 Here we are again Another live video the narcissist sees you as their robot They just see you as someone Who exists to fulfill a task or action? That's all they really want from you They want you to do what they want and at first they will try being nice to you They will try the manipulation, but if that doesn't work, they will throw a temper tantrum They will do whatever it takes just to get you to do what they want, but they have no empathy They have no consideration for you and it's never really what they need What they need is love and connection two things But they never go into experience Because those are two things That their disorder has been programmed to block and deny the most is to protect them it's a coping and defense mechanism and an adaptation To a hostile environment in childhood, but they see you as their robots You're just someone they instruct to do something they dictate to you Their agenda their beliefs, which they expect you to adopt They see you as their robots Someone who they can program with their narrative So that you see the world in the way that they do in a way that benefits them and that is why You will notice that they hate it when you display Your individuality When you display that you're a three a free thinker Someone with your own values and beliefs They hate it when you do that because they want you to be their robot They want you to do what they want They don't want you to be your own separate person With your own thoughts feelings and beliefs because that is a threat To their influence and authority over you they can't control someone Who is in control of themselves and their own mind? Someone who trusts themselves Someone who is confident and that is why they have to break you down They have to get you to doubt yourself They have to make you think there's something wrong with you because that's how they're going to control you They control you by targeting your weaknesses exploiting them exaggerating them and Minimizing your success making you think that you're no good without them Making you think that you can't make it on your own and the truth is They needed you more than you ever needed them Which is why they felt so compelled to try and turn you into a robot in the first place People typically have no interest in controlling something That has no value if something is valuable you want to monitor it You might get it insured Because that's valuable to you It's important a narcissist think the same way when they know that something is valuable They want to keep it under control They don't want to lose it and you establish your escape from realizing Your own separate thoughts Your own separate ideas And valuing them realizing that they are important That they are meaningful Even if the narcissist doesn't value them Because that's really how you protect and preserve yourself in these in these situations It's by validating yourself realizing your worth Because despite what the narcissist has led you to believe You are worth something and you're worth far more to them Than they ever were to you all you've got to do is just look back and think about What did they ever do for you and what did you do for them? Most of the time you will find You did far more for them And they ever did for you, which is why they are the ones who are trying to control you They wanted you to be their robot They're also deeply envious and jealous of you They want to control the thing That they are envious of And if they can't do that, they'll just try to destroy it Because it reflects something back to them When you feel a certain way about yourself When you have something that they want They don't really care how it pertains to you It's more about what it reflects back to them And the lack or deficiency of that quality or attribute In them Because remember These individuals are self-absorbed They don't really have any interest in anyone but themselves So it's always about how it pertains to them When they target someone When they're trying to exploit you When they're trying to make you their robot It's all about what it's going to do for them But they don't have the tools They don't have the qualities They're not even qualified to be with you in the first place They can't build you up They create the illusion of building you up By reflecting something back to you in the beginning By mirroring you But over time They can only mirror you for so long Because they know the longer they do that at some point You're going to catch on, you're going to realize it's not real So The mirroring can only last for a short amount of time And that's when you see the real person underneath the mask Who's just breaking you down Destroying you And it's not always that they're intentionally trying to destroy you It's often just neglect Because they haven't got the tools They haven't got the qualities to even Be around you So naturally By you being around them And giving them all of your love All of your time, energy and money You're giving away your life source Everything that is meant to replenish you And that's what really drains you in the end But in the beginning they create the illusion They act like they have something to give to you But it's really just mirroring They're just reflecting back to you who you are And you want to believe that there's something great You want to believe that they're about that Because that's what you're about See you're real And they know that They're attracted to that They want to be around it But it's no good for them in the long run Because all it really does is reflect back to them How fake they are And no matter how real you may be They have to try and point out some real imagined flow in you Because otherwise It just leaves them looking like the problem They have to try and make it seem like you're fake You're not really who you said you were You don't really possess the qualities That you led them to believe that you did Or so they think Because that's how they have to think Everything they do Is designed to feed the ego They are very worldly people Their lives revolve around indulging in worldly activities Rather than the bigger picture The grand scheme of things Because everything they do is based on their emotions It's all about making themselves feel better Even if it's just for a moment And that's where they need you to be their robot Because you're like this constant source of supply to them Whenever they need praise or compliments Whenever they need money Whenever they need an emotional punching bag You're there for that There's so much more to life than that That is not living They want you to think That's all you deserve They want you to think that's your purpose in life For a reason Because that's how they're going to be able to control you But there is so much more The problem with narcissists Is they haven't realised the abundance of life And the reason for that is because They're always looking for it on the outside And it does exist Even though all they find is scarcity They think there's never enough But all that never enough on the outside really is It's just a reflection of them feeling Like they're never enough on the inside But when you go within And you feel abundant within yourself Opportunities open up to you You start to realise that there is so much more to life Rather than limiting yourself To just one purpose that the narcissist has assigned to you Something even during the love bombing is only mildly satisfying anyway Because it's so limited to Their perspective or one thing that they're reflecting back to you When you get involved with a narcissist It's like they place these walls around you They condense you to something so small and insignificant Something that doesn't even matter in the grand scheme of things Being their supply Being their support Mindless Mean and less superficial things That doesn't even matter at the end of it They make these videos And I hope that they free you From the shackles that the narcissist has placed on you How they limited your world view Your perspective They condense everything And they make it seem so small When it's not It's huge And there's so much of it For everyone We live in a very grand abundant world And I'm not limiting this to superficial things There is so much more out there People who will understand you People who value what really matters in life Because you've got to look at it like Why would someone value superficial things Over love and connection in the first place And of course the reason for that Is because in their childhood That's what they were taught They were praised for those things growing up Rather than what really matters And that's why they live such shallow lives That's why they're never happy Because they're chasing after things That are so insignificant There's so much more to life You need to develop depth When you've been around a narcissist long enough You too can become shallow You may only value superficial things It's contagious When you see someone Flaunting their new watch Flaunting their new car It makes you think Maybe that is all that matters Maybe that is everything But it's not That's nothing It's such a minimal thing In the grand scheme of life At the end of the day We're just floating on a little rock Surrounded by many other rocks Surrounded by many other rocks In one tiny galaxy Of trillions and trillions of galaxies In one universe Which could possibly be one Of an infinite number of universes And yet you have these narcissists Walking around on this floating rock Thinking they're the shit Thinking they're so much better than what they actually are When, if only they knew The really grand things of all Are far greater than they could ever comprehend And that is a connection To something so much greater All of these things You can't take them with you None of this stuff Has any relevance or significance After we die It means nothing And that's why you can't take it with you Because if it was so valuable If it was really important You would be taking that with you When you die But you don't And yet It's what these narcissists hold on to so strongly Because It's all they've got When it comes down to it These are the most valuable things they possess And when they possess so little They're gonna hold on to it for dear life You might see someone With a really old car And to you it might not look so great Maybe it's covered in dents and rust And if that person Crash that car Maybe they'd be very upset If you bumped into that car Maybe they'd be very angry at you But to them That's their livelihood That's their life And you should look at that the same way with these narcissists No matter what it is that they've got It's very important to them Because it's all they've got And that's why they hold on to it so strongly More than love and connection That's why you can't reach them Because they're never going to let it go Because they know That's all they have And if they let that go They've got nothing That's why you can't get through to them And that's why they target you And try to make you their robot Desperate people do desperate things Don't be the narcissist robot Life is too short for that Focus on what really matters in life Love and connection And that doesn't mean that you have to go out there And start dating other people Love and connection starts with yourself Get to know yourself Love yourself Detach from the physical world And focus on your inner world I promise you It will change your life You'll realize what life is all about We are so much more than what the narcissist has led us to believe So much more than our physical bodies And that's why Although many of you You may be involved with Very attractive people People who look great People who look after themselves People who have money And yet you're on here Watching my videos Because that's what really matters Is the inside Our soul Our heart And that is something you will never Find in a narcissist No matter how much money they have No matter how great they may look What does it matter If they can't even see you As a real separate human being They just see you as an object You're just a robot You're just an extension of them They can't even see you You don't exist in their world Just like they can't exist in yours They have to pull you into their world There's only one world that really exists And it's none of this The only world that really exists Is inside of you Everything you see Is just a reflection of yourself So tune into that world Tune into yourself And watch your reality change Thank you all for joining me On another live video I'm very grateful to have you here with me Please give the video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it Share your thoughts in the comment section Check out the website if you haven't seen it yet It's www.narksurvivor.uk You can book coaching sessions on there You can read the blog post There's a few new ones every week And you can also join the support forum as well And also I do have an Instagram It's www.narksurvivor.uk I upload quotes of narcissistic abuse all the time And I also have pictures and videos 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