 Wait, what? We're doing a mash-up of Illimation and the Good Place? But that's how we roll here at the Rewired Soul, baby. That rhymed. I wasn't even thinking about that. What is up, everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul, where we talk about the problem, but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel, what I try to do is take different topics going on in the YouTube community, or pop culture, or sometimes both, and try to see what lessons we can learn from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being. So if you're into that stuff, make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. And if you're not yet, because we're gonna be talking about social media in a minute, but if you're not yet, make sure you follow me on social media at the Rewired Soul, okay? I'm over on Instagram and Twitter. So yeah, hit me up. My DMs are open. I love chatting with all of you. Feel free to message me anytime. All right, so anyways, season four of The Good Place is about to come out this week. And check this. Like, I've had a lot of people recommend The Good Place to me. So if any of you have been following my channel, you know, I talk a lot about psychology. And recently I've been really diving into like moral psychology and moral philosophy. And people kept recommending The Good Place and my beautiful girlfriend Tristan wanted to watch it too. So we sat down and started watching it. And now I know why everybody was telling me to watch it. It is a phenomenal, hilarious show. So we actually just binged watched the last three seasons or the first three seasons. I don't want to look at it in this last week. By the way, real quick, the ending of season one, like that was the biggest bamboozle that's like ever happened to me. Okay, anyways, so yeah, there might be some spoilers. I'm gonna talk about something. I believe it was from season two with Tahani and then I'm gonna explain kind of like Illimation's advice that I think would help someone like Tahani. It definitely helped me. I think it might be able to help some of you. If you remember in the episode where the judge was giving tests to the four of them, to Cheety and Eleanor and Jason and Tahani, Tahani's test, since she really cares a lot about what people think about her, her test was to walk down a hallway and on each side of her, there were people talking about her in each one of those rooms. And she just had to go down that hallway and get to that red door. And that was torture for Tahani because she wants to know what people are saying about her. Like how many of us can relate to that? Like we wanna know what people's opinions are about us. And she actually does a decent job until she gets to the very end. And I could definitely relate to this. It was her parents, right? And she wanted to see what her parents were saying about her and she just ran right into the exact same situation that she always runs into where they were just talking about how great her sister is and all these other things, right? So let's talk about that for a second. We think when we figure this stuff out or when we snoop or when we find out what people are saying about us, we're gonna get some new information but almost like what happened with Tahani, like a lot of us can relate to that. We find out and it's A, something that is the same as always and B, our expectations were ridiculous. Like we thought we were gonna be like amazed and have our minds blown. Like maybe they were gonna be doing this or that, right? So I can definitely relate to this. So check it out. A lot of you know that I'm in recovery from addiction. I just celebrated seven years clean a couple months ago. Some of you know, some of you don't know. My mom is actually in recovery too. She's celebrating 14 years and she actually saved my life and helped me get clean. So in 12 step programs, we have something called the fourth step, all right? And in the fourth step, we write down our resentments towards people. So at my mom's house, I think it was before I brought my computer or had it set up. Anyways, I was going through her laptop because I was using it and then I went through it. But I saw that she had her fourth step on there. So almost like Tahani, I was like, oh, I wonder what my mom wrote about me in her fourth step. And in the fourth step, you write your resentments. So I looked to see what things my mom was saying about me. And oh my God, dumbest thing I ever did, right? I will tell you this though, it did kind of motivate me because I was in probably my first two or three months of sobriety and it motivated me to become a better person. Like sometimes what fuels me, and maybe this can help you as well, is when people don't think I can accomplish things, it helps fuel that fire. And I eventually told my mom about it, I think a year or two into my sobriety. But my mom and I were like best friends now, we have an amazing relationship and I have become the son that she deserves, right? But anyways, where does Illymation fit into this whole thing? So those of you who don't know, I think the most, yeah, it still is the most viewed video on my channel. It was about Illymation series with her abusive ex-boyfriend. And I kind of broke it down and discussed some of the psychology about that. Well anyways, Illymation ended up really liking the videos I made and we ended up linking up and some of you saw her and I did a collaboration earlier this year. So she gave me some amazing advice that I think would help Tahani. I think it might help some of you. Because when Illymation released her video discussing how she left her abusive ex-boyfriend and everything like that, although she got a massive amount of support and a lot of people were thankful and grateful, like a lot of people were calling her a liar and just saying awful, awful things. Like the internet can be a terrible, terrible place. And right around that time, this was actually before I got canceled, probably about a month before, but it was starting to boil up, right? And we were talking about it and one of the things that I always recommend to everybody is find somebody who has already been through what you're going through and find out how they got through it. They can give you the best advice ever. So Illymation, she had already gone through just having a bunch of people on the internet saying ridiculous things about her. So she showed me on her phone, she opened up Twitter and she showed me turning all of the notifications off. So you can't see anything, all right? And this is something like I was reluctant to do and I actually didn't do it until months later. But now I understand why she did it. And there's a whole conversation about avoidance that I've talked about in other videos. Like I discussed Gabby Hanna doing it, but then I also made a video explaining why I understand why she does it. But yeah, like sometimes we need to not go looking for that information. And this is very common, especially on Twitter. A lot of creators do this as well. Like some of you have seen this. My creators are out there actively looking themselves up. So with the way that my notifications are set up now, I cannot see anything unless I look for it. So I just finished reading this awesome book that I highly recommend. I'll link it down in the description. It's called Indistractable. One of the things to help maintain your focus and everything like that is to put barriers between you and that thing, right? So in this case, the barriers between me or maybe you and looking up information about yourself. So you turn off the notifications. So the only time I can see it is if I actually click on my tweet and I go through it. And then I can see the replies. But other than that, I don't see a damn thing. I wish to God more people would do this. I see other creators, like I've seen James Charles seeing stuff about him. I've seen many other creators. If any of you follow Aaron Carter on Twitter, you see how he's constantly replying to people and just, you know, we fuel our own anger. We fuel this thing by looking at what people have to say about us. And one of my favorites saying something I learned a long time ago is this, what other people think about you is none of your damn business. You know what I mean? So like we all need criticism and I'm a huge advocate for personal growth and everything like that. But the problem, especially in the internet ages, it's completely unfiltered, right? So you might get hundreds of good comments, but then you also get 100 awful, just terrible comments. And that comments just saying like, oh, I think, you know, you should do this with your videos or you should research this. The thing's just calling you names or talking about how you're not a good person or these assumptions about you and everything like that. And all that's doing is polluting your mind and steering you away from your goals, all right? And I think one of the best people who talked about this is Brene Brown in her book, Daring Greatly. And she pulls a quote from a former president, Theodore Roosevelt about this. And it talks about like taking criticism but taking criticism from the right people. You know what I mean? Because there are many people out there who have A, never been through what you've been through and B, they're never even going to try to go through what you've been through, right? Or what you're trying to achieve. For example, think about all the people like football season just started. Think about all the people who are sitting back and just watching football and just like yelling about the players and yelling about the coaches and everything like that. It's like, okay, you sitting on your couch at home, you did not have what it takes and you will never have what it takes to get on that field, right? So like, who are we to criticize and judge those other people, right? Like we're all allowed to be critical but I want you guys to take this away, right? Ask yourself who is offering you this advice or the criticisms and things like that to kind of wrap it back around more to you. Like imagine that you are in a relationship and then like your aunt, I don't know, Beth or something like that is talking all this garbage about your relationship but aunt Beth has had seven divorces. Is that someone who you want to take the opinion of of what a healthy relationship looks like? You know what I mean? Like maybe I would look at her and say, okay, here's all the things I shouldn't do in a relationship. It's clearly they don't work out for her, all right? But anyways, if you watch The Good Place, let me know there's so many videos I can make about that show but I just want to know down in the comments below. Let me know if you watch it because maybe I'll do some videos about episodes from upcoming season four. I'm excited. All right, but anyways, don't forget, follow me over on social media at the rewired soul. Like I said, my DMs are open. So even though I don't have notifications, a lot of people from the audience, they DM me and I try to get back to everybody as soon as possible. All right, but anyways, if you liked this video, please give it a thumbs up. 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