 We've been told our nauseam. Okay, create this. Where do you want to be in 10 years? What do you want to be in 10 years? Create this massive goal? It's what I get taught at life coaching to right great There's a massive goal, you know, like I don't say I want to I want to make $100,000 a year They say I want to make a hundred million dollars a year, right create this massive these these these bags Right for these big hairy audacious goals for yourself, and you create these goals and you work really hard towards them That's what most of us are taught one way or another Okay, we're taught this and here's the problem the more the more Specific and the more big hairy and audacious your goal is The more you just spend time tolerating your life Tolerating all the shit you have to go through to get that goal Okay, I imagine quite a few of you feel like you're tolerating life until you get to a point You're trying to achieve you're just tolerating this shit in the middle, right? Some of you may be here thinking I want to be better with women. I want to be Healthier, I want to be fitter. I want to be more successful financially. This is the shit I've got to go through to get there who feels that way Of course, it's it's the natural way of thinking a lot of us have is How the hell can you be happy if your life is constantly in the state of the list is the shit I have to get go through until I get there because remember when you get there You're gonna find 15 other things you want and then you just go through more shit until you get there And then you get that and then you go through more shit until you get there But you can see this this we're locked in this this this chronic state of not allowing ourselves to actually be happy Okay, it's dangerous So the first thing I want to do is think of any long-term goal and scratch that bad boy off the list if it's specific because Long-term it changes whatever you want now is is in next year gonna be totally different and it should be allowed to be Different it's the future it's vague every single one of us James said absolutely perfectly We should always be learning we should never stop and if you're still learning something may change next year about what you want in the next 10 years Okay, so what we want to do is we want to set ourselves up instead guys with a long-term goal with it with a direction Forget goals. I'll come back to them. What you want to look at is a direction. What's the direction that I want to go? And what do I mean by this? Well, okay, let me give you my directions. Okay for me My directions are I want to influence positively as many people's lives as possible. I want to be healthy as healthy as possible And I want to educate myself as much as possible. I'm a huge fan of learning. Okay. I'm addicted to it That's my that's my goals and what happens is Any time something comes up in my life my friend says hey, let's do this Or a larger life decision. Shall I move here or shall I move there? Or shall I spend money on this shall I spend money on that all I need to do is consult These goals of mine these these directions and say it's a compass Okay, it's a compass that we all have it's different for all of us and it points to where we want our lives to be going So anytime an important life decision comes up. What do I do? I look at this compass. I say ah does if I decide to do this Will I get? Well, I influence more people. Will I be healthier or where am I going to learn something valuable and the answer is no Then that's a really shitty decision to make But it's a direction our lives should have direction directions important So first thing I want you guys to do right now I want you to take a moment and I want you to think what's my direction and it doesn't have to be specific words Individual words are enough. Okay. I have a thing for a moment guys things like adventure is a word peace is a word Success is a word love is a word anything that you can think of what's the direction your life should be headed What's a vague notion of what words resonate with you? What words you want would you want written on your app tap? It's boring a word you want written on your app. It's half No, maybe then exciting as a word that means something to you Okay, do you want to be recognized for having innovated something? Or do you just want to be recognized for being loyal all these things represent a direction guys? Just have a moment have a think get down a couple of words Okay, I'm gonna keep talking for a second just to give you a chance Why because I want you to have a direction because I want to finish this talk and you all know roughly This is where I'm headed in life. This is this is where my life is going That's important very important so here's the thing we have a general direction in life and I know again through my coaching that a lot of people they have this whole kind of Long-term game plan again long term and we think to ourselves well this week I'm gonna do that next week I'm gonna do that and next week I'm gonna do that and this is the game plan This is how it's all gonna fit together I know this is a lot for for developing business as well. It's long five-year business plan yada yada short-term medium-term long-term This is terrible stuff guys what you want to focus on and this is what I'd say with my students and it works magically every time Only ever focus on the next step The next step of your life is the only thing that matters at any point in your life The next step is the only thing that matters everything else is mental masturbation Everything else is totally useless to you only your next step Okay, I don't allow anyone that I work with to create goals further than a week ahead of time Because otherwise it's mental masturbation And if we create goals that are further than a week in time, what do we start to do even if it's subconsciously we create big goals Big hairy audacious things that we want to achieve for achievement sake Right and when you set goals is another part of your goal your goals that you set aren't allowed to be Depends on an outcome Here's another mistake we make to be the example guys go out they go out to a club. They want to meet some girls And what do they do? They say well tonight man tonight dude. I'm telling you what I'm gonna get three numbers That's my goal tonight. My goal tonight is get three numbers my goal tonight guys is tonight man. I'm getting late That's it. That's my goal. I'm gonna frickin kick my ass until I get late tonight and here's the problem It's it's outcome oriented. It's outcome oriented outcome oriented with any goal is wrought with danger Why because how much control do you have over making sure that goal is successful? Right if we can have influence over it sure right take some guys will practice a lot meeting women picking them up How much control do they have over it? Well, they've got a decent amount of influence that have control Okay, short of man handling the woman. They don't have control So what does this teach you you don't have control over your life? So what you want to start doing guys is any short-term goals you have it's got to be something you do Something that only relies on you and it doesn't require any type of result to happen. What do I mean? Well, when I'm with students that go out one of their goals all their goals might be I have to ask three women for a number tonight Their goals might be I have to approach nine girls tonight Okay, when I'm setting up goals for me throughout the week My goal isn't my goal here guys isn't to my goal is to be here and have you guys love me My goal is to be here and do everything I can to have the greatest influence possible That's it because this This is part of my you demonic goals. This is part of my compass This brings me closer to what influencing as many people as possible It satisfies that and guess what it also satisfies education because I'm gonna hear some great stuff from some of the other speakers So it's big it's epic. It's really really important So guys what I want you to have a think about now is what are three things over the next week? Three things that you are in control of that's actually going to move you closer to these you don't want to get outcomes Have you think about it? You wrote down before that you wanted to be Something okay, let's say that you wrote. I want to be adventurous. Let's say you wrote that down That's one of my keywords adventure. My life needs adventure. Whatever I do adventure has to be one of the things I'm looking for if I have a decision and adventure is a direction it could take me in let's take it Ah, so you might have a goal remember. Let's only worry about the next step guys So you've got a goal tonight. I'm gonna go home and I'm gonna make a short list of all these things I could do all these activities that won't cost too much money