 When the narcissist realizes they've lost when you set strong boundaries The narcissist realizes they've lost Especially when you go no contact and Dissociate from anyone who is on the narcissist side Because in most situations you will lose your family members and friends And you will have to cut off anyone who believes the narcissist But when you move on and you become stronger and healthier and You forget about the narcissist and then the narcissist tries to hoover you But you don't respond to their hoover attempts They begin to realize that they have lost as long as you're communicating with them They think they're winning They think they're in the clear But when you cut them off, it tells them everything that they need to know But because they're so arrogant and audacious They believe that at some point you're going to slip up They believe that at some point you're going to fall for it Because their manipulation has been successful in the past with you or with past victims So they're expecting it to work for them again They're expecting you to break no contact But when you've moved on with your life And you're in a happier and healthier place That is when you have defeated the narcissist Because they see you as a puppet They see you as someone who is at their beck and call That's their reference point or mental snapshot for you and they can't think of you in another way Because they were successful at manipulating you in the past So they believe that they can do it again But if you maintain no contact, it baffles them It catches them off guard Because they've never seen you do that before They never thought that you were going to be the one to leave them So at that point you're smarter than they thought Because you've managed to maintain no contact And they always thought of you as someone who would always listen to them Someone who would always do whatever they want But as soon as you go no contact And you stop listening to them You stop doing what they want you to do That's when they start to see your value That's when they start to see how great you actually are Because you're not with them They see it as though if you're so great you shouldn't be around them Because they know they're not deserving of you But they manage to trick you Which is why they think you're foolish and naive But when you break free from their spell, that's when they realize how smart you really are But it baffles them Because you used to obey their every command You used to do whatever they wanted you to do You tolerated the abuse And they got away with everything but now you won't even talk to them You won't even talk to their family or friends It's very confusing for the narcissist But the longer you stay away from them The more your value increases in their eyes The more they begin to respect you Because they no longer have access to you So they will be forced to accept that they have lost Because you don't want anything to do with them But narcissists are sore losers They get very angry, irritated and annoyed When they do not win something or gain a desired advantage So you need to be cautious You need to protect yourself Because when the narcissist realizes they've lost They will want revenge Narcissists are empty people They have no value or purpose So they're constantly trying to add value to themselves They're constantly trying to look like they're the winner Because they see things in black and white Where people are either winner or losers People are either the best or the worst They're either amazing or rubbish And that all depends on whether you're with them or against them If they feel that you are not on their side Then you are their enemy They have to take you down And they have to beat you to the punch They have to get you before you get them Because if you're not with them You're not going to be a source of supply for them But they see it as though you could steal the spotlight away from them So they have to make you look bad Before you get the chance to make them look bad Everything is a game with them But their game is over When they realize that they're no longer relevant or important And that is why they're always bragging and boasting They're friendly ghosts They're impressive and imposing in appearance and style They're always surrounded by people They command the attention of their admirers and subordinates They feel entitled to privileges and special treatment Or they're playing the victim They act unlike they've been abandoned without any help or support As though they've been neglected or mistreated But either way They're still trying to get attention for themselves They want everyone to be focused on them But when they're no longer getting that attention They realize they've lost Especially when people are criticizing them Especially people who are meant to be on their side Or people who they respect and admire When those people walk away from them That's when they begin to realize that they have lost And people do often walk away from the narcissist Because they're excessively concerned with themselves and their own needs They lack consideration for other people Even people who are meant to be their family and friends But eventually People stop believing their lies And when the narcissist gets exposed That's when they really feel like they have lost Because they get their inner sense of value from the external world And when other people don't see them as a winner They feel like they have lost Thank you for watching I hope this video has been worth it with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching inquiries You can email me at coaching.narcsurviver.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon