 Welcome everyone to another Nox survivor live video. I'm just here at the apartment Got a new apartment here as you can see living life making the most of my life After narcissistic use as we all should One of the biggest apartments I've been in so far four bedrooms and five bathrooms It's very big and spacious That's a good atmosphere to it especially with the bifold indoors here That's me feel a Bit closer to nature. So yeah, I'm just out here Look at my life enjoying the fruits of my labor My hard work as you can see I've got my u2 plaque here. I always keep it with me Because I think it's good to remember our achievements our success All of the work we put in for our lives To become the people who we are today Always remember to do that every day Be grateful for what you have No matter how big or small Remember your achievements Remember your success Remember the hard work that you put in No matter what anyone tells you Don't let people put you down It's your success Your accomplishments It's what makes you Who you are and don't ever let anyone stop you from being you But yes in this video. I would like to talk about the signs that you have heard the narcissist When you have heard the narcissist In most situations it will cause a narcissistic injury It will upset them. It will provoke their narcissistic rage And they will get very angry They will Try to sabotage your success Everything that you're trying to build And you may have thought that this person was with you But they were trying to help build you But when you have hurt them That's when you will realize that they were never on your side They would net they were never with you at all and it may have been something so small Some slight some criticism Maybe you were just trying to help them and then suddenly here they come They're trying to bring you down But this is it This is the number one thing that hurts the narcissist When you hurt them That's how you will know because When the narcissist tries to hurt you That is the number one sign that you have hurt them. I mean sometimes There may be Just no reason at all. They just hate you for no reason There's no rhyme or reason for it Yes, that can happen sometimes But more often than not If the narcissist is trying to hurt you It's because they're hurt Like something that you've said or done If it's not then they they've been hurt by something else Narcissists are always hurt. They're always miserable And that is why they try to hurt you So whenever the narcissist tries to hurt you there's a good chance that Something you have said or done has already hurt them and they're just trying to strike you back They want you to feel the hurt that they feel And trying to resolve instead of trying to resolve the situation Like a mature responsible adult They just want to get you back They want to get revenge At any time the narcissist brings another person into the picture They triangulate you with someone else They compare you to someone else They try to make you feel small in comparison or they try to say that something you're doing is wrong When they do that trust and believe that you have hurt them Because they're using another person to hurt you But they wouldn't do that if they weren't already hurt Whenever the narcissist tries to make you envious or jealous of someone or something They're already envious and jealous of you All they really know is to mimic and imitate To reciprocate emotions that they are already experiencing Also known as projection They can only project something that they already feel Narcissists are not like the rest of us They don't really have their own separate individual emotions What they feel isn't really coming from within anyway Because there's really nothing inside of them You may think that they are this hot-headed angry person But even that is just something that they have learned Inside of them there's nothing but a dark void And that's why they're constantly seeking narcissistic supply to fill that void To make them feel something And they would rather feel negative emotions And feel nothing But yes they will try to make you feel envious and jealous Because they're already hurt Something that's already affected them Whether it's something that you said or did Or something from someone else Some other situation They will try and glate you with other people Because they feel insignificant Whatever the narcissist feels small They have to bring you down Because they are very insecure There's nothing holding them together Because as I said there's nothing within them They're depending on you To provide them with stability and security That's what you're meant to do as their source of supply But once you stop doing that It breaks them They fall apart Because you're no longer holding them together So that's another thing Whenever you are free thinking You're thinking for yourself You're making your own decisions Whenever you're doing that You don't even need to question If the narcissist is hurt Because they see you as an extension of them They expect you to think the way they want you to think They expect you to do what they want you to do As if you're not thinking or doing that How they want It will hurt them Whether they show it or not The narcissist also sees you as an object An object that exists to serve them An object that exists to fulfill their needs So if you're going about being independent Taking care of yourself Attending to your own needs Trust and believe that the narcissist is hurt That affects them They hate it when you're taking care of yourself When you're healing When you're becoming better They hate that Because anytime that you are focusing on yourself At attending to your own needs They see it as though that's time taken away from them And it's just like How dare you do that How dare you think That your time for yourself Your energy that you're using on yourself Is more important than me How dare you even think that Is what's going on in their minds As sick as that sounds That's really what these narcissists are thinking They don't think that you deserve Your own time Your own energy Your own money that you choose to spend on yourself To make yourself better To take care of yourself They don't think that you deserve that So anytime that you Spend time with yourself You spend money on yourself Anything just taking care of yourself Whether you're getting a haircut Whatever it may be These things are hurting the narcissist And whenever you're doing something that shows them That you're not an extension of them Whether you dress a certain way Or you eat certain types of food That's telling them that you're not like them You have your own separate mind Your own separate thoughts, opinions and beliefs They can't stand that They don't like it It hurts them So whenever the narcissist tries to control you And make you do things their way That's another sign That something you've done has hurt them Because you're doing things your own way And they don't like it You're investing your time, energy And money into something That they don't approve of Because it doesn't concern them Or it doesn't benefit them Or they want it done a different way So that it suits them better It's more in their favor I would even go as far As to say That just you being yourself Is hurting the narcissist Just you being yourself I said before you cannot be yourself around the narcissist If you're being yourself It's hurting them And they will often show you that By trying to make you less and less Like yourself Yes, the number one sign That you have hurt the narcissist Is when they try to hurt you That's how you know that something you've said or done Has got under their skin And now they want to tear you down That's how you know that they're hurt And of course they cannot regulate their own emotions So Unless they have some means of getting to you They're going to be hurt for a very long time At least until they find their next source of supply And even then It's still going to be in the way of them Some narcissist will try to get revenge on you Even after they've moved on with their next source They're still going to try And come back and get you That's just the way these narcissist are You cannot control them You can only control yourself Your own behavior What you choose to do Don't let yourself get sucked into it It's not good for you But what is good for you Is What's not good for them Which is you Discovering more of yourself Who you are Who you choose to be Thinking for yourself Learning more Through your actions and decisions Learning what made you Stay with them for so long And just Getting out there and exploring the world I don't care if it's just In your local park Going for a walk in the woods On the beach You just got to free your mind from these people Because that's what they want They want to control your mind But that's your job You're meant to do that So start controlling Your mind again Take back your life It's your life to live Don't let anyone else tell you how to live They don't have to deal with the consequences Of What they choose for you And of course if anything goes wrong They are going to blame you So whichever way you go It's not going to be any good for you They're still going to have a problem with it You just have to do you Be you And if someone doesn't like that Show them the door Get rid of them Take a leaf out of the narcissist book Choose yourself Over other people At least In that aspect They're trying to bring you down But if they're good to you They care about you If they have your needs and minds Then yes Of course Don't throw that away We need more people like that Around us It can be very healing Very validating And you can give To that kind of person It's that kind of person you need around you You need them with you That will be good for you What we need is reciprocation People who care about each other But if someone doesn't care about you You have to get rid of them We need mutual respect Reciprocation There's no point having All of these feelings for someone Who doesn't care about you That's only going to get you hurt You're going to be the one Who ends up at the short end of the stick After that But yes Just relaxing in this Apartment now Trying to get more sleep every day Sleep is very important When you're healing from this If you find that you have a lot of anxiety And stress Sometimes all you need Is just a good night's sleep Try to get eight hours Go to bed early Switch off your phone Make sure those curtains are closed tight So that no sunlight can creep through If you don't want to wake up too early It's important Get some good rest And I just want you to know That I am here for your support Anything you need You can contact me I am here to help you I've been through it So yes If you would like my support You can book a session with me Through my website It's naksafiver.co.uk And there will be many more videos soon So until then I hope you all have a great day And as always I will talk to you soon