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Okay, so this is gonna be a quick video I'm not staying on here for no hour today cuz I got stuff to do But I in my last video a lot of women were asking me how to upgrade their look or you know stop broke men from being attracted to them or Approaching them the best way to update your look real quick is change your hair wear more makeup But less you know Don't put certain colors on that will attract you know guys that think you know For example, you don't want to walk around with purple hair Try a natural color, you know If you're putting too much makeup on too many lashes and like too much, you know, that's also a red flag You want to be kind of in the middle, you know, you don't want to have zero makeup on But you want to kind of have like a classy look going to you know upgrade your clothing You know don't wear stuff too tight or too trendy you want to go with something classic Okay, that makes you look like you know, you can go anywhere, you know a nice bar a nice hotel a nice Place for dinner five-star restaurant attire, you know, you're not gonna go in there with leggings and a tank top on you know so always look like You're expensive like when you walk out the house, you need to look expensive Wear nice heels wear nice shoes have your hands and toes done your nails, you know at all times Things like that so Never let your car look super dirty, you know have it cleaned keep everything on you Polished, okay Keep everything on you polished make sure when you speak you you sound like you have class, you know Less cursing, you know, I mean because if they see you they go, oh, she's bougie. You know, I can't approach her She's not going to like you know, even if you're not bougie At least you need to look the part so that they don't come up to you expecting you to give them the time of day So upgrade quick at where I you know where a nice perfume Keep your keep your appearance looking classy, okay? So if you can do that, you'll see a change and the type of man that will approach you and you know a Lot of women get stuck right here. This is where they get stuck This is where they get stuck and the reason I'm making this video is because they get stuck here and Yeah, they hear all this but they don't listen, okay? Women will get stuck here and stay here for a long time because they don't want to change Okay, well, they should just like me the way I know they shouldn't just like you can't like a man Just the way he is, you know, you need him to have something you need him to be able to provide So you need to be able to look the part that they're attracted to so women if y'all are complaining half of y'all need to just look in the mirror and Say if I just changed a few things I could actually Be treated with respect. I could actually land somebody who has a career I could actually be on a date in a five-star restaurant with someone making six figures enough But just because you can't change one little thing you stuck because at certain levels of you know wealth you got to play the part you got to look the part and Wealthy men, you know, they might date you in private They might you know meet you here, but they're not going to take you seriously if you don't fit into their environment So that's what I'm saying and also If you just don't care about attracting wealthy guys, but you just want broke guys to leave you alone then you need to dress classy and you know, whatever, you know what I'm saying and Not curse so much because that's what brings them in if they see they see you're cursing and you know being loo They think you're on their level and think you don't care about anything and you know, you're just a potty mouth and You know You don't have any class. That's what they're gonna think so that of course they're gonna come in and say hey what you doing, you know because Most women that have high standards and will only date certain type of men, you know They don't curse all the time Because they're not as angry because they pay Okay No, somebody said so no sneakers then I hope that was a joke No sneakers no leggings If you're over the age of 25 and you're You know leggings are cool for like lounging around going to the store You know stuff like that, but if you try to wear leggings on a date and stuff like that In you know, unless there are like some expensive leather You know leggings or something like that that goes with the outfit that you're gonna you shouldn't be wearing that That's kind of low class It just is you know, I got leggings, but I'm not wearing it and when I go out When I go out like to a nice place not put now, okay? So No sneakers Also, you need to get some heels. Okay, get some nice heels learn how to walk in heels Okay, and I know I'm gonna go. What about wedges? Okay wedges are another tell-tale sign, you know get you some heels or some block heels heels Okay Just saying you know your wedges are cool for the summer if you wear wedges in the winter get some block heels instead Or a boot, you know what I'm saying because why because it it just when you're highly fashionable It seems like you care about stuff like things like that And so they know if you all got the latest style you look good you're polished, you know you can walk into Saks Fifth Avenue and You know look like you shop there and stuff like that instead of Target or Walmart ain't nothing wrong with Target But if you can put yourself an outfit together that Looks high class no matter where you get the the pieces from that's what you need, you know So make sure you're Not wearing something from the 90s if you're older Don't don't bring out that stuff from the 90s. It's no longer a style go throw it out the new 90s stuff You know what I mean, but don't bring out something so old, you know Bring out something that's classic and make sure That you're confident wearing it if you don't feel comfortable in it find something else, you know gotta be comfortable in it too because they can tell So whenever whenever you get the Motel on in the rain Hold on second So yeah, y'all gotta make sure you're only dressing like a granny Okay My husband I always leave cash in the office. So well only enough to pay the law man Oh Wait So yeah, make sure you're always looking polished that's the key word polished Men like broke man do not approach polished women Anyways, I'm going back to my office, you know, just had to give him his money cuz he was out there in the rain more in law He ain't on Facebook trolling I know he got money cuz He owned that company. Yes, I do. I have him a cleaning service They come like There's three I think it's four and they clean real fast and then they leave, okay Okay, um Is it true rich people marry date was in their circle Social circle social circle. That's a tongue twister. Um, it depends Because most of the time the women in the social circle has already been circled around that circle. They're probably not They're probably gonna go get something different Something it just depends on their goal, you know, if they need if they don't need money from another woman if they don't care about money a woman having Money they're gonna go get what they want what they like. You know what I'm saying This is the problem with a lot of people they think just because you're in a social circle or in a small town or a regular at this Place that you know, it's not good to hook up with people like that that know all your business Okay, get go with someone who doesn't know you that you're more mysterious to that you can you know intrigue more You know, why would you go to somebody that know everything about you? That's boring. They don't want you They want you one time and then they'll pass you to the next person in a circle. Okay, so get out the circle Anyways, so Make sure the colors that you're wearing look good on your skin tone Okay, don't be over here neon yellow if you're looking crazy and neon yellow with your skin tone. Okay, some people. Oh This color is hot, but not how don't you okay? I see some women walking around some crazy colors and stuff like that and I'm like what the heck you got on You know and Also if your hair if you wear weave or color your hair make sure it goes with your skin, you know You can't have Bleach blonde hair and super dark skin. It don't go together. It just looks off. You know what I'm saying? So make sure your skin is matching your hair Okay So and if you can't it went when in doubt do brown or black, okay? Just because this lady can pull it off don't mean you can't okay, but that's shoot I got blonde wigs in this box that I'll you know, I won't even hardly wear many like out in public cuz I'm like this This look okay, but You know people know it's not even real. I just do it for fun on the camera and whatever But what color hair would you suggest? Well, it depends on your personality like if you're It just depends on your personality. I love black hair black hair to me is mysterious sexy You know in Hollywood It's always either the blonde or the black hair, you know The black think of all the darker brunettes and black-haired women. They're more striking and mysterious. Okay, like Elizabeth Taylor Like I kind of like Like well Dorothy Dandre had black hair, but she Whatever Just the striking this of it is what gets attention Okay, the striking this and it doesn't have to be a loud color to be striking. You know what I mean? Things like that. So I feel like dark hair should be either black or dark brown, you know Look at Angelina Jolie Look at what who else the guys like Megan Fox. They all have this dark hair So it's either a blonde if you're like, you know light skin or you know white or whatever or Black that's the ones that get the most attention So you got to go Light or super dark. It's more striking. That's what I'm saying. So That's the color that I recommend because you can do more makeup looks with it for example If you do a makeup look with black hair Most of it's gonna work because black go with everything, right? But if you like if you get brown hair or blonde hair Then and you still paint your eyebrows on black and you have like all this dark color And it's like it's gonna look a little bit off You got to know how to do makeup according to your hair color as well, you know And plus and also certain hair colors to make your skin tone look different, you know If you if you're a darker complexion The lighter your hair is the darker your skin looks the darker your hair is the lighter your skin looks So you also have to play with colors and things like that If you have a lot of red in your hair or red tones is gonna bring out the red tones in your skin And you're gonna see all your you know stuff So make sure you're Considering stuff like that too because somebody to have a beautiful outfit on nails done hair done nice shoes And then you look at their hair and they skin and they make up and it's just all You don't messed up. So Don't go wrong there and sometimes like a lot of women They'll somebody was talking about it in here in the comments About ratchet ratchet would it say ratchet lace front wigs or something like that If your wig don't look Natural if people can tell it's a week and you got stuff all here and you can see the wig right here Make sure you learn how to fix it so it don't look like that You know, don't just throw it on your head and go out go on YouTube to find some videos on how to fix the week Because they're out there I mean I had to learn I had to learn how to make it look natural. I went on YouTube. I taught myself. I figured it out Okay, so yeah, I mean there are some women who can pull off blonde wigs, but I'm just saying you know Make sure that you can pull it off Some people use contacts to enhance their look that's perfectly fine y'all see my contacts, you know You can get something more natural or something Like I wouldn't wear those contacts out if I were single like on a date, you know, because that's too fake You know what I'm saying like they know that's not real But I will get like a hazel or like a light brown or something like that That would actually bring out my eyes unless I just didn't care and I liked my eyes as they were So if you want to you know use contacts as well that also helps you as Well, you know what I'm saying Just a little subtle change Mm-hmm, I always see girls in short dresses with rich man, but I don't want to change me. I'm sorry. Okay. Well You know short dresses you can wear tights with it, but all of them tights Um, and you always have to wear short dresses, you know, you can wear tight dresses. That's just good to them Um tight dresses that come down past your knee as good as well You know, it looks classier and they if it's fitted they could see your shape. They like that just as well so You know just because you can't wear a short skirt or you don't want to wear a short skirt Maybe wear a knee length shirt. I mean skirt or a dress that's more fitted Yeah, if you're dressing like a grandma and nobody gonna want you Okay, I don't care if that's your style if you don't want to change Then don't then if you don't want to change then you're not gonna change the type of men that are attracted to you either You know what I'm saying? So a lot of women like I said y'all get stuck either Because you're in competition with other women. Okay, you're in competition with those women in the short skirt That's your competition. Yeah, so you can't compete with them unless you a look better or Have something on that they also like so that would be like me For example, this is how I see women who will not change and don't understand that there's competition of it That would be like me not putting on any makeup not doing my nails hair nothing just coming out like I won't go and Expecting to get the same type of attention treatment and da da da From a man who has you know a good career money and stuff like that as a woman who takes Who wakes up extra early to put on makeup do her hair Goals every week get her nails and toes done invest in how she looks dressed classy Boss good, you know buys good perfume to smell good This lady over here who's playing with nothing on her Expects the same exact treatment as this lady over here who woke up early put effort into how she looks to attract the type of man She wants you cannot compare the two they one will get that attention the other one Will either not get the attention or get used or get cheated on by a woman who has taken time to improve her looks Okay, so you can't You can't just stay like you are if you're not getting results Sometimes you got a look in the mirror. Why and at why am I not getting results? You can pick yourself apart You know, you know what's wrong. You know what you need to change. You know what you need to upgrade Just do it, you know, don't be ashamed of it. Just do it So for example You know, if if you don't feel confident in your body then start making small changes every day until you do You don't have to not date because you don't you're not comfortable in your body yet You can date and keep dating and keep dating and as you get more comfortable in your body as you make small changes The men are going to start to change, you know, and you'll notice it Dang, you know now this type of man is approaching me now this type of man is approaching me So what you need to do is be comfortable with who you are but make subtle changes daily if you can't just wake up and You know, I can't do all that stuff and just do one thing a day and then add something to it the next day And then add something to it the next day until it's a breeze, you know I'm saying some people don't have time do all this makeup look Make sure try do two things. Okay eyebrow lipstick. Okay next day as a mascara Okay, next day as an eyeliner until you get it, you know, you don't have to do it all at once If you don't have wigs or you don't wear wigs or you want to change your hairstyle or go dry it out or do it in a different way You know go go do it See a hairdo can change of how a person totally is treated, you know that you Will get treated when I put on my long wig. Oh my god, man you know, I Have short hair right now because I cut it when I put on my long wig or when my hair was long before They're like, oh my you know, they like long hair. That's just it. They like it. I don't know why but they do so If you want guys to do this over you Go get a long wig. Yeah I'm not saying it's right or wrong. I'm just saying it is what it is. That's what they do You they see walking and they see it walk in they start following it, you know, so Make sure When you're dressing and when you're putting yourself together, it's not doing what you like It's doing what men respond to that's the difference. Most people don't Understand this you're not you are you are always gonna be you up in here You always gonna be you up in here If you want to attract a man who's gonna take care of you, you need to look like what they are attracted to Okay, use you as a canvas Okay as a canvas and Now there's always gonna be those women who are like, well, I shouldn't have to do this and that then Don't get mad and don't complain when you're not getting the same results as someone who does, okay? If you get mad because you're not getting any Response from certain guys and you're doing everything on that. I'm telling you on the video look in the mirror You know, what can you improve? What can you improve? Can you improve anything? If yes, then do it You gotta be the best version of yourself to attract the best type of men Okay Okay, if you if you're not some people say okay someone is saying I'm not trying to be mean But someone saying they have small children. It's so hard to get up and you know, I do it. I got children And I'm married. I don't even have to do it, but I do it Why because I know it makes me feel good about myself and if I don't put myself first nobody else will Okay, so you gotta think of it like that if you're not putting yourself first you ain't getting up extra early To put yourself first then guess what no one else will You know, it's a decision. It's a choice. It's a sacrifice, but at the end of the day, it's worth it Okay, I will wake up extra early. I don't care go to sleep early Go to sleep early wake up early It's better to arrive late looking good and arrive on time or early looking bad Because they'll forgive you But it's okay because a lot of women get stuck like I said y'all get stuck in y'all get comfort zones Oh, well, I only like to wear this type of clothes because it's comfortable I can't wear them shoes because it's uncomfortable. Well, you know, sometimes being a woman is uncomfortable You know, sometimes being extra attractive is uncomfortable, you know But it's not as uncomfortable as going to work every day Okay, it's not as uncomfortable as paying all the bills or have to build it ain't that uncomfortable Okay It's not that uncomfortable. I would rather walk a whole day in heels and pay bills Your feet will go numb after a few hours anyway. You won't even feel it Remember one time I was walking in heels so long my I couldn't even feel my pinky toe anymore. It was like is it still there? Anyway, that was that I Do wear heels now I wear boots with heels I wear like any type of heel that goes with the outfit that I wear when I go out or I wear nice cute Sandals if I'm wearing something very casual like in the daytime But if I'm ever going out somewhere to a nice place I will have on heel because it just pulls you look together makes your leg look slimmer taller Met it makes your butt look good. You know, it just gives you a whole new walk So it enhances you. Okay. So anyways, someone said beauty is pain. Oh Yeah, and you'll someone says they feel so much better When they dress up and you'll feel better, you'll feel better You'll make better decisions better choices about, you know, you'll put yourself first more You'll splurge on yourself which shows that you care about yourself Which other people will start to do because you do So, yeah, like no one's going to play if you're always dressed nice look good that makeup on got nice perfume on Got nails got jewelry and stuff. No one's gonna bring you some crap because they know it's not good enough for you If someone buys you a gift, it's not gonna be something crappy because they see Oh, she's high class. I gotta get her something nice They're gonna bring you some crap. They're not gonna bring you a gift set from Walmart You know what I'm saying? They're gonna go have to go to the high end department store because that's what you accept That's what you wear That's all you use. So if they go somewhere else, you can be like I don't need that You know, so they're going to have to level up So make sure you understand this. It's not just because you don't look good. It's because People treat you how you look Going to a department store looking crazy Look like you just woke up and go in there looking dressed up nice makeup nice shoes nice clothes and see the difference You know, make sure You understand that people treat you how you look men treat you how you look Point blank. That's all they look at looks Men see looks first And that is how they will treat you They're also attracted to Features that they want their children to have Okay, so when and it also it can be psychological So, you know, if they see a woman with features that they don't want Children coming out with they're not going to take them seriously. You know what I'm saying? So make sure Either you fake it to either you fake it. There's some women out here that have so much plastic surgery Some guy married her and then got bad because the kids came out looking crazy and then he didn't know she had plastic surgery So he was like, hey And a lot of women are too lazy or too comfortable. They're doing just okay So they don't change anything. No, I'm not going to change. I don't need to change nothing I'm doing okay. Okay. You want to be doing great. Okay Not want to be just doing okay. You want to be able to people in being you you want people jealous of you You want that you don't want to be people people like, um Whatever you want people to be afraid to go out with you because you're gonna get all the attention. That's what you want Okay, so make sure you're doing your best to look good. You know, I don't care you You you can take a basic person and make them into a supermodel You know what I'm saying? We've makeup whatever clothes You know shoes You've seen those makeover shows where they take some basic chick and turn her into like supermodel You've seen it. You can do that to yourself. All you got to do is research Figure out what looks good on you. Um, you can even go get your makeup professionally done one time. It's not that expensive and you know, uh You can go to one of those like beauty schools That do it free or super cheap and just to see what it looks like if you're not into makeup You can learn on youtube. You can do all that stuff. You know, it's up to you. It's your choice But don't complain if you're not doing everything you can do You know what I'm saying? What kind of heels should I wear if I'm five seven the kind you like I'm five nine I wear heels Okay, I'm like six foot three and some heels That's why I used to lead the whole guys like making old days but I you could wear like a heel that big a kitten heel is good Something like that if you don't want to wear A three inch heel is good. You know, it just depends but I wear all size heels. I don't I don't care. I'm like, look What what would you do if you have all those qualities but Men don't approach me. You're intimidating to them See if you're already so beautiful and no man will approach you it means they don't think they can please you So that's a good thing The bold one The one who knows they deserve a good looking model chick will come up to you And they will be able to do anything you ask Because if they walked up to you so freely Whatever comes out your mouth they can handle it. Okay Those who are intimidated They can't handle it. They can't handle rejection They can't they probably couldn't buy you what you wanted. They probably could not don't want to be with a Woman so beautiful because other men will always be after them and they don't like to compete So you've got to think of it like that. That's why An old man Will be like, hey, baby come over here, you know, because they know they got the money They know they got everything and you know They'll come up to you quick. Believe me More older men will come up to more attractive women than younger men Because they know they can afford um Let me see how to make men What if your man ignores your efforts Oh, he ain't gonna be able to ignore it if it's drastic Believe me If you change one thing that's nothing you got to change everything all at once Okay If you just look and blog every day with your hair in a ponytail and no makeup on Go get a full makeover long hair weave or whatever lashes lips Highlight everything do it nails do it all then come home because if you just do your hair, that's nothing Okay, you just do eyebrows. He ain't gonna notice that do everything everything Look like a whole other person. He's gonna notice then See somebody said they changed overnight and their man was chasing them around that's true How do you deal with jealous friends? I don't If If you don't okay, this is why I don't have friends I have a few friends. Okay, like very few like I only hang out with like one or two people They got to be on my same level That's it. They got to be on the same level. I can't hang out with something beneath me They could be above me or on my same level I can't hang out with somebody who's always secretly hating on me, you know Because you know And they shouldn't want to hang out with you either because you're going to catch all the attention So they need to go out separately If you're going out with women who look better than you you're always going to get passed up Or you're always going to get second pick Go out alone or go out with somebody on your same level of look, you know what I'm saying? don't go out with this girl knowing you know She obviously is more attractive than you or don't go out with women who are obviously less attractive than you because you know They're gonna be jealous because you're getting all the attention go out with people on equal scales or You know alone You don't always have to go out with people. They don't really approach a group of women You know Yes When I used to go out went out alone most of the time if I ever went out with anybody with my sister I know she wouldn't go hate on me because she was teaching me So I'm going out alone because I know you catch more alone Yep And it's more mysterious if you're out alone Someone says they watch my video and they haven't proved themselves, but their man says they wear too much That's because they don't want other men looking at you. Okay I put all I will put on more be like And I don't care, you know um If you're wearing too much, I don't know how you look, but you know, some people can't overdo it, you know So I don't know if it's too much Literally or too much figuratively, which means he don't want you looking too good Yeah Man it's time for me to go again Okay, I have had boyfriends that do not like when I wear high heels I don't understand either because you look too tall compared to them Because I'm like if you if you become taller than them, they don't like it or they don't like other men looking at you That's what it is Because you go into the strip club all them strippers got on high heels Okay, they like that don't they? So guess what? They like it on you too, but they don't like other men that like it on you So I wouldn't listen either I'll sit down I wouldn't listen. I was like, well Everybody else like it You know When men tell you they don't like something on you. It's because other men will like it too, you know So make sure you're not list you're reading between the lines not just You know Of course, they don't like it on you because other men are going to turn and look We're trying to talk to you when you're not with him So it's in security You know, if you had a boyfriend or a husband who was always dressing up really nice Brand on nice cologne looking extra good every day You know, you worry about some woman trying to take him too. So you're gonna say, you know You don't need all of that. You don't need to do all of that. You look fine I think you look sexier with uh This, you know Or if you know something like that Of course, they're gonna try to sabotage you in a nice way I would My husband, I was like, I need to go get my hair cut. I was like, oh, you look good like that. You don't need to get your hair good Girl, oh, I need to show you. Oh, no, that that gray look good in that beard See so you gotta you gotta know it's all a game Say well, you're gonna have to get used to it, baby Yeah, and another thing, okay, so and I'm not trying to be mean rude anything, okay And the facebook group. Okay, let's talk about that Some of the women who are trying to get in They don't understand what this group is. It's not a relationship group. Okay And then You know try to get in I get in the facebook group But sometimes I feel like if I let you eat you look a certain way Oh, that's gonna have to change if you want results. You know what I'm saying? Like That's kind of like paying money to get into like a dating club But You don't look like the type of woman that men will date Okay, why would you even waste your money if you if you're gonna try to get into the group Make put in that effort first to improve your looks As far as uh, you know If you were to actually meet a man of means, you know Put start looking like you look if some millionaire asked you out on a date That's what you need to look like To even have a chance to even get somebody to take you out Because that's the whole point of the group to get man with money Okay, so if you don't look like a woman that can get a man with money, you know Sometimes you got to put that effort in before You want to make you know start dating different types of men Because what happens is see what happens is Some girls get in the group and they haven't Done their little makeover stuff. I know a little bit right now And they start getting just like when you hang out with friends that look better than you They start seeing these other girls doing well and they're not and then get frustrated but Some of these other girls started off basic as well And they had to just upgrade and improve them their looks But it's not like they're better than you. It's just that They took the time and the effort to upgrade themselves first you know so Just like they're not going to sell you a car with no insurance some someday Sell you a car unless you can get insurance before you leave the lot so You know a lot and then a lot of women will get mad and try to leave the group because They were stuck Stuck in what they like and not what men like so they were basically stuck In their current look Because they liked it too much. They liked it more They liked their current look and how they dressed more than they like the idea of dating a better type of man you know what I'm saying so If you want to join the group if you try to find me on facebook or email and stuff And you come to me saying I want to join the group, but you haven't done anything to improve yourself or your looks Then you're wasting money. That's all I'm gonna say You waste Spend that money And improve your looks first, you know because like I'm saying that's what matters to me That's all that matters to me. So why wouldn't you improve it? It's like a man knows that most women only want them for what they can do So why wouldn't they level up and get more money? Someone says I'm very attractive Now see some of y'all think y'all look good um But that's the point like some of y'all think y'all already look good don't have to do anything But there's always room for improvement. So if you already look good Go improve on on what you already look like as well. Just just because you can you know just because you can Like I know I'm looking bad not too good today, but I'm just gonna pick up kids from school But when I go out when I step out group is also not for overly emotional women, okay because If you can't take like constructive criticism or suggestions from you know other women who are doing certain things That you want to be doing Then don't even don't even try to join because if you if you're that emotional you're not gonna be able to you know score any type of men with money anyway You have to be about one thing And I'd say it's not about relationships and it's not about love. It's about one thing Okay, so I will see y'all on the next one And I'll see y'all later