 Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan assay of Jonathan assay.com And I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic why men ignore women They like two weird psychological Phenomenos that cause this two weird things that cause this Really quickly if you're new to my YouTube channel hit the subscribe button hit the bell to be notified of new content I shoot about three or four videos per week. So check it out. Alright, let's talk about those two weird things that men do Well, let's talk about why men ignore women that they like You know, it's interesting. I'm gonna backtrack for a second, but I vaguely remember not vaguely Succinctly remember that about ten years ago after my divorce. Well, I guess my divorce a little bit longer than that Basically, I've noticed that women seem to just like jerks They liked assholes at the if the more you treat someone like crap the more the women You know, I'm a good guy seeking relationship and I just noticed what women would choose jerks and assholes So men who basically ignored them Women seem weirdly attracted to that now That's most likely because the book the woman in the relationship is following a pattern from her past Following a pattern from her childhood This is one of the reasons why I want you to read the book getting the love you want by carvel Hendricks and Helen Hunt Because this talks about the amaga why we choose men who aren't went men or women who aren't right for us because we're most likely Following a pattern in our life. Okay But the reality is as most men on some level as well as women we want companionship. We want connection We want sex. So because of that we want relationship But we might ignore people because our childhood wounds and traumas are are Suffocating us from being able to be in a healthy happy relationship This is one of the reasons why I highly recommend reading the book the Hoffman process the Hoffman process So you can understand why this is all happening and you could be healing yourself along the way Okay, so you're not choosing men who are going to ignore you that like you okay And this is why if you follow my work, I'm such a big proponent of Personal development work self-help and spiritual work. That's why I wrote my book. What the heck is self-love anyway? You see that by Jonathan Asley. This is a journey to begin to choose better men Because what's happening when a man ignores you? Who likes you is this most likely these two things are going on inside of himself first off He's wearing a mask. He's wearing a mask and that mask is a false sense of confidence Because he doesn't genuinely value himself Let's take that in he's wearing a mask because he genuinely doesn't value himself. This goes back to the self-love piece Sadly the number one emotional health issue facing both men and women and like a like is I'm not good enough I'm not lovable. I'm not likable So this is why I'm not a big proponent of the whole Leaning back concept when a man ignores you because there's most likely something going on inside of him So when you're leaning back being all happy in your relationship You're actually causing a rift in the relationship when he does pull away or ignore you a little bit But I'm just giving you insight into what's happening for him. Okay Now the second reason is most likely there's chaos going on in his life There's chaos going on in his life and he can't commit to commitment. He can't commit to commitment This is why ladies if you want to avoid these types of men who will ignore you who even genuinely like you Is that you have to make better choices for yourself? You're gonna have to set a higher standard so you can choose the type of men that you don't have to worry about them pulling away And then you have to do the leaning back game You're not going to do that if you follow my work because I'm all about leaning in lean into your sovereignty Lean into your self-worth and lean into the understandings of the mechanics of a healthy happy relationship Let me repeat that lean into the mechanics of what it is to be in a healthy happy relationship This is why I want you to check out this book I haven't mentioned it in a while the untethered soul by Michael singer the untethered soul by Michael singer By the way, have you purchased any of the books that I recommend if you need if you haven't? There's a link below to Jonathan recommends, but I now I'm gonna be candid with you I know a number of you said Jonathan my library is Exploding with the books you're recommending Yes, but let me tell you this book untethered soul will change your life. And by the way, here's a rule of thumb Only read one chapter at a time when you're reading this book only read one chapter at one sitting No more than that. It's 19 chapters. It'll take you 19 days It's 15 minutes per chapter to read start reading this book now Because you won't have to worry about these men that are pulling away They're ignoring you because you're going to be changing inside out like I said a moment ago You're gonna learn the mechanics to a healthy happy relationship. This is why you have to buy the book Eight dates by dr. John Gottman and Julie Gottman. Oh my gosh Do yourself a favor go on to YouTube after my video type in John Gottman Type in eight dates and watch one of those videos one of those podcasts. It will change your life You don't have to Here's the thing you're watching this video most likely because you're choosing either dysfunctional men who have masks or they have chaos in their life and I'm here to Re-educate you into choosing men who are capable of being in a healthy happy relationship And if you need some support at that, that's my area of expertise Teaching you how to vet those men check out the link to the free discovery call with me because that's what I'm here to help You with that's my job as a coach is to teach you how to choose these men that you don't have to worry about pulling away Or ignoring you or disappearing or ghosting wouldn't you want that? Is that what you want? Please tell me. That's what you want post a comment. I want to hear about it Because ladies I'm here to be your big brother My job is to stand at the door on the first day look that guy in the eye and go motherfucker Are you gonna treat my sister with respect? Because if you're not ready to jump in the relationship if you don't value yourself if you if your life is in chaos Then you're out the door because I'm gonna kick your fucking ass If you screw over my sister, that's my approach. I'm a very big brother Direct I curse I use expletives If hey, that's my style if you like it great if not I'm not your coach Okay, you don't need to follow my channel anymore, but if this resonates with you I want to hear about it. So post a comment below and post a question as well. What are those two weird? Psychological phenomenas. I think you got it just of it right now All right, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic Jonathan bear hug of self Love I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone or even a pet right now and give them a hug of love Because we could all use a lot of love right now and Hugs are a great source of love. I want to thank you so much And wishing you a super duper wonderful day. Bye. Bye now