 we have to set guardrails in your relationships and I'm going to throw a few things one is a wisdom thing and the other one is the Bible thing the first wisdom thing and that is this if you're not ready for marriage you're not ready for dating now I'm not going to get any amends from high schoolers because I know you have prom and if you don't bring somebody to prom you're going to lose your salvation or pardon heaven your identity is going to be crushed and somehow because everything depends on bringing the most cutest girl to prom if that is really the competition wow listen to me very carefully if you're not ready for marriage then dating is not an option for you you may say but I'm lonely get a dog you may say that I just I just need somebody to love me to just be there for me get a cat get a go into a home group well I'm still lonely sign up for prayer line if you're a kid you're 16 years of age you're barely found a right to go to that little place where you work in a fast-food chain restaurant and you feel like that because you got admitted to that job that gives you the right to date because in our world today dating is a game dating is same thing as actually going rollerblading it's a fun thing teenagers do the only difference with rollerblading is when you throw the rollerblades off the rollerblades don't bleed rollerblades don't have a heart that beats and hurts and dates do when you go with somebody on a date their heart gets attached and guess what happens then their heart gets broken and then this goes through the cycle and somehow in your mind you're convinced this prepares you for a better relationship by getting into a relationship breaking up getting breaking up from where I stand it looks like it prepares you for divorce not for a relationship you want to say what will I do in high school you will do your homework you will actually graduate your high school not with just with the GED you will graduate with a 4.0 you will have a good chance to go to a good university you will have no unwanted pregnancies no sex with just many diseases no heartbroken you'll be more focused that doesn't mean that you will be a person who doesn't have you know likes or anything but you will be a person who is focused and when your time comes don't worry you won't be weird it's the weird you should want to be because the normal is not something you want in your life when you're not ready for marriage if you may be in college right now you're saying I'm head over heels with with my assignments I just but I everybody in college has a girlfriend you're not everybody you're unique you're different when you're not ready for that you're not ready for a date now but what christians do is we sneaky we do this thing called just talking when you know you're not ready for a relationship physically or publicly what you do is you allow yourself to be loosed emotionally and you start to and when somebody says just talking I first I thought it actually meant just talking I found out what that actually means that means we already planned how many kids we're gonna have when I say just talking it already means we already know where we're gonna go for a honeymoon that already means people are making out people are snuggling together and people are living as a married couple all under the banner of this false notion just talking you're not just talking you're letting your heart get ahead of your convictions and you got to protect your heart if you said that this is not a good time for you for the relationship avoid just talking that means if a brother in christ wants to fellowship with you there is a home group there's a group text message there is no personal stuff that you get involved opening up your heart and the next thing that happens is you fantasize him during prayer and you begin to go into fourth dimension and all of the other things because you're allowed your heart to go too far and one of the people becomes attached and something happens and now you're like oh I need to put my school inside or I need to do all of these things aside why because we're just emotionally attached and I know I wasn't ready to get married yesterday but I'm ready today because you're attached and why are you attached because you didn't guard your hands hands means your text messages you got to guard your text messages for most people get emotionally attached through communication and it's not guys a lot of times are awkward they love to fall in love over text message guys love to fall in love over as long as you are far from them they love you the moment you get close lose it they're right away just cold feet all other diseases they get and they quickly just lose it and the best thing to do is if you're a young guy or a young young girl and you're not ready for a relationship is this is that you limit your connection with another person to just a basic business how you doing what's up what's up but the moment you start going into deep sharing your feelings one of the people will be attached and then the other person is going to have the burden of trying to explain I didn't mean this that's not what I was trying to lead you on