 Your best defense against the narcissist protecting yourself against attack Protecting yourself against something that might be undesirable to you safeguarding yourself Defending yourself against the narcissist Your best defense against the narcissist is to know your value to know your worth value who you are love yourself in Everything that you do it is very difficult for the narcissist to puncture a hole in someone who values themselves It is very difficult for them to cause a sudden collapse of your mood or feeling or gain access to your life They can't manipulate to exploit you when you are fully aware of your worth When you are able to define yourself Rather than waiting for them to define you You need to know who you are and what you're about You need to know what you stand for if you don't stand for something You will fall for anything and that is why you need to know what you stand for You need to know what makes you valuable and remind yourself of these qualities of these qualities and traits every day Remind yourself what makes you you What makes you special What makes you different from everyone else? What qualities and traits do you possess? That would be greatly respected by someone who did value them Think about how that person might treat you When you make yourself aware of the person you are and everything you have to offer It makes it very difficult for the narcissist to puncture a hole in your self-esteem Because you're constantly reminding yourself of your worth You're constantly reminding yourself of what makes you valuable What makes you deserve to be treated with respect? It defends you against those who try to invalidate you They can't invalidate you when you know who you are and what you have to offer When you know your value When you know your worth There's nothing they can tell you There's nothing they can say or do to cause a sudden collapse of your mood or feeling You stabilize yourself You make yourself unlikely to fall because you are supporting yourself. You are giving yourself balance You are giving yourself the self assurance and self control that you need You are in control of your own emotions You are giving yourself confidence in your own abilities and character and this makes it very difficult for them to alter How you think or feel Because you love yourself You value yourself So they cannot upset your composure or confidence They cannot change your mood or attitude by shocking or disturbing you But this is how they get to you by making you doubt yourself Making you doubt your own worth and when you give your attention and consideration To that unintelligible Extremely disorganized speech You identify with it It begins to have an effect on you Which then damages the value you have for yourself You need to know who you are You need to develop a sense of great significance and value When you realize just how valuable you are You will develop a strong desire to remove these people from your life You won't want them around you because when you develop an understanding of the value possess When you respect yourself You will never tolerate someone like that You will never allow them to treat you in that way Your greatest defense against the narcissist is to know your own value When you know what your worth It causes them to lose confidence and enthusiasm It makes them feel stupid for showing disapproval or trying to create difficulties and that is why You need to build yourself worth You need to recognize your own qualities Recognize what makes you special Recognize what makes you who you are don't wait for them to do it Because all they're going to do is invalidate you and Make you feel less than who you really are You need to validate yourself You need to love yourself You could not love or appreciate anyone until you love and appreciate yourself and That is why the narcissist could never love you. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you Please like comment share and subscribe Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos if you are like today my PayPal link is in the video description Coach and inquiries you can email me at nicefevercoaching at jimu.com Thank you for watching and I will talk to you soon