 Good morning to you and welcome back. It's time for Strength of a Woman. Well, it's not been such a waiting day, especially for me, hosting another Roda Kidula Keda. She's a veteran in this industry and it's big up for me, hosting another journalist on board. But she has done so much. Currently, she quit her radio thing and decided it's time for me to venture into something different. She began her YouTube channel 50 years of marriage. Roda, I've got so much I can say about you. A blogger, a mishona, YouTube content creator for kids. I don't mess up with your bio. Can you look at this camera for and tell the audience who is Roda? This is Roda. Roda with a W. Roda Kidula Keda. I'm the host of 50 years of marriage. She's a YouTube show. I've been on radio for over 10 years and it's not a radio thing. Sorry. But you've begun as a radio presenter for 10 years. You said I quit my radio thing. So I'm like, 10 years, you're calling it a thing? 10 years, you know? It has been a time, you know? So I'm a passion for children and creating content for children on YouTube as well. I'm a blogger on my website. I write about my child, which actually reminded me. When they grow up, the stories kinda reduce and you start feeling sensitive. Should I write about this incident? But when she was young, I used to write every day, every drama. So that is who I am. I'm married to one Mr. Jackson Kedaha and I'm a mother of one to Nasha Kedaha. Yes. Well, I'm trying to look at it from the side of wife to Jackson Kedaha. I didn't hear you mention that from your bio. Kedaha, when you say Roda Kidula Kedaha. It's already there. Alright, now Roda is the thing. You have been in the media for approximately 10 years plus. Yes, plus. How was the journey being for you? How did you begin? Because most people know Roda is that person who does it to perfection when she is on air. I love excellence. God taught me that excellence pays. From Kitambo, from Kitambo so I always do it as unto the Lord and not for man. Yes, in my bio, you start with I'm saved. I'm a Christian who loves the Lord with all my heart, all my soul and all my mind. So I remember after high school my dad wanted me to be a dentist. Dentist and teacher, those two. And then I got pregnant. Story for another time. Wait, don't say it for another day. Because someone is watching it. How old were you back then? I was 17. 17 years. Yes, I was 17. So by the time I was supposed to join KMTC to become a dentist I was found to be pregnant so I couldn't go to school but later on God turned things and I found myself in Deister. And when I joined Deister I wanted to be behind the scenes in media to be a technician like those cables around there I feel like I want to know where those cables are heading to I want to know what's happening. That is my passion. I love production and technical work so that is what I wanted to do to be behind the scenes somewhere just behind the scenes. Then that's where I started that is where I started so I got a chance to be in China Fem that is Deister Students Radio and I was a producer, technician just making sure everyone else anangara. Then one day I was made to be the head of news I remember in Deister, China Fem then one news anchor did show up So guys were like Roda, just read just go to some website and read something you want to just occur the situation So I read news and the guys were like Roda, do you know you actually have a good voice I'm like I know I broke my voice in class 5 people can't listen to me and all that but that was the beginning of something new and I started now practicing I was reading news in Swahili English I was hosting Swahili shows and it started by just sitting in for people and people telling me Roda, you can actually do this why don't you just get your own show and that is where it began I got my show and in Deister I was a junk of all trades like whu know me from Deister can be like oh that was the CU treasurer oh no that was the service team chair person no, that was the China family no, I was just everywhere I was everywhere That's being a journalist because you're almost everywhere trying to think of Badaikitne Zengiana this thing I think I need to try this in the moment of trying it become perfect and that's what you've been doing because looking at you Shangelea you know, activate root 1 of 4 Oh that's in Hope FM yes looking at it from a perspective like so and so of live pop, Roda do this Swahili you're so thank you Asante and everyone at that was like when who is this girl I love Fumanzana on a tumor selfie and I'm like are you sure this is the Roda oh by the way that comes in this package I have been feeling uncomfortable that my feet don't touch the ground even here but you know what I've been reminded that I'm bigger than inside all right Roda I think that came out as you know what just go for it God is on your side having confidence in the Lord go and try it instead of just saying no and you didn't even try I'd rather try and guys say ah no that is not for you than just saying no I'm scared I can't do it so it began like that still at Truth FM and at Hope FM someone being on leave and they're looking for someone who can do this Roda can you try and say let me see then I go on air and I'm like oh I can actually do this how was the experience your first time on air oh my first time on air was at Fisha FM it's in Eldoritz Ruben Kigames it used to be Ruben Kigames radio station and I remember I was just a first year so I've been taken to Eldoritz to just get the radio experience I wasn't even in shine yet in daystar so when people hear you're from daystar but in the daystar you can go and do anything so I remember that day Ruben Kigames said she's the one reading news this morning I'm like oh I'm the one reading news okay and haven't even mastered how the radio station looks like 12 variations yes you are from daystar you can reduce so I remember the news manager I won't forget Silvano Chumpa that's his name so he was sitting besides me telling me now when I put on this jingle you read this news then I'll put on this bite I don't even know what a bite is I don't even know what a jingle is I've just come here I don't know what's happening I pinched the guy like I was on his thigh like this after that I was like okay I can do this thing no why was I pinching my manager's thigh you know I was reading news while holding his you don't want to mess up I was just scared that I didn't want to mess up and all that and after that I just told him you know what I need more time I don't want to give people something that I don't want to be known as that girl who doesn't know what she's doing so they gave me a recorded show it used to be called the kitchen minute so I used to cook something for one minute recorded and yeah that's where I started learning went back to daystar and now started perfecting the art well it's just the beginning how are we going to unwrap strength of a woman keep on interacting with us on our social media platforms of course it's Y254 on our Facebook page it's at Y254 channel on Twitter and my Twitter handle it's at K underscore Alex your Twitter handle at roda R-A-W-D-E-R R-A-K-D-U-L-A all right roda I want to go back to go on to the issue of Tanaha you know going back all the way and you talked about it in a brief you didn't want to explain I want to talk about briefly because probably there's someone and I feel like where do I go from now how was the healing process for you from getting pregnant at 17 not knowing what I've gotten myself into not ready to be a mother or even wife or anything I think I was really confused and I was really traumatized I remember at some point I wanted to die like I practiced it for some time it didn't work probably yeah like three times like I was like life has come to the end I will not live again even after getting this baby number one I was scared because of the stories I had heard about women dying while delivering their children and I was tiny and you know now my feet are not touching the ground but that is like 11 years ago so I was smaller I understand I really get you roda so I was smaller all that comes with pregnancy that is why people prepare for pregnancy the body of a woman changes and all I wasn't ready at all so at that time I was hopeless and I was down I think that was the lowest point of my life up to now I think that was is still the lowest point of my life but someone is looking at you right now you're just strong you need like what was that what really happened there are two ways of this some people look at me especially before I got married and they're like even I just want to get a baby and be like roda she's happy yes they're like ah if roda is just happy she's just posting photos of herself and her child enjoying the life enjoying life it can't be that bad then there are people who are like you know what now after hearing that because sometimes when you post photos on Facebook on Twitter on Instagram and say the blessings of the Lord had no sorrow you don't see it you don't see behind the scenes you don't see the child sick you don't see the child in school maybe being told to write a composition about my father and they have nothing to write you know like you don't see the struggles of a single mother because the internet can be a lie as well you know some of us try and say the truth in some parts but the bigger part you know after this I will highlight oh I was with Alex you know and all that so for someone who's devastated you're pregnant and you're feeling hopeless or in any situation always know that there is hope I would never know that God will change my story and turn things around for my good but now as I speak you know I am so grateful it happened I learnt lessons yes now but in that point if I were to go back I wouldn't I would want to have tenasha when I have a husband when I have someone else she can run to when I am married when it's right even in the eyes of God but now if you were to take her away from me that would be the worst thing you can ever do that would be wo I don't know how my life would be without her in it so there is always hope don't give up don't kill yourself there will be a better tomorrow maybe you're not feeling it now you're not seeing it now but it shall come to pass alright we had tried to try and come with tenasha but unfortunately yes she is in school she is in school kuna assessment bado kuna assessment doki doko kuna can't here and there and she kind of loves school alright yes school it has a book something important to be done in school kuna skuna asena pandashitu because of funky kuna kuna panda books no I think the repercussions or the consequences of missing cards and some lessons and all that I have threatened her sometimes so she feels like oh no tomorrow no don't take me away from school and all that alright let's talk about tenasha she is also a blogger yeah and I saw the blog that she did when the uncle became the father actually that is mine that is me telling stories of her so she doesn't write I'm the one who writes about her alright she is on YouTube and she plays the recorder that's what she does she is that's why I was telling you when she was younger I used to write so much like every week I had an article because so much drama or she would just say something and I'm like oh and when I write about this it was so fun because it's still on my website I call that a blog tired of thinking about titles because sometimes I used to be like how will I start it eats me up like last night I was doing a blog it was like how do I even put it and now everyone is like man umedi lesana na post what's happening it can be tough so I was like how would I call this how will I start what will be the title so I just said you know what type of thing about title then I started writing about her so actually that is one of the recent ones when I wrote about my mother just got married to my uncle uncle uncle and that was the title of that one I just loved it because it was a process she has known this man as uncle Jack but now uncle Jack because she needs the office yes yeah when you are working together yes I used to introduce her to people as uncle and auntie you know now this is uncle Jack now uncle Jack is marrying my mother now how do we stop calling him uncle uncle Jack you know now you can't call him uncle it's just weird so it was funny for me I just had to write that how did she take it um sometimes I think this marriage was for her wow okay she is the first few weeks she turned into a three year old where she was demanding for toys again demanding for ice cream she was a grown up because she was raised up by my parents and my brothers and sisters so people used to say this girl is so mature your daughter is so collected she is not like rowdy and all that could come yes and she looks like 20 something year old who has some land in kiting but now I get married and she just turns into she is asking my husband to carry her I am like no you are what is happening here what is going on so she is having the joy of her life that's knowing now she has a dad you know that is everything to her I wish she made it no you wish she made it she has been in the brass movement it's really far actually people expect her to be me everyone is like she must talk like no she doesn't like the pk is you know they expect to behave like your dads their mums and the like wow so Roder let's mention something before we even come to you there's a clip I want us to have a look at so Roder began something on UT but after she resigned from her official duty at Hope Media and she decided to venture into something we call 50 years of marriage if the clip is ready Kaila let's watch this out Flee ever after in sickness and in health for better for worse many things have been said about marriages nowadays you can find women who are actually scared to get married why? because we are wondering are there women who are happily married well my name is Roder Kedula Kedaha and I'll be chatting with 50 women just to find out what keeps them happy waging up to now so we begin with you telling us how hard or easy it was to save yourself from marriage the question is were you vajins yes the two of you you have to be committed to this thing if it's one person who is committed to making it work and making it waiting making it not be easy we had that commitment from the world we said that this thing will save you from marriage so to that commitment of course it was not easy temptations were there I cannot lie I cannot lie to you that there were no temptations but I think being committed being committed to that promise that we will wait no matter what we will wait we will wait and make that covenant on our marriage day what is the role of your best couples are you still talking to them the best couples are supposed to be your marriage parents so for me right now the couples that we've bested past I mean when we were a bit older in marriage are the ones that we are still in touch with right now they even call us they've even gone ahead we have WhatsApp groups for the four of us like my husband and the two of them this is 50 years of marriage right that's what Roda Kidula has ventured into for that and much more let's come to you tell us more thank you for that it looks so nice you've been saying yourself and I'm like is this Roda is this me and all that 50 years of marriage and I remember you were asking why 50 it's one year one plus I've just hit IEA in marriage by the way last month that's where you say congratulations why now 50 years of marriage I'm waiting for you to say congratulations okay Roda do you have a standing ovation okay let me send that message somewhere people are buying me cake Kedaha Jackson congratulations for getting Roda Kidura on board that's straight from me congratulations for the one year thank you you're celebrating one year you've begun 50 years in marriage before before even actually I was like two months right so when I got married I was going back to work just before I went back to work or even to church everyone is asking me how is marriage like I got married last week how is marriage how is marriage honeymoon honeymoon is another story my husband had to go abroad a week after our marriage so I'm trying to think like what do you mean it's our time you can always have honeymoon anytime any anniversary we have our lifetime case close okay so everyone was asking how is marriage I'm like sometimes they used to irritate me because one my husband is not even around I really wish he was here I don't know how marriage is so when I was with him I thought of you know what we need to talk about marriage everyone wants to know how marriage is why don't we get people who have been married and talk to them they will tell us better how marriage is so at first I was like hey how who will believe me I've not even been married for long but that's where we get the experts so 50 years of marriage is about ladies who have been married from one year all the way to 50 so we've been chatting with them one year, two years three years in marriage then right now we are at 21 years in marriage on Monday we are posting 22, 23 and 24 years in marriage and we are going all the way till 50 years of marriage so how has the journey been for you? oh it's been awesome at first I was like how will I do it what's the question? you know the way God just makes things work at first I was like how will I do it how then my husband was like I will support you executive producer executive producer he sends the questions he does so much he does so much for the show and God brought another angel called Nashami Wangara she's the director of the show and she helps especially in getting the ladies you know sometimes you want a specific lady who's been married for 24 years where will we get her and who's ready to talk also who's ready to talk about their marriage and we are also Christians we have to get a Christian because many times especially in episode one when we were talking about episode one we had ladies one year, two years and three years in marriage these ones you loved those ones I was in that category but it happens that most of us watched that I think it's fun and it takes views for a thousand views because like okay so there's a point right there because now those ones were young in marriage actually when you watch episode one and compared to the latest one episode seven you were like oh what is happening here because episode one they were excited they were just in the honeymoon stage I loved those ones because I was also there so you were having fun talking about were you married or were you a virgin when you were married and all that so sometimes you get the feedback and people are like you know what these ladies are lying they can't tell us they were virgins and you wonder what has become of our society when someone says they are a virgin you don't believe it and I actually answer people and tell them actually it was so hard to find those virgins to come and talk and just encourage people Yes to even continue I forgot to give you something of air but I will show you someone saw me post that I'll be interviewing you and apparently she came with the newspaper dated December 31st 2015 what it was all about is about second virginity and this is the question that I was told to ask you directly yes how do you get into secondary virginity secondary virginity is yes I messed up I broke my virginity I was sexually active before marriage but from today I want to start living right I am a virgin again and maybe you are looking at me and you wonder I did the secondary one and broke it again I've been breaking the vow you can always begin now whatever you will call it secondary virginity tashari whatever you can always make a decision this morning and say you know what I'm messing up with myself with my spiritual life with my physical life with my emotions I'm going to start today so that is what it's about I hope you have been satisfied by that I'm sorry for mentioning your name anyway but let's come to this since when you began interviewing all these women up to the age up to 20 plus 20 plus has something changed you in terms of how you view your marriage yes a lot my husband recently told me that I've become a boring wife one year I've become a boring wife before the show began maybe when I was interviewing the younger wives you could relate I could relate and I was like yes women are petty men should understand we are now getting to 20 10, 11, 20 now 24 these women are telling me Roda 20 years later this won't matter take care of your man relax things will be okay so I was also relaxed in mind so you have taken the 20 actually there's a day he told me you're just waving those women but that was the reason he says I'm less petty I don't argue about everything I've just relaxed in my marriage which is also good for him but there are times he just wants that we're not going to argue we're just going to say that's petty we're only petty issues so even we are petty issues I don't want to matter 20 years from now so can you get me it's okay let me be a bit specific on what I want to ask has there been a time probably you and your husband felt like whether this thing in 50 years of marriage no in your own marriage in my own marriage I know I'm just one year in marriage because I usually hear the names of every relationship are totally different and I have heard people what I thought there's one in your post reality is marriage like typical that this guy is so neat I'm ever sitting at any such as you to power of your then now once you get him the house no I wouldn't say we have sat down I said we made a mistake maybe as roda yes on a personal account on a personal account love is not enough for marriage it's not enough don't get the volume kidoka don't get the volume when you get married because I love him he looks good she has everything that I thought I would get then you get in marriage and you find out one morning you wake up and you feeling I'm not in love you're like ah that's how you sleep for the rest of my life I didn't know these so the realities and sometimes she also looks at me sometimes when he sees something that is kind of off he just says for better for worse that shows you that he has seen something that maybe he didn't see when we were dating like oh roda you are this you get mad like this the realities of the person now you're living with that person you see things because now you see them the nakedness everything in them and you're like oh during dating this is what I was hiding but now I can't hide this anymore roda what was that one thing that you expected roda have been anticipating from this man and then you can get in marriage this thing is not exactly what I thought number one I used to think I will be all that matters you know in dating men make you feel that all that matters wait until you find the vision is made then kumengia box nimi kwa vision continues so at times I think I used to feel like you are not the center of your world anymore you are still talking to your sisters and your mother ok they are important but at that time I used to feel like I should be the center of it all I want to know every time you talk to your mother I want to know anything you do any money you get I know your salary but anything else you get you need to tell me and and then as a man he feels like to him will grow into that you are taking me too fast so it was depressing at first because I used to feel like I should be the center you have married me and in the man's perspective yes I have married you relax let's talk about the better side of it the companionship for me and just doing life with someone who also wants to do life with you is it for me I had sex before marriage and in marriage it's better hi hi I have heard you ask ladies about that on 50 years of marriage how is it for you how are you handling it handling in terms of sex actually for the first times the first weeks the first month I used to feel like it's seen because I have had so many times being told no sex no sex like my mind was filled with sex is wrong and I knew the consequences of having sex and all so I was a bit scared of going back there so at first I was like hey you feel like repenting you feel like oh god we used to accept then you remain yourself now it's right how was the transition for you because one thing I understand that transition is one of the things that can either mess you up or rather build you up how was the transition for you I think for us we invested so much before marriage knowing each other for him knowing my daughter my daughter knowing him and now just meeting going out for coffee with uncle Jack I think that really helped because when we got married now we know each other it's a family those friends are now together it's now a family and I'm still learning how to let him father because I'm used to making decisions we need to take her to a different school I'm like Kwanini she has been okay and he says you know we need to be hashap now na nambembeleza so I'm like hey why so he feels like you've not let me in but slowly by slowly I have been now allowing him to take the role of a father it feels like we've just begun but unfortunately we are out of time time just flashes like that and of course we'll be looking for it probably to have you some other time we need to talk about even the blogging part we're talking about the nations that you do something happened at your teenage who now you are launching out to high schools so I wanted to look at the camera give us your parting shots and everything that entails Roda and the 50 Years of Maharaj yes Roda Kiddula Kedahaa that is my social media handle everywhere on Facebook, Twitter or on Instagram even on YouTube but Roda with the WRAW Roda Kiddula Kedahaa and I would like to continue interacting with even on the social media platforms and all that for the people who are looking into marriage you know many times come across people who are waiting your time will come honor God he will honor you that's what I say but if honor God in your single good he will honor you even in marriage so live right honor God he will honor you he will bless you with a spouse for those who are married marriage works growing together and the real marriage that works is in Christ so in Christ everything works out many thanks Roda for coming got something from you embrace the process that's Roda Kiddula Kedahaa and it has been such an amazing moment to have on the strength of a woman of course vali is coming up next my name is Karanja Alex these is Y254