of the concept. The polyamory community has some interesting things for us to learn. One was pointed out in Womarkus a couple of years ago. A nod if you want to be credited. That wasn't a nod. I can't take it as enthusiastic on sense. Rhonda pointed out something along the line of if somebody else takes good care of one of your packages, you should be happy rather than angry. Polyamory's community uses the word compression a lot, which is exactly, compression is the feeling you get when somebody else also takes good care of one of your packages. Talking about that, we currently allow only one value in the maintainer field in Debian Control, which means that package takeovers are traumatic experiences, because the previous maintainer is dumped in favor of a new one, and values can only be replaced. If values could be added instead and removed when they don't make sense anymore, then the whole concept of somebody not maintaining packages decently and so on could be resolved by other people joining in and relationships evolving, right? So that's a proposal for policy. And other interesting things that kind of comes out of the polyamory's greater cloud of people is that different people have different definitions of love, different needs, different definitions of loves even. So it happened to me to have a conversation with a person and saying, so how do you define love? What's love for you? Oh, great, you asked me, that's fantastic, because then it's not like a standard thing. If you ask a random person what is love, often the result is it's love, right? So the definition I've adopted recently and I'm still very happy about is this, which means one can, with an idea like that, you can see how it's possible to love several people at once. It does not mean that one has specific expectations towards the people one loves. Otherwise life becomes difficult and there's only 24 hours in a day and there are people that make my world better but they don't smell in a way that I like and stuff like that. And so the distinction between romantic love and sexual love could be made and then you can see how the whole concept of relationships get deconstructed and one can have sexual, romantic, sexual and romantic, no sexual, no romantic, but plans for life mixes of the lot, life gets really interesting. Unfortunately, there's only 24 hours in a day and I like to sleep about 7.5 or 8 every night, which is a bit trouble. But we were talking about anarchism as well, so I actually don't mind this thing as well, worth a look. So there's even the idea of the radical idea that relationships can be something that is negotiated between the people involved. That's so radical, amazing. I mean, why isn't like that all the time? To me it's a big problem if a relationship is something that is bound by rules that are not mutually agreed on by the people involved. Right? But some call it relationship, anarchism. So going on, I'm four minutes behind. Volta Rindekler, about a new Debian contributors and trusting Lindy and Warnings said, anarchism to me means not only the denial of authority, not only a new economy, but a revision of the principles of morality. It means the development of the individual as well as the assertion of the individual. It means self-responsibility and not leader worship. So self-responsibility before blindly trusting Lindy and Warnings. So back to consent. I thought a lot about consent because just having a person mildly say, yes, does not feel like I want T. So when things are complicated you need to know what you are doing and what situation you are putting yourself into, which isn't often easy. Especially if you don't know the person that you have in front of you and if you don't know the person in front of you, you might not know what situation you are putting yourself into and you deny consent until you build some trust. You need to know that the person asking a question really is able to accept any answer and take it seriously. That's not necessarily true. If you have an application manager that asks a question to an applicant, some applicants go, like an application manager asks, so what do you think of the social contract and the applicant goes like, it's perfect, I have no problem with it, but can you trust that? And you need to feel that you have alternatives because if an applicant thinks that if they say, I really do not understand why in the DFG we have an article about Latik, they may feel like if they say that they will not become them in developers because something. So if one doesn't feel that there's an alternative to if things go wrong, there's ways out and so on, then consent is hard. Some time ago I came up with the idea of be selfish when you ask, honest when you reply, and when others reply, take them seriously, and if any of this does not stand, I find it hard to trust that we are in a consensual situation. And unfortunately I see in general little education for consent. In standard education there is not much consent. Dear child, this is what you like to do today. This is what is important for you today, otherwise bad things happen. Or in the workplace there's often little consensuality. The whole thing begins with I need to buy part of your consent with money. Some people are lucky to be paid for what they really want to do. Some people not. We will be followed by the cheese and wine both. So there will be alcohol. Alcohol is not an excuse for breaking consent. And incidentally I heard reports of borderline situations happening at DeppConf if something makes you uncomfortable you can talk to people in front desk. If people in front desk make you uncomfortable you can talk to me. If both me and front desk make you uncomfortable call the police. Good point. That's a very good point. Can I have five more minutes? Practical advice. So suppose you want relationship advice or work advice. They are pretty much the same. Like this is a nice article about how to deal with abusive relationship or bad workplace. Keep them tired. Keep them too busy to think. Keep them emotionally involved. Reward intermittently. Keep the crisis rolling. Things will be better when. We figured some time ago that if you go on in a situation thinking it will be better it never will. Keep real words distant and so on. Practical advice I can give links later. This is an excellent article. I highly recommend it. Because then you can really see the recruiter email very similar to some shady person showing up from behind and saying do you come here often. So more relationship advice from 99 ways to ruin an open source project. How to ruin the trust of the community. Exert excessive control. Never give anyone else commit access. I don't know what that was. Require an unparsable unicorn carrier. Ignore concern voiced in issues. Do any of this in a relationship and it won't last long, right? And so on. I highly also recommend this thing. Making relationships suck. It's a wonderful read. I can provide links somehow later. I don't know where to publish them but we can work it out. If any of you is, well I don't know that. Anyway, I will work out later. There's also this. BDSM advice, tips for new dominance. So tips for new package maintainers. You will fuck up and so on. So I guess it's time to close. I hope I gave an idea on how to carry across. Adviced thought quite a lot over the years between one domain to another. When there's an interesting point of overlap. And I'd like to close recalling my definition of love. And dear Debian and dear everyone contributing to Debian. My world is better with you in it. Thank you.