 In this video I'm going to give you a reminder that if you can be disciplined in your spontaneity you can take your success, your productivity, you name it to the next level. It's counterintuitive but stay with me. So taking your spontaneity seriously or becoming more disciplined in your spontaneity. I know it sounds silly to say it like that right? Because we think of spontaneity as being sort of totally removed from anything to do with discipline. But the reason you can be disciplined in the application or giving yourself spontaneity is that spontaneity is not just a fun thing we entertain or engage in every now and then. Spontaneity is an essential emotional need. An emotional need, essential ones, have to be given to ourselves regularly on a regular basis. So it's not this haphazard, maybe I get it, maybe I won't but who cares you know maybe we'll see. It can't be that with any essential emotional need that we have there has to be a matter of making a priority that we give it to ourselves. So spontaneity from my experience, I haven't worked with with many people, a big problem we have is the absence or lack of spontaneity. We're all very good at discipline right but we're not good at the spontaneity piece. So I'm going to give you a little tip here. How can you be more spontaneous and be more disciplined and try and have it as a regular part of your day even certainly of your life. Well first of all you have to know what spontaneity is. Spontaneity isn't a carefree attitude okay necessarily. Really a better definition of spontaneity is spontaneity is a space in which you hold no agenda. A space that isn't already filled with some intention okay. So I'm not advocating for all your life necessarily being spontaneous but certainly a part of your life. So it's basically what I'm saying here is holding a space that isn't meticulously planned. Sometimes you know I think we we have this defense mechanism of over planning and over scheduling things because it's that need to stay in control of our lives right. So we take it to the end degree but then it becomes this sort of neurotic dysfunctional thing for us where every aspect of our lives are planned and spontaneity being an essential emotional need is basically calling for enough of this okay. Now is time where I don't want any plans, I don't want any structure, I don't want any agenda, I don't want any intentions. I just want to be in a space and let's just see what happens. So it's the same way with anything else it's like you set aside time for the gym probably every day or a few times a week or whatever it is or you set aside time to work on your side business or you certainly set aside time probably to work on your job. Why can't we proactively deliberately intentionally on purpose regularly set aside time for spontaneity a space in which there is no agenda. I it's hard I think because we're just so we think just completely in the opposite to this but I swear I found that this is sort of like a secret it's almost a secret to happiness right. It's just not planning and over planning your day now we do need some structure we do thrive with some structure so I'm not calling for extremes in anything here but some space where there is not an agenda and we're very good at watch out for this too if you do happen to start giving yourself this need for spontaneity the space without an agenda just watch and see how long it takes you to fill it up with an agenda we're we're ingenious we'll come up with all sorts of ways to to fill it up it's like the first time you do this you might go oh I feel like reading so you go read the next day you go back to that it's like oh well I read the last time so I should read this time but now I see it's already got a little agenda there now it's actually become your reading time and it really shouldn't be your reading time it should have no agenda strictly again be disciplined with that so I'm going to leave it there guys but if you want to learn more about this that my book uh it's free my website forget happiness it's the last emotional leader model of five needs we have and one of them is spontaneity and it's usually the black sheep of the family it's the one that it gets least attention and least validation unfortunately and it's it's really holding a lot of us back from massive breakthroughs emotionally it's this lack of meeting that essential valid need that we have so my advice my invitation is for you to read the book on that it's a short free e-book um on my website called forget happiness but even more importantly it's just in any way you can start to to schedule discipline be disciplined and give yourself that spontaneity discipline spontaneity I'm telling you it's a life changing uh attitude or philosophy and um try that for a week be open minded try that for a week honestly and just see how you feel and even if you report back here and say it leaves leave a comment below and say it was really good or you could even say because some people do will find it was actually quite challenging because I've noticed a tendency to want to fill the space with a plan and how difficult it is for us to do that but just not having that plan and having that spontaneity you will probably also find that it's such a kind of a relief and that means you're actually meeting a need emotionally for yourself guys i'll leave it there for today but again thanks for being with me as always and i will see you again in the next video take care of yourself and bye for now