 The narcissist will never appreciate you. They will never understand your worth. They will never be grateful for you. They will never recognize how great you are. They will never value you. You are wasting your time by trying to offer something that is helpful or valuable to the narcissist. They cannot appreciate or understand it. You should not give the best of yourself to someone who cannot appreciate it. You should not offer something valuable or good to someone who does not know its value. Do not give the best of yourself to the narcissist. Do not waste your life being loyal to them or being loving and devoting. Do not give all of your time and resources to a narcissist. To someone who has no empathy for you. To someone who is unable to share your experience. To someone who is entitled. To someone who doesn't consider your vulnerability. Don't give the best of yourself to someone who just views you as a vessel. Someone who just views you as an object to meet their needs. You keep trying to be a better person for the narcissist. You keep trying to be more attractive and intelligent. You keep trying to be whatever they need you to be. You go along with that agenda. You do everything under their conditions or arrangements. But no matter what you do it will always be rejected. It will always be dismissed as inadequate and acceptable or faulty. They will always fail to show affection or concern for you. You can bring the best of yourself to them. But they will only reduce or underestimate your worth and importance. They will only invalidate you. You need to realise your worth. You need to see yourself as a gift and be mindful about who you give that gift to. Because not everyone is going to be able to appreciate it. Not everyone is going to be able to recognise its value. But that doesn't mean that it isn't valuable. It is important to take full ownership of your life. And strive towards becoming the best version of yourself. But if you are constantly being devalued. If you are constantly being manipulated and treated as unworthy of serious consideration. You need to stop what you are doing. You need to hold back. Because in any relationship there needs to be reciprocation. There needs to be an equal exchange of value. There needs to be mutual respect. And if you are not receiving that in return. You need to set a boundary. It doesn't need to result in hostility or opposition. You just need to hold back and put in the best of yourself in front of someone who doesn't appreciate it. Take away your love and enthusiasm. Avoid interacting with the narcissist. Be boring and interesting and unengaged. Instead of feeding their need for attention. Instead of putting the best of yourself. In front of someone who isn't going to appreciate it. Engage with them only on a superficial level. As though you don't have any real understanding of the subject. As though you have a lack of knowledge, reasoning, emotions or character. By mirroring them you will be able to sustain yourself. You will be able to keep going despite the difficult circumstances. Don't give the best of yourself. To someone who is only going to reject it. To someone who is only going to dismiss it as inadequate, unacceptable or faulty. To someone who is offensively impolite or bad-mannered. To someone who is unpleasant and disagreeable. Ignorant and uneducated. Someone who dismisses you as being unworthy of their consideration. Someone who interrupts you. And treats you in a disrespectful way. Someone who lies to you and deceives you. Don't give the best of yourself to someone who can't even see it. To someone who will only indicate the faults of it in a disapproving way. No matter how great you are. What difference does it make if they can't see it? No matter how great you are. You will still be disrespected and dismissed by the narcissist. Don't waste your time trying to offer something valuable or helpful to them. They are never going to appreciate it. They are never going to see its value. But there are many people in this world who will appreciate you. So don't worry if the narcissist can't see it. Don't give them something that they are not ready to receive. You will never be able to build a healthy relationship with a narcissist. Because they just don't appreciate you. They have no regard for you. Do not give dogs what is sacred. Do not waste good things on people who don't appreciate them. Do not cast your pearls before swine. All you're going to get is a pig that's well accessorized. A greedy, unpleasant person. A person who is offensively impolite and bad-mannered. Ignorant and uneducated. Disagreeable and offensive. Because despite their entitlement. You were never supposed to give the best of yourself to them. You were supposed to give yourself to someone who would have appreciated you. But narcissists are very manipulative. They make us believe that they do recognize our value. They make us believe that they are on our level. But their behavior will soon reveal that it was just an act. They cannot appreciate your value. Because they have nothing valuable of their own. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching Inquiries. You can email me at coaching at narksurvivor.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.