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Quite an important video It's something that maybe alludes most people in society, especially when you're a kid But you're a teenager and there's some crazy googles or it's crazy guys in your school. They were Going about dressing email wish or gothic guys wearing makeup eyeliner and Cutting their wrists and for no reason and listen to depressing music and It's very easy to easy to assume that That's it. I'm gonna do it for attention and what they want to be in a trend the trend because you know People love to be in a trend by cutting themselves because that's what people do that's how far people go Let's not cut themselves like for a trend Hope I'm not being too aggressive with my standing because that's not what I'm trying to do. I'm sorry I'm trying to enlighten you And that sounds even more patronizing So I'm gonna go over three main things reasons why people hurt themselves number one probably one that you're most familiar with and one that you think is the The main issue people hurt themselves people cut themselves visibly so that they can Show people that they're in pain And not for attention, which you might think I guess that is attention, but It's kind of kind of needed attention if someone's in that much pain that they want to cut themselves So they should they can show you that they're in mental torture It usually goes about that way and there are some people who abuse this kind of thing and getting on the craze and They want the attention because they want to be and I haven't I know people who who have done that I know people who haven't I know people who have Cut places that people can't see bled out a lot gone to hospital So there are there are other reasons, but this is that this is then one of the reasons is very hard to express Humanly how much are in pain? It's all subjective pain is subjective and Experiences is objective and the amount of things that you can comprehend from other people and how bad you can comprehend So one can be can be limited by your experiences one of one of the most crazy things about the whole explaining depression to people is that People think that if you're not depressed life, they're not they're not depressed, but if they were gonna be depressed To the extent that maybe I was or someone else was and would they've been hurting themselves and trying to commit suicide and stuff that they would do it differently they would be logical and That's complete bollocks They like most people if you had dropped right into the mental state that severely depressed person has right now You wouldn't know what to do. You'd be completely bewildered and amazed at how They're not just like Killing themselves all over the place like People don't do stuff like this If they're not in that much emotional pain, they might do it sometimes, but for the most of it You have to be able to comprehend that What kind of mental state would you be in? You would have to be in So that you would quit yourself. That's pretty bad, isn't it? And that's what it's like If you could imagine how bad you'd have to feel over a long long long period of time impacting your life and Slowly eating away at you how much that would have to happen if you'd start cutting yourself Then you might be able to understand why people cut themselves Yeah, I've had some really bad experiences in my life where You know just people don't take you seriously like I did start cutting because Cutting my wrists because Nobody was taking me seriously Nobody was taking me as serious as I was in so much pain like so much mental torture and It wasn't reciprocated and it wasn't people were empathizing with me enough Now that's just one of the reasons people do it because they want to show people that they're in pain If you take it like you know, you've got two guys called Jeff look exactly the same same attributes Both say they're depressed ones tried to kill themselves Which one you can take more seriously like really like people need this sort of logical Real world action in order to justify some of these emotions because it's hard to empathize I don't like I can empathize with people like that. I don't need them to do that kind of thing if they say They want to kill themselves. I'll take them seriously people shouldn't have to Realize their mental pain in order to get the help that they need from their friends You wouldn't get and they're not annoyed at someone who's you know got a heart condition They need a new heart So many family um, of course your parents are gonna fork out to Try and get you a new heart and people in the community gonna fork out to give you try and get your new heart Give you attention and come see and all that kind of stuff Just because it's physical like just because for some reason just because it's mental It didn't mean something different doesn't it? So it's That's why people cut themselves Not not for attention, but just to let people know I'm in great physical and mental pain. The second reason Why is one might hurt themselves is because they are zombified They are numb They're in emotional pain But that that emotional pain doesn't it just it doesn't follow the same You imagine like a like a a graph that the mental pain go being on the side and time It it's not like sadness. It doesn't go up and up and up and peak and then go down and you feel good All right, so you feel comfortable or It's being relieved to some degree and it goes up again and it goes down Like you've dealt with it and you know that it's gonna end soon and You're gonna deal with it President's not like that. It's more like There's a little peak. There's a little level here that you need that need that's needed to Cry and it's needed to express your emotion And feel it in your body and let it overwhelm you and depression just keeps going up and then The level goes up and it just stays right under there all time There's there's no getting that release that you need People do it because they need a release They don't feel human. They feel like a zombie. They want to feel like they did when they were younger Feel like they did when they were a child the same reason why you would go to the movies to see something You saw when you were a child not because it's great It invoked some feelings of being a kid And you could say the same about being happy like People people want to feel emotion like they don't want to be a zombie. They don't want to be depressed It deludes me because people don't understand that it's like oh You're depressed. Why are you watched? Why are you listening to depressing things and watching depressing videos and cutting yourself having or making you depression worse is It's actually not making you depression worse If you're just listening to it like music that's sad just all the time And you're not you're not really releasing any emotion You could say that it's not good but from the furmost of it especially when you're a teenager like Listen into that music you just it just reached a peak and it just Pushed you over the edge just pushed you over that peak and then you released all that energy you released all that pain and It goes down like and it drops down your depressed level and you feel Better you feel better because you've cried your eyes out for like an hour or had a panic attack or You feel better because of it And people want that it's like a drug. It's like I can feel bad for like five minutes and feel good for like three hours and this It's the same thing with cutting yourself or hurting yourself I can slash my wrists It hurts like a motherfucker like it hurts a lot Like I can I can tell you that it's not painless It's how you think it would be I used to induce my own peaks Now I've tried to listen to horrible like depressing music and blast it in my ears And think about all the reason why I'm shitty and all the reason why life is horrible and it would peak and then it'd go down and I'd be peaceful. You know, it's just always in your body just storing up Never never never gets released. It just keeps getting Stunning it's tighter and more compact and you just can't deal with it. That's why people call themselves and hurt themselves That's why you can get really Personalized de-personalization when you don't feel like yourself De-realization you don't You know, you don't feel real. They feel like it's a dream De-personalization can also be like looking down on yourself and not associating your Existence with yourself. It's it's very strange concept. It's It's very common in anxiety and depression, especially when you younger As a coping mechanism to cope with this pain. I'd be some instances where I would I just feel so bad that I just I'd go out at night very late in winter while it was raining Just go for a walk in a t-shirt freezing my arse off just Not caring About the cold like the cold actually made me feel like alive It's painful. Like, you know, it's a bad bad stimulus. It's not good for you But for some reason that was another way of me dealing with it grounding myself in reality And cutting you can cutting yourself and hurting yourself can do that kind of thing You know, it doesn't have to be just cutting. It could be burning or scratching or pulling your hair out or It's this it can ground you as well relieve relieve the pain and actual actualize the pain in your physical being To the amount that you feel so it's like you always feel that horrible It's just you only feel it now and it only goes in you only comes out of your brain and acts on your body now When you have that release that's that's what it feels like. It's kind of what it feels like It's pretty much spot on Well done, Tom Thank you very much. I'm very very proud of myself. I'm going to give myself a medal Feel like just to just to bring you back into the video feel like Please don't do any shits on the floor with your little dirt balls you little Leafy shit I don't care. I love you. Thank you very much for watching this video If you liked the video make sure to like and subscribe to tomas cares about his followers and his his watches and Be very very honored if you could comment And if you're not subscribed to me, then make sure that you subscribe Thank you if you like the first time watching this i'm not always talking about these very intense topics Some other stuff just talking about autism just talking about general life. I've done some vlogs like But this is this is like the the main stuff. This is the reason why I do youtube and You know, like I need to I've spent a considerable amount of time trying to think of ways of bridging understanding between people So a lot of people don't understand depression anxiety and self-harming to the extent that they should And they don't believe it and they're like You're being stupid, you know when you you've got a horrible illness like It's very crazy So everyone thinks they can cope with it until they get it and then they're like Oh, that's why they're suffering. That's why they're hurting themselves. That's why they want to kill themselves No, you know people people aren't always being stupid. They are in that much pain But yeah Thank you very much for watching guys. I appreciate you so So so god damn much I've had so much good so many good comments and reviews and Positive comments. That's that's a good one. It's kind of a basic one when you do the top And it makes me feel great and there's been one on my past and With with my delusions of grandeur and seriously this they just the response from that is just absolutely just Blowing my mind. I guess you guys really do appreciate me with being open being it being open with you and speaking from the heart and not filtering myself or not trying to modulate my behavior so that I'm more exciting and you want to You know, I'm actually having fun. But if I laugh and stuff and being stupid and silly I'm not doing it. You know, it helps for content. But I'm doing it because it's just me like Seriously, like I'm just goofy. It's probably starting to become more apparent because I'm swearing more trying to round the video up but I keep getting lost in Talking, I don't understand why like it's mad that I can just sit here and talk And nobody's listening like It's crazy, isn't it? Anyway, I'll leave you on that people seriously if they're hurting themselves. They're trying to even give you a message or they're trying to cope with themselves Without killing themselves, you know It's pretty pretty self-explanatory why someone would do that if they were in that much pain and try and understand that that much pain If that was happening to you you maybe you may consider that kind of stuff Rather than dismissing it and calling it silly or stupid or They're not stupid. They're strong. They're really strong people and they've had they've had to deal with it a lot In their life and they've had to deal with a lot of shit from themselves Maybe from other people as well I'm going to have a cup of tea You're going to have some right of a larian root cup of tea, poker tea And I'm going to go for a nap That's a lie I'm probably going to stay up and do some work because I've screwed up my sleeping pattern And there's no teens And then he's watching us. 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