 Hi, my name is Mitch Mitchell. I don't always tell my name, but I figured I would tell it because I haven't said it in a long time I'm hoping to do a bit interview with someone in a couple of weeks, but I'll be doing it on my other channel So you mean I've known who I am. My name is Mitch Mitchell. I thank you for watching So here's what I'm gonna talk about today You know on Tuesday, I went up to visit my mother now I live about 90 minutes away from her and mom now is 77 years old. She has slowed down a lot Luckily, I've been able to get her to walk around the house She has a handicap sticker because of her legs, but I gave her kind of a walking program and she started doing it So she moves a lot better, but truthfully she's slow and she's not just slow walking She's slow pretty much in everything she does For instance when I go up a lot of times we'll go to subway and I will buy us subs and we'll go home And then it takes her about 20 minutes before she even gets to the first bite That's just how it is with a lot of older people. They get to this certain point They have things where they're regimented and it has to be done their way Actually, I'm kind of like that now myself, but the thing is I do things kind of fast That's the reason I'm kind of regimented because it helps me get through things fast But for mom she gets through things slow Everyone has probably been to the store where you see older people who are moving pretty slow That's just how it is a lot of us are gonna be there probably if we all live to at least 70s We're all gonna slow down. That's just how it is So I'm there at mom's and we decide to go out to the store to buy some stuff So we go to Wegmans in the Rochester area because they know that's where mom lives and Wegmans is the major chain In this area, so we're at the store and we walk around and we get all the stuff and So we go to the checkout counter now There was just one lady in front of us when we got there So we put the stuff up and that lady's done and so now it's mom's turn So I'm standing in front of mom because I put everything up on the conveyor belt for her and Then this other guy comes and he puts his stuff up on the conveyor belt This may have been a guy somewhere around my age. That's the best I have and Mom is moving kind of slow and I happen to say to mom. Oh, it looks like they're Collecting money for some of the children. They've got these bags here that they've already Packaged it with dollar amounts. She says I usually just try to give money for charity. So okay, fine I didn't I didn't know you could just give Wegmans money for charity. So we get up there. She you know The lady tells her how much it is mom pays it and then mom Tries to give her a five dollar bill and the lady says well, what's this five dollar bill for? She said I'm trying to give it for the charity So the lady tries to explain what the bags are and mom's not quite getting it You know mom is actually still pretty sharp But this was just one of the things that was confusing her the guy behind her Lost his control and he started banging on the conveyor belt now I'm watching this guy and I'm earthed and My first instinct was to go behind mom Get in his face and ask him if he had a problem and dare him to start something. Yes I'm now 56 years old. I haven't been in a fight since I was 19 years old. Actually, that's not even quite true I don't think I've been in a fight since I was 16 or 17 You know I was big enough so that you know sometimes you can get in someone's face to dare them to do it But most of the time, you know actually all the times it just never happened But I get angry really quick and I was angry at this time because I like this guy You know showing his anger towards my mom now. She didn't notice it And I really wanted to do something but I didn't because I'm the guy who talks about Trying to have patience and not do something to someone because you don't know what their situation is But in this instant, I was angry as anything. So instead I held it and I said mom We'll take care of this the next time we come. I think the guy behind you has something He needs to get done and then we leave now this guy probably felt no shame But I made sure I said it loud enough so he could hear it because he was being a jerk now for the next five minutes I'm angry as anything. I Just was really angry and mom who missed it. She's not angry at all. She wants to talk to me And I'm fighting myself because I don't want to snap at mom because this other guy had made me mad and And Eventually I did calm down and I had all these other great lines that popped into my mind that I just wanted to slap back at him but I didn't and You know, I was thinking about it because of what I just kind of said a second ago We never know what other people have going on in their lives now. This guy didn't look like he had to be anywhere Really fast. I mean, you know, he's wearing shirt, you know shorts And he's got a short-sleeve shirt on so, you know, he certainly wasn't missing a meeting He didn't have tons of things on the conveyor belt as a matter of fact I don't know why he didn't go to the seven or fewer lines where he could have gone through quicker I don't know why he decided to stop there, but he did and You know, it's one of those kind of things. You just never really know what's going on in someone's mind I mean, he could have had some other issues some other things going on And he thought he was making a quick trip to the store to get some stuff or he could have just been a blankety-blank You know, you hate those people but You know, it does sometimes take a lot of self-restraint Not to pimp slap somebody or get in their face and in today's world Well, I wasn't worried about this guy having a gun But you never know if something else has a gun But if I'd gone over there and I'd smacked him I'd be the one going to jail for assault even though he was a jerk and You just can't do it Back in the 70s You probably could have slapped the guy and gotten away with it saying well He insulted my mother or whatever and I'd have had a witness to it because there was a guy behind him But that doesn't work today And I tell this story for a couple of reasons one because it did show that I held Myself in check and I did show this self-restraint in not throttling this jerk But two we never know really what's going on with other people's lives And it's possible that he had some issues and actually since I said to there's a three which is we're all going to slow it down You know, sometimes we have to put ourselves in other people's minds or bodies or situations and I will tell you the truth I have had times where I have been frustrated with mom because it takes her so long to do certain things For instance, I now call her like usually ten minutes before I get to the house and say hey I'm gonna be there in ten minutes. Go get yourself dressed now So that we can leave when I get there because it used to be that when I got there she would be downstairs wearing You know, I just call it the long t-shirt because it's a one-shirt thing and it comes all the way past her knees I don't I don't even know where you find stuff like that I've never wear it, but you know, it's not a moomoo because mom is kind of tiny But you know, this is what she'll wear with her socks on because she says she doesn't like anything tight on her Unless she has to go out So I call ahead so that then I know she'll go upstairs and get dressed and you know be close to ready by the time I get there So, you know, you look at things like that and you say well I can modify part of my behavior so that I can help them to not make me Get irritated by certain things. So I'm sitting there thinking. Well, you know, if I know that sometimes I You know, just come on mom. Let's get going. You know, why is everything taking so long? You know, okay, I'm going out to the car and you know I'm gonna go start the car to warm it up or to cool it down I'm gonna grab the thing out of your car because she has a garage door opener that I have to take out of her car to put in my car when I go visit and You know, and I'm sitting in the car. So okay, so where's mom? So then I go in and said, where are you? I'm back upstairs. What are you going back upstairs? Well, I thought I forgot something You know, what are you going to do? You can't get mad at your parents because they're getting older and they're getting slower I'm lucky that, you know, yes, she's has some memory issues But she can still drive and she can still take care of herself and she Basically likes her company I'm thankful for that so, you know, we Have to learn to control ourselves We have to learn to try to put ourselves in someone else's shoes someone else's footsteps and we have to Recognize that there are things that happen with other people that are probably gonna happen to us It's gonna happen So that's all I got. I want to know what you guys think, you know I know if you're a bunch of 20 year olds, whatever you're probably saying, well, that's never gonna happen to me Trust me. It's going to happen to you You know what? I'm now in my 50s and I walk between five and ten miles every single day But I have started to notice that Mr. Fast walker who was always me is now being passed by these little 20-somethings Who don't seem like they should be able to move that fast and that used to be me and I'm walking thinking I'm doing something special So obviously I've slowed down just a little bit if a dinosaur ever really comes I'm toast. It's just no getting away from it. Anyhow, let me know what you think. Hope you enjoyed the video I'll talk to y'all later