 فشرف بل اشتغالي بالعلم ولا تبغي به ما عشت يا بدا بدا وياله من شراف عظيم الحمد لله رب العالمين والصلاة والسلام على أشرف الانبياء والمرسلين سيدنا ونبينا محمد وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بإحسان إلى يوم الدين أما بعد لقد توقفنا في المساعدة عن أسباب الأمور المعينة على الصبري على أدى الخلق الأشياء التي تساعدتك ومساعدتك في حيث تأخذ الناس من الحمد للصلاة لقد توقفنا في الرأس من 20 طريقات التي الشيخ يتكلم أننا في الرأس لقد تأخذ 16 طريقات وإن شاء الله وإن تعالى وإن هذا سيكون 17 الرابع الرأس ويشهد الرأس يستطيع المحاولة إلى حمد للصلاة ويشهد أن المساعدة يتكلم أنه إذا عفا وأحسنة أنه إذا تساعد وأنه يأتي مع أكسلنس أو رطه ذلك من سلامة القلب لإخوانه هذا سيأخذ أحسنة إلى حمده ونقائه من الغشي والغيلي ويأخذ منه جلسي انوي ترسي ترسي ترسي إلى حمده وطالب الانتقامي ويأخذ منه يريد أن يتكلم ويريد أن يأخذ يأخذ من كل ذلك إذا كان يفهم أنه يأخذ أكسلنسي ويأخذ منه إن شاء الله أن يأخذ منه إلى حمده ويأخذ منه من الغشي ويأخذ ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه ويأخذ منه في other words the benefit that the person will reap and the sweetness that the person will gain is far greater the benefits in this world and hereafter is far greater على المنفعات الحاصلة تله بالانتقام then the sweetness that he gains when he retaliates and he takes revenge اضعافة مضعافة multiplied your sweetness and the joy that you will gain in this world and the happiness that you will gain and the sweetness that you will gain in forgiving is far more better than the sweetness and the benefits that you will gain in retaliating taking revenge and the sheikh then goes on to saying and it enters under the verse of Allah والله يحب المحسينين الله loves the محسينين the righteous ones so the person becomes يصير محبوبا لله he becomes beloved to Allah because he's a محسين now ويصير حاله and then his situation becomes حال من أخذ منه درهم and his situation is going to be like one who a dirham was taken from him and dirham is what it was a currency that was made out of gold درهم is gold and دينار is what دينار is gold right and the dirham is silver I may be wrong in one of the ways one is gold and one is silver I think درهم is silver and دينار is gold it is like a person who a dirham was taken from him a silver was taken from one silver and he was exchanged for him a thousand دينار دنانير a thousand golds so in other words the currency is better and the amount is also more so your situation is like that like as though one dirham was taken from you and then what was given to you in exchange فعوض عليه ألف من الدنانير a thousand دينار was given to you فحين إذن at this moment يفرح بما منن الله عليه يكونوا at this point the person will become so happy and joyful on that which الله سبحانه وتعالى has bestowed upon him he will be more happier than any other way so this is very important this one that the sheikh is mentioning that forgiving and letting go is better for your heart and you know there is a saying they say keeping a person in your heart is allowing a person to live in your property without paying rent why does this person deserve to be living in your heart for the other one who is carrying this stress and this headache they are probably out there not worried about nothing so the minute you let go and you forgive you forget your heart is actually a state of tranquility and also the evil thoughts that were running in your head and the things that you were thinking to yourself to get this person back to retaliate, revenge the evil that you wanted for this person will go and then you will enjoy yourself in this world you will enjoy yourself because you will be stressless you see and in the hereafter what awaits for you is greater you are from the محسينين you have gained the love of Allah so you are basically the reason why you will forgive and forget is because whatever this person can do to you in this world and whatever they can put you through in this world for forgiving and forgetting and letting go allows you to get better and greater things in the hereafter so you've exchanged a better value you've taken a better deal in what you could have gained in this world then you're a wise person the fifth one the شيخ رحمه الله he says and he knows that the person knows that you do not ever retaliate or take revenge to a person you never take revenge from a person قطن whatsoever except that it will inherit you humility in which you will find in yourself you feel humiliated in yourself the شيخ is trying to say this point the first sentence that what you need to know is that there is not a person who takes revenge whatsoever for himself except that this inherits him humiliation which he finds internally فإذا عفى but if he forgives and he goes and this is what he informed us of the one who is truthful and the one who has been taken and been considered as truthful ما زاد الله عبداً بعفو إلا عزا that Allah does not increase a person in forgiveness except honour in other words forgiving increases you in honour but you brothers all know the way that the messenger said it here has a very strong meaning which is that the ما here is ما نافية negation and then that negation comes after it what? how we stiff that comes إلا عزا is there by forgiving you gain nothing except honour from it فالعزو الحاصل الله بالعفو the honour in which a person gains through forgiveness is more beloved to him and is more beneficial for him than the honour he will gain in retaliating or taking revenge the honour that you gain in forgiving is far more beloved to you is more beneficial for you than the honour than the benefit sorry that you gain or the honour that you gain from taking revenge why? because one of them when you take it the one when you take revenge for yourself is only an honour that is external and this is عزا في الظاهر it is only externally in the eyes of the people or in the outer world you might look unrepored و هو يورث في الباطن ذلن but what it inherits you internally is humiliation و العفو ذلن في الباطن و هو يورث العزا باطن و ظاهرا and the sheikh says that forgiveness it inherits internally and this is based on what the perception of the people you ظنوا في من عفا أن هذا ذل automatically the people perceive you as a person who is what humiliated و العفو ذلن في الباطن but he says but he said in reality is that it inherits you on an internally it liberates you and frees you from the humum and that is very powerful number 6 he said و هو من أعظم الفوائد this one is one of the greatest benefits in his speech this one is one of the greatest benefits which is أن يشهد that the person bears witness أن الجزاء من جنس العمل that the reward is in accordance to the actions و أن و أنه نفسه ظالم مذنب that you yourself are an oppressive sinner و أن من عفا عن الناس عفا الله عنه and anyone who forgives the people الله تبارك وتعالى و من غفر لهم غفر الله له and anyone who forgives and forgives the people الله تبارك وتعالى will forgive you wipe away from you your shortcomings فإذا شهد if the person bears witness to that أن عفوه عنهم و صفحه و إحسانه مع إساءتهم إليه سبب ببن جزيه لأنه يقول جزيه الله كذلك من جنس العمل و يقول if the person testifies that he is forgiveness and he is letting go forgetting so he is not only forgiving but he is forgetting it turning a blind eye and also و إحسانه حتى those who have dealt with him in an evil way مع إساءة إليه they've dealt with him in an evil manner it is a سبب it will be a reason it will be a reason for Allah to reward you in accordance to the action of yours so the way you turned away from their mistake towards you are you turned a blind eye to it and you let go of it even though they are dealing with you in an in an evil way then this act of yours is the way Allah is going to deal with you فيعفو عنه الله will forgive you ويصفح and he will let go ويحسن إليه على ذنوبه and Allah will be good towards you in the sin that you have done ويسول عليه أعفه وصبره and when you tell me says الله will make it easy for you as well in your forgiveness towards the people and your patience towards the people الله will make it easy for you to be able to do it now ابن تيمر then says ويكف العقل هذه الفائدة this is a sufficient for an intellectual person a smart person this one alone is enough for him as a benefit that he remembers دقائدة which الجزاء من جنس العمل that is enough for him to say to himself that i will forgive and forget so this one helps you definitely a lot number seven أن يعلم that the person knows أنه إذا اشتغلت أنه إذا اشتغلت نفسه that the person knows إذا اشتغلت نفسه if your your soul بيزيز itself so the person knows with unwavering conviction that if his nefs his soul busy itself بالانتقامي it busy itself with revenge and it preoccupies its time with revenge and how to get the person back وطلب وطلب المقابلة and he wants to give him in return exactly what he did to him in other words revenge ضاع عليه زمانه your time will get wasted like that وتفرق عليه قلبه and you will you will divide your heart and your heart should have been all focused you lose focus of whatever you're trying to achieve your brain should have been focused on something more important but here what you've done to your heart is you've divided it and you've also wasted your time and then شخص says وفاته من مصالحه and also you miss very beneficial things ما لا يمكن استدراك with things that you can never get hold of again things that you cannot gain again things that you cannot catch up with anymore you lose everything you could have done in that period of time where you busyed your mind and your heart to just think about retaliation and revenge and revenge all you did is you wasted time you see you've also lost focus of what you should have been doing you've made yourself lose opportunities that went by ولعل هذا أعظم عليه ولعل هذا أعظم عليه وقل maybe this ولعل هذا أعظمه and he said maybe this is great عليه on the person من المصيبة التي نالته من جهتهم and maybe it is possible that this becomes greater in calamity than whatever you had endured from the person this is actually a greater calamity that you wasted your time you've lost focus in life you've missed opportunities that came by maybe that's a greater calamity than what this person put you through but if you forgive فإذا عفا وصفح فرغ قلبه وجسمه لمصالحه التي أهم عنده من الامتقام but if you forget and you let go then your focus comes back your mind is is there and your body is ready and prepared for the things that are beneficial for it then what من الامتقام then a revenge so your mind is there your body is there and your focusing what's more important in life for you to achieve number eight that also the person bears witness that your revenge and your retaliation and you bringing yourself honor and victory for yourself you know and you bear witness what من تقام لنفسه قط that the messenger of Allah never took revenge for himself so you know and you bear witness that this retaliation and this revenge that you want to come with and this victory that you want to give to your nefs that the prophet of Allah will never عليه الصلاة والسلام took revenge for himself فإذا كان هذا خير خلق الله وأقربهم if this is the best of creation and the most honorable of the creations of Allah لم ينتقم لنفسه never to revenge for himself مع أن أداهه أد الله even that though harming the messenger is harming Allah ويتعلق به حقوق الدين and also harming the messenger صلى الله عليه وسلم is a religious duties is connected to it ونفسه and the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم it is the most honorable of souls وازكاها the most purified one وابرها and the most obedient of them and he is the one who is the furthest from any evil traits and characteristics وأحقها بكل خلق جميل and he is the one who is most befitting for every good characteristics that is out there ومع هذا مع كل هذا فلم يكن ينتقم لها he never took revenge for himself فكيف ينتقم أحدونا لنفسه so then how could one of us take revenge for himself التي هو أعلم بها how could one of us take revenge for himself when you truly know that which is within your soul من أشروري in terms of its evil how are you going to take revenge for it when you know how evil it is and how much come is your soul has rather the man who truly knows and understands لاتساوي نفسه عنده the one who truly knows himself who is smart he knows that his soul is not equal to any revenge that should be taken for it in other words he does not see his soul deserving of a revenge و لا قدر لها عنده يجب عليه انتصاره انتصاره لها and it has no status to him that necessitates for him to bring his soul and a victory so the smart person is the one who knows him so his his soup comes very well and he knows his mistakes and he knows that his soul is not a one is not one that deserves a retaliation or revenge لا and this onelers in the beginning of the sheikh statement is that he brought you the Prophet as an example and we are commanded in the Quran as لقد كان لكم في رسول الله أسوة حسنة لمن كان يرجو الله و اليوم الآخرة و ذكر الله كثيرا فهو ever hopes for Allah and the day of judgment رسول الله عليه وسلم لنفسه في شيء يؤتى إليه حتى ينتهك من حرمات الله و ينتقم لله رسول الله تعالى عنها she said until Allah subhanahu و تعالى's boundaries that he set is broken فينتقبوا لله و تقرأ رفع الله تعالى anyone who reads the prophet's biography will realize that he never took revenge for himself rather he never got angry for himself even though he salawatullah and peace be upon him he was harmed many times if you read his seerat al atirah you will never see that he never took revenge for himself so for you one of the things that will help you is what to be patient upon the harm that the people put you through is you look at the prophet's biography and you ponder and you analyze and you strive and you fight to be one who follows his footsteps صلوات الله وسلامه و عليه التاسعو number nine the sheikh says إن أوذي على ما فعله لله so this point inshallah و تعالى the sheikh is going to speak about this one so we have an understanding proper before I translate it is that the creations harm to you it happens in three ways the sheikh mentions those three the first one is that the people harm you because of a religious issue for your religion you're calling them to the good you're prohibiting them from evil you're doing da'wah to them then the sheikh is going to tell us how to deal with that the second one is that you are harmed because of some evil which you came with then the sheikh says how to deal with it then the third one is you are being oppressed and you have been afflicted with harm from the creation based on a worldly issue which is not necessarily haram then how do you deal with it then those are the three and the sheikh tells us what to do in those situations so let's mention the first one and the second one and the third one he says and all of them are in the ninth one he says the sheikh says if you are being harmed in something you are doing for the sake of Allah or something you were commanded to do and you were doing it because Allah commanded you to do it and you were following His command and somebody harms you because of that or you were staying away from something you were prohibited from because Allah told you to stay away from it but then you get harmed because of that واجب عليه الصبر it is obligatory for you to be patient ولم يكله الانتقام and it is not permissible for you to take revenge on this one and you cannot take retaliation because you were harmed for the sake of Allah because you were on the path of Allah that's why you were harmed فأدره على الله your reward is with Allah and then the sheikh gives you a powerful evidence for this he says well you had that because of that لما كان المجاهدون في سبيل الله those who are fighting in the cause of Allah when they lost their blood when they died ذهب الدماءهم وأموالهم في الله they got killed and their wealth got distributed and taken لم تكن مظمونة لم تكن مظمونة there was no guarantee placed on it in Islam when these people kill a Muslim in a battle and they are fighting if that person repents from this act and becomes a Muslim we won't say to him you killed a Muslim so we are going to kill you for it this blood of the مجاهد is not guaranteed for a soul a soul for a soul it's not enough to be nefs why فإن الله هشترى منهم أنفسهم أموالهم الله boot his soul from him and Allah boot his wealth from him فالسمنه على الله لا على الخلق the money is upon Allah تبارك وتعالى not upon the creation فمن طالب السمنة منهم you are the مجاهد is in a trading with Allah and if you request who is the one who bought your nefs from you who is the one who is going to give you the money for it الله سبحانه وتعالى whoever goes and then ask the creation for it لم يكن له على الله يثمنه then remember you have no money with Allah تبارك وتعالى because Allah bought it from you your nefs you see pay attention here powerful Allah tells the سبحانه وتعالى that the مجاهد who is fighting in his cause Allah brought his nefs from him and his أموال when you buy something what do you do? I take your product and I give you money in return so the مجاهد lost his nefs so Allah took his nefs from him so where is the semen the semen is Jannah because Allah says إن الله اشترى من المؤمنين أنفسهم أموالهم بأن لهم الجنة the semen is Jannah if retaliation is taken on his behalf on his behalf then he is asked the semen from other than Allah when it was from Allah that he should have got it so for example the مجاهد loses his wealth he is still alive but he loses his wealth and his wealth gets destroyed in the battlefield and then because of that he tries to take retaliation for his wealth and tries to regain his wealth then he here should have waited for Allah to give it to him because Allah says to him إن الله اشترى من المؤمنين أنفسهم وأموالهم بأن لهم الجنة you already exchanged it for Jannah so you shouldn't ask anyone for it you should be patient for Jannah the day of judgment when it comes you see فإنو من كان في الله تلفه كان على الله خلفه anyone who loses anything in the cause of Allah then Allah will exchange it for him is something else pay attention so this is the person who is calling to the good he is like the مجاهد this is the jihad that you are in so when you get harmed when you get put through hardship فصبر كما صبر أول العزم من الرسول be patient like the messengers the five chosen prophets the way they were patient be patient like that and endure this suffering for the cause of Allah for his religion that's the first one it's the first harm that the creation put you through for the sake of this religion the second one is وَإِنْ كَانَا قَدْ أُوْدِيَ عَلَى مُصِيبَةٍ but if you were harmed because of a mischief a calamity that came from you فاليرجع then go back to yourself below me in blame على نفسه ويكون في لومه له شغل على لومه لمن أده and make and preoccupy your time with blaming yourself then preoccupy yourself in blaming those who harmed you because this one is what Allah says in the ayah before أما أصابكم من مصيبة there is no trials and tribulations and a calamity that befalls on you except it is what فبما كسبت أيديكم ويعفوا عن كثير the third one is وَإِنْ كَانَا قَدْ أُوْدِيَ عَلَى حَضٍ and if you are then harmed because of a worldly issue حض من حضوض الدنيا فاليوطن نفسه على الصبر then exercise your soul upon patience فإنني لأ الحضوض دونه أمر أمر من الصبر فمن لم يصبر على حر الهواجر والأمطار والثلوجي اما شقة الأسفار والوصوص الطريق وإلا فلا حاجت له في المتاجبتي الشيخ من here mentions if you are being harmed because of a worldly issue then be patient upon it because remember a person who does not show patience on what the heat the rain the ice and the cold weather and the hardship of traveling from one land to another land then you are really not ready to trade are you you show patience for that then the sheikh says that a believer has more rights for you to be patient with him وذا أمر معلومة عند الناس انما صدق في طلب شيء من الأشياء بدل من الصبر في تحصيله بقدر صدقه في طلبه the sheikh says this is a known matter that a person this is a known matter that a person who is truthful in his quest in something in his love and his passion for his word he loves his job then this person you see that he gives a lot of patience towards everything that comes his way and the patience is in accordance to his passion and love for his job so if that's the case for a job and a worldly matter you show that patience for it then your brother is more befitting your Muslim brother for you to be patient for a worldly reason is more befitting number 10 اي اشهد that you bear witness معية الله ذهر الله is with you إذا صبرا if you show patience ومحبة الله له and الله تبارك وتعالى is love for you إذا صبرا if you show patience وريضاه ذهر الله is pleased with you ومن كان الله معه دفع عنه أنواع الأذى الله will repel from you all types of hardship and harm والمضرات all types of hardship and harms and calamities and pain and agony ما لا يدفع عنه أحد من خلقه he will repel it from you he will defend it from you that which no creation can defend from you قال الله تعالى الله says وصبر be patient إن الله مع الصابرين الله is with those who are patient الله سبحانه وتعالى he is with the one who is patient and this معية is معية ونخاصة is not the general type of معية that معية are two types as Ibn Rajem mentions in his general that Allah is with you here Allah is with you that معية ونخاصة بالتأييد ونصر which will help Allah is with you not only that وقال تعالى الله also says الله يحب الصابرين الله loves those who are patient الله loves those who are patient الله loves you سبحانه وتعالى you gain the love of Allah and we all know my beloved brothers and sisters that the matter is not that you love Allah ليس الشأن أنتحب ولكن الشأن كل الشأن أنتحب the matter is not that you love Allah the truth of the matter is that He loves you in return because we could all love but what really matters is that we are loved in return so you gain the love of Allah by being patient and that's what you gain