 Thinking that you're a genius, that you know about leadership, that you should continue every time when that's not really the case. Because she was the other guy too much. So she's pretty much beating you on. But you clip time for the advice. Dedicate her to somebody who can do that. Talk to her, right? Yeah. He made a really good point. You know, like, when we've been talking, we've been saying as guys, we feel like this is what the friend zone is. Nine times out of ten, who's putting who in the friend zone? Women. Women. So, speak. Wait. I'm going to make it clear. When is the friend zone? Could spend every waking moment with a girl and let somebody ask them, what are you? They'll say, that's my friend. You know what I'm saying? That's the difference between girls and guys. Now, if you're my boyfriend and I know you and I spend all my time with you and somebody asks me, I'm going to say that's my boyfriend. But if you're not, then I'm going to say that's my friend. Like, that's the difference between guys and girls. And a lot of people don't realize that relationships are trial and error. You ain't going to get them all right. If I've got every one right and every guy I've ever talked to, I'll have a thousand boyfriends. You know what I'm saying? You give guys your number thinking, oh well, you know, we can just try it out. But you may not get through one day. I'm not going to be bored. He can't keep my attention. You know what I'm saying? It happens that way and I hate to stay in. Maybe somebody has felt that way about me. Like it ain't going to work. She's not what I'm looking for. That's just what it is. So you just be friends after that. You know, maybe you continue like me, but I don't continue like you. And it's not going to work if you both don't like each other. So you just be friends. Free. Yeah, but you also have to give the guy, you know, you say the guy is boring. I don't know, what's the definition of boring? It wasn't necessarily boring. I think everything off of feeling. Okay, exactly. A guy can be boring, but he's boring to me. Okay, yeah, exactly. You know what I'm saying? So not necessarily saying he's boring. He's just not what I'm looking for. He's just not what I'm into. So basically like you and that person are not compatible. Exactly. You know, I feel like every, and then I'm that type of person. I don't take, I don't want nothing. I was created to be extraordinary. So everything that I have and having life, I want to be extraordinary. I want to be extraordinary. I don't have time for mediocre relationships, mediocre love, mediocre conversations, mediocre, you know what I'm saying? I want everything. I need that tonight. So, you know, so I just want to, and I can't blame my, you know, I have to be happy in life. So I'm just not going to settle for anything. So I just feel like that falls into like, like people, if you see like yourself dealing with somebody for a long period of time, let that person know what you want. For the long time, relationships or situations will get jacked up because you don't tell that person from the jump. Hey, I'm not looking for a relationship. I'm just looking for somebody to chill with. Or I'm just looking for somebody, you know, I am looking for a relationship. Tell people what you expect. Like me personally, if I'm ever getting a relationship, that person needs to have God as his head. And if he don't, like, that's my, that's my cue to be like, live just be friends. Like, so it's just, you just have to put, put that stuff out there from the jump so nobody feels don't get hurt. I was going to say, all right. So in your specific, as you said, say it from the jump, but why? Why did you get mad when that guy said, what are we? I didn't get mad. It was just like, what do you mean, what are we? Like right now we're just friends. I don't, I'm not that person to say like, there's a time period on a relationship, there's a time period on like certain things, but a week, like, I'm not, I'm not going to be like, this person come up to me and be like, we can be relationship and we've been talking for two weeks, but I'm really, really feeling him or something like that. Like, I'm not going to just throw him to the bed. But it's like, certain things I feel like, it just needs to take time. If you don't, if you don't respect that, a week and you talk about, what are we? Like, at the end of the day, I didn't even know that it was just, all I know is your first name, your last name, and what you told me. Easy as a fuck. Another thing, as much as bad to rush, to try to rush into a relationship, it's also bad to wait too long. Like, be a bitch about it, man. Oh shit. I don't know what you're saying. I know that person. I know your friends are like, What? I've done her a good thing. I didn't want to get her. I did not know, I did not know. You seem like, if you want to get her, get her. I feel sometimes, you kind of like, once you get to a certain amount of time, I think it might be like three days, four days, you kind of know in a sense whether you're going to be put in a friend's zone, maybe a week, you kind of know whether you're going to be put in a friend's zone or whether this could actually go somewhere. And I think a lot of people are wrong because they try to go around. Like, you know you might be in a friend's zone, you're either going to tell the person how you feel and just see where it goes from there, or you don't keep putting it in your mind like, oh maybe she will, you know what I'm saying? I got that one. Just be straightforward. You know what I'm saying? There's more of a situation that occurs where then you realize, uh, Disney. You realize like, whether you're in a friend's zone or not. You know, I mean, you know, when it's the friend's zone, it's like being your best friend. It's like, it's like, it's like, it's like, when I was with a little girl and she was a friend. I'm a friend of her. That sound is so rape-er-like. What's up? What up? You know, I try to take you in front of them. There you go. But she pushed me away and then I'm like, I took the wrong signage. Yo, what is the premise of the story? What is the premise of the story? What is the premise of the story? I feel like every man is putting friends on because of lack of balance. When I say lack of balance, I'm talking about a balance of aggression and a balance of patience. You gotta let that girl know what you are trying to do, bro. Now be real, y'all. Be trying to smash, bro. Let that be known. If you want to just talk to her and see how it's really going to be, let that be known, bro. Women don't forget anything. They always analyze it. You gotta show them what you want. If you want to be with her, show her that you want to be with her. You gotta have a balance, bro. That's where that friend doesn't come from. That's really too clean. I can't muscle him. She's thinking. If she see the type of boyfriend that made her, they do think about that. If she see you weak, you can't handle her, bro. Sorry, bro. You dead, bro. You don't gotta say sorry to Alan. He said nigga when we was talking about Africa. You know, you just gotta have patience with that type of stuff. Women lead a man on very easily than a man to lead on the woman. Because they know tricks and stuff around a man, and they just tip them a lot. And they do it purposely just to see where your head is at. Just to see if you can be patient with them. And that's how most men get caught on the friends on them. Actually, I constantly say that today. Do it again. Alan. Alan. Let's do it. Maybe she'll do it. Let's make an order. Let's make an order. If we raise our hands, let's have a boy response and a female response. Like, you know what I'm saying? Because she had her hand back. No, your response, we'll start it right now. We're gonna be organized. We're gonna be organized. I'm mad. The woman can respond. All right. Listening to me like this. I'm gonna say this. I feel like everybody, you know when you see a girl, you have to stop from there. Whatever you want in the future, stop from there. So, when you meet a girl, you just want to hang out. You should be able to give her signs. You like her, not as a friend or sister. I think most guys here, I would say America is a country. You guys are very individualistic. You like to take time. You want to meet a girl at your class. I can tell you how many times you go to the mall and see a girl you like and go and get her number. You want to know how from your class, from your church, from high school, or from prison. So that kind of gives you time to become friends. Becoming more than a friend. But if you meet a girl, you know, not being fast or being unique. You take your time, but you let her know. Give her the signs that you want her as something more serious. I think that's what you guys need to mess up here. Okay, but what he said, it obvious that the way a friend's on a tour, a girl on a tour guy is different. What he's talking about is towards the physical. He's not saying that he wanted to be with this girl. He's saying she rejected him physically. So, he friends on himself in a sense that he didn't want to do that. So soon, not that she didn't like you. But as a female, I may text a guy and be like, I miss you. He's like, whoa, you know, that's a little too much. We think more on the feeling side. So I may feel friends on because he doesn't miss me or because he doesn't pay public sweet. That's the way you look at it. Yeah, that makes sense. Well, the thing is, I must have got the wrong signal because I had to shoot him in my bed. You were expecting her to come and shoot business. How is that being friends on? Yeah. He's got a hand raised, Timony. Look at you being all in order. Yeah. Timony's so clean. We're not going to focus. It's not that important. Okay, I want some feedback from the girls. We've been talking a lot about, like, the path between being aggressive and pursuing somebody and also being patient with it. I want to know, from a girl's point of view, what's the right, I know it's not exactly time, but more like right in my interaction, in my case, there's this girl. I'm kind of talking to her right now. We've gone out on a couple of days and had a whole lot of, you know, we've done a few nice things, gone down in the movie, gotten much, hang out on a couple of different occasions. I don't know when I want to, you know, sit down and talk with her, just like, you know, tell her how I feel when we go on to the next level, you know. Like, actually put a name on it and say we're dating. So I just want to know, what's a good time frame to do that? I feel like, because the rejection on all these days of hanging out, now is the time. Like, you should go out, okay? So I want to end with you. He wants to take off. Yeah, that's what our state, are we talking about, is he dating? Yeah, because I'll spend it on this money and she won't buy it. Well, go ahead. So you think about at this point where you are, like, making plans to go out and do things a couple of different times, and it keeps, it's kind of a progressive thing. The second time, they just kind of stop. You think after that is a good time to start asking these kind of questions? I feel like you're spending your time with her and you're spending your money on her. Bro, ask her. Like, you know, if I'm about spending my time with you and I'm giving you my attention, I could be doing something else. You know what I'm saying? So ask her. You know, ask her a certain amount of time. That's you, that's your time. That's something you can't get back. I'm spending money. I don't get it. I mean, but like, now I'm not saying he just spent money on her, but most importantly time, my time is precious. I do a lot in a day. So if I take an hour to spend with you, appreciate it. And if you want to know if you've been appreciated or not, you ask her. And be like, look, what are we? What are we doing? Where are we going? Because I could be doing the same thing I'm doing with you with somebody else that feel differently. Mm-hmm. Yeah. I mean, do it in a way where like, I feel like you're generally like, you just trying to appreciate me. Like, you're trying to, like, ball out. Okay, I don't need you to ball out. See, you're on the main stage. I'm not in the board of your company. I mean, at that point, I don't, I mean, I don't know. I'm there for you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. I gotta, I gotta step up soon. Take a seat. Take a seat. By confidence, if next we can cry over something, I know. Yeah. That's cool. I'll be at the phone. The, the sub topic underneath this is, he's too nice. What, what does a woman consider too nice? What does a man consider too nice? Because you know, you know, you might be with your boys and you might do something like, somebody did some shit today and I was like, maybe just. But. Like, what, what, what is being too nice? And why is that a bad thing? I think for me, for me, for a female life, if she could, that's not too nice. That's just, that's like dope, right? That's dope. If it's too nice for me, would be like, like, I want a girl to, to let me be the man out of respect. Like, and not because she's scared that I'm going to hit her. You know what I mean? Something like that. No, no, no, no, this is what I mean. This is what I mean. This is what I mean. No, look, this is what I mean. All right. I'm not going to go into your perspective about stuff and not just agree with it because I said, you know what I mean? I want it to be, I mean, if we get into an argument about something, you know what I'm saying? Like, I don't want her to be on my side just because, you know what I mean? You know what I'm saying? Just tell, you know, correct me. That's funny, that's funny. You're in a good way, in a good way. Like, still respecting me as a man, but be like, you know, like. His wife was like, completely just a yes woman. Like, he had to do something. She would be like, yes, honey, yes honey. Like, they were married for like, I think 20 years and his nigga snap one day and be a yes. Yeah, like, because he was like, why don't you ever oppose what I say? Like, why don't you ever add something? She's always agreeing. She's always agreeing. Yeah, why don't you oppose me? Yeah, why don't you, why don't you oppose me? Why don't you have anything to add to what I'm saying? Why don't you have any beneficial information? Oh, he came from some other country. And I was like, they're getting themselves in the jump. Those type of things, like, they come up in the text message and stage. Like, you know that person is going to be like, oh, yeah, we can do this. Oh, yeah, and I like this too. Oh my gosh, I love that too. I don't have no problem with us having similarities, but it's the difference between I say something and you're like, oh my gosh, I love that too. And then you ain't got nothing to back up. You're going to say, oh my god, I love that too. I need you to give me some details so I can believe you. Because the people would be like, let me go Google this right away. You said what? I said just to give brownie points. I can't say brownie points? You know what brownie points are. We're going to talk about that. You know what brownie points are? No. Bro, we all don't want to talk about brownie points. We didn't talk about snacks. We talk about whatever we talk about. We're not talking about snacks. I'm sorry. I was figuring out brownie points. That's cool. To me, too nice is basically, you trying to be my mother. Because a lot of females on campus, they try to be independent or whatever and they misconstrue that would be someone's mother. Yeah, and I'm trying to say that oh, I'm going to be my own. Let me do what I have to do. Let me do what you want to do, but let me be a man. And I'm going to pursue you. You're not going to be opposite. I'm going to pursue the female, not the female pursuing me. What? A brownie point. I would love for them to take care of me. This is coming from me. Like, I can clean. I can do all that. Don't make me feel like a little kid. What? A little kid. A little kid. A little kid. If we're not dating. Like if we're not dating, I would need you to talk. But, you know, but this is the only cover from me. But I thought, I don't think something nice is important. If something nice is important, you want it more. The issue is that if you don't like someone, no matter how nice they are, You know, you want it to be more nicer, you know? So, I feel like when you miss someone, you don't, you know, they're nice to you and girls, they're the girls. Don't tell them you're too nice, you want me so much. Tell them, cause you're not being yourself. Someone wants you. I might not want you now, but someone wants you. Well, I just wanted to add to that, but like me, like, I mean, cause there was this girl that I liked in high school. We wanted to get together outside of the car, you know, and my friend, my freshman year in college, right? And I liked her, but she was too nice. Like, she didn't ever, when we were arguing with stuff, she didn't ever, she was just always, you're right, you know? And I liked her though, but I couldn't deal with that. And she, it wasn't going to change cause we were nine months in the relationship, so I cut it off. But I liked her. I mean, I feel like everything is, as far as being too nice, you're not getting anything from that person. Like everybody, nobody just wants somebody from being in bed. They want somebody who's challenging my feet or soul. You know what I'm saying? Stuff like that. And you're not getting anything if you just being free with me. I can't help but be myself. Like, you got the same thoughts as me, so. Okay, I feel like I do, it's too nice. Like I was in a relationship before where I did everything I said. And I'm going to show that like, why I be like, I'm hungry, it's kind of like like he did everything I asked. I mean, I loved it at first. I was spoiled, you know, I didn't know I was spoiled. But I feel like, I like, like she said, she likes to be a challenge for her. Like, I don't want you to be jumping, say jump, when I say jump, like, say no sometimes. I mean, stand up if you don't like to run over me. And like, I'm in a relationship with you, so I feel like if I run over you, I'm not going to run over you. But that's too nice when you don't have a bedroom. You can't stand up for yourself. You don't tell me, you know, you don't like, just do something. I could shut up and beg to like put me in my place. But that's bad actually. That's how people need to have blessings, right? I'm serious, yeah. It's how you miss your blessings. I mean, if it matters, do that for you. You have to appreciate God. I don't think I can do that actually, you know. If you find someone who does that for you, you have to go and thank God and pray everything. I want to know, thank you. I want Xen to change himself. He's a nice person, okay. But you know what, you don't like him. That's it. You don't have any connection with him. Not him being nice. What is the line between being too nice and showing somebody you care or you love them? I don't think there's such thing as too nice. As long as there's reciprocation. If you're doing something for somebody, and y'all are together, y'all are talking, and they do it in return, I don't think that's too nice. I don't think there's a definition of too nice either. But if only one person is given, if only one person is given, then that's too nice, and then that person in return is taking advantage of that person. But if y'all are mutually reciprocating the nicest, there's no such thing as being too nice. If you like someone, you're up. Okay, like being too nice, I don't really agree with what you said about being too nice, but that's what we were put on. What is the earth to do is to be nice and do good things. So why are women and y'all like increasingly nice? What's that? What's that? Everything is in black and white. You don't live on that earth where everything is supposed to be as cool. Like I have my own attitude some days, you know what I'm saying? It's just like I just don't want you in my face. But it takes, look, everybody gets from that shit ultimately falling in love, right? Love requires attention. I'm gonna need you to know when I feel like, you know what I'm saying? You should do things and you should. You know what I'm saying? When I need my space. Yeah, but we don't know who you're feeling. No, but it can't be, you know what I'm saying? My mother and your marriage to my dad for over 18 years, she knows what that man is mad. She knows it's something not right. You know what I'm saying? Even me, I've dated guys that I've loved or whatever, and you know what I'm saying? You can send a text message and I know something isn't right. It requires attention. You're obviously not paying attention. You like me. You're infatuated with me, but you don't love me because you're not paying attention to what I'm doing. You're just doing this relationship for it. Go ahead, Keshia. What was the question that you said in the line between? Yeah, I said, what's the line between too nice and showing somebody you care and you love them? I'll play the line between two if it's a one-way street or if it's a two-way street. Because if that person cares about you too, then they don't see it as you being too nice. They see it as you caring about them. But if that person don't like you, they gonna see it as you being too nice. So I've always been a type of person. I've always seen it as it being a two-way street because I've had guys do things for me that other guys have done for other females and they'll take it as, they ain't too nice. They ain't, he always doing this, but I take it as he just care about me because I care about him. So, that's a really good point. That's a really good point. Another question I have is like, we've all seen situations like this. Whether we've been involved in these situations or not, like, okay, you might be talking to a girl, or a girl, look at me like this. A girl might be talking to two guys, okay? One guy buys her a teddy bear for going for it. The other guy buys her a diamond ring. But the teddy bear guy gets her in the end. Why is that? Who a girl's going to be taking care of? Why is that? Is he gonna buy it? Is he gonna buy it? Is he gonna buy it? Is he gonna buy it? Is he gonna buy it? Is he gonna buy it? Is he gonna buy it? What's the pen? If the teddy... Like, he bought me a ring, I'm not being on duty or what everybody's bought me a ring or whatever. And I liked it, that's okay, cool. But the teddy bear might have had something special. Like, he might have had a Lebron James shirt and be on it, huh? And I love it. So, it's the small things that go into it. That might have been engraving on that ring. It might talk when you press his hand. Okay. Say what? It might talk when you press his hand. I know, right? It's a little bad. It might sing. Rings don't sing. Oh, don't mind me. Okay, buy me a ring. Now, if you go get this ring, like, who's saying get it in grade? You get it in grade with like, our favorite song or something like that. That's gonna make me like, I'm gonna be like, oh, it didn't even got to be able to read it. You're like, hey, you're not bad. But if you just buy me a ring just because you saw it in the store, you can't have that without me. You're lucky that you got the love. Okay. It's giving him his ring. A ring is a symbol of marriage and love and whatever, whatever. But it's like, if you get your teddy bear, you obviously don't feel that type of way towards might have given you a ring. If he given you a ring, it's like, he wants to wipe you. If he's giving you a teddy bear, he wants to thank you and maybe wipe you one day, but not right now. So obviously Yeah, I love you. I love you. I love you. I buy a ring. We stay together. And would you consider that unattractive or like, somebody trying to buy your affection, I guess, I could get my own. So my my stuff is actually negative. No, I mean, if we're buying happy, but if you just can't get or you just think I'm you know, I'm just trying to buy it so you can pay attention to me or I want you to buy you all this. And that's your only way of trying to get my attention. Yeah, the gift is not meaningful. Yeah. Then don't buy it. If I don't like diamond rings, why would you buy me a diamond ring? Because you think you'll make me happy? No. So it's about Yeah, like you say, it's a little thing. I've been in a relationship where like, this person used to buy me a lot of stuff. Just a lot of stuff. We're not together. Like, that's the work for the time being. But if you don't have nothing to back that up, that buy stuff works. It used to work for me when I was younger. I feel like because I was like 18 years old, and I'm like, Oh, my God, I'm just gonna You know about this. I mean, I'm 21 now. So it's like, you buy me stuff. I can go buy, like I said, I can buy my own stuff. Like I'm not saying I don't want nobody to buy me this. And I'm not saying like I'm mis-independent or something like that. But but I'm saying like buy me stuff. I can't be bought. So like the only person who is paying the ultimate price for me is Jesus. That's it. Like you can't, you can't buy me. Just thought that that count bridge. What? Is it that account? Yeah. So everybody here has seen buying videos. We all see vines. And if you watch vine video, do it for vines. I'm gonna do it. But when you watch vine videos, vines videos are, we all know they're meant to be funny, but they're often exaggerations of the truth. Can we agree on that? No, they're exaggerations on the truth. Except for that. Okay. That being said, I saw this vine the other day. Where this dude, he was coming out the store. From the, are you, are you showing me? Are you showing me? Right. Look, the dude is coming out the restaurant and he opened the door for his girl. And he was like, he was like, here you go, babe. Or whatever. And she just walked past me, you know, right? And then all of a sudden, you know how they quickly changed things and he's outfit changed. And he's like, yo, what up, bitch? And smack her on the ass. And she jumps all over him. So And no, no, no, no, no, no, no. It's something I don't know. I don't want to judge everybody here, but I'm from Nigeria and I'm new, you know, kind of new here. And I would say the one American girls are like that. But some girls are used to some silent things. I know when I first came here, I think it was the world go to the club. I was like, oh, eight, oh, nine, oh yeah. You know, in Africa, you say, excuse me, dance, you know. And I went to the club and I said, excuse me, dance. And the girl looked at me like I'm a piece of trash, you know. She looked at me like, what? She probably liked it because she didn't know what she was saying. No, no, no, no, no, no, she, she, she heard it. She heard it. No, someone said I can't dance. That's how you know they heard it. And they heard it. I said, excuse me, dance, you say what? And then I saw some guys come there, you know, you know, grab this girl's like a piece of nothing. Just grab this girl closer. Like the club in my hand, you know how you go to the store, you pick up the clothes. They'll keep dancing and keep dancing. I had to do that for three months. Excuse me, excuse me, dance, no, no. That's the time I went to the club. I went there and grabbed the girl. I said, come here. I grabbed the girl again. And every time I do that, it works for me. So why would I say excuse me, dance, you say, girl. Why if I grab, I should come and dance with you? The environment. They probably do it. They probably do it. That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying. That's what I'm saying. You can't, you can't know that I'm a dancer. That might be nice to you, but it might not be done for us. That's our culture. I'm going to have to pull it back at you. I'm going to pull it back at you. They just be wrong. What's wrong? What's wrong, right? Two girls and one girl who just had old heels for him. She wanted to be with him forever. And this one little side ratchet something and we got them and just used it like this. She may be the one he wanted to do with her. It's the thing that you have forever. You got this girl that's probably white, but that's not what she want right now. It's happened that girl that said that guy was like, dang, he's a good guy. It's because we're 21, we think I can do that later. I'm going to get it. I can get it. Same with God. She's going to be there. We're going to holler at this girl over here. And we just obviously, you know, just don't ask your mother what you're self worth. If you don't know you work more than the side piece or the girl that's just going to be there at the end of the day because you don't keep it. If you don't know you're worth at the end of the day, you've got to understand for it. That was towards the last, I mean nice guy to finish your last or the girl, it's not that it's not recognized. It's just not what you're ready for. It's one thing to say, oh, that she would be there. Yeah, I was going to say that selfishness you feel like because you don't want it now, you keep on the side because you're a man, you do what you want. Oh, yeah. That's what you're convenient. You are convenient. And if you see it that way, change your mind because it's like if you see how the situation always is like, okay, he'll be with this girl and he'll always come back to me because you're convenient. You'd be like, no, because he loves me, no, because you're convenient. Because he knows that you're not going to do it. How much time do you have? 34 minutes, guys. I'm not your convenient, but you're working out. You're working out. You're not going to do it because you feel like you don't want it No, I'm just saying that about saying, you want to keep on playing you were with me, but you leave this for today and be comparing this, not that Well, we've actually actually went out of this topic, but we have to come up with something, you know, we have different views if you mess up But we have to learn. We have to learn. When I had to just talk about our feelings, we want to learn something great, right, probably. But we're not even right now. At the end of the day, we should always think about the future when you want to be taken care of or a guy that doesn't pass the present condition. If he's a nice person, try to feel that way yourself and that person in the future. And what you want, what do you actually want? Because most people don't know what they want. We can say, I want this. I want that. But the flesh sometimes don't really go with that. So if you see a nice guy, no matter how body looks, look past his skin color, look past his muscles, because the greatest things can be felt. Look into your heart. Give them time. You might, I mean, I have some other guys that I love in my life that are very, very, very much in love with you. It's a nice deal with you. I love you. Y'all going to be here? Oh, sure. Right now, man, I'm about to go hit you. This is a good idea. You're special with life. Yeah. I'm just going to hide you. I just say my things. I just say my things. I wouldn't wait for three minutes. You've got to make sure your self is right. Bye bye, motherfuckers. Because your self is right. When you get out of a relationship, you're going to feel like. So that's why you've got to make sure that you, spiritually, incline within yourself before you even get into a relationship, because if you're not there emotionally for yourself, then when you lose that person, you can't feel it for yourself. Even going into depression and all of this, whatever. Exactly, but that's what a lot of people feel that because they don't know how to find themselves. But they find themselves in somebody else. He's not the guys that you're looking for, so. I mean, who said that? Who's like, relationship or trial and error? I mean, you just can't think that this person here is the one. I know people who be like, oh my God, this is the one. You don't know. If you do say that, you're just the one. You've got to believe that relationships are, all you can do is give what you got. That's all you can do. So if it failed, I've always been detainee of every last one of my relationships because I gave what I could at that time being. I'm pretty sure if I can go back in time, I'll probably handle situations differently, but I gave what I could at that time. I'm a lot more mature now, so I can handle situations a lot better. But it's just trial and error. It is what it is. Luckily, I ain't married now, so. That's interesting. So to sum everything up, I want one guy and one woman. You selfish, man. Talk, man, bro. You got to be a good host. To give me their definition of what the friend zone is and what it means to be too nice. I mean, just to sum everything up. Just to sum everything up. Yeah. So who would like to go first? Sum everything up. What is the friend zone? What have we learned today? But what was the point of this? OK, like, the friend zone is basically like the video where somebody throws you down in this pit. No, no, no. Like, I think the friend zone is needed, though, actually, because once you reach that level of being in the friend zone, I think it's a good point to say, well, either the man can step up or the woman can step up if they want to take it further. So I mean, like, the friend zone is basically, if y'all can be considered as friends, that's a good thing. Because I mean, if two people are really cool with each other and they just kick back and chill every now and then, I mean, there's nothing wrong with that. Some people take advantage of just doing that. Some people want to take it further. They don't really appreciate what the time it is when they get it and stuff like that. You just reminded me of a good point. Me, for example, if I'm going to date a girl, if I'm going to talk to a girl, I want to actually be able to be her friend. Like, if we can't actually be friends outside romance, like, there's no point. In my opinion, a lot of people are different. Like, a lot of people, like, if we weren't dating, we wouldn't be friends. Those relationships usually don't work. But what if somebody goes in with those intentions and gets, I guess, categorized in the friend zone, just because I was trying to get to know you as a friend first, before I got to know you as a potential, you know? That's where it's like, the other person. If you ask somebody, like, if you want to take that next step, and somebody's like, no, then they cut them off completely, then that's not right. But if y'all are friends, then you should be able to understand if you did turn them down or something, they should be like, oh, OK, we'll still be cool, whatever, whatever. And then y'all sit on good terms. So, I mean, that's what it is. Does anybody disagree with that? Does anybody have anything to add? Jeremy, want to say something? Yeah. I saw his mouth, he's like, you can talk about this all night. Does anybody have a solution? That's what I'm saying. I'm ready to do this. My boy taking notes. He's about to be upset. I want a clear cut. I'm trying to take a process. Ooh. I don't know. You should have came here for that. Only solution. The only solution. The only solution. One good solution is to like, the only solution is, don't waste your time, delay is dangerous. Don't waste your time, then fantasizing being with you. If you see something you don't like, no, if you don't like, let them know, hey, I want to be your friend. If in the future we connect, that would be good. But right now, let's be friends. So they can make an adjustment if you don't want to go to another girl, then waste time fantasizing being with you. See, that's why it's called friends zone. Because later on, there's no chance that you guys are being in a relationship. That's why I want to be your friend. You know what I'm saying? Most of the one time, you know, to let it blend, you know. I mean, sometimes you've got to realize that person just ain't for you, but there's no, you can't make friends. That's what people go wrong. And y'all waste time trying to build somebody into somebody that you want. Stop wasting time with people that don't fit what you want. Leave them alone. You can't, you can't, like, mold somebody into like, people don't just want to be with you. Sing a bridge. In conclusion, in conclusion, it takes the friends all sometimes to realize that they're one damn person, OK? That happens, man. So we won't let it know what we want. OK, I accept it. Hey. I was trying to say, before y'all leave, before y'all leave, just one more thing. After every meeting, I like, you know, everybody's opinion on what next week's meeting, what next week's discussion topic is. Doin' it for the vine. That's not fair. Tavion is outnumbered. You don't have to do it. You don't have to. They can't make you do anything you don't want to. It's so brownie poins. I don't know how to do that. Start around. Hey, y'all, what's up? There you go. Show your friends, show your kids. There you go. Do your brownie point dance. You don't have one because that's a fucking made-up word. You don't know what brownie points. Where did that come from? Been around for years. If you've never heard that. It's like cool points. Brownie points. Yeah, but what's the significance of the brownie part? It's not. Everybody likes brownies. That's the significance. No, I'm not. Oh, you just want cool points. I understand that though. Because everybody wants to be cool. That's more logical though. Yeah, but brownie points. That must have been an error when everybody was in America. That had to be an error, bro. I know. No, I'm not. Y'all just don't like to think.