 Hello everyone, welcome again to another NARC Survivor live video I'm just on my balcony here As you can see There is a bit of a storm Just a little bit but regardless we're gonna go through and Speak on this I am going to tell you the reason Why the narcissist Suddenly disappears And now this is something that Everyone who has dealt with a narcissist or toxic person You will have experienced this you will know exactly what I'm talking about You all will have dealt with them disappearing Just vanishing out of nowhere They discard you They ghost you They give you the silent treatment But you can't understand why So let's get into this right now. I'm going to give you the answers But what you first need to understand is That They never really disappeared anyway Because they were never really there You never really knew who you're actually dealing with They were always withholding something from you Whether it was certain information Or their feelings their emotions They were always lying to you They were always future faking Giving you false promises about the future but never following it up with action They were gaslighting you Because that's how they have the advantage by misleading you deceiving you Deliberately giving you a false impression and that's why they disappear That is why they ghost you that is the reason It's so they can be two steps ahead of you So they can be in control But they're not really gone You may think that they've disappeared, but they're still watching you They're still on your social media. They're very deceptive. They're very dishonest Because they are trying to make you believe something That is not true and the reason why they're doing that is because they want to mislead you They're trying to brainwash you They're trying to pressure you into adopting radically different beliefs about yourself People and the world around you and that is why they will withhold information They will withhold their emotions and they will do that Because then it makes it difficult for you to understand their thoughts and feelings And another reason why they don't reveal their true thoughts and feelings to you Is because they believe by doing that it makes them weak And that's why they can't be intimate intimate That's why they can't be vulnerable with you They can't connect because they believe that it makes them weak They think that by withholding that connection and intimacy from you Then they have the upper hand They have the advantage They have power and control So that is why they withhold information and their emotions from you That is why they ghost you That is why they disappear Because by doing that they're not giving you anything And it leaves you confused Wanting an explanation You're left to figure things out on your own And there are many different ways for you to interpret it For you to understand why they are not communicating with you And of course they will give you little hints They will give you ideas, they will give you clues None that actually have anything to do with the truth of course It's only intended to mess with your mind It's intended to target your confidence, your self-esteem Which is emotional and psychological abuse They are intentionally trying to hurt you And that is the reason why they are watching you So that they can observe your pain and suffering after everything that they have done to you Which gives them a sense of power It boosts their confidence Because they are stripping you of your power And you are unknowingly giving your power to them Which is exactly what they want you to do This is the reason why they do everything that they do So that they can gain power and control Because they are very insecure And the only way that you can prevent this from happening is by cutting contact with them You need to detach You need to not care about what happens You need to not care about what they think And you do that by not playing their game But yeah, I hope that's clear That is the reason why they ghost you It's the reason why they disappear It's the reason why they don't give you an explanation Why they don't give you closure And the only way that you can get yourself out of that Is by not wanting answers By not wanting an explanation By not caring about what they think Because then you can keep your power You can keep your control over yourself Because they want you to seek answers from them They want you to see it as though they are the all-knowing They know the truth, what they think and believe is right And you need to go along with their game plan With their agenda Because by doing that You distract them from the truth You should know by now that these people want nothing to do with the truth They want nothing to do with reality They live in a fact-deceived world that they've created inside their heads And they're trying to pull you into that So that you can validate it They are using you as a prop to bend reality And that is the reason why they ghost like you Because then they don't have to answer to you They don't have to answer to anyone But trust and believe that if you know the truth You would be the one rejecting them That's why they lie to you, that's why they ghost like you That's why they play all these tricks and silly mind games Because rejection is their greatest fear Which is why they want to be the ones who are rejecting you Which is why they have to get you before you get them They have to beat you to the punch And they are going to do that Even if they can benefit by keeping you around Even if you're giving them an advantage They will still get rid of you Because they fear that you're going to be the one who rejects them And they cannot deal with rejection That's why they have to ghost you, that's why they hide That's why they can't tell the truth Because the truth makes them look bad It's humiliating, it's embarrassing And it would make you want to get rid of them So understand this Not only are they trying to gain power over you But they are also, as I've said in many of my videos They are shame-based people who are doing everything they can To avoid reflecting on their shame And that is why they are in denial That is why they create this fantasy world inside their heads And they're trying to pull you into it That's why they try and shift the blame onto you And make you think that something is wrong with you Or you're not good enough That is why they deflect it onto you That is why everything they do is covert It's hidden, it's under the radar Because They are running from something They are running from something that they don't want you to see Which is why you never know what's really going on You're always left confused It's only after some time After you've stopped dealing with them Then the fog begins to clear Then you start to wake up and realize the truth And the truth is that They're really not about anything They're full of shit They do not value connection They do not value intimacy They don't care about growth and development They're running away from that And they're running away from it Because they don't want anything to do with it Because for them To have any interest in that They would have to self-reflect They would have to look within They would have to introspect They would have to look at themselves And they do not like their own reflection They give you a false character that they are not attached to And that is why it's so easy for them to ghost you That is why it's so easy for them to disappear Because they're not attached to the false character that they gave to you But the false character is all that they really have Because they abandoned their true identity a long time ago And the only thing they care about The only thing that they are interested in Is people who validate the illusions of the false character If you are not validating the illusions of the false character They don't care about you You're not important, you're not significant, you're nothing But once you spend enough time around them And you've got to know them You're gonna figure it out You're gonna realize that It's all fake, it's all a facade Just by being around them It's like you're holding up a mirror in front of them And all they see is this reflection of themselves that they don't like Just by being around them You are triggering them to self-reflect And that is the last thing they want to do They don't like how that makes them feel But instead of looking at themselves Although there may be a small window where they do self-reflect Then they deflect They start to see it as though something is wrong with you So then they turn against you They devalue you Now you're not good enough What you're doing isn't enough You need to be better Now they need to get rid of you When actually they're just running from themselves They're running from everything they don't like about themselves Which they projected onto you They disowned these parts of themselves and assigned them to you But they're never gonna tell you that They can't explain that to you because even they don't understand it Even they don't know what's going on But the truth is that they're just damaged people Trust and believe that When you're doing things for someone When you're trying to help them When you're trying to make them happy When you're doing all of these things and it's not appreciated You're not appreciated It's not seen as anything special As anything important That has nothing to do with you as a person That doesn't mean there's something wrong with you I mean this may sound like common sense But when you've been around them and you've been lied to and gaslighted You begin to lose that sense of reality But when you do all of these nice things for someone You're helping them out of the goodness of your own heart You're taking time out of your day Giving them your energy And that's not seen as something special or important It's because they're damaged people That is why Anytime that someone makes you feel like you're not good enough When you're doing something and you didn't have to be doing anything for them And they make you feel like you're not special It's because they're damaged And they cannot receive it They're insatiable and they will always want more It has nothing to do with you as a person So please don't take it personally There is nothing wrong with you You are good enough You are special And you only need to look back at your life and all of the suffering The pain, the trials and the tribulations to realize that All of the work that you put in Everything that you achieved All of these things that make you the person that you are today These things make you special They make you important And only a damaged person cannot see that So don't ever think that it has anything to do with you Because it doesn't It has nothing to do with you But this is why they withhold information and their emotions from you And you're left without any closure You're left searching for answers Searching for an explanation Because trust and believe If you knew what was really going on If you really knew that this person that you're dealing with Then you would be the one in control You would be making the decisions And that would be no good for them Because they're weak and ineffective They're not about anything And they're afraid of what you might do They're afraid of that control If you have the knowledge of what is really going on And that is why everything they do It's designed to take that control away from you And when they do that it makes them look very confident It makes them look like they're in control But they are actually very weak and very afraid Which is why the only thing they can do is disappear They don't have any other option They don't have the courage or the confidence to confront anything All they can do is run away And they're always going to run away It doesn't matter who they're with It doesn't matter who they move on to after you It doesn't make a difference They're always going to run away It may look like they're there They may be there physically But they are always going to remove the information And they are always going to remove their emotions They're never going to be vulnerable They're never going to experience true intimacy So that they can gain power So that they can feel like they're good enough Because that makes them feel good about themselves It makes them feel like they're better than other people When in reality they're actually cowards Because they lack the courage and confidence to face anything They lack the courage and confidence to deal with the truth That is why they're left with no other choice but to disappear And they will disappear not only with you But with anyone else that they're with It's the only thing they know how to do I mean, you've got to think these people abandoned themselves They abandoned who they are and created a false identity So you should know you've got nothing coming I mean, if they've abandoned themselves Of course they're going to abandon you Of course they're going to want nothing to do with you You should already know that And you should stop seeking their validation Stop depending on them to validate your worth How can someone validate you when they can't even validate themselves How can someone love you when they don't even love themselves They can't Just look at how they treat you Look at what they've done to you Are those acts of love? Of course not Give yourself that love that you deserve Give it to yourself Pour into your own cup and then you'll have more to give to someone else Let's check out the storm out here See how we're doing The rain is still coming down But look at that view though Still a nice view of the city even in the rain Yeah, don't let anyone define you Don't let anyone tell you who you are and what you're worth You tell yourself that You define yourself You value yourself I just had to put this message out there I've also created a video on this topic that will be posted within the next few weeks So keep an eye out for that And yeah, that's all I got to say for this video Please give it a thumbs up if you enjoyed it Thank you all and I will talk to you in another one very soon