 says he's he loves me but not in love with me okay so he's actually talked to you about this won't touch me in any way even if i want to he turns me away and we talk about having a child because i do not have any i'm 39 he's 45 well what you okay keeps continuing she's like continuations going on and on here so he has three already now saying he does not want a new baby yeah i mean this is a serious problem and it's something that you guys need to have some real dialogue about and go to a therapist about and talk to and decide whether this is something that you want to continue or not because if he's if he's going total 180 direction and all of a sudden you guys are married you've been married for five months and he's losing his mind and in flipping the script on you that's a serious problem and you need to communicate to him that it's a serious problem for you and that you're not going to you know you're not going to stay in a situation that's that's you know you thought was really amazing and all of a sudden he's completely done a 180 and going in the exact opposite direction and that you know this isn't this isn't what you signed up for and that you need to have a real conversation and talk about if this is really the direction that he's going or if he has some stress or something that's making him act act out and act differently and find out and like i said real conversation talk to him about it and find out about that