 hello everyone welcome to another NARC survivor live video I'm out here at one of my favorite places I've done a lot of videos here by these fountains and in this one we're gonna be talking about do they feel regret when you're gone and it's not really a simple answer to that question it's kind of a yes and they know they do not regret losing you as a person because remember they never valued you as a person they never even took the time to get to know you I bet if you look back you can't even remember a time where you actually sat down and had a deep conversation with them because it was never about that it was never about you it's never about getting to know you but they laid you to believe that that's what it was they led you to believe that they were about something for real but it was never actually like that as I've said before the best you will ever get from me now says it's an illusion and that's all that it was it was just an illusion of love and intimacy it was a simulation a replication but many of us we fall for it we believe that it's real we believe that this person really likes us and wants us around but that's not what it was about so they don't regret losing us as a person when we're gone but what they may regret losing or at the very least they're going to miss it because they do know they do know the difference between good and bad and they do recognize when they've lost something good so what they do miss is the benefits and conveniences that you provide it to them maybe you paid for stuff for them you gave them a place to stay you paid their bills maybe you took them on trips of course they're gonna miss all of that they're gonna miss all of the benefits and conveniences and they're not gonna miss an emotional connection because they never develop that with you so they don't miss you as a person but they do miss the sex but it was never really intimacy although they may have led you to believe that it was they just miss the physical act about really about it so as you can see it's not really regret because they never look at it as though they've done anything wrong I know sometimes they do come back with the fake apologies the false epiphanies they tell you that they're going to change and that makes you think that they know what they did wrong and they do kind of know that well they look at it like the acts the behavior they know that that's wrong if someone else did that when they do it in their minds it's justified in their minds it's okay every abuser has an excuse so there's always a reason why they had to do what they did it's always because of something you said or did so that's how they look at it and because of that and because they never take accountability for their actions they can never really regret anything they can never really regret losing you all that happens as they might miss some of the things that you provided to them the benefits of appearances especially the sex that's what they're gonna miss and when they try to come back and the who bring you the begging you to give them another chance to come back with the fake apology the false epiphany the future faking it's not because they really love you or miss you it has nothing to do with that they're coming back because they miss the things that you provided to them the supply and whatever it was that you were given to them whether it was money sex whatever it was that's what they miss and that's why they're coming back because that's what they want they don't want anything more than that and sometimes they don't even want that from you they don't even want to take your money we'll have sex with you because they're looking at it like if I do that then I'm giving you satisfaction then I'm making you feel good because you feel like you're giving something to me you feel like you're helping me so I'm not even gonna give you that I'm not even gonna give you the satisfaction feeling like you're doing something to make me happy and the reason why they think like that is because they're never happy so they look at it like why should I do something just so that you can feel good and then I'm still gonna be left feeling miserable that's so they see it and that's why the very thing that you want from them they will withhold that from you for as long as they can as long as they need to as long as they still get what they want from you they feel no need to reciprocate and that's how you end up in these situations where you're giving so much to them and you're getting so little in return that's how you end up in situations like that so yeah I hate to I hate to cut this video short but I do have a dental appointment soon so I have got to go but just to summarize they don't really regret anything because they always think they're justified in what they do so they don't miss you as a person because they never got to know you as a person there was no emotional connection no intimacy which is why they never sat down with you and actually had a normal conversation because they never cared about any of that but what they won't miss is the benefits of experiences and you provided to them this could be money sex places they took them on trips took them out to places all of that stuff that is what they will miss all right so I hope you enjoyed this video I hope it was helpful for you if it was please show your love give this video a thumbs up down below it helps to support our community share the video and hit that subscribe button down below as well then you will see the notifications my future videos and if you'd like to book a one-on-one with me you can do that from my website it is not survive at the foot of UK all right I'm gonna go but there will be more videos soon you all have a great day