 but I'm here to say work is important. There's no doubt about it. Children are important. There is no doubt about that. They're important. And yet your investment of your emotional life with this person, your physical life with this person, should be equally as important. Let me say that equally as important. Okay. If you're up to recognize when two people begin a physical relationship with each other and an emotional relationship with one another, you can get rather attached to this person. And as a way for some men to detach is to use their children and to use their professional life as a way to detach. Now I want to be candid with you. And I'm not proud of what I'm about to say, but I did this, I did this myself. I used my