 In those people pleases, we have a tendency to try to change people who can't or won't meet our needs into people who will meet our needs. Instead of taking their limitations at face value and finding relationships that are a better match for us, we stick around trying to push them towards the kind of people we want them to be to see with us. This produces two things simultaneously. One, disappointment for us and two, then feeling a sense of violation of their boundaries because we just won't let it go and I think we need to work more on this stuff. Hope that helps. Cheers.