 So Vivian says, hi Matthew just broke up with my ex three weeks ago after almost four years we had a 20 we had a 23 year gal and he is still pursuing his future ambitions career and after all this years being supportive, being patient, I felt I lost myself. I feel he hasn't reassured me enough about our future. It was almost a perfect relationship. I believe we helped each other becoming better people compatible in many ways. I just feel we were at the wrong time. Oh, there's a 23 year gap is what you're trying to say. So yeah, I mean possibly if he broke up with you, which is what it sounds like happened, then it wasn't it probably wasn't as perfect as you think it was. So a lot of times what happens is in our minds we think this is going great, right? Everything is amazing. But the other person if the other person isn't thinking, man, this is amazing or whatever, then it's not the same, right? Or if he's got if he's in another space in his life where he's not ready for this, I don't know what the 23 year gap is, is that 23? Are you 23 years older than him or is he 23 years older than you? If you're 23 years older than him, then it's very possible that he's not in a space in his life where he wants to settle down. And if he's 23 years older than you, then it's possible that it's probably more likely that he just didn't feel like the relationship was as good as you felt like it was.