 the narcissist will come back instantly if you do this. I know what it's like for many of you you have been involved with the narcissist and they idealized you in the beginning they love bombed you they put you on a pedestal and in the beginning they saw you as perfect they were texting you every day calling you every day seeing you every day and then suddenly they devalued you they put you on the pedestal then they knocked you off they insulted you they put you down all of these things and they left you in a state of confusion and then finally they discarded you or you just got tired of the abuse and you left them alone and you still want them to come back because you've developed an attachment and you may also be experiencing the trauma bond so you desire to be in contact with them again although you may not be in contact with them right now or you may be but you're just not seeing them so that's what this video is about it's about getting the narcissist to come back instantly because I know many of you you may be feeling alone isolated they just left you in a state of confusion and now you don't know where they go and who they're with so I understand that and yeah that's what I'm gonna get into in this video to help you to get them back in such a short time instantly even of course won't be instantly in every situation but a lot of times yes this will work so what you need to do is you need to realize that you have developed this attachment to the narcissist and I'm not saying that attachments are inherently bad no of course not that's not what I'm saying at all sometimes attachments can be good but it should be a two-way thing when not only are you attached to them but they're attached to you as well and then it's reciprocal but the problem you have with the narcissist is narcissists want you to attach to them but it doesn't do anything for them to attach to you and then that's how you find yourself in the trauma bond where they abuse you and then you're seeking validation from them to know that you're okay instead of you validating yourself and that's really the key here because that is what helps you to detach from the narcissist it's not just when you watch my videos and I give you the validation that you're looking for although yes that may help but what my videos are really intended to do is to help you to validate yourself and when you do that not only will it help you to disengage from the narcissist and to move on with your life and become the best version of yourself not only that but it will also get the narcissist to come back instantly because as I said it's the attachment and they know that you're always going to be waiting for them the narcissist knows already all they have to do is send you a text call you on the phone and you will be there for them immediately they already know that they know that all they have to do is just bring back the false character and they've got you in an instant of course they know that but they're not going to do that they're not going to return it back to the love bombing phase especially when they know that they don't have to do that why would they do it when they know you're already waiting for them you're waiting for them to come back so there's no need for them to even engage with you to text you to call you to see you there's no need for them to do that and of course you have to remember as well narcissists are self-absorbed and they lack empathy so they don't feel any compassion for you they don't care about what you're going through after they may have abandoned you they left you alone without any closure without an explanation for why they left or they abused you they devalued you and you just got fed up and left because you knew you were never going to get an explanation from them so they do not care about you they don't have any compassion for you they only care about themselves and that's another reason how they could just move on and they're probably going to fall with someone else as well that's how they could do that to you so knowing that as well it should make it that much easier for you to focus on yourself and your own life and the things that you are passionate about the things that you are interested in it should make it that much easier for you to do that because i can promise you even though this may get the narcissist back instantly one thing it's not going to get you is anything real i've said it before loads of times i've said before that the best you will ever get from a narcissist is an illusion you're not going to get anything real and that means you're not going to get any closure validation nothing yeah they might come back with a fake apology false epiphany promises that they're going to change future faking lies all of this they might come back with that but the problem is it's not going to be real and that means it's just going to be words it doesn't mean that they're actually going to change anything another thing that i've said before as well is that narcissists cannot change they are never going to change just as you may be an empath you are never going to change as well you're always going to be an empath you're never going to become a narcissist that is completely impossible just as a narcissist is never never going to not be a narcissist so that doesn't mean they're just going to come back and everything's going to be all right no it doesn't work that way they're not going to come back and then suddenly start to care about you and you need to understand that because when you do it will make it that much easier for you to disengage and detach i'll ask really the thing as well you know it's kind of funny when you think about it but it's completely true right now you may want the narcissist so bad it's like if there's one thing you want in the entire world you just want them to come back you just want to see their face again and the funny thing is when you do detach and you focus on yourself and your own life to be honest you're not even going to give a shit about them you're not even going to care and everything that you thought they were you're going to see them differently and you might look back at old pictures and think what the fuck was i doing with that and that is exactly how you're going to think you you're just going to wonder and you're going to see them as though they were not as attractive as they were to you before because by then your tastes may have changed and your opinions about them as well especially after you've been watching my videos and you're validating yourself and all of these things then of course you are going to start to see them differently you're not even going to care you're not even going to want them back it all depends on your feelings it's your feelings especially if you identify as an empath and you have to recognize that your feelings can change from one moment to the next so you might want them back right now but after some time and if they take some time especially if you've been with them for a while give it a few weeks maybe a few months your feelings are going to change especially if you haven't cared for them in that amount of time because by that point you're going to know that they don't care about you and that's really how you go look at it you've got to think if this person loved me if this person really cared about me and wanted the best for me and they were meant to be the best for me where are they now where are they now that's how you've got to think because they want you to think as though yes I am the best for you and yes I care about you and I want to make you happy I want a future with you but for some reason I'm just not here right now for some reason something else is more important or I'm doing it for you that's why I'm not with you that's how they want you to think but does that sound right to you think about it from your own perspective because if you really cared about someone you would be there for them you would do whatever you need to do so that's how you know that really they don't give a shit about you they really don't they don't care and I'm not saying this to hurt you I'm just saying this to wake you up because you need to know the truth and then that will help you to move on when you know that they don't mean you any well they haven't got your best interest in mind and all they cared about is themselves and using you for whatever you've got and then I was there they just ran off to the next person because that's what they did isn't it and if you're taking them back it's just going to happen again it's going to get worse they've done it before they're going to do it again if they love bomb duty vow discarded pound a new supply and are you seeing them with someone else they cheated on you of course they're gonna do that again why wouldn't they especially if they got away with it they did all these things to you without any consequences and honestly if you take them back you would disrespecting yourself and you have to take some responsibility for that if you allow someone to disrespect you you are disrespecting yourself and you need to remind yourself of that so but of course I completely understand with the you've developed an attachment to this person because you remember the false character I know they seem so loving and caring in the beginning and you thought they meant well for you but you have to stop looking in the past you need to look at what they're doing now whatever they've been doing recently because that's what is most important they discarded you they left you they found someone else so you have to remember that but as I said because I do understand that some of you you you want the closure but you're not going to get that anyway and you want the validation I guess in some ways it could validate you if you do get them back and you can get them back almost instantly if you just disengage go no contact and detach because when you do that they will sense that your energy is slipping away remember they feed off your energy that is what fuels them I do that it's true I know they may have a new supply but that new supply may not be doing it the way that you were doing it because you may have been their grade A primary source this new person could just be a bit on the side something they use for sexual purposes so that means that they may not they may not hold such a significant position as you did to them so if you disengage they may not have so much supply somewhere else if it's just someone on the side for sexual purposes and then you cut them off but even then even though they may have a new supply and that could be a new grade A supply in some situations they will still come back they will still come back to you because it's that energy it's just that feeling of knowing that you want them knowing that they can have you if they want to that's that's really it that's really the underlying reason that's what's playing in the back of their mind is that you know they know that if they if they really switch it up and you they could have you if they wanted you it's the arrogance the audacity of the narcissist really I mean they think they're the best things in sliced bread and it's kind of like they but they make you believe that there's this whole other side to their personality that they're not giving to you and as though if they did put in maximum effort then they could get you to do what they want but as I said before in my other videos that isn't real as well I can assure you that everything you saw everything you got from the narcissist that was it that was what they had to offer there isn't another side to their personality that is it that's as far as it goes that really is it and again being aware of that it does make it a lot easier for you to disengage and detach because what you're doing is you're believing in the illusion the illusion of them being more than what they actually are so you need to stop that and then recognize what you are actually dealing with remember all of the abuse all of the things you went through because you went through a lot of things with them and it affected you it brought you down it made you feel like shit so you do have to remember that remember especially how it made you feel and if a person is capable of making you feel that way they're not going to make you feel good if they do come back but yes they can come back they can come back instantly if you really want them to and all you have to do is disengage detach focus on yourself your own life your passions your interests it's like as soon as they see that you're moving on oh then they got to come back then they got to come back straight away because that's really the last thing they want to see is you healing and moving on with your life they don't want to see that that is the last thing that they want to see but that is the first thing that you need to do and you need to do it as soon as you can because when you do that you will take back your power you will take back control over your own life and then you will feel much better about yourself you will feel more confident in what you're trying to do and what you're trying to achieve so yeah that's all you got to do that really is it and when you do that it may not seem like it right now but I can promise you it will feel incredible it will feel amazing it will be the best feeling you've ever experienced in your life I can promise you that even though it may not seem like it right now because you feel trapped you feel contained you feel lonely you feel isolated I know that because you've been left alone you've been left confused by the narcissist and I can tell you that and I am quoting Richard Granny here but however you feel after you've been involved with a narcissist that is exactly how they wanted you to feel of course in the beginning euphoric it's an incredible feeling of course but then when it comes to the devaluation and the discard it's the same thing again however you feel that's exactly how they want you wanted you to feel so that's something to keep in mind as well but yeah when you move on and you live your best life and you become the best version of yourself I can promise you that it will feel amazing it will and that that's exactly how I wanted to feel for all of you I want you all to move on and live your best lives and when you do that well at least when you're in the process of doing that that is when the narcissist will come flying back they will come to get you but it's only just to pull you back down and to show you why you're not happy you'll never be happy without them that's how they want you to think that isn't actually the truth but you will you will find happiness without them you will do that in time it doesn't happen overnight it will take some time but you will get there eventually and I just want you all to know that but yeah as you probably noticed I am out here on the beach I'm actually living my best life right now as I do every day of course that doesn't mean that everything is perfect in my life I just find a way to make the most of it every day and of course this is meant to inspire you this is meant to motivate you to do exactly what I'm doing right now and I can promise you it feels amazing for me to be out here every day I am living my best life and I just want you to do that as well and you will do that let me know if you've got any questions down in the live chat below I will read them out and respond to them I'm in the mood for answering questions today I've got a bit of time so let's do it right now it's really hot out here though you can probably see I know I'm sweating a bit Bernice says really love the lives enjoy seeing your travels I'm glad to hear that Bernice yes I am traveling all the time I've actually been traveling now every day for the past four and a half years I've been all over the world all over the UK and Thailand Vietnam Malaysia Sri Lanka South Korea and Japan you never know where I'm going to be next so watch out yeah let me know your questions down below I will respond to them now oh this is a good question high fly g123 how do you determine if a new person you are interested in it's a narcissist yes that is an excellent question and it is actually very difficult to determine that to determine if the person you're involved with in dating or a romantic relationship in the beginning is a narcissist because in the beginning a lot of people can seem narcissistic it's true I mean I'm sure I might myself if I am dating someone new I could definitely come across as narcissistic especially after having dealt with narcissists in the past I might be quite distressful paranoid I might not reveal too much about myself in the beginning so I could come across as being self-absorbed I'm like an empathy and I could be perceived as being narcissistic and I think a lot of people can so yes unfortunately it is very difficult to tell in the beginning when you're dating someone if they are narcissistic or not it can be difficult to tell and that's the whole point that's how so many people end up with narcissists because if it was easy to tell then you wouldn't end up with them at all you would know straight away but of course there are certain red flags there are certain things that will reveal to you what you're dealing with and you've only got to look back at the narcissists that you were dealing with to see those red flags because they were there you just overlooked them they may have said certain things to you that didn't seem right and it showed that they were lacking empathy that they were self-absorbed that they weren't considering you or concerned about you but at the same time people have their own lives as well I mean you might not be so concerned about someone in the beginning if you don't really know them yet sometimes that can be a healthy response if you're overextending yourself too much in the beginning that's not so healthy so that's something to keep in mind as well and I do think that a lot of you after you've been involved with a narcissist you may find that you're detecting narcissists everywhere you may feel a bit paranoid you may think oh I've seen that before and it may scare you so that's definitely another thing as well is to recognize when you may be feeling paranoid and distrustful of people because of course you know after you've been involved with a narcissist you've taken the time to heal you've got to get back out there into dating and meeting new people it's not healthy to be alone for a long period of time so you do need to trust again doesn't mean that you have to go black pill and just cut off all men or women altogether doesn't mean you have to do that just pay attention to the signs the red flags because that's important too so I hope that helps to answer your question Edgar Neil I still stalked as you probably know I've done a lot of videos on stalking yes narcissists they are prone to stalking their targets especially those who they perceive to be as weak or vulnerable when in reality those people are actually very strong and it's the narcissist who is weak and that's why they're prone to stalking because they can't control their own emotions but yes narcissists they will stalk they develop this obsessive attachment to certain targets because there's something about you but at the same time it's not it's not a complete attachment because they can't fully attach that's the whole point if they could fully attach then there would be no problem and they wouldn't be stalking it's like a half attachment and they're half detached at the same time and that's what causes them to constantly stalk because it's kind of like I've got you oh wait no I haven't yes now I have but it keeps them coming back to try and see can they finally conquer you because that's really what they're trying to do they're trying to conquer you they're trying to dominate you and they want to try and control everything around you and turn you into their own personal puppet pull the strings because that's really what they're going to do they want to dominate you people stalk because they want to intimidate you scare you dominate you control you and ultimately it's because they are very envious and jealous of you thank you for the donation neomass I appreciate it for the live chat here pink says I ignored the red flags I failed myself yeah we do a lot of us do I've done it myself I ignored the red flags in the past we just don't notice it until later we overlook it and I think that's because many of us who were lonely maybe we were just bored and we wanted some company we thought we found someone we resonated with someone who was on our level and yeah we just gave ourselves to this person we were all in and then we later found that they weren't really about that they weren't on the same level after all they weren't down they weren't with it they weren't all of these things and yeah now you look back and you feel stupid you do you feel like how could I have done that but that's just it you know it's like love makes you blind it does you don't see what's happening right in front of you because you're so focused on what you want and of course what you want is you want to build something with someone someone who's about it like you're about it someone who you want to be on the same page on the same frequency that you want a relationship a future something long-term and you just automatically assume that they're about that too you just automatically assume that because of what they're telling you and what they're showing you you have to recognize that not everyone goes down like that not everyone is real like that some people they are out to trick you to deceive you because that's how they get their feel the validation that's how they feel better about themselves and of course they already know that they're not gonna be any good for you anyway so yeah that's that Brenda Campbell why would they want you back when they left you for someone else isn't this person better how they feel about a person that doesn't stay that way forever so yes in the beginning they could see the other person is being better that's only because they spent so much time around you they've drained the life of you and you're not just you're not worth anything anymore in their eyes because they're always around you and and to the narcissist your value is based upon how much time they spend with you the more time they spend with you the more your value goes down and the new person they don't see them much that causes that value to keep going up so yours is going down theirs is going up and narcissists they always see the grass being greener on the other side so and they also think in black and white so if you're bad then someone else has to be good if you're flawed someone else has to be perfect in the beginning but of course as they begin to spend more more time with them their value starts going down too as they're draining the life they're sucking the energy out of them and they're draining probably their bank account as well so of course their value will start to go down and then they will re-idealize you sometimes unless they have someone else lined up they may start to see you as being perfect again and now suddenly you're better and that's when they try to come back to you so i hope that helps i've answered a few questions and if you have any more questions or you'd like help with your situation just know that i am available or when i'm on coaching which you can book on my website it's Narcsepiver.co.uk i am sweating now it's pretty hot over here but i've had a good time i enjoy the beach i enjoyed seeing all the monkeys all the things there i'm gonna get back in the car and i'm gonna gonna continue with the next part of my trip so yeah just like thank you all thank you all for your support and as always i will talk to you in another one very soon