 What and why do you think this is the same? We're not going to say anything. Let me just say nothing. Yeah, I don't think it's going to be the same. What if it's going to be different or another? It's going to be the same. The other thing is we don't have to change the rules. What if we're going to be banished in the New York Times and the government will be spotless. Wait, I'll tell you. So not everyone is in the picture as many as you need to be. I should myself come. I said I should leave. Okay, please don't move because they will be terrible in the picture. Don't move. One, two, three, and one, two, three, say Sam all together. One more, one more. Thank you. It's not directly related to what they're doing, but it demonstrates how original I am. No, go and search for it because it's relevant to trouble. Okay, I should leave. Now, if you ask me what is Shusha, me, what is Shusha, me, what is Shusha, I... She should have a sufficient amount of autonomy, independence, and agency to be able to function as a separate entity even in an intellectual relationship. So she has her own life, her own life, and you have your common life. So no margin, no fusion, no base of pathology to that. She should not be dependent in the sense that if she is left alone, she's perfectly okay with her own company, and she's self-sufficient in every possible way. I think this is a general recipe for proper life, what the so-called the ancient Greek in the name. So it's a good life recipe, and it applies also to parentry. Parenting, today we believe that parenting is done through a process called modeling. You show the child how to get a good person. The child emulates, you serve as a model for the child. So you just need to get a good enough person for the child to become a parent. And that's the least that we can describe. So she should be secure about how to let the child become an individual. Which is the most difficult thing, bro. Can you describe in more detail the process and outcome of that? For example, is there still a pyrotechnism and imaginary friend? Does the individual still become an artist with the same needs as a conventional? No way. Two sets of unity here. And all the moments of men, women, competing. We don't have a sense of this, of this, bro. They are tiny. It cannot be, even if we were to think that this is at the core of gender dysphoria, we would never have a fraction of what's happening today. And what's happening today is a social phenomenon. Social phenomenon. Now, why is it bad? Who cares? You choose how to dress, you choose to be a woman one day. Men one day. The problem is that most social institutions, not all of them, most social institutions are constructed of this difference. Is it a good thing? Maybe not. I'm not expressing anything in fact in general. Maybe the idea into basic institutions of gender is idiotic. Or bad, or reactionary. It should be dispensable. We should be in institutions which are gender neutral. Maybe we should do this, but we don't have it yet. Because we don't have them yet, if people were to choose gender just because they read an article or watched a television show, which is the vector of contagion, then we're in serious trouble, institutionally. And we're in serious trouble as far as relationships, for example. Marriage, family, community, and so on. All of this is based on gender. It's not the same. It's not to say, for example, the same-sex marriage is a problem. It's not a problem. If the institution is preserved, these people have a biological identity that corresponds to the gender identity. They homosexuals are biologically formed. So it's okay. It's one on one, it's biology, gender, institution. Nothing is broken. That's why it was easy for the Supreme Court to accept the same-sex marriage. It's still the paradigm that there is correspondence between biology, gender, institution. So same-sex marriage is not destructive. It's perfectly okay. Not so, not so a mass hysteria of transgender conversions. Because that's a serious problem. Because in this case, there is no correspondence between biology, gender, and institution. And we have constructed all civilization based on this correspondence. There have been periods in history where homosexuality was utterly common. Actually in ancient Greece, every youth, every youth has gone through a homosexual experience. At the end of the book, he studied. It was his, it was only mate. Every youth went through this. The mentor, what today would be called a professor. That sexist student, there was an initiation. Not to mention the army where homosexuality was encouraged in order to create cognition of fighting units. So homosexuality is a very long history. It's biologically determined. It corresponds to the gender perception. And therefore, it was wrong. We want to extend to homosexuals all the right, the heterosexuals. Including the right to marry. It is not destructive of anything. Society is intact. The transgender hysteria or psychosis is threatening the foundations of civilization. It's a problem. It's a very serious problem. And it also draws out the authentic voices. Because there are a few people who really feel that they are not their assigned gender. They are such people. This is totally psychologically determined. But they still, the feeling is still real. And these people are drowning in the victimhood movement of transgender. And in the spectrum of transgender. In the hysteria and psychosis of transgender. In the politicization of transgender. These authentic few individuals who really have gender dysphoria for whatever reason. Probably psychological, but it doesn't matter, it's real. They're drowning. They are hijacked. And in my view, they are abused. But the advocates of transgenderism as a human right, I think they are abused. But they're leveraged. And so this leads us back to British Columbia studies where they've shown, they've demonstrated that many victimhood movements are hijacked by narcissists and psychos. So it's a narcissistic phenomenon. As you can see, I'm pretty liberal. I don't have, I try not to have any biases and so on. But I do agree that sex and gender are not related. Are not related, absolutely. There are societies where gender is chosen. There's nothing to do with the sex and so on. But the transgender psychosis is met in every way that I can see. Thank you very much for the theory. The parental interest in this is a benign entity. It's an entity that guides you and provides inhibitions, tells you what you're doing wrong and what you're doing right, etc. It's a friend. It's a friend. It's a good friend. And like every good friend it is basically an illness. And not afraid to tell you when you're doing something wrong. It's an advisor, it's a life-long advisor. It's a guy, it's a compass. So it's a good force. It's a good set of introduction. When the mother is a dead mother the mother's introject, of course, is a dysfunctional introject. Or an introject that causes dysfunction in the child. Because the introject is likely to encompass absence, depression, harsh criticism, statistic outbursts, and so on and so forth. The mother's introject becomes an internal enemy character. We call it much later in life. The secretary object. This is the first secretary object upon which the template on which the narcissist constructs the secretary objects later in life. Later when the narcissist has intimate partners he converts them into the secretary objects that, of course, resemble the template. The mother introject. That's why the narcissist tries to convert all his intimate partners into mothers. The only template he has is this. So this is the mother introject. The child then creates gradually, probably between 18 months and 36 months, there's a debate. Some scholars, like my great father, think that he ends in 24 months. John Gershel thinks it's 36 months. Albert Pantua, for example, thinks it lasts much longer. So there's a big debate in that one. Around the ages of 2 to 3 years old the child creates a false set. A false set is a goal. A pattern of social. It's a goal. And it is as powerful as the mother introject. It holds the mother introject in check. It controls her. Prevents her from attacking internally the child. The child according to the mother is a bad object. The child is deficient, not worthy of love and lovable. Failure, a loser, ugly, stupid. The child is a recipient of conditional love. Love conditioned upon performance. The child is instrumentalized, sometimes marginalized, identified, etc. So the child is the repository of bad qualities. A hopeless case, so to speak. Because of the process of speaking I'm not going to repeat the whole three days just because of the process of speaking the child is all bad. His mother has to be all good. It's terrifying if mother is bad. It's a terrifying thought. The child is all bad. The mother is all good. The child is all bad. The next stage is the child purges. It becomes one with a false set. It becomes one with a false set. But by doing this the child introduces a bad object into the false set. Thereby rendering the false set less than divine and of course not omnipotent. So the merger or the fusion weakens the false set. Weakens it to the point that it can no longer counteract the mother interject. At that point the child is faced with a choice. The child can subject itself to the mother interject. You know, perpetually. Some children maintain this choice and become borderline. Some children even allow the mother to dominate the false set so to become co-dependence or people-gleecers and so on. The narcissistic child has another solution. The narcissistic child detects itself from the false set detaches itself from the false set. Thereby restoring the false set's divinity or borderline powers. Because not the bad object is again outside the false set. And the false set is restored to its former grace and stature. Now the false set can again constrain the mother interject. There is industrial peace on this level. There are no internal attacks. No internal attacks. No internal dissonance. No internal conflict. Here. But the child now becomes all bad. There is even a catch-22. The bad the more divine the false set the more perfect, the more good, the more everything. The worst of the child because it's the result of a splitting defense. So if the false set is 7 the child is 3. But if the false set is 10 the child is 0. The more the child idealizes or actually linearly affects the more the child affects and idealizes the false set the more the child is to denigrate itself. Render itself of bad object. Think of it as two baskets. For example in multiple baskets there is everything that is bad and in the other basket there is everything that is good. There is a splitting. So if the false set is all good, 100% good the child must be 100% better. This of course is intolerable intolerable to the child. So it creates serious dramatic consequences. The child's next move is to try and find a mother's substitute. Someone asked me yesterday can a good neighbor be a mother's substitute? Can a grandmother be a mother's substitute? A grandmother might make the cut. A grandmother might make it. But neighbor's teacher is not because intimacy is important. Intimacy, love there is a sense of dimension to the relationship between a child and a parent. So this is an upset of teachers, neighbors and so forth. They can't fulfill the role of a mother's substitute. So the child has to wait throughout the life of their older child until the child is capable of finding an intimate or replacing a mother's substitute. The child experiences dissonance, anxiety and depression. Indeed, the vast majority of narcissists and the history of anxiety disorders depressive disorder previous to their adults in adolescence and so on. The overwhelming of people diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder have had a history of anxiety disorders and depressive disorders throughout childhood and adolescence before they find an intimate partner. Depression and anxiety actually then vanish in many, many narcissists. The minute they start to have intimate or so-called intimate relationships with insignificant others. So I don't say insignificant others but insignificant others pseudo intimate relationships. The minute in other words they're able to replace the father introject, most narcissists can no longer be diagnosed with anxiety disorders or depressive disorders. This is a very telling fact. It means that up until the stage that the narcissist is able to find an intimate partner the narcissist is dissonant. After this phase once the narcissist finds a substitute mother introject an intimate partner the narcissist becomes consular which is why many, many scholars have made the mistake of saying that narcissists are helping or lacking that they are ego-syntonic that they are they love themselves because they are consular the minute they have the mother introject they no longer have an internal constant they lose their anxiety they lose their depression but again I repeat the vast majority of children who would become narcissists have an analytic history of anxiety and depression that's a fact by the way another surprising fact is that psychopaths have a history of anxiety that's when you discover it okay I realize being with you bye bye I will never find you I am a good mother introject we are about to we are about to begin with cold therapy not cold, we are about to begin to learn about cold therapy so this this is crucial that's why I dedicate the scarce moments to this because what cold therapy does it eliminates the force of by collaborating with the punitive by collaborating with the punitive mother introject to be clear this is an exceedingly risky strategy and then you would say another one but risky then evoking or reviving the mother introject or endow empowering empowering the mother introject at the expense of the false sense of course to remain because a child exists even if you are 90 years old child is life long who says that child to be to remain defenseless so the child is forced to interact with the mother introject the child for example for the first time again experiences the profound shame that Masterson and others describe so there is a feeling of profound shame that child is threatened existentially threatened by the mother introject