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By using this link you will be supporting the knocksurvivor community. If you have any questions about the BetterHelp service you can email me at knocksurvivorcoaching at gmail.com. The narcissist wants to take your power away. They want to take away your ability and capacity to do something or act in a particular way. They want to take away your ability and capacity to direct and influence the behaviour of others and the course of events. Not only do they want to take this away from you, they also want to trick you into giving it to them so that they can then have the ability and capacity to direct and influence the behaviours of others and the course of events. They especially want to have control over you. They want to have the power to direct and influence your behaviour. They want to limit or regulate everything that you are doing and maintain influence and authority over you because you are their greatest opposition in their situational environment. You are the greatest threat to their agenda, their underlying intentions or motives. You know the truth about them. You know what they're really about which then gives you power over them. They have to trick you into giving your power to them so that they can then manage the risk that you would otherwise suppose. If you were to expose them, you might have the power to expose the narcissist in many different ways. It might be through the use of revealing secret information or it could be simply by you being who you really are, being yourself. That could be enough to expose the narcissist. That could be enough to show people that the narcissist is not who they say they are and that is why the narcissist has to dim your light. That is why they have to hide you from the world. To prevent you from exposing who they really are and what they're really about. The narcissist is fully aware of your capabilities and potential. They are aware of the extent of your ability. Your capacity to develop into something in the future. Your latent qualities or abilities that may be developed and lead to success or usefulness. They are fully aware of this and that is why it is so important for them to strip you of your power. To strip you of your ability and capacity to do something or act in a particular way and of your ability and capacity to direct and influence the behavior of others at the course of events. They don't want you to have any influence over other people because that would pose a threat to the narcissist. They would see it as though you are taking the spotlight away from them and it would give you power over them. They don't want you to have power over them. They don't want to have power over you although they do recognize your power. They do recognize your capabilities and potential and the extent of your ability which is why they will trick you into giving your power to them. Once they have tricked you into giving us to them they then have the ability and capacity to influence your behavior and the course of events. It gives them control over you. Now they can get you to do whatever they like. It is very beneficial for them. It creates favorable circumstances that increases the chances of their success or effectiveness. It gives them narcissistic supply. It makes them feel powerful. It makes them feel as though they are something significant in your life. It feeds their ego, regulates their emotions, boosts their self-worth, self-esteem and self-importance. It provides them with a sense of stability and security which is why it is so important for them to not only take your power away from you but also to trick you into giving it to them so that they can use it against you or use it in a way where they can then influence you or other people and make changes to the situation or environment to then increase the chances of their success or effectiveness. Whenever the narcissist engages with a powerful person the first thing they must do is figure out how they are going to take your power away from you. They cannot afford to let a powerful person hold onto their power in a situational environment where they want to have control. The narcissist wants to shine but their light is very dim for them to be noticed and to feel as though they are worth something. They have to shine at the expense of those who they perceive to be superior to them. They have to dim your light. To do this they will often devalue and degrade you. Only humiliate will exploit you. If they are not able to do this they will befriend you. They will become a friend to you and act as though they are there to help or support you but secretly they are plotting to tear you down. They will try to find out secret information about you which they will then reveal to other people. It might be gave with triangulation but it will soon grow into character assassination and smear campaigns until they have completely stripped you of your power. Be very cautious around these types of people. If someone is so quick to put you down or so quick to befriend you it could be a sign that you are dealing with a narcissist or at the very least a toxic person. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonated with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. Click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos. If you would like to donate my PayPal links in the video description. Coaching inquiries you can email me at nazfavicoaching at gmail.com. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.