 What he represents is patriarchy. We're here to do work as men, as patriarchs. There's nothing more natural than being a father. Welcome back to the 21 convention 2019 Special Patriarch Edition of Orlando, Florida. Our next speaker is a former strongman, the CEO of Strength Camp, a great new friend of mine this year, one of my favorite new speakers, and he is a famous YouTuber with about two million YouTube subscribers between his two channels. Definitely one of the biggest speakers we have ever had on this stage. A man I'm proud to present on this stage next. Please let me welcome to the stage the proud Patriarch, by the way, of four, Elliot Hulse. Thanks, Elliot. Thank you, Anthony. Yes, sir. Kick some ass, man. Yeah. Well, I'm pleased to be a part of this movement and the spark which ignites a movement. I've spoken on some pretty big stages and right now this one is small. This group is small. But all it takes is a small spark to start a raging forest fire. I really truly believe that that's what this moment is. And it's not even that we are the spark, though we are. It's that this is the spark moment in time. This is when the pendulum begins to swing back to righteousness and man takes back his nobility and our place in the family. That's a big part of what we're going to be talking about here today. Before I move on, I also want to thank Anthony and the 21 convention staff here for creating this sacred space to house this spark that will facilitate the roaring flames. So thank you. Thank you. Very important work that's being done here. Critical for the development of mankind, but more specifically for the perpetuation, the maturation and the proliferation of a righteous Western culture. I really and truly believe that. There's a huge attack upon it. But we are seeing the pendulum swing, as I said. I think that marriage is worth defending. And that's the name of my talk, as you saw there. Defending marriage in a degenerate age. Doesn't take much convincing, especially since the guys that spoke here before me asserted to the idea, Sakwas just up here, that marriage and patriarchy is built into our DNA. Fatherhood is built into our DNA. It's a good idea. I'm just going to expand on a little bit more about why it's a good idea and maybe how we can navigate it best. So what we're going to discuss is number one, the war against marriage and the family. There is a war to destroy us. And it begins with destroying the man, destroying the family, destroying the sanctity of the children that are being raised in those family and turning things topsy-turvy. Where the children rule the families, the mother of course wants to do everything for the children, and the father on the bottom is being led by the wife and the children. So we live in a backwards time in the war. They are winning. We'll talk a little bit more about why. Number two, protect your marriage against infidelity. In this YOLO hedonistic do what you want as long as it feels good culture with zero boundaries, zero discipline, no devotion. Infidelity is kind of like going to a drive-thru. Everybody just does it, right? I want to talk a little bit about that. I could rant, but I got to stay on track. Finding pleasure in your marriage, you know, the old saying that it's a ball and chain game over, that's a mindset, that's a paradigm that I think is bred out of our, or has come out of our degenerate culture, our hedonistic culture, our long-lost, confused culture. There's tremendous pleasure to be found in being yoked with a feminine counterpart. We're better together, as Rola would say. We're better together. Men and women are, not only is it better together as human beings, I understand that everything in the incarnate world works together in opposites, zeros and ones, sun and moon, day and night, tic-tac, cistal, diastal. Lovedub works together, we work together. Leading your wife and family, so much great advice has been offered this weekend. I am grateful because I wish somebody would have told me some of these things. I had my dad's example, but not necessarily his word on a lot of these things, that had I been conscious of it rather than allowing things to play out unconsciously, that leading would have been a lot easier right from the get-go. So you guys understand that you're getting a solid foundation here. How to find a good wife? Damn, I feel bad for you guys, especially you all that are young and don't have wives yet. I don't know what I would do with these chicks in the Instagram culture. Tough, but you got a lot of really good advice. I think of Steve Williams, the advice that you gave to you guys about how to date and what you expect, that those boundaries vary early. So before we get into that, we got to talk about a couple myths, a couple lies. I call them liberal lies about marriage that need to be dispelled before we go into some of the information that I want to offer. Number one is this lie that humans are promiscuous by nature. And interestingly, I was introduced to this book when I found the Red Pill. It was promoted by another Red Pill teacher. And as I got through it and as I read it and as it started to put it into context, I realized that the only people that really love this book are pickup artists and feminists. Really, I mean, just look at the book itself. It's teasing you with the vagina on it, but I don't want to go too far. How we made, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships. So here's the premise that the quote unquote scientists or researchers tried to offer in this book that is not new to this book, but we've been duped into this lie for quite some time. And that is the lie of the Bonobo. Has anybody heard this? That we may be more like Bonobos, they say. Because now we've got to study the Bonobo because the Bonobo is a bit more evolved as a creature than say the chimp, which we've related to a lot longer before. And that's even if you believe in evolution. I'm not here nor there. But I'm saying that these people who believe that promiscuity is a part of our DNA go to the Bonobo. As why? You want to know a little bit about the Bonobo? Number one, here's some interesting facts about the Bonobo. The Bonobo lives in a relatively safe community where there is plenty of food. There's not much competition for resource. Food is readily available. That's one thing. Bonobo men, father children, but they don't know who their children are. They have sex because the women are ready-willing enabled and there are lots of them. There are lots of women. And they're ready to bone. And they give birth and the fathers very rarely almost never know and there's no bond between father and child in the Bonobo culture. But in the Bonobo culture, the boy, the baby stays close and connected to the mother well into adulthood. In some cases where the mother will come into the boy's defense when he's an older Bonobo. Very much mommy boy tie. Very little daddy boy tie. Very little male to male tie or bonding. In the Bonobo culture, the men are sort of, they're submissive to the woman's agenda, the female agenda. The women are in control of inter-tribal relations. If a group of male Bonobos start, or if a male Bonobos starts to get out of hand, the women form coalitions. And they squash any male resistance very quickly. So they have no support, but if they do act out, the mommy culture comes down on them really hard to put them back in their place. As far as sex is concerned, it's interesting that they, in Bonobo culture there's a lot of homosexuality. And one of the practices of the female Bonobos when they meet new tribes is in order to solidify the pact, the female Bonobos will start having orgies with each other, female sex with each other. And the male Bonobos will kind of just like sit around, you know, and eventually they may like join in, but it's about the women. So Jack Donovan calls our culture, because there's a lot of significance, the Bonobo masturbation society. Plenty of food, plenty of women, plenty of sex, who needs to know their daddy? Mama tells us everything, we got this edible complex thing going on. So he's got, there's some credence to the fact that we may be more like Bonobos. So I want you to keep that in mind. But as you listen to this, I just want you to also notice the feeling in your body when I told you how the Bonobos behave with their culture's life. No judgment, just notice your sense. Bonobo Masturbation Society referring to Jack Donovan once again, a book that every man needs to read, The Way of Man, and in The Way of Man he says that the men, that men, the way of men is the way of the gang. And in the book he gives another or actually a more appropriate example of how mankind evolved, human kind evolved and how we got here. And we've always sort of related to, prior to I think like the 1950s or 60s when they started studying Bonobos to the chimp. And for the most part if you ask most people today they'd say, yeah, we're more like the chimp. And there's a good reason why we relate to the chimp. And there's some things that you need to know about the chimp, not the fucking Bonobo. I just want you also to, because I get off on tangents, look at the cover of this book here. I just want you to know where you're getting your sources of information from and which you guys choose to use as resources because there's so much information, there's so much science, there's so much references out there. It all contradicts each other. You got to use your senses sometimes. And when you got a book that I just sense I'm being tricked with a big vagina on the fucking cover, I feel like I'm going to get some real talk right now. You got to judge a book by its cover, right? So anyway, the way of the gang is the way of the chimp. And what you ought to know about chimps is, number one, where they live, food is not as plentiful and they prefer high quality food. Where the Bonobo will eat what's like, they very rarely eat meat. They'll eat mostly plants. There's a certain amount of plant, there's a certain plant and there's not very much competition for it. The chimps, they want meat. We want meat. And as a result, they got to work for it. And the best way to work for meat is in small, patriarchal, hierarchal bands of brothers that will work together to go out and hunt what he refers to as the red-colobus monkey. So they're going out and in order to be able to maintain their vitality to live, they've got to organize themselves as a band of brothers in a hierarchal way that, number one, allows them to go out and get food. And number two, protect their territory. Number three, raid and take out competing tribes because resources are limited. Also, female chimps are highly prized because they are in limit also. So they were treated more like a commodity. And so they were protected so that there could be future chimp tribes. And they were submissive because if they wanted to live and they wanted to eat, they had to listen to what the gang said. The way of the chimps follow the way of man. This is how we got here. This is deeply embedded in our DNA. We work as bands of brothers with a source, a goal, with this ever-expanding sense or drive to, and I was speaking with one of the guys before, to insert and liberate, to dominate and expand. This is very masculine. This is very American. This is very Western. This is very Genghis Khan. This is very civilized. Civilization comes from the way of the gang, the way of the chimp. So just to move on past this one liberal lie that were more like the Bonobo than that guy, just look once again. Do you want patriarchy? Who do you want to have your back? I wish I had a pointer here. Do I have a pointer? Who do you want to have your back? Who do you want to go to war with? Who do you want to go hunt food with? This guy who's beaten off and looking for the next piece of pussy if she'll give it to him? Or that guy who looks like, yeah, he's ready. He's ready. He's tough. He looks wise, strong, able, patriarch. So I don't know the truth. I don't know if any of his monkeys business is true at all. But this is one of the lies. This is one of the paradigms, one of the foundations for their reasons why we need to be out there jizzing and joking and being promiscuous and undevoted to our families, cheating on our wives or whatever, because it is. Get out of here. You guys choose. You decide. Way of the chimp or the way of the Bonobo? I don't know. Liberal lie number two. Liberal lie about marriage. You know, and I use that term literally liberal lie because it's all about getting loose. It's all about no boundaries. It's all about no authority. It's all about nothing matters and everything's okay. Very loose, lax, promiscuous, even in ideology. Lie number two. Marriage is a social construct. A patriarchal makeup from religion or for political power. This myth came to be by this white woman trying to prove a point to bring back to her privileged culture why the women should be sluts. And so she goes to Samoa where the savages live. Let's think about the arrogance. Where the savages lives in order to, she had an agenda, of course. Margaret Mead had an agenda to prove that the noble savage is a slut and that the girls start throwing their puss around at age 12, 13, 14. She calls it coming of age in Samoa. This was a big book. It was a big feminist push. It was very helpful to this leftist agenda. Psychological study of the primitive youth for Western culture. So she's trying to help out Western civilization with some... What's the term I just used? Uncivilized. They're very quick to point out these savages. Yeah, savage when it's here in your interest. They're savages, but because she wants to prove that American women should be sleeping around, she's going to go there and try to do some investigation. Turns out, and just check this out. If a picture ain't worth a thousand words, I can't help but just think arrogance. Look at you. She's out there and she wants to prove that these girls are sluts. And I love this picture so much more because of that boy standing right there. Just check out his face. He can sniff... He smells the lie all over her. He's got that face like, I don't know what you're doing here, woman, but you better be careful around our women. Well, turns out she was a complete liar. The work that she came back with was completely refuted but unpublished because it wasn't in line with the agenda or the idea or the leftist policy. This man, Derek Friedman, you could do some research on him, wrote... He went back to Samoa because he believed that she was wrong. He knew she was wrong, did his own study, brought back his own conclusion in Margaret Mead and Samoa, the making and unmaking of an anthropological myth. It turns out... Now, check these people out. It turns out that these noble people... I mean, you can't not look at that picture and think that these are noble people. Integrity, strength, tradition. Look at the two men, the two patriarchs sitting there. Do you think they're going to have their women standing back there? Loose? Do these look like loose women to you? They're not. They're so conservative that when a woman gets married on her wedding night in order to make sure that she was a virgin, they must display the sheets that have blood that prove that a hymen was broken. If that's not the case, she brings shame. Do these look like women that want to bring shame to those men? I don't think so. Liberal lie number two. So it's not in our DNA. I don't believe that we're bonobos, masturbating and screwing and letting women push us around. And Margaret Mead was wrong. It's not about Christianity. It's not about religion. It's an archetype that's found in the human condition, even in the savage. Just to continue, marriage in Greek and Roman culture. Great book, Staying Married in a Degenerate Age by Michael Sebastian. He talks a little bit about reference to how marriage was treated in the ancient world. He says here marriage was indissoluble and divorce was impossible, almost impossible. The Roman law did indeed permit the dissolution of the marriage, but the dissolution of the religious marriage was very difficult. Religion had ritual that brought you together. It goes on for that a new sacred ceremony was necessary as religion alone could separate what religion had united. It wasn't Zionist document with the state. It was between, as it had been, between a man, a woman, and a father above. Barbarian culture! Another shout out to Jack Donovan. He's got another book, a second or third book called Be a Barbarian. Interesting that he went there with that. And in what we know from the Roman historian Tacitus, what he writes of the Germanic tribes is that the marriage bond is strict and no feature of their mode of life is more credible to them than this. They are content with one wife, barbarians, one wife. Very few of them have more than one. And these few exceptions are not due to wantonness. They are the case of men of high rank, whom several matrimony alliances have been offered from motives of policy, politics. And even if you look in like Islam and Muhammad saying take upon yourself multiple wives, it was a policy of protection because they were warring tribes and there were a lot of women that needed protection from men. And that's why he said bring these women in, have multiple wives. It wasn't from wantonness, it wasn't because they were sluts, it wasn't because they were licentious with their behavior. They were content with one wives. And I remember reading Genghis Khan and the making of the civilized world. We're talking about Germanic tribes and barbarians, but even Genghis and the roaming beasts that they would call them, of the Mongols, content with one wife. They were very noble in their relation to relationship. So I'm convinced that it's a part of the human psyche and soma. It is in our mind, it is in our spirit, it is in our pattern, it is deep rooted in our biology and DNA. And Jesus agrees. And we'll talk more about why I think that's important. And although this is not Jesus making this up, he's just reminding us in the wisdom text of old, he says, have you not read that the one who made them at the beginning made them male and female, like everything in the world? And said, for this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife. Be a big boy. And the two shall become one flesh so that they are no longer two, but one flesh, therefore what God has joined together, let no man separate. It's good. It's righteous. It's noble. It's savage. It's human. The war on marriage and the family, very quickly. Female primary social order, a term I learned from Rolo. If you haven't had an opportunity to listen to Rolo's talk on my podcast, he goes real deep in the beginning with this. We recorded it last week. Female primary social order. So those of you guys who are rational men, you know, it's this unfettered, unchecked hypergamy that is at the foundation of this female primary social order that is deleterious to the marriage bond and to the archetype of marriage. The state, easy divorce. We all know that the majority of divorces are initiated by women. Women at work as a result of state supporting that because more women at work equals more tax slaves. Marxism, socialism, equalism, this pervasive ideology that has America by its balls, the left you could call it. I have a couple of quotes here. One quote from Frederick Engels in the origin of the family. You can see the disdain in how it continues. Private property and the state. He goes on to say the modern individual family is founded on the open or concealed domestic slavery of the wife and modern society is a mass composed of these individual families as molecules. Just consider the language, consider the paradigm from which that kind of attitude proceeds. They're overthinking. There's nothing about slavery in marriage. Woman is not a slave, if seen rightly, but with the social justice warriors needing something to fight against, they use words like this. They use words like racist and misogynist and slave. They lie. To go a little bit further in that same direction, feminism, this is Roxanne Dunbar of the female liberation as a basis for social revolution discourse. I know how much Anthony hates feminism. I didn't understand because I didn't dig too deep until recently. When I found this quote that I'll share with you right now, I began to realize how evil feminism really is. According to Roxanne Dunbar, how will the family unit be destroyed? This is her question. She poses this. How will the family unit be destroyed? After all, women must take care of the children and there will continue to be children. Our demand for full-time childcare in the public schools will be met to some degree overall and perhaps fully in places. The alleviation of the duty of the full-time childcare in private situations will free many women to make decisions they could not before. But more than that, the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and can fight collectively. Women will be freer to leave their husbands and become economically independent either through a job or welfare. And I didn't realize this. I thought it was more about women's rights and I understand women's rights and I'm okay with women's rights. But this is an assault. It is terrorism against the family. They want to destroy it because it is the founding building block. She's right. She acknowledges. It's the building block of our civilization. There's evil at play. There's nothing to be built or grown or good by destroying the family. No civilization survives with destroyed families. The Warren family... I'm going to start going a little bit quicker here. Consumerism has been, to me, I think it's the disease that we're all addicted to. They say, you know, capitalism is the problem but it's not. It's us. It's the constant sucking in consumption. Be it food, entertainment, needing more. And apparently, what I've learned is that the pregnant woman is the biggest spender in America. You want to make a lot of money, sell shit to pregnant women. And if you've ever had a pregnant woman, you know how much shit gets bought. They even have these racket parties where they call them showers where they shower you with all kinds of shit that you'll never need because you got to spend money. The baby. Bullshit. Families are more... You guys are laughing because you know we have these showers. It's like all kinds of junk that we've never used. Because our order is backwards and we put children on the top and fathers at the bottom, it basically goes like, wife, what do you feel the child needs? Which is basically everything. It's the baby. We got to sacrifice. And as a man, as a servant leader, doing the best he can, especially if not red-pilled, yes, dear. And so he provides for a bunch of bullshit. And it's not the woman's fault. It's not the baby's fault. I don't need to say anymore. Families are more focused on working jobs to buy more stuff rather than providing guidance offering wisdom and teaching religion. Now, make no mistake, your children are learning religion. In the schools, even the public schools, on television, they're getting guidance. They're getting wisdom. They're just not getting the right stuff. They're getting what you would want them to have if you've even thought about what you want them to have. Because that's tough for us to even think when we're swimming in the shit. Tanner used the term yesterday. I felt my heart sank when he said, you guys are living in the wasteland. Is that the term you use? The ruins. Yeah, we're living in Babylon. We're living in the ruins. It's pervasive, insidious suffocating with this shit and make no mistake, it is religion. It's not the religion of our fathers. It's the religion of our matriarchy, vulnerable religion. We're on family corporations, women in the workforce, flood the market with excessive labor, excess labor and limited jobs, thus driving down wages. To get to understand it has a lot to do with profit. To destroy the family in this sort of backdoor way where let's liberate women like Dunbar said and guess what that does? That creates... Does that mean I have five minutes? Oh, thank you. That creates more competition in the workplace. So a number of things happens. Number one, now women and men are competing with each other. The list goes on. Women and men are competing with each other for less jobs, lower wages, women are not in the home so they're not caring for their children, they're not leading their children, they're not caring for their homes, they're out there having extra marital affairs. Why? Why? Corporations and the media and the emotion that they drum up around women in the workplace trick everybody. The most important job, profession, devotion to something in life is the bearing and raring of children. What could possibly be more important in the corporate world than bearing and caring for raising children? Nothing is a trick. They've been tricked into thinking that they are somehow enlightened and progressive by sending their kids to childcare and competing with men in the marketplace. And because of the Marxist attitude, the social Marxism, you can't say anything against that. You can't refute that because then you're a misogynist. You're some sort of a extremist. This is extreme shit right here. If you look into the history of mankind, this is extreme. We're in a weird place, folks. So I'm sort of making a case and I'm talking around why marriage is a good idea and I think I can get more into that. I tried to relate that with my story. But if you do decide to get married, which my only hang-up, this is my biggest hang-up with marriage right now, is state involvement. My biggest hang-up. I think marriage is wonderful. It's great. I'm giving you a case for it. My whole thing's called indefensive marriage. But the one thing that is to fly in the ointment is the state involvement. And I think they know that. They got us by the balls in that way. And I think religion needs to go back to between the man, the woman, and the creator. And get the state out of it completely. You know that. But, you know, the state loves divorce. So here are some of the liberalized and encouraged divorce. The spiritual awakening. So I want to go there right now. The spiritual awakening. Everybody's woke. And this is a, you know, this particularly comes from this book, Eat, Pray, Love, where there's just like a best seller. Like Oprah, Oprah's the best seller. And then somehow in this story, you know, the woman she settled down and gets married. We all know the story. She's probably a baby male provider. Has children. And then just, she falls out of love. She wants to go and find herself and go to Bali in India, in the east. So here's where I'm going to go with that. And so she has a spiritual awakening. I'm coming to this sense. Let me put it. I'm spiritually promiscuous. Meaning I love God. I love religion. I've dabbled with it all. And I love eastern religion. In fact, it was a big part of my foundation is Taoism and Buddhism and studying the work of Alan Watts way back when it was on YouTube. But I think eastern religion coming to the west where we were mostly Abrahamic has created a lot of chaos. And I think one of the bits of chaos, chaotic bullshit that we were fed is the spiritual awakening stuff. And how it just liberates you to be and do whatever you want. Spiritual awakening in this sense is not and even this word has its negative association these days. It's not religion. Because it doesn't unify the father with the mother. It doesn't bring pattern down into matter through discipline and boundaries. This is the idea that anything goes is the left hand. So spiritual awakening in my ass. Divorce is a celebration and I see this with now my wife and I have always been younger than my parents. But a lot of my wife's friends are our children's parents friends parents. So they're a little bit older than us. We got started early. So we get to kind of see not what our life would look like but what life starts to look like a few steps down the road for those who live in the ruins. And one of the things that they do is they what are you going to get divorced? And it's the women of course. The guys we ain't doing them. But when I kind of stepped in and spoke to some of the guys that I know were having divorces. And I don't throw a celebration. I kind of throw a actually what I've been doing is I've been throwing a red pill party. I'm like okay now she's gone. And I hand him a book of rational mail and read this and start spinning plates. But the women what they do is yeah it turns into this it turns into this whole liberation party. And Rolo talks about how women will never check their other women's hypergamy. And even my wife who's a great wife is out there celebrating with her friends that are having divorces and she knows how I feel about that. But she can't help it. She's got her pergamy. And so they cheer each other on no matter how wrong they are. They can't help it. And I understand it. Biological. I'm a chimp. You see those chimps? They look like gangsters. They don't have this ball hanging out. Divorce leads to a sex filled single life. This is that old sex in the city bullshit that they give them on TV. These all used up 50 year old hags who are out there screwing are not what men are looking for. They're not out there. I think Rolo calls it the redevelopment stage. They're like, you know, they might, and I see them. They come to my gym. They lose a little weight. They always gain it back. Yeah, I'm watching them right now. My wife went out with a couple of them. All the girls in the gym they'll go out together some time. She put a picture on Instagram from last night. I was like, damn what bitches are getting fat again. They started coming to my gym because they were having divorces. It's funny. They were having divorces. They started losing weight. All of a sudden, now they're getting laid out there. And a lot of them are like, that's it. They're getting pounded and they just gained a weight back. So they think they're going to have this sex filled life, but you know what, as we all know, you're just going to do the same thing you did before in a different way. You didn't heal yourself. You didn't evolve. You didn't grow more mature as a result of your divorce. You didn't grow up and can do it better next time. You're more than likely just going back to trying to be in your party years. But now you're old. You got baggage. What are you trying to do? Get boned? You're just going to hit metapods in a couple of years. So it's like you're in your last leg. But anyway, they have this they believe they're going out there and have this sex filled life. This gets just I got a lot to say. Yeah, I'll talk to all of you. The myth of perpetual youth delayed childbirth for career partying single life is more interesting. Addiction to the thrill of falling in love again. This goes both ways. I think all women with a lot of guys out there I really like what Pat said before and I think with some of the other guys were saying before about love. Don't trust love. I think Steve was talking about it. Love has been completely misconstrued and turned into this emotional physical sensational melting that's a high just like any drug. People who are addicted to falling in love are no better than a heroin addict because you're out there just looking for that next high. It feels good to quote unquote fall in love but it's a thrill. It's just like getting in a rollercoaster you're going to get back off when you get down off that rollercoaster you're going to be a little dizzy. Cheap thrill. Falling in love there's nothing sexy about falling in love. Don't trust. This is what one of my favorite people ever trust a man who's falling in love. Do not trust a man when he's in love because you're not yourself. You're clouded. I think that's what Pat said before. He says that you're clouded by the emotion. You're not a rational male when you're in love. Don't be in love. The real effects of divorce takes man up to 15 years to recover from the divorce that's financially and I'm sure a lot more. Statistically children are broken homes are less successful. It sucks. Split parenting is stressful and values are often at odds. You guys I don't have to like beat a dead horse or sing to the choir I'm sure you're aware. Protect your marriage against infidelity. The reason why I bring that up is because cheating will destroy your marriage instantly. Nothing will destroy your family. Other things will destroy your family over time. It'll seep in and you've got to be aware of those things and I think some of the other speakers spoke about it but if you want to destroy the dynamics of your family instantly put your dick somewhere else. An idea. A bad idea because the power dynamics in the home will instantly be reversed and even if you were alpha all of a sudden you're asking for forgiveness. Now you've got to watch your step. You don't want to piss her off. Another one that both Pat and Steven, sorry man Steven Dean. I like the Dean. I keep going back and forth like I'm going to say Dean or Steven. Says is what I agree with there is if you do let's say you do you messed up don't tell her that's another one of these liberal lies that men should be vulnerable tell her all of your deepest darkest secrets no don't do that you didn't destroy the family yet you didn't destroy it yet you made a mistake repent that means don't do it again but the worst thing you could do is go and tell her 23% of men 19% that's why I bring it up I don't say most but a lot of people 25% cheat and that's just who tells some survey says it could be as high as 50% and you and I would say it could even be higher because our culture doesn't value boundaries it does not value we are skeptical of boundaries so marriage is one of those things where it's kind of like yeah you do it but nobody going to tell me who I'm not going to fuck so there's this attitude that whole yolo hedonistic attitude fidelity I wrote the word infidelity I wrote cheating first but I didn't like it because it just sounded too much like 16 year olds cheating not fucking cheating because it's not a game infidelity I like that word better and I want to go look up what fidelity meant and I realize just how how masculine how patriarchal the word fidelity is even a bank uses the word fidelity there's a good reason why because there's faithfulness loyalty noble these are these are masculine traits fidelity is very masculine so to remain to have fidelity is to be a real man real man is not promiscuous real man and cheetah's wife not because you got to be a good like what the world calls a good man no that's not why it's because you're not a man because you're not carrying the virtue of a man virtue we got to think in terms of virtues how to protect your marriage and be devout quickly because I got about 6-8 minutes left maintain your level of attraction don't get fat one of the things that I realize I had going for me and still have going for me big time in my marriage what keeps me in that dominant role is I'm a sexy motherfucker and a lot of women want me my woman can't get fat she realizes that she realizes she has to do everything she can keep up with a lot of the young girls that got that eye on me on your level of attractiveness avoid relationships with the opposite sex women are not your friends you have a friend I hate when guys say this we were friends she's my friend no she's not it doesn't exist Rolo says that if you have a friend that's a woman and you're not having sex with her you're a girlfriend get that through your head that's another one of the pieces of bullshit that they teach us in school women are not your friends nor should they be why would you want to be friends with a woman I don't get it I don't even like all my shit is coming out today you know how it's like I think this shit started in middle school and then we still do it as adults and I'm not saying to any women that are in here that I'm not going to do this but like I have resistance I started to have a resistance against it that aren't my wife what the fuck is this hugging stuff about between men and women when they first meet each other or my friend's wife I shake your hand why am I going to go hug you I'm putting my body close to yours we're not friends and I'm not going to fuck you so what are we doing and then you know the other thing is like when guys hug my wife I don't get so upset because I realize there's a cultural thing there's nothing behind it but it's just in my mind that like there's no boundary to kind of be on board with everybody about there's no reason to be hugging other people's wives and women aren't your friends right it's dumb don't expect your wife to be your friend so it goes along the same line but one of the things that a lot of guys get confused is that they think their wife needs to have the same hobbies or interests I know I did at one point when I was becoming an entrepreneur and I wanted my wife to be interested in my business she wasn't interested women aren't interested and she doesn't need to be interested in the things that you're interested in my wife and I have zero interests in common besides our marriage and our family she reads fiction I read nonfiction we're complete opposites you don't need to be my friend develop stronger same sex relationships men need to be friends with men we have to be a low bow masterbater we gotta be more like the chimp gangs and we gotta be up to something that's the other thing too that is kind of a call to action we gotta be up to something and it can't just be drinking and watching a hockey game as lame limit social media and keeping open book policy yeah there's no reason for your wife to be putting selfies of herself on Instagram I don't get it but that's one of the things when Steven said it about dating nip that shit in the bud. The other thing is open book policy. My wife has all my passwords. She can go into my phone, she can go into anything that I have going on online at any time, and I could her. Open book policy, there's nothing to hide. There's a sense of freedom associated with that in your heart, there's a sense of trust that's associated with one another. It's not about control, it's about truth, loyalty, openness, feeling free, liberation. You don't want to have a lot, you don't want to be hiding anything. There's no way to build any kind of relationship if you're hiding anything. Don't expose your wife to temptation, right? Don't let her hang out with male friends. Just like you don't have friends that are women, she don't have friends that's men. That doesn't make any sense. Why you need a man friend for? You got me. And you see this all the time, you know? King Arthur, and the round table, and Lancelot. This is best man, his best, his right hand man, his best warrior, so he feels free, hang out with my wife while I go do shit. That's a recipe for disaster, dog. You don't think he's gonna bone your wife if you got a chance? No, don't let your friends, don't let your brothers, and it's not about being prude, it's about being prudent. Then you're gonna hang out with my wife by yourself, why? Avoid pornography, I don't have to go there, you guys get it, develop a hobby or a date night together. Me and my wife, like I said, we have zero interest, but we love being with each other, especially on Friday nights, we have date nights. Sometimes we'll sit and we won't say anything. We'll just eat, and you know what, it'd be so funny if there was like a little microphone there while we're having our date nights, and sometimes when we don't eat, all you hear is this, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm, mm. You know why? Because we're enjoying steak together, that's our hobby. A little bit of wine, a little bit of steak, and we're just sitting there like having four galley. And looking at each other, and nodding, and my wife is grateful. I'll talk about how to find a good woman, she's grateful, she's, thank you, thank you, thank you. Make your marriage your top priority. I'm gonna go a little bit quicker because I got about one minute left. How to have pleasure in your marriage? Give her your gifts, be a strong provider, show her why she should appreciate you, give your wife your best. Not because you have to, but because she is your moon. She reflects you in all your splendor. And if you don't like what you see in the mirror, that's because he ain't shining bright enough. Shower her. Go on frequent date nights, vacations together. Grab her ass, touch her, and make her feel desired as frequently as possible. Treat your wife like she's one flesh with you. We'll talk about this in a moment. How would you treat her if you thought she was a part of your body? I'm going over on time right now, Anthony, so I'm gonna try to go as quickly as can. Pleasure in your marriage, right attitude towards sex? Look at that. The husband should give his to his wife for her conjugal rights. And the likewise wife to her husband. For the wife does not rule over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise, the husband does not rule over his own body, but the wife does. Do not refuse one another except perhaps by agreement or a season that you may devote yourself to prayer. Super important men, those who are married, sex can become an addiction in the marriage also. Fast from sexing. Fast from sex, it's a good idea for you to maintain your frame. Less Satan tempts you. So I put the duggers on there and I put the duggers over here too. I think they're, are they Mormon too? Protestant, okay, well this is what she says. This is how you know you can spot a good wife. Be available, this was her advice to young women. Anyone who can fix, anyone can fix him lunch, but only one person can meet the physical needs of love that he has. You always need to be available for him. How to be more alpha and leave your family? Hey Anthony, if I do go over, can I have five more minutes? Thank you sir, appreciate it. I think we could all agree that Donald Trump represents, maybe not him as a person, but what he represents is patriarchy. He represents, yes. He represents the return of patriarchy. That's what he's a symbol for and you could see it in the way he is with his family. So we wanna be more alpha. Spiritual headship. I think this is really important and I'm gonna make a, I'm gonna make a case for religion now. And it's interesting because I don't necessarily identify with a religion though I am Christian. Yeah, weird that was. I have a hard time and I've had a hard time and I struggle with God, but I love religion deeply and I understand that if you wanna lead your family, you cannot be the authority. We are not the authority. We don't get our authority from ourselves because we're flesh and bone. We get our authority from above. We get our authority from our father and our father's fathers. The paternity, the eternal pattern. Paternity comes with the word pattern, which is the way to be. We are taught a way to be and we have faith in a way to be that comes from above. And if we don't take it from above, if we will be dragged down below into the matter, into the mother, into the Maya of things. We get our authority from above. Patriarchy is impossible without religion. You're not a father without the father. You cannot carry the blessings of the father. You don't have the authority of the father if you don't have religion. And I'm not saying which religion? Not trying to tell you what to do and I'm not profilicizing. I'm saying this is a fact. Look at patriarchy in the West. There was always a religion, be it the Norse and their gods or the Greeks and their gods. But it always came down, divine power from above. No God equals no hierarchy. No hierarchy means no authority. No father energy. Author, king, author, authority, father, figure, mentor. No father energy if there's no authority. No guidance because there's no authority. No humility. We think that our shit don't stink and that's why we're suffering. No meaning. We can do whatever we want. It's a barren landscape. Fatherhood requires that men through the authority of God the Father and the example set by Christ be a living representation of patriarchal authority in the home. This is why the left hates Christianity. This is why they hate religion. This is why they hate God because you get your authority from those things. And when those things are stripped away from you, you blow in the wind and you're easily manipulated. It's not about right or wrong. It's about faith and faith is not about right or wrong. It's about conviction. And when you have that, you can't be fucked with. Spiritual headship, where your authority comes from just very briefly, the umbrella of God's protection. God, husband, wife, children. That's the order. That's the natural order. And Christians would put Christ between God and husband and I think it's a good idea to have a Christ-like figure. All religions had it be a Krishna, be a Christ and so forth, an example to live by because we can never, we can't even imagine God. Much less talk about him or be like him. We can't, there's no way. Christ or a Krishna is an example, an embodiment, a manifestation so that we can look to a father figure beyond our physical father. You want authority? Have faith in this order. What I want you to understand that the head of every man is Christ. The head of a woman is her husband. The head of Christ is God. It's this in this order. Wise be subject to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. His body and is himself its savior. If we go back to this, treating your wife like she's a part of your body. When I first heard this and I then began to start considering this, and the woman being and the man being flesh of one flesh and how he talks here about treating the wife like your body, my entire mindset shifted with regard to my wife. This wasn't too long ago. And if you really just literally think about your wife as an extension of your body, how would you treat that part of your body? I mean, and it's a pretty important part of your body. I mean, think about your right hand or your penis. Right hand and penis are pretty important. She's like both. She gets your work done and gets your work done. Very powerful and important part of your body. Treat it well. That's why I take my wife out to eat steak on Friday nights. I'm gonna feed you well. You're a part of my body. I ain't putting junk in your body. I'm not gonna put junk in your mind. I'm not gonna treat you poorly. You're a part of my body. It's like Christ treated it. Spiritual headship where your authority comes from, even so husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. There you see it again. Love your wife like your own body. Think about that. And if you get cancer, which is basically your cells going rogue, you gotta ask yourself, where am I not treating my body right? If your wife's going rogue, you gotta ask yourself, where are you not treating your body right? He who loves his wife loves himself. Damn. For no man who ever hates his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it as Christ does the church because we are members of his body. And I put that picture there. That picture's actually on my tattoo. And it's like this. I see this as a yin yang almost with the male female, the soft hard, the angular dark and the soft flowing white. I love it. It's an integration. How to lead your family. Number one, have vision and direction. You make the vision. You decide a direction. Know it before you even shack up. I remember talking to my wife when we were in high school. I think this is why it lasted so long and did so well. Remember being in high school and telling her, of course she's like writing her name with my last name and having daydreams and circles, writing hearts and stuff. And I told her plain and simple like this, hey babe, I'm gonna live a pretty roller coaster type life. I'm an adventurous man, a spontaneous man. I have high hopes and ambitions and dreams. I'm gonna do big things in this world, but it ain't gonna be easy. And there might be struggle. You wanna come along with me? I'd love to have you. But if you've got a problem with any of that, then we're not gonna be together. But you would always, of course. No, yes, yes, I wanna go with you. I wanna go with you. I wanna go with you. But you know what? I don't think she could have that trust that I not had the conviction in my vision and direction. And it's crazy how my life is unfolded based on that vision and direction. Devote yourself fully to your family. This is a tough one in the world where you're supposed to be yourself and to self-actualize. We're so self-oriented. Devotion is the preeminent warrior quality to devote oneself, to sacrifice oneself for something bigger and better than yourself. Devote yourself to your family. I love that word, very masculine word, devotion. Do more than your fair share. I heard multiple speakers talk about that today. I think Socrates was talking about it with the diapers. That was brilliant Socrates. Where's Socrates? He even in here? That was brilliant. The way you turned it into a military operation. That's what it is. That was 100% it. Do more than your fair share. Be that grunt in the family because you're the stronger one. The wife is gonna flip out. She's gonna have anxiety. She can't handle it. You gotta be, you gotta take control and bring in the bag. Keep physically strong. I say no more. Your body is the mind. You can't be weak. You can't be fat. You gotta be fit because this is warrior work, devotion work. Keep morally straight. This is keeping your heart strong and keeping your mind, keeping your soul clear at peace. It doesn't mean that you're not going to stray in thought but be chased in your behavior. Be strong in your will. Be moral in your activity. Keep mentally alert. You gotta be aware because the snake is sneaky and will come right in your families and will sneak right in the back door in a myriad of different ways. Every time I think I'm setting up strong boundaries and doing the right thing for my family in that way, it sneaks in somehow. You gotta be aware for the demons. They come from kids' friends. They come from the media. You gotta constantly be aware of what they're learning. My daughter got on some transgender shit for a moment. Yeah, because she's watching YouTube videos where you're a hero to be a transgender and it's all celebrated. I had to squash that shit in the bud. It got too far at one point where I had to rain it all in because I wasn't being mentally alert. I didn't see the signs and then when it came to, you know, got a little too far, I had to stomp hard. Good thing that shit is gone now, but it was silly. But that silliness is how the children then run the family because it goes against your values and your virtue and if you're not mentally alert, Satan will snatch your kid's minds up real quick. What is a good wife? Excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who brings shame is like rottenness in his bones. Need I say more? You want a crown or rottenness in your bones? How to spot a good wife real quick? She opens her mouth with wisdom, right? Make sure when she opens her mouth and the dumb bullshit comes out and the teachings of kindness is on her tongue. My wife, the other women come to my wife for wisdom. They come to my wife for wisdom and she's the youngest one. And you know why? Because she's reflecting my splendor. I give her credit for being a good moon, which when she opens her mouth, know that she's a reflection of you. She looks well to the ways of the household, notice. Those aren't two sentences, not she looks well. That's real superficial. I think Pat was talking about that. Fuck the way she looks. It's important, wanna have sex with her, but she looks well to the ways of the household and does not eat the bread of idleness. She gotta keep busy. The house is like running a company. Her children raise up and call her blessed. Wonderful to have children that acknowledge how wonderful their parents are. It's a good thing. Her husband also praises her as you should. Always praise your wife when she's doing a good job. I say thank you a thousand times a day. Many women have done excellently, but you surpass them all. Remind her about how awesome she is. But it won't take much if you got a good woman. Charm is deceitful and beauty is in vain. Yeah, you know what the world is dangling in front of you all day long? Charm in beauty, run the other way. I mean, look, my wife has small boobs. They used to be big when she was pregnant. But she's breastfed four kids and they're not perky and plump like they used to be. But there's not a chance in hell they're gonna have her stuff silicone up her fucking skin in order to uphold some sort of imaginary Barbie ideal of what a woman should look like. She's a good woman. Didn't need big breasts. You get where I'm going anyway. Give her of the fruit of her hands and let her works praise her in the gate. Okay, this is my last one. I'll go through quickly. I didn't even click them. Okay, good, from the book of halls, these are my rules. How to find a good wife. Number one, observe the virtue of chastity. I don't think it's a good idea to be promiscuous. I don't think it's a good idea to be jicket and jizzing a lot. Especially if you don't have your boundaries in order. Refer back to Stephen, the dean, his workshop. If you're gonna be screwing, there's gotta be rules. I ain't giving you my seed. Ain't gonna get that just cause I want a nut. Number two, if you're having sex with her, she's already your wife. That's my mindset. You put yourself in her, guess what? One flesh. You just became one flesh, buddy. And what God brings together, no man shall separate. So if you're having regular sex with a woman, you be of the mindset that she's your wife. That's the way to approach it. Otherwise, she's a prostitute. You can't say to her or to yourself or anyone else that she's my girlfriend or she's my, I love her. No you don't. Not if you don't acknowledge her as your wife while you're banging her. Have that amount of respect for yourself and her. Number three, if your wife doesn't need to be your friend, we spoke about that, but a good wife. Date and marry young. So this is where I'm different from a lot of the guys only because of my experience. What I have to share, based on my perspective, it was good that we dated and were exclusive very young. My wife, unlike a lot of my friend's wife, has not ridden the cock carousel. She's free from carousel cock, right? We have very limited partners between the two of us. Very limited. We were children, basically. So she's, you know, all that comes with it, the alpha widow ship, and of course, you know, I don't have to tell you anymore, but I think it's good. I think it's good, especially, and so I have to go back to my experience if she's trained well. My wife came from a trashy background. Gotta be honest. She didn't have any guidance. Her father was not an alpha male, and her mother was a crazy woman that went crazy and ran away to Maine, and left her children there. But the fact that my wife stayed with my family basically, my parents basically made her one of their children crazy. But this is kind of the stuff that you would see maybe in like Tanner's community, where like the parents know the other parents' children, and they kind of are raised with the same values. She came into my home at a very young age, very impressionable age, and she wanted to take on the value of the virtues of a good family, and that's why it worked. So I could just go based on my experience. Don't marry a useless woman. This is my dad's, actually. You guys will get to meet my dad tomorrow. Don't marry a useless woman. A useless woman can't do anything. She's good, looking, but good at nothing. Don't date older women. I think Pat was talking about it, but I know a lot of the other guys were talking about it. She will always look down on you. Don't marry a woman's baggage because now you have two masters, her and her kids. Speak openly about your vision and values early. Make it very clear what I'm about, what I'm not about, where I'm going. Know your roles, play your part. Be very clear. We spoke about like with my wife, you're gonna stay home, you're gonna take care of the kids. We'll make that sacrifice. I will provide. Very clear. Follow Steve, I put Steve Williams there again because of what he said yes, and I was so impressed with his talk. Advice about dating. You gotta be very clear. You gotta be very clear about what it is, what you're about, what you tolerate, what you won't tolerate, and make your own rules. You only got those three ironclad rules. And that's it, folks. I appreciate you. Appreciate this time. Appreciate you letting me go over a little bit. Done.