 Let's go ahead, Ms. Jones, go ahead. Oh, hi, how are you? Hi. So just to be honest, I hear everything that you're saying. But what is the solution? OK, so first of all, let's do this. How old are you? I'm, what, I'm 32. OK, do you want to be married? I do want to be married. All right, so my question is, you're going to ask me, what's the solution? Why do you ladies always want to come ask me for a solution for them? I think that it seems like you're coming off as the expert. So therefore, we would like to hear. And the solution, OK, no, no. Well, honestly, you want the dead honest truth, solutions cost money. OK, how much money? Well, go to my website and book a session like Bianca did. Because if you're good for something, if you're good at something, you don't do it for free. I do understand that. You don't do individualized sessions. And so here's the solution is shed light on this problem so women don't get into this situation. That's the solution for the general audience. So let's take it this way. You're 32. Yes. What's your longest relationship? Four and a half years. How long ago was that? This past February. February, 2020. Yeah. Why didn't you guys get married? He wanted to, but he simply will not mature. Lacks ambition. And we have too much. You have any children? History. Have any children? We have one son. He is just turned to. Turned to. So you were having sex and reproduced a child with a man who's immature. And then you want to take that out onto the market and get someone to marry you. Well, you know, I don't have a problem with getting people that are interested in me long term. No, no, no, no, no. Understand this. No, no, no, no. Listen, my content is I don't see the whole dealing with. We keep we keep school over here by marriages. Because, yes, I know women don't have problems getting somebody to deal with and date them. Do it a long time. It's marriage or not. And what it comes down to, what it comes down to, what it comes down to is you were with somebody for four years that you said was immature. But yet you chose to be sexually active with them and chose to bring a child into the world. Why would a man want to have you as a wife and deal with an immature baby daddy? Volunteer to be a stepfather for a child that's not an asset to him. You know, somebody that meets me or my son would see value in me as a person. Well, if that's the case, if somebody that meets you would see value, I'm asking you so you should be able to tell me the value. What's my value? No, no, see, ladies like yourself like to do this. Like to do this. But when somebody meets me, listen, ladies like yourself would like to frame it this way. When you meet me, you'll see my value. Well, you have to be able to communicate that value too because everyone can't meet you. And at 32 years old, you should know the value you bring to a man, especially if you expect them to be a stepfather to your child and deal with a man who's a child's father who's not mature. Absolutely. Do you want to have more children? I'm sorry? Do you want to have more children? I do. I want a big family. Oh, how many kids do you want to have? How many kids do you want to have? I mean, as many as I can afford. Okay, as many as you can afford. What do you do for a living? I'm a realtor. Okay, about how many kids would you like to have since you already have one? I would like to have like four more. Four more, so a family of five. What state? I'm in Atlanta. Okay, so what would a man need to make to fund a family of five children or wife and themselves? So a family of seven, how much would a man need to make to provide for middle-class or upper-middle-class life? I would think combined income, maybe around $380. Excuse me? In order for us to travel and everything else. $380 in Atlanta? The way I'd like to travel? $380, no, you're talking closer to five. Three children is about 350. Okay. I'm talking closer to five. And do you plan on, obviously I guess you plan on working after you're pregnant? You know, I wouldn't mind working, I like working. No, no, no, no. Let me ask the question. Do you want to have to work to pay significant bills after you're pregnant? I don't necessarily want to have to, but I wouldn't mind. So I need, no, no, no, no, no. I just want to know what you want. And the first thing that came out of your mouth is you don't want to have to work. And you want five kids. So even if you stair-step these kids, if you start having children, that means you'd be out of work for at least seven, eight years. What, do you care if your husband's black, white, Hispanic, or other? You care if he's black? It doesn't matter. Is your child's father black? He is black. Most of my exes are actually Asian. Well, but you made a black child, so that's likely gonna be, who the next father's gonna be? Cause men tend to be pretty racial loyal and not wanting to have kids that don't look like them. I understand that. And I would like for my son to have a, you know, a black role model. I mean, his dad is out of sleep, but they- So man, so man, why would it, so this is the Rubik's Cube you've given me. A woman who wants a man who's making about the $500,000 a year, the money to be able to afford a wife and five children, one whom is not his own. That's what you would like. But yet, when you were younger, hotter, still in shape and no children, you chose a guy who wouldn't even have a job. He doesn't have a job. I didn't say that. You said he wouldn't keep a job. No, I didn't say that. That's the wrong question. I didn't say that. What did you say? I said he was a little, I said he was not maturing. I'm sorry, you said he's immature. He was immature. I'm sorry, he was immature. Okay, he wasn't as ambitious, but you still, okay, I'm sorry. Scratch that he wasn't ambitious, but you still made a baby with him voluntarily. See, what you ladies don't seem to understand is you want to ask for more from the next guy than you did for the guy who got you when you were younger and hadn't had any children. And it's unreasonable. And what percentage of men in this country earn $500,000 or more? As far as I know, I think it's about 8%, or I'm sorry, 500,000, 1%. Right. And I need you to be brutally honest with yourself. Are you a 1% kind of woman? No, I'm not in the top 1% at all, but I didn't ask for that. You kind of gave me those numbers. I didn't ask for them. Well, no, I asked you what you wanted. You said you wouldn't want to have to work and you want a big family. So whether you want to have a $500,000 guy, what we do know is a $50,000 year guy, which is Miller the Road won't do for a family of five. That's what we do know. So my question is, I mean, we listen to your channel. Go ahead. Listening to your channel, you know, we are always told that single moms are pretty much dead and done, you know? And here we're talking about age, and now I'm at the older part of my age range. And so it's more so like, okay, what is it that you think we should be doing? Not as a single mother, but just as an older woman to secure marriage. Okay, well, okay, I'll answer your question. I'll answer your question. Okay. I'm about to, how tall are you? I'm five too. Just size? Six. Okay. What women should do is marry before they have a child because this is what happens. You are too old, too many miles to be demanding high prices. What women in your position should do is be fortunate to lower your expectations down to your level, a man that's on your level and your income. But I didn't give you a level. Excuse me? I didn't give you a level. You kind of created the level. I never told you a level. Well, I will tell you your, okay, what would you do this? Your dress size six, what would you rank yourself on a scale from one to 10? I guess I would be in that sixth range that you talked about. And your level would be a man making about 50 or $60,000. That's your level. I don't need you to give me a level. That's your level. That's who your, I mean, did your child's father make more than that? He was making 80. All right, but he was immature. Welcome to your level. You can't get higher than your level. And you want, so the reality is, so what would I tell a woman like yourself? Ma'am, you're too old to be wanting five kids. You're lucky if you find a guy who's willing to marry you and be a stepfather to a child, period. Because being a stepfather, which I have been one, is a thankless job. Much less to a stepfather to a guy that by your own admission, is not the caliber of a man you even wanted to marry. So I have to deal with a child in this guy. And it's a son, you have a son? Yes, I do. Right. And he's with his dad half the time and he's with me half the time. Well, and this is why women should marry your child's father. And don't make babies with a man you're not gonna be with for the rest of your life. Really, that's the answer. Because anything after this is trying to make the best of a bad situation. And I know it's not popular and I know people don't like the way it sounds. But the older you get, the more women tend to want. You tend to want men who are earning more, doing more to be able to provide more because your standards are higher because of lived experience. But your value is lower. You cannot get more in the main. Yes, there are women out there who can do it like Sierra and all these other kinds of stuff. But in the main, the majority of women cannot. And the problem is most of you ladies look at your chances on the market as far too high. I mean, would you marry a man who's making $45,000 a year? Why is this big pause? I mean, close to it, sure. If he had ambition. No, no, no, no. See, there's always an add on when I ask these questions. I said making $45,000 a year. He's happy making $45,000 a year. He's gonna make $45,000 a year. He's not trying to be president. Excuse me? No, I couldn't be satisfied with that. That type of complaint you would see. Then you screwed yourself. Listen, listen, listen, listen. This is what the woman on video I'm about to upload. And this happens over and over. Every time I ask, the average black man is single. 51% of black men are single and childless. 64% are in the middle class. The average black man in this country earns $42,000 a year, $41,000 a year. An average white man earns $52,000. There's an $11,000 difference between black and white men. You're not going to, so most men earn around $50,000. And what you just said is fully half of the country of men of all races are insufficient to a woman who's older with a child. That's insane. I'm okay with $50,000 if he has desires to make more. No, no, you're still, and this is, and womanies, what this means is I can get him to make more. That's womanies. What she's saying is I will take it as a starting point, but I'm going to continue to push you to try to become more. And no, ma'am, most people cannot make more. That's the median income. And this is, then this is the, you asked for a solution. Did I say the solution? Is to lower your expectations down to reality because so many of you ladies are just insane with this. Why do you need, with half of the men in the country are earning that, why do you feel like you need more and you're bringing somebody else's kid to him? I just, you know, I invest in things and I just- Well, congratulations, but you don't have a husband. It doesn't matter, you don't have a husband and you don't have any prospects for a husband on this level. You guys can talk a good game, but at the end of the day, men choose. And I understand this is a hard thing for you ladies to get, but ma'am, this is insane. Me, me, me, me, me, me, me, me. And what you have yet to say is what you're going to even bring to the table to provide for that man who'd be willing to marry you and be a stepfather. It's all you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you. You, you, you, you, you. That's not a wife. I don't think I said anything about myself or anything like that. Okay, the tape is here, man. No, you've talked about, everything has been about what you want. Why do you want, why do you want this? Why invest, I do this. What is he going to get from you? He will get love, peace, a help mate. He'll get someone that is genuine and sincere, someone that is going to make his day much easier. I do a lot for a man, the most man that I did value me. Okay. Well, well, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on. Did your child's father get that? Yes, he did. He got a lot more than that. And he earned more than the guys I'm talking about, but yet you weren't, yet he wasn't good enough for you to marry, but you still made a baby with him. He had other things going on. Well, you still made a baby with him. That wasn't intentional, but yes, I did. Man, man, man. And see, this, and this is another issue, especially in our community, making a baby is much less of a big deal than being a wife. Women put, that's insane too. And I said in our community, I didn't say you. But everything, and I'm gonna tell you, everything that you just described, it's very vague, but I will just say this. There are women that are providing what you're providing and more, and they're younger, no children. How do you beat that? I can't beat no children at all. Exactly. So if the men that you're looking, the kind of man you're value looking for, other women are looking for him too. And it's a competition. And when all those men are chosen, Prince Charming is sitting across from you making $45,000 a year. Content. That's Prince Charming, baby. I don't really know too many men that make that. Well, we know your, but the thing is, you can talk. Okay, I'm out of here. Okay, again, this. I know it's not you, but we are in Atlanta. I know where we are. And it's 17 women to one. As a lot of y'all unmarried women here, who to talk to each other and act like the stuff y'all say matters. When I look on all these black women's ring finger down here and it's. I understand. What are your marital prospects? I have a few guys that are interested. And marrying you? There's two. Really? However, I will say they are so much older than me. Although they do make a position. See, listen to this. Listen to how picky we are getting. You got two. They're like 50. I can't. Excuse me? I want more kids. And they don't want any more kids, you know? They just want to take care of me and my son. And I don't, I want to. This is why the, I'm sorry, man. But I got news for you. You only have a limited amount of options and a limited amount of time. You cannot choose. You do not get to choose like you did when you were 23 at 32 with a baby. I understand. I don't think so, but I don't think they really get it. What is starting to dawn on me is a lot of women just really, truly believe y'all are a higher rank than y'all really are. I just realized that I didn't say that at all, but you do say a lot in your videos. Yeah, and you've just proved it. A man who's making $80,000 is a black man who's doing that to the top 15% of earners, but he wasn't good enough to marry, but he was good enough to reproduce with. Make that make sense.