 do a video today about why do men cheat? why do they want more than one? it's gonna be because they're not satisfied with one of the women that they're with and they're seeking one woman it's gonna find flaws they're gonna be like well you need to do this you need to do that that's not good enough you need to do more so he doesn't want to give this up but he wants to feel like a man because it finds another woman who he thinks is going to approve of him and this woman might be so desperate and lonely that she will think he's perfect so she's not gonna nag him like the other woman is the main woman so the side chick I would call the side chick after so long of being with him she's gonna see flaws of him too and so then he has to go find another woman that's not that doesn't know him that doesn't know his flaws his problems his downfalls his all that so he has to go find another one and you know before too long she's gonna see it too so now he's in like a love triangle or square now because there's four people now one what the side chick once more time the main woman wants him to do better and the side chick to the side chick is probably just using him for something okay because first of all she's probably not getting enough time she's probably just using him to fill a slot a phone bill you know a lonely weekend or something okay so men often have other women because their main woman sees too many flaws of them and instead of fixing the flaws and improving upon themselves they do not take responsibility and they will just go and find another woman who they can be with until they start seeing their flaws too but eventually all the side chicks will probably fall away because they'll be tired of waiting and then they'll see his flaws and they'll be like you know what I see why you cheat on your main chick because she probably sees all this stuff too and constantly like nags you to fix it but you can't afford to leave because y'all have a house or y'all have kids or y'all are married so y'all are stuck together and now I'm getting what she's probably disgusted about you know so they wise up eventually and they see you know all his flaws so then he has to go find new side chicks but basically certain men because I'm not gonna say all men cheat but certain men cheat because they don't feel like a man because they don't take the initiative to be the best man they can be okay so they just go and be part man with this person part man with this person part man with this person okay because usually the side chick she's not gonna ask for her bills to be paid she's not gonna ask for him to be a good father to the kids she's not gonna ask for him to be on time for something she's not gonna ask for him to dress appropriately to go out and meet you know certain people she's not gonna ask him to you know try to get more education take some classes online to get bigger pitch she's not gonna be asking that of him but the woman his main woman is asking him to improve because she's actually probably moving up and he's not so the relationship is becoming unbalanced and he's feeling that so he has to go make himself feel better by cheat okay so men cheat for different reasons okay they will tell you the story that the woman is the villain they will tell you oh she doesn't listen to me anymore oh she's not who she used to be oh this this and that but really what it is is that she's here and he's here and she's looking down on him and he's like well I don't feel like a man anymore so I gotta go find another woman sometimes they lack a backbone and they can't just up and leave the main chick because they feel like you know why why I can't leave I can't leave but what would I do without her I might talk smack I might talk smack I might talk smack but I'm never leaving okay I just I just use you to vent okay I'm just venting to you and using you because you're desperate and available okay to the side chick I'm not painting your bills I'm not gonna leave my main chick for you you're just there for me I'm selfish and I need validation because I can't stand up to my main woman she will kill me and look at me crazy divorce me and let me broke so I look to you for that because I can't be what she wants me to be so this is why men cheat and sometimes men cheat because they can't okay and they feel like you know well if this chick is coming on to me and you know it's free because you know men are offered sex set off and it's free and I'll think my wife or my girlfriend will find out about it and when is the next time I'm gonna be offered this you know they they just look at it as a gift like oh my god I have to accept this or they're not satisfied with the woman they're with they're like okay well I like her but I don't know if I like her enough not to cheat on her because I'm a man and I think with my penis so right now I'm not concerned about my relationship and all that I can lose so I'm just gonna risk it all and cheat and so what if I get caught you know women forgive men they know men cheat they know they know us so they'll forgive us if they really want to be with us that's they rationalize this in their mind but what they don't know is that women do forgive cheaters but they also go and cheat afterwards it might not be physically it might be emotionally they might emotionally cheat with another person they might do something to get some type of revenge that you don't even know about I mean you never know they could go be going out on dates they might not be sleeping with people they could be going out on dates lunch dates you don't know so like some say and and some sometimes when guys cheat and the woman knows she's not gonna leave him but she finds out they cheated sometimes she won't even confront him sometimes she'll be like you know what you know I'm glad he's got the one to do my my dirty work now I have to do it anymore and they stop sleeping with them they just slowly say okay well not tonight honey not tonight honey I don't feel good and they'll just slowly back off from them and not want anything from them right and the guy won't even get suspicious until it's too late and I won't be like well I'm getting it somewhere else anyway so it's a matter but what he doesn't know is she might start sleeping with somebody else too and just tell that person oh we have an arrangement and you don't know about the range but the guy doesn't know about the arrangement but the woman does so anyway what I'm trying to say is people cheat for different reasons men mostly cheat because they're they can't place their main woman and that's just it a lot of women have very high expectations of their man but when they chose their man their man was not at the level that they wanted them to be at they figure they can improve them they could upgrade them they listened to Beyonce that I could upgrade you but sadly you sometimes you can't upgrade something in times it doesn't want to be upgraded sometimes it is a cure to be upgraded so you're always going to be looking down at it and be like oh man this this this is mad and they're never going to satisfy you okay that's why you're already supposed to get a self-made self-ready-made man already don't find a man that you have to help build don't find a man you got to wait on to be if the man you want him to be find the man who's already the man you want him to be okay because otherwise you're gonna be like I meant this I know this one girl she met her husband in college and he was in medical school he was gonna be a doctor so she married him right he wasn't a doctor yet they were he wasn't even grad school yet y'all know how long medical school is so she's like oh she thought she was smart oh I'm gonna get pregnant he can't go nowhere so she had his baby and he he had he had to cut out medical school and just be a teacher because he had to work he had to support the child she had to work you know so he just settled into being a teacher and there's nothing bad about that being a teacher because I come in teachers I'm just saying she thought she was getting ready to marry a doctor so she laid a baby on him and ended up marrying a teacher because he had to take off time to work get money so they can get a house because they have to move out of the dorms because her mom was not taking her back in with no baby then they had to get married and then life happened and then he settled into his role as a teacher never went back to school but she went back to school and got a bachelor's degree in psychology and whatever but anyway they ended up divorcing because she wanted to be married to someone on her level or higher so ladies when you choose your man don't look at him for his potential look at him for what he is already okay that's why I say go for a man a little bit older than you because there's no guarantee they are going to become what you think they're going to become okay because life happens and then you're stuck with something you didn't want okay and I know a lot of people are gonna say what about the love what about this what about that that's fine but when you wanted to marry a doctor and you ended up with a teacher and you blame him for that and you look down on him for that that it's only your fault because you took him before he was what he was supposed to be you know there's this book the alchemist if you read it this guy saw this girl at the fountain Fatima and he was like I love you I want to be with you I want to stay here with you and she says no go do what you gotta do I will be here when you get back come back and get me when you are where you're supposed to be she would not take him as is she's like no I'll always be here I'll wait for you go do you first and when he did with when he finished his journey got all his knowledge he came back and got her and they got married okay so ladies don't try to grab on to something who's not finished baking in the oven yet you don't know if it's gonna burn it's gonna be taken out too early it's gonna taste right wait for the finished product okay women have this luxury we can marry older man without it looking crazy okay we can marry men who are already successful without it looking crazy okay this is the norm okay think about it all right also another person asked me see about time to cover this another person asked me does ignoring a man get his attention more like if you're interested in some way do you ignore them well you ignore them but you also have to let it be known that you see them okay well and keep it moving you know if they want to approach you that smile was an invitation okay if they want to approach you they will come after you don't go after any man you don't chase any man okay there is an abundance of men like there is an abundance of men waiting to be with women okay there is an abundance of sex offered to women from men it's actually too much okay so you have the option to just give one smile and let them do the rest of the work if they don't pursue you they don't want you bad enough and they're not gonna treat you right if you are all up in their face and oh hi I'm you know they're gonna be like she must be really desperate she's coming after me I'm supposed to be the man you know something something something's up something's hidden you know she probably got five you're gonna start thinking something's wrong with you so you always let the man come to you always always always if they don't come to you they're not a real man okay if they don't come up to you they don't have a backbone because most men will risk rejection there's something bad about a man who can't risk being rejected that says a lot about them that says they easily give up they don't try their mediocre they don't go for what they truly want no matter what obstacles are in their way that's a good judge a character if a man does not approach you or chase you or come after you you will be settling for a loser okay men go after what they want ask any man who wants a job ask any man who wants a girl ask any man do they go after what they want or do they let it come to them no men go after what they want they're aggressive about things okay they're competitive okay if they don't go after you they don't really want you and they won't treat you right and they'll use you and it'll be your fault because you should have known if he didn't come after you he really didn't want you in the first place that's what they'll say oh I didn't pursue you anyway you came after me so it is where you know they'll say something stupid like that so remember ladies don't ever go after a man there's plenty of men out there that will come after you okay I'll see y'all later and comment below what you think