 Whoo What's going on you guys welcome to the single-guy channel my name is Lloyd so today we got a question from this guy He basically writes me he writes Bring it up He says Lloyd huge fan of your practical advice and your channel. Okay. Cool. All right He's wondering he overheard a conversation between a female co-worker of his and another female friend So they were talking and she mentioned she says that her boyfriend is giving her too much attention And it is turning her off So he says I don't know if you've done a video on this But what happens when a single guy for years gets a girl and Thanksgiving her a lot of attention is good I can even see myself falling for this. What balance would you recommend? Where if we land a girlfriend we show her we are interested but play a loop at times This is real complicated man physics is easier at this point Okay So it sounds really complicated, but it's really not man. There's a very very simple solution I don't think you need to play any games in this situation Where you need to be interested in your girlfriend or the girl that you're dating at times and then play a loop at times either I think micromanaging like that you can fall into a lot of problems But let's be real man This is kind of a fear that a lot of guys have you know if they Get a girl that they really really like and they start showing her a lot of attention like they feel like they should They're probably going to lose her or the girl's not gonna want to sleep with them anymore. Okay, it's a very understandable fear Fortunately, there is a very easy solution So I'm gonna get into that right now before I do just before I do if guys if you're wondering how to get trained by me in person I have my live training schedule down below. I'm coming to San Francisco. I'm coming to Los Angeles. I'm coming to Toronto All of this in January And then I'm also going to be in Miami in New York So take a look at my schedule down below if you're in any of those cities Okay, cool. So what's the simple simple solution to this? The first thing is that you guys should not be having to play games if you're having to micromanage things in a relationship That's not a good sign. So the way you prevent this the way you prevent Losing the girl or being too needy or being too or not interested enough so that she feels neglected is You basically never want to prayer first Don't put your girlfriend the girl that you're dating or especially a girl that you're pursuing the number one priority In your life. You never ever put them number one. Do you know what you do put number one? You put yourself as number one, okay? Number one has always got to be you because if you don't make yourself good Then she's not gonna want to be with you She got with you because you rose yourself to the level that you are so you are the person that That you are at this moment and if you stop becoming that person to try and please her Well, then she's not gonna want to be be with you anymore. Okay. She wants a guy who's going after things She doesn't want to guide neglects himself. Okay, and so I know a lot of you guys are thinking you think okay Well, if she's not number one, maybe she's number two. She's not even number two Okay, and she probably shouldn't even be number three in reality Well, your girlfriend or girl that you're dating should probably be in terms of priorities in your life is fourth She should be fourth, dude when I'm dating a girl that girl's never number one You know, it is number one me. Do you know it's number two my career my career is number two Okay, and then third is my family my mother my father my sister all of those people that I've known since birth that have raised me Okay, and Then finally number four that's where she is if I really like this girl we've been we've been dating for a while She's fourth now Fourth seems like pretty bad and it shouldn't seem pretty bad Okay, because we're taught when we grow up from a young age or say you have to always put your girl as number one She's the most important person in your life if you follow that advice you're going to lose her So frickin fast man the world's telling you a lie. You shouldn't be placing this girl As number one, dude You should be placing yourself and all these other things before because why do you think she wants to get with you in the first place? She wants to get with you because you have those things because you're on top of yourself Because you're making sure that you're doing better in life because you're taking care of the people that you love in your life As well too. She doesn't want to be with a guy who's willing to drop everything at the you know Just soon as he meets a girl that he likes. He's got to have priorities So if she marries this dude and maybe she gets upgraded to number three because now she's part of your family, so He's upgraded to there. What if you start neglecting those things if you start neglecting those other things Your career yourself. Why would she want to be with you? Okay She wants to be with the guy that's going after things who's ambitious who's a high-value male, you know Not just in not just in career wise and like monetarily But she wants a guy who's improving who's making himself a better person every single day But also places importance on this family Okay, now this doesn't mean that you don't love the girl This doesn't mean that you're not super interested in her This doesn't mean that you don't want to spend the rest of your life with her and spend most of the free time That you have you know being married to this person, okay? It doesn't mean that but what it does mean is that when it comes down to it You are going to place yourself your career and your family first always Okay, do not place this individual girl as number one because that will ruin your life and it's gonna ruin hers too Okay, cool. Well, thanks a lot you guys if you're wondering how to get coached by me one-on-one There's a form down below and I'm looking for guys that are super motivated to change their lives right now Okay, so fill out that form and if we feel like you're a good fit, we'll get back to you. Okay. Cool. Thanks a lot you guys Good luck out there