 Awesome. All right, guys. This is the 21th Convention 2010 of Stockholm, Sweden. I'm Anthony Dream Johnson. I want to welcome everyone here to Sweden. I'll give you guys a hand, too. This is a long way off, man. We're a couple thousand miles from Orlando. Yeah. So I'm glad you guys made it out here. It's a long way. It was for me, too. Long flight, fun flight, fun city. Again, my name is Anthony Dream Johnson. I'm sure everyone knows up and now. 21. I currently live in Orlando, Florida. My dream, though, is just coming years of travel. So, man, I live there too much longer. By the way, before I talk too much about myself, where is everyone from, the countries and things like that? Because we knew this in Orlando. We always have a few, but it's always like Canada or something like that. Like, it's kind of a country. But what is a country but so close? Like, you're from Sweden. Yeah, of course. Yeah, northern Sweden. Yeah. Cool. Where are you from, man? Costa Rica. Costa Rica. It's a long way, man. That's good. That's awesome. That's farther than me, man. Scotland, I think you said. That's badass, dude. I'm Irish. That's close, right? My geography's horrible. Typical American. Who else is... Raise your hand if you're from England. Who's from England here? Couple of you guys. Fantastic. Anywhere else interesting around Europe? I'm just really curious. Everyone else here from Sweden? Really? Yeah. Oslo. Oh, Norway. Dude, I'm Norwegian. Yeah, yeah. Awesome, dude. I'm a quarter Norwegian, so... My name, the surname was Ingebotsen. I guess it's pretty Norwegian, yeah. Yeah. All right, cool. So we have a pretty international convention going here. It's awesome. Loving it. But moving on, I'm not here to ramble to you guys about the convention and what countries you're from for the next hour. It's not that cool. You get old pretty fast. I'd actually, though, before I get into the title of my speech and the actual subject matter, so to speak, I want to ask you guys, like, why are we here? Why do you think we're here? Not necessarily the esoteric one. I think the answer to that would be, like, we're here because we want to learn how to live. That's the question, the answer I seem to come up with. When I talk to guys, when they ask me questions at the convention, when people ask me questions about anything, it just comes in and I hear it as, like, you know, I want to learn how to live. That's awesome. That's why I'm here, to learn how to live. That's one of my purposes in life. But why Sweden? This convention in Orlando, three years ago, four conventions ago, so does anyone, you know, the guest is, like, why we're here? Anybody? Anybody? Just because it's Stockholm, hot babes. I always script the plural and singular. I don't know how to do it. Yeah, I think we're here. I believe we're here because this convention is meant to help people and it's meant to change the course of a generation. To do that, we have to do remarkable things. And this is one of them. The other thing we do is put the footage out for free, which makes it mega, mega popular, thanks to, in part, our Jonas, our tech guy who's here. So that's awesome. I think it's a huge part of what's going to help make it have any chance, any legit chance, of making an impact on a new child generation. And I really believe it's meant to do that. So that's remarkable thing number one. Markable thing number two, and this is more so why we're here in Sweden, is we're the first conference for men, as far as I know, to ever host it both in North America and Europe, back-to-back. So again, give yourselves, give yourselves a round of applause for making it out here, especially for Danny, who made it from Florida. So, damn. Yeah. So, enough about the convention, all that fun stuff, the remarkable things we do. Again, I'm not here to round with you by the convention, I'm actually more to talk to you about a specific subject that I've had a very interesting experience with over about the past eight weeks and especially the past four weeks. The title of my speech is Becoming a Stronger Person. How I did it and the key elements I see on how to do that in your own life. And also how a dream became a reality. Literally, us sitting here in this room, this was a dream of mine once and we're here now, it was amazing to me. I'm still having trouble processing it. I'm in Sweden doing this. I always thought I might be in Orlando, Stockholm really. So that's really cool. And also a part of my speech today is going to be discussing the most severe test I've ever been through in my life. Which was the past four weeks when I toured Europe speaking about this convention in Stockholm, Gothenburg, Amsterdam, Munich, Vienna. All these places, touring Europe. I never thought I'd do that. And that was a very, very strenuous time for me these past four weeks. It turned out really well and I'm very glad I did it. So the title of the speech is Becoming a Stronger Person. And the four key elements is what we're going to kind of discuss and then go throughout the entire speech discussing. The first element that I found about and this isn't necessarily an element of a strong person. It's more of an element of how to become a stronger person. So it's more of like about the journey and the process and like some arbitrary other for like a strong person. Whatever that means to you. So again, it's more about the process and then the end result being unique to you. The first element that I see is you have to do your own thinking. You've got to be an independent thinker if you want to become a strong person. It's just a massive, massive part of it. And it's the number one element that I see in it. The second element and we'll get more to these as we go along. The second element is you have to drop and discard it as fast as you can immediately. The second element becoming a strong person. The third element becoming a strong person. You've got to be willing to sacrifice everything for something you believe in. Obviously you have to know you have to find that thing first. Once you do, you've got to be willing to sacrifice everything for it. And the key part of that too is willing. You don't necessarily have to do that. But if you're willing to, that's the important part of it. The fourth element and this sounds a little bit I don't want to say woo-woo but a little more esoteric I think is the word. And that is you have to find peace in your heart and rise to the challenge of massive, massive uncertainty when it comes your way. You shouldn't have it non-stop. That's artificial, it's unnatural. But when you do face it you've got to be able to step up and rise up. And the first one, I think that's going to really skyrocket the process of you becoming a stronger person. And not just like one area of your life, like women or school, academics, career, whatever but I mean like the whole thing like the foundation, the pillars supporting you as a person in every endeavor you take on every action you take. So the first element I get said is to do your own thinking. Become an independent thinker how do you go about becoming a critical thinker, an independent thinker? One way I found is to and this isn't always the answer but for a lot of times for my personality it is I have to isolate myself. So about 8 weeks ago when the convention here by 8 weeks ago I realized the convention here was lagging ticket sales. It kind of hit me like all once. I saw the ticket sell throughout the year and it was a pretty good amount. In June we had X tickets sold we needed to sell more fast. And then I started kind of freaking out I was kind of getting scared I was like what am I going to do? I want to do this but I was like man there's a lot at stake here it's not as simple as like just plow through it and promote the hell out of it and push tickets because there's a lot of risk. If I messed up financially with this event it could hurt the Orlando event and everything like that so it was really important to me to isolate myself. When I started feeling that stress from the possibility this event not happening I started going for walks a lot more which I say I do but I didn't enough but when it started happening that stress I started going for walks a lot more I went for drives by myself I got a loan I got into my head so I could kind of figure out what I want to do with my life and what I want to do with this entire convention over here I knew there was going to be a very tough journey ahead so I think if you can isolate yourself that's a huge part of becoming an independent thinker you just got to like get that noise out of your head make kind of quiet it down and think real clearly and just get even other people too that want to help you just got to be like you know what hang on a second I got to figure this out for myself really important and the point too of there's a point to isolating it not only becoming an independent thinker but also being an independent thinker and being an independent thinker and this is what I ended up doing is you boil it down to something very actionable and action so for me I quieted down all the stress in my head I kind of got everyone out of my life for just like a few days maybe a week or so and I was like what I need to do with this event and I decided I was like you know what I'm going to do this whatever it takes and guys I'm freaking out but you know what if we move x tickets by this date then we'll do it and if not we'll just you know not do it but I knew in the back of my head at the time I was like it's nonsense like I'm not going to do that and I knew that but I couldn't tell myself that yet I wasn't there yet but I was close so deep down I said I was going to do it at that time when I boiled everything down to that action and then two weeks later it was going to really hit me when I decided to come to Europe really early and do this event and bang it out another thing too is you should I got some extremes from friends I had about you know advice on doing this event so I had guys telling me like you shouldn't do it man too much of a risk financially you're going to lose your ass you shouldn't do it man focus on the United States do it in California yeah people really have told me to do that I think I should mention in New York and California maybe but we already have a guy doing it over there and I don't see like the potential for the event there yet I saw it in Europe is where I saw it so I have people telling me not to do it and then other people other friends that were like yeah man just do it man you can do it you're the dream baby and I'm like really like it's not that simple right now it's kind of a gray matter I mean eventually you know I went through that and made a decision through isolation but I listened to those extremes and it gave me like perspective on where I wanted to find where my answer was at which is kind of I mean I ended up just doing it at all costs but really it was more in the middle I was like alright I got to do this at all costs but I can't just be an idiot about it like when I started this convention it happened through like sheer like force I was like I want to do this and everyone wants to do it with me and I'm going to do it and I worked my ass off and made it happen which is what I did again here too we all made it happen like I passed four weeks especially and bust some ass around Europe so it was just like pile drive my way to Sweden it was like pile drive my way like really fast and like weave through all these jagged rocks and like obstacles along the way so not sheer force my answer is in the middle well I guess it leaned a little bit to just fucking do it that's how I am, it's personality, crazy another idea too that I'm going to get more into in a second is that by becoming an independent thinker you don't just, I used to think this way you just discard everything it's like I'll think for yourself everyone else can just screw themselves man I know what's up, I'm the man I think for myself, dude not cool like I said you listen to the extremes to get perspectives like those points in the end of the spectrum at the same time like that's like I made that decision that was somewhere in the middle because I was thinking for myself I became the filter of all that noise from all these people on extremes people in the middle people that had invested interest in the event people that didn't so all these different people all this different advice it came down to me thinking for myself and filtering all that stuff that's what being a critical thinker is all about is being the filter rather than blindly accepting what someone tells you or doing the opposing thing to that which should be just discarding everything like an arrogant prick which I've done in the past and I'm thinking for becoming a strong person massively important, foundational I've read about 50 note cards in Europe by the way and am I speaking to her around Europe I did so many speeches I used them all up so I'm down to a friggin little notepad thing but it works, it works it's good the second element to becoming a stronger person which we'll talk more about in a second well it'll tie into element one and element three is dropping the ambiguity so like I said I was like I was writing on my blog, Jonas I was writing on my blog when I figured out this event might not happen I was still kind of shaky about it I was like I want to do this but we need to sell X tickets by this date and on the surface level that's really what I was thinking on the deep down that was nonsense nevertheless that's how I was acting on the outside and that at the time I think is why it didn't pick up even more steam at that time because I hadn't yet just shed that ambiguity and myself that weakness I was like man I don't know it's just a weak move I was like nah I don't know what I'm going to do I said it was rambling forget it the point though element two is drop the ambiguity and I'm going to talk about how to do that well you drop the ambiguity by like I said combining element one and element three so element one is doing your own thinking element three is being willing to sacrifice everything for something you believe in so when I was thinking for myself from those extremes was that you know don't do it at all you're crazy you know you shouldn't do it and so many different ways too it wasn't always like that abrasive route some of my friends were like dude you shouldn't do it man it was almost like that underhand like nah it's cool man just should be alright don't do it do it in Orlando take the safe route man nah that's not my personality the opposite on the spectrum too though well I already told you guys that so I came to the middle and when I finally dropped that ambiguity it was because when I shed that ambiguity you saw my blog it was because I was like you know what I believe in this convention I believe it helps people individuals and I believe it has the ability to help the collective too on a massive scale I was like that's what I believe in and that's what I'm willing to sacrifice anything for there's actually a friend of mine named Steve and when he said that about me in an interview we did of him that really hit home and I haven't forgot it and I probably never will because I really do believe in this event and man when I decided on that when it became clear to me that that's how I fell deep down and that I was like you know what there's a filter I need to put here to find that answer for this convention that's how I dropped that ambiguity so if you ever feel the weakness in your own life get really clear on what you believe in what you're willing to sacrifice for willing but not necessarily going to and then be that filter and you'll drop that ambiguity so you come together in the middle from it or another way to say it too is that I forgot to hit as far as finding out what you're willing to sacrifice everything for that's not the easiest question to answer I can't tell you that that's like asking me like why is the sky blue it's just blue so at the end of the day though it's a conscious choice and it's an action you have to take and yeah it's something you have to decide on your own isolation though like I said for independent thinking can also help in this regard you don't want to isolate yourself too much I've done that in the past growing up and I can have really really devastating effects on your social life on your relationships on your academics on your mental well-being I'm not even joking man if you isolate yourself too much they have a lot of barriers in between them man you'll like lose your mind so you can't overdo it and you can get alone and you can really get the core of what you want to do with your life and think all that BS noise out of your head that distortion you'll probably find at some point I think we'll have it too there's something you might be meant to be doing in your life and you'll find it and when you find it you're going to become a lot stronger person automatically because you're going to say like I want to do with my life and this is what I'm going to sacrifice everything for my assets, all of my time like who knows what man my health, my sleep, whatever if you believe in it man that's what counts and the way to do that is through isolation again temporarily there could be other ways too that again though seems to fit the way I've grown up in the personality I've somewhat created for myself so if you find other ways too a million different things that help you find what you want to do with your life and what you want to sacrifice everything for keyword again they're willing not necessarily going to two different things there so in that sense too don't be eager to just like trash your life for something you believe in you shouldn't necessarily have to do that I've done it but you're not always going to have to and don't be like eager and like you don't have to believe in it's like oh if I believe in this then I have to like trash other parts of my life not sense you don't have to do that it's total BS but you've got to be willing to do that and when people see that in you that's what brings people across the world to Sweden, Stockholm that's what brings like tens of thousands of historic sites every month that's what brings hundreds of people to Orlando too in Florida is I think people see that I mean they know that I'm willing to like make what I want happen and what we all want to happen together no matter what it takes and when you guys can find that in your own life whatever it be, career, academics relationships, who knows it could be like saving pandas or something saving zebras you never know there's a quote I read in a book recently and while this isn't an exact quote it's not a butchering but it's like a paraphrase of the thing of something you believe in you're going to come to a point and I did and with this convention in Europe it happened with a friend of mine who's also speaking next I got to Sweden, right, in Stockholm that's the big reason I came here was to promote the event and make this happen but the came a point when I was doing all these things and I was pushing as hard as I could and as intelligently as I could and like it wasn't working and I was continuing to kind of freak out man it was really scary and I tried all these things a large amount of money in a ppci campaign I contacted all the speakers to promote the event I did everything I knew how to do and then some I used to go to sleep at five in the morning the sun be coming up in Stockholm it already be up for two hours it comes up at like three in the morning here it's crazy you come up from the club and it's coming up but there came a point and this is where this quote comes in is when it's actually right two and a half weeks when I got to Stockholm May 10th and it's two and a half weeks after I was here and long story short I decided what I needed to do was a tour of Europe speaking like I told you guys Stockholm Gothenburg Amsterdam Munich Vienna when I decided to do that that was when I broke the threshold that most people think they don't pass not necessarily they're going to fail out but that's just where it ends up happening for a lot of people and the quote from the books The Alchemist and the quote and it more or less says don't be the guy that dies of thirst just before the oasis which literally is what that point was for me when I was here in Stockholm don't be the guy that dies of thirst just before you're seeing the palm trees and you're in that desert you're dying of thirst don't be that guy that's like right there and just falls apart because that point came to me I was terrified man this event wouldn't happen financially the cost of doing this across the world I'm not going to lie but I came to that point and I was like man if I can just if I can just hold on to that same courage that we all have the same amount of if I can hold on to it a little bit longer I'm going to get to that oasis and I got to it and that oasis ended up being a tour of Europe that was pretty hectic too and pretty stressful but really fun and I did that and I think it helped this event massively if not actually indirectly because the cost of flying around Europe they're not too expensive but we only moved so many tickets so I think actually the bigger point of doing that tour of Europe too when I found that oasis in the desert is that it was another expression of like I was willing to do anything to make this event happen so people saw that online they saw it on my blog they saw it on the site when I told them I had this actually this map I made like five in the morning and got them to the airport with like a track pad on paint it was really crappy I was just so tired I was like I got to tell you guys what I'm doing I'm at the end of my ropes I'm so scared but I think when people saw that people do when I wrote that people donated people donated money people bought all these things to help support the event because then y'all are struggling to make this happen but when they saw that express that strength they're like man it's like you know you can do that and when you see someone else doing it you want to support them because then you like you receive that back it's like a mirror almost I get that too with guys like one of my favorite guys I like to support is Tim Ferriss I have his book I got to get the other one too now I'm becoming superhuman it's coming out and all it's saying so you see that strength in him for example who's the fan of Tim Ferriss by the way yeah figure as much awesome guy I think too that's why he's a strong guy man I don't think people see that in him and that's why it's really clearly expressed so not only is he a strong person he's become a strong person but people it's reflected really clearly in him and when people see that they support him massively because you get that back it's like reflected in the center even more back at you so in the same sense of people supporting this convention when I wrote about that and they saw that strength when I was just like you know what man I'm making this happen no matter what I'll sell like my shoes to make this happen walk barefoot through Stockholm with the Sementska Flickas people saw that just like you see it in guys like Tim or who knows and when you support that you get it back too which I think is a huge reason why that happened people saw that expressed so clearly in me when at five in the morning at Gothenburg airport on a dying laptop I've been on this third key element for a while we got to move on to the fourth one so we can get day on the man up here the fourth element again it sounds a little bit woo woo I call it spiritual but I'm dead serious and it's you've got to find peace in your heart and then you've got to be able to deal with that massive uncertainty so I had all this stress right from you know like you know the event almost was not going to happen financially it's got a lot of expenses and I had that stress when I was in Stockholm and every night I'd be up I'd get no sleep probably because of working probably because the sun was up and I couldn't go to sleep but all that stress all that noise it's like I shook my head up so much and I allowed that noise to come back when I was in Stockholm it got so freaking loud it like made me deaf all of a sudden and I was like man all this stress I'm going to let this feed me being relaxed and getting clear on what I need to do which ended up being the tour of Europe Stockholm, Gothenburg, Amsterdam Munich, Vienna so in that sense if you can find that peace in your heart for me the way I did it was through that massive amount of anxiety I felt it's not a good feeling but it's not necessarily anxiety for example I felt isn't an inherently bad feeling but it didn't feel good but you know what? when I allowed that to feed into what I wanted to do that's another thing that gave me a lot of strength all of a sudden to be like you know what this is scary as shit but I'm going to do this tour I'm going to make this convention happen so find that peace in your heart and let that massive amount of uncertainty that's I'm sorry to tell you guys it's going to come to the territory of becoming a strong person in any way shape or form whatever way is unique to you it comes with the territories, massive uncertainty especially for live events let me tell you but if you can let that feed into finding like that peace and relaxing and getting clear on what you need to do that's like number four this helmet is huge and number one so very important the stepping up too I got a question in Amsterdam when someone I talked about not this exactly but it was a very similar event in my life where I just all of a sudden stepped up it was actually happened at the 2008 convention in Orlando where I lost a lot of money of the filming we had too many cameras too much camera work we had like 70 guys but there was like 130 RSVPs and we collected money at the door instead of online so we were like way short of funds so that was a really rough time in my life too and I talked about that my best friend also at that time that was in 2008 I talked about in Amsterdam that really traumatic time a friend died, finances were on the floor probably somewhere a couple feet below the floor I talked about it I stepped up after that and that became like really the big change in my life where you saw me change as a person from like kid to like I don't know if you call it man but you saw me grow up really fast all of a sudden because these really traumatic events and when I talked about that his question was like how did you step up? like I said a minute ago it was a conscious choice I've told you about the ways it happened to me with the noise and isolation all these things but ultimately the same thing with you guys everyone in this planet let on this room it's a conscious choice you have to make that everyone can make it can be with women too like growing up I was as I've talked about elsewhere the previous conventions growing up I was very very horrible social skills women everything like that but you know what I always had the choice to be better with women to be sociable to relate to people to do all these things and communicate clearly you always have that choice you just have to let the experience catch up and eventually you'll be able to you'll see and you can make that choice which is how I made it it always comes down to yourself for that big choice in your life so it's the same thing again too with you can't ask people how did you do that massive thing in your life and they can tell you all these things like I've just told you but ultimately it comes down to you so if you ever have in your life like that really hard point where you're like holy crap man I'm just really scared right now just remember it comes down to you not only does it come down to you that's where it ends up it can only come down to you for example becoming more successful women dude we have all these coaches coming in all these speakers flying in from around the world they can help you massively get better with women right but you know what at the end of the day it's going to be all you guys helping yourselves so they can help you they can talk you through all these things give you all these ideas and you can filter out and become that independent thinker it's cool good to see you man so you can yep so you can do that but ultimately again it's just going to come down to you every single time there isn't an option you can have 247 be a personal assistant right it doesn't matter it's going to come down to you people can't make choices for you so they can but that's not good you've got to make your own and when you do that man that's another thing too it's like it's cyclical the more choices you make for yourself for a person it just compounds upon itself people ask me like they always ask me like dude how do you do this convention they see it on the internet and it's like mystical to them it's like how do you do this it's like man is this what I want to do and I just figured out as I go along like life it kind of sounds like it's not like day on yeah but I'm dead serious it's always going to come down to you and not only is that the way it just turns out it's the way it's meant to be it can only be that way so if you get these four elements down just to reiterate again too you need to be an independent thinker you've got to drop the ambiguity which I totally stole from Jason Savage definitely 2009 speaker become an independent thinker critical thinker think for yourself drop the ambiguity you want to sacrifice find that thing you believe in and then be willing to sacrifice everything for it and the fourth element and again that keyword is willing when you're willing people are going to see it you can't hide that you couldn't hide it if you tried I couldn't hide how I feel about this event if I tried I could wear like who knows what I could do to try to hide it and it wouldn't work you guys would see that or it would be impressively difficult to hide it because I'm a total nut child like that and if you hang out with me in person you'll see that and the fourth element is you've got to find that piece in your heart and you've got to be willing to deal with that uncertainty that comes with every so often it's a part of everyone's path you're going to come to that point in your life it's just part of becoming a stronger person it's unavoidable it's not a bad thing even if it makes you feel like total crap it causes you to become depressed anxious your life just falls apart you're getting no sleep for two months you stay up every night for two hours staring at the ceiling freaking out about something that turned out pretty good we're in Stockholm and again let that fourth one too it's important to let that when you come to that point when you're seeing the oasis and you're thinking about quitting and whatever you're doing it's important to let that feed it all those negative emotions we just want to label is inherently bad nonsense use that let that feed into what you want to do and then be expressed so people can support you because you truly want something man and I stole this from the alchemist awesome book for real when you truly want something the world will inspire to help you which I think is exactly what's happening in this convention over the past three years four events now in Europe in Orlando online everywhere Jonas is a guy again who does her web work and he does it like for free because he believes in the event which I can't even tell you like how invaluable it is because he's like so awesome with it and I can't do everything and neither can anyone else but he's awesome and again man like this event too I got more help during these past four weeks when I was in Sweden in Europe and other parts of Europe I got more help than I ever had before in my life to make this event happen because I believed in what I was doing and people saw that and when you truly want something I swear to God people can aspire to help you man and if you don't the America's aspire against you so believe in what you're doing it's important little paradox there some of you might be wondering a lot of people come to this event because it focuses especially in Europe especially in Europe for the time being success with women stuff like that so how does this relate well it directly relates I'm sure you can kind of connect the dots and how it directly relates to success with women and going through a journey where you go from someone who can't talk to girls someone who can or even if we get girls I couldn't talk to people which I think is a problem for a lot of guys in the pickup community so to speak they just can't even talk to people let alone girls to relate all this foundational pillar stuff you should let that be a continuous like journey underneath service level journeys that you take throughout your life so the four elements that I was talking about about becoming a stronger person you need to let that support and feed into journeys that are more specific so with women for example I went through a couple years of just torture trying to learn how to talk to girls I basically crammed 17 years there were 17 years in my life where I should have had social experience I basically didn't have any so I crammed 17 years of lack in the two years of going out to bars and clubs and meeting girls I just did that all once and it was a really traumatic part of my life and all that and it was that service level journey that things like that things like I've just talked about those four elements they came into being and they began to support that journey and you know what I didn't complete that journey so to speak and I never will I think we're supposed to but I got my ability to talk to people and women in my life handled to the point where it was no longer a dark cloud following me around like in Winnie the Pooh or something like that or whatever other cartoon uses that so that's a service level journey that you can use these to feed into and support so women is one and I recommend everyone watching this or here I think everyone here has probably already done that started you start with women I think as a man it was like the number one thing you need to like get off your mind as again the dark cloud thing so you've got to focus on that first and eventually you're going to come to a point for me it was just my ability just to talk to people and girls that was the point where I was like alright I'm not done with this but I got it handled so to speak when you get a chance to can you give me my backpack from under the table I'm going to need something in a minute the whole thing so start out with women I think you're the best event in the world for this those other events too they're pretty awesome awesome events and the twenty one convention in Orlando, Florida it's next month you guys want to make it out Danny will be there a couple other guys here will be there so you have these events you have this help and really as a guy it's super important man you need to get that that handled thanks all my stuff backpacker bag of bond so start out with that and then right after that I'm going to recommend you move on to your health I think is if you have if the most human thing you can do is socialize or have sex you kind of combine the two like that's we're social animals right that's the most human thing you can do so you've got to get that handled to the point where it's no longer dark cloud again though you're never going to be done with it got to continue the second one though I think right behind that as a human being you need to get your health handled which we didn't fly anyone in here but if you go to Orlando and you watch the footage online we're going to have some of the best guys in the world speaking in the land of Florida on how to exercise on how to eat on your lifestyle on sleep on how to sleep on like how to work out man everything everything you can imagine like I'm not really good at describing these things even though I love them I'm more of a very long window so it takes me forever if you ever read my blog Good Dream Mind you'll see that but yeah start out as a guy getting that party life handled with women being able to talk and then move on I recommend as your next journey well it should be almost a mirror image it was for me as my journey with women and learning how to talk to people the next area of life you should focus on is health nutrition exercise fitness any one of these words that we as a society never seem to take the time to define they actually try to define exercise it would be interesting because you never find something really concrete to do that that's why I'm bringing this backpack up I have my four favorite books as far as the we pass this around to you guys want but they're day on no never mind okay I own these books too this is in my opinion the number one book it's the number of book I've ever seen on how to eat and how like a healthy lifestyle nutrition anything you want to call it diet it's an amazing book the author Mark Sisson the guy on the front is coming to Orlando a pretty famous guy so kudos to myself awesome though I gotta buy him a flight I gotta buy him a flight he's a really good guy though I've talked to him on the phone ironically the first thing he asked me he's like he called me he's like hey so Anthony I gotta ask you is this like a how to get laid convention or and I'm like nah man hell no and it's not of course I've talked about this relentlessly on the internet and past years too it's become a lot more than that the first thing he asked me so the Prima Blueprint you can Google the review of this the Prima Blueprint review or Prima Blueprint review and you'll pull up my blog actually I got the Prima Blueprint review of it I don't know how I beat Amazon I don't know why but it's an amazing book I wrote a full review of it it's one of the few books I've taken the time to hardcore review awesome book highly recommend it he also has a blog marxdelliapple.com highly recommend that it's got like a bajillion posts on it amazing book so that's nutrition and lifestyle the second book I highly recommend for getting the health of your life handled is body by science awesome awesome book this to me is the definitive book on exercise period like I've never seen something better written not in the past nothing more concise nothing more condensed nothing more logical nothing more well written it's like it's not the be all end all but it's pretty damn close awesome book Doug McGuff actually the author just filmed two reality series with Tony Robbins part of it it's coming out July 27th right out of the convention and of course I'm a huge fan of the book and Doug McGuff will be in Orlando, Florida at the 21 convention currently as I speak awesome book obviously watch his footage for free on Tony McGuff mentioned.com sick book sick book awesome guy and he's also too he is like the man an exercise medical doctor he's been a personal trainer for over a decade I want to say owns his own gym but you know what too if you read his blog bodybyscience.net and you go through and you find his comments I swear to God that guy is like one of the smartest people on the planet very underrated not only with exercise but I mean just like a a really wise human being that needs to write a book on like how to live your life awesome guy Doug McGuff okay so those are the two books for that that area of your life as far as the getting women handled area of your life we got like the best guys in the world coming here and Orlando and on the website 21 convention.com so you have a million books for that or speeches for that content a lot of content the number one book too that I don't have for that area of life I recommend is called The Way The Superior Man I have a copy back in Orlando but God that's an amazing book I invited David D to speak he was going to but he's on a writing sabbatical so it didn't work out I guess that's where you just write forever and you just you isolate yourself right that's what it is right yeah so you can't come but man that books amazing The Way The Superior Man we pimped out a convention add the convention every year we probably sold like you know a billion copies but keep buying it it's an amazing book there's no way I can get commission for it I don't care awesome book seriously awesome The Way The Superior Man buy the book immediately if you haven't read it it's not pushed hard enough despite being pushed more than like any other book from men I've ever seen the other two books that these would relate more to the first those key elements I talked about about becoming a stronger person the first one is called meditations or the emperor's handbooks another edition of it meditations by Marcus Aurelius Emperor of Rome this guy was an awesome awesome guy there's different translations this is the one I have I got it from a guy named Ryan that I found he wrote a post on Tim Ferriss's blog awesome guy he's like our age 21 something like that awesome book, meditation super cheap it's just filled with wisdom men if you ever like if you ever like need to find that mirror like I said Tim Ferriss earlier there's another guy too that's like obviously died a long time ago but god this guy was an intelligent guy read this book, meditations the final book that will relate to the first four elements of becoming a stronger person is the book I quoted a little bit, The Alchemist what you got the idea from Dion I can't tell you like meditations almost like I can't even describe I just finished reading it so I'm still processing it but amazing amazing book once you got in once I got into it after the first few chapters I was just like incredible another I don't even know what to say his last name Paolo Coelho Coelho, yeah amazing amazing book about just the journey we go on as human beings it's really underrated I never heard of it before Dion told me god awesome book just like meditations amazing book and that's more or less my speech for the opening of this convention I could take more time and just ramble on about how much I love it I think you guys like it though and I write enough on the website about it and my blog and I span you on Facebook all these things so you get that idea if you want to I'm very personable I'll talk to everyone here and I will throughout the next three days I'm very one on one so if you want to know more about it the history everything like that that I could just go so much of it so many years now long history a lot to talk about and I'm here on the side but I'm not going to take time on stage away from Dion to do that so that's the end of my speech I hope you guys enjoyed it I wish I had even more time to prepare it and condense it but should happen then I was really really busy preparing for this event I hope you guys enjoyed it that's it so thanks guys oh before we take a break before Dion speaks does anyone have any questions or anything like that oh he's going to get a mic for you yeah it's not too big of a deal yeah well I can just go anyway the name he's asking you're asking the name of the fourth book The Alchemist I would just give you this copy if I had like five more at home I should just bottom up and spam them out because they're amazing awesome book and I like this it's one of the books too like the way the superior man I've read the book years ago and I still like I haven't read it in like over a year now but I've read it like four times and man like I just want to I want to keep whenever I get a chance I should just keep buying that book and giving out to people it's like that it's not a bible but man like that book is awesome years after you read it it's like it changes your life the way you probably your world of you will like be changed by this book if you're ready for it if not come back a year later because I've done that too books I've read like I almost didn't read this book first few chapters I was like it's alright yeah the answer it was good and then all of a sudden I was like holy crap it's like crack so it's amazing awesome book The Alchemist by Apollo Quelo here's a bunch of other books too and then next question anybody? no? no? thanks guys down's up next bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye bye