 Hello everyone Welcome to another NARC survival live video Different bit of scenery today I'm up in the mountains as you can see I'm about 3,500 meters above sea level Somehow managed to get a signal I've never actually been this high before Before this I think it was just 1,500 meters in Sri Lanka Now you're seeing 3,500 meters above sea level As you can see the clouds are quite far down from you Bit of a while to drive up here I didn't hike I don't typically hike to high points like this Normally the most I do is about 500 meters But yes and this one we're going to talk about What you need to do If you want the narcissist to come back Nice little view here You're watching this because you want the narcissist to come back As I can understand I mean you're looking at it like There's something there, they have something to give Something of value to bring to you Or maybe some wonderful magical side to their personality That they haven't shown you Or even if it's just the false character that they displayed in the beginning You want to see some more of that I get it, I understand But my personal advice is definitely To not bring the narcissist back in I mean I've said it before, it's a false character It's based on what they've seen from their exes They tailor made a character for them Or it's tailor made for you Just reflects back your own qualities and virtues And that's what their character is based on Who they actually are It's just a void It's characterised by an absence Rather than a presence of distinguishing features As you can probably see I can barely even talk right now Because it's very cold As you probably know I've been in much colder temperatures than this Minus 16 degrees in South Korea I think it's about 5 degrees Celsius here right now But I'm just not used to it I'm not used to it at all Just look at my hands, frozen I am absolutely frozen I don't know, it's probably It's very race, you're the big boy Knox fiber like this, shivering Such a vulnerable position Ooh, they caught me off guard I've got two massive jackets on right now I am absolutely freezing I'm really out Ooh, so cold But yeah, you understand Some of you you want the narcissist back But here's the truth, the only time you can ever really want them back Let me just position the phone right I'm already prepared properly I know it's kind of professional of me But yeah, the only reason you would ever want the narcissist back Is if you believe in the illusion The lies, the false character That's all that that is Once you know and you accept it's fake, it's not real Once you really understand that And you've witnessed the boys, you've seen it in the rise And you cause that narcissistic injury Once you see that and you know it There's really no going back after that You only want them back because you've decided to take the blue pill again You've decided to re-enter the matrix You may be experiencing loneliness, anxiety, depression And you're thinking that they're going to solve it for you With a false character And yeah, you know, I will say that sometimes fantasy It can help a lot, it really can It can completely change your mental state It can make you more motivated It can help you to get stuff done But that's more if it's a fantasy on your own Where it doesn't involve another person When it's a shared fantasy then you're dependent on the other person To fulfill that And to uphold themselves to your expectations Or to whatever expectations they've given to you So that can pose a serious problem And it can really affect you and bring you down Because they can take it away at any moment So, yes, by all means use fantasy It can be very powerful, it's an excellent tool It's actually very good for healing as well With the narcissist they pull you into it And then it's hard to know the difference between fantasy and reality So I don't recommend going into that I would be very careful with it Yes, I'm actually in a car as well As you probably noticed 3500 meters above sea level I still find it a bit difficult to speak Because my face is completely frozen My phone says that it's 5 degrees Celsius outside I find the map quite hard to believe It really feels like it's sub-zero But there's actually no ice on the road So who knows I'll try to check the map there to see where I'm going Driving up a bit more This phone holder is absolutely useless It keeps moving around I'm in Taiwan right now, the sun is setting Honestly, if you take the narcissist back in Just look back at your time with them already I mean you've already given them so many chances What did you get out of it? How much did you lose? I mean sometimes you get little things out of it Make a list Write down what you got out of it And then write another list of what you lost And actually you can write another two lists as well Write a list of everything you gave to them And then another list of everything that they gave to you If you're dealing with a narcissist or someone who's highly known That's all they're going to do They're just going to take value away from you At the end I just want to stop the car here 3,000 meters elevation I should probably put it in over here It's going to block the road But I do like Let's get back out of the car again Okay, this is it now, I was wrong Now it's 3,000 meters of sea level It's official Narxa Fiver has never been this high before Yeah, this is it Narxa Fiver has never been 3,000 meters elevation before And they probably never would have made it If there was on a road As you know I don't like hiking too high We're going to go up here now, see where this goes Have a look at this The sun is setting Got to record it so I can watch it back Let's have another look at the sunset You know this is what you've got to do though When you're thinking you want the narcissist back You've got to think what is the motivation What's the incentive behind it, why do you want them back What's it going to do for you You think it's going to make you happy But over time it's just going to make things worse It really is Whatever feeling, whatever experience you have with the narcissist In the beginning, over time you're going to pay for that It's going to affect you And it's not going to affect them because they're just going to run away It's going to be you who's left to pay the price Yeah, it's going to be you who's left to pay the price after all of it Whenever you get involved with the narcissist I mean it's always going to be you If you're the empath, you're the one who's going to be giving Value away And all they're going to be doing is taking it To find, I mean, narcissists can't be to what a lot of people believe They actually don't typically get into relationships with empaths Usually goes as they just come around, they use you Maybe for money or a place to stay Not even for sexual purposes As those of you who are empaths will already know When it comes to sex, narcissists, they want other narcissists Especially those that are grandiose They want somatic narcissists They tend to be around their own kind That's what they prefer So when you're wanting the narcissist back They're not going to come back into a relationship with you It's never going to be a relationship in the way that you think And yet when you see them leave, they move on They run off to a grandiose narcissist Or somatic, whoever it may be And it looks like they're living their best lives They're very good at portraying the allure To narcissists, they can do that very well But when it comes to a narcissist and an empath It's very difficult for them to do that then Because empaths are not good at pretending We don't really want to uphold a false appearance To get supplied for the people that doesn't really interest us Yeah, even when it looks like they've moved on And they've found someone else, they haven't This is two narcissists manipulating each other And then at the same time they're manipulating you as well Because they have to Why do you think they always triangulate the empath? They always triangulate the empath with their new supply Because they can't get supply from the new supply The new supply is a narcissist, it's just another void So of course they've got to keep you involved They've got to keep you in the loop That's just how it works Of course a lot of people don't talk about this So many people don't know it But that's what that is When it looks like they've moved on, they're having a great time without you It's just two narcissists together And they're both targeting you, you will pretty much Both of their supply You become a supply rather for two narcissists You don't become a narcissist, of course you remain an empath For life, that's just how it is And narcissists, they remain narcissists for life as well There is no cure We're 3,000 meters trying to take you guys to the top At the same time, we're talking about this The sun is setting, the moon is out It's just a bad idea, it really is To bring a narcissist back into your life I mean, you've just got to look back at all of the problems they caused already It's just no good And even then you want to bring them back Why? So that you can be everything they said you're not So that you can endlessly try to make them happy At some point, you've just got to stop And think, what am I getting out of this? What is this person doing for me? Because I know as an empath myself It's very rare that we think that way They point the finger at us, they blame us They make us feel like we're nothing But then we self-love And then the cycle starts all over again We're just going to give them more and more And they're just completely draining us out Right from the middle of these mountains here They don't really know where I'm going I think I'm going somewhere I'm sure we will see you soon enough I'm just kind of here Seeing some really nice views I don't want to start feeling there's going to be something better Nice little scenic route 3,200 meters above sea level Got some level of signal How I don't even know It's a nice road On top of the world, yeah that's right John Tracy All on top of the world together Together forever The sun is setting It's going to get dark soon and it's going to get Very cold Of course at this height It may reach sub-zero temperatures It may not, who knows This is the first time I've ever been here So I don't know I don't know if anyone's still here I've cut off for a while Got the sun setting down The moon is out Looks like we've still got some people here 3,200 meters In the mountains Yeah, those of you If you're really thinking You want to give it another try You want the narcissist back in your life All you really have to do is Stop being an active presence in their life Stop always being there for them Stop constantly calling them, texting them Or answering their phone calls Responding to their texts As long as you're doing that They know that they've got you You're not going anywhere They know you're under their control They've got you as their supply So then they can go and run off And do whatever they want with someone else And they're not going to worry about you So this is what you have to do Just focus your time and attention On yourself and your own life Instead of constantly worrying about What they're doing And who they're with Which, you know, it's difficult as times And being through that as well My advice, of course Is not to bring the narcissist back into your life In my opinion, that is the worst thing that you can do It's only because you want the false character back You want the shared fantasy Because I get it It feels good in the beginning You feel like you've met the one You've met your soulmate It's this fantasy And in the beginning, it felt good Or at least you think it felt good It's kind of like drinking alcohol It's not real happiness, it's fake If you want to experience real happiness And you want to get out of that pathological loneliness You've just got to take some time to yourself Be out in nature Because that's where you're going to find it You're not going to find it chasing after a narcissist They have no capacity Even for a self of their own Forget about for you Of course, that's why we all find my videos Or rather you all That's why you all find my videos Because in your life there is an absence There's something missing And what you're really seeking It's what you were seeking all along Just look back, remember the beginning What they portrayed to you Those of you you may have experienced multiple narcissists It's the same thing every time They portray themselves to be an empath That's why you wanted to be with them That's who their false character is Because it's this natural attraction Empaths are naturally attracted to each other We are not attracted to narcissists We were attracted to the false character So that's what you really need That's what you should be looking for Someone who is more like yourself Don't bring the narcissists back in They are not an empath What you really want is an empath That's really it That's why you're watching this video right now That's how you found my community Because as an empath myself You're attracted to my energy It makes you feel good naturally A narcissist They're just going to use it And then they run off They go back to where they belong As I've said before I've likened to it A mouse that crawls out of the hole in the wall Grabs the cheese And then goes back into the hole Where it belongs These narcissists, they know where they belong And you need to know where you belong You belong with us The people in our community Other empaths You do not belong around narcissistic people Who will only use and exploit you You deserve so much better than that And if you still want the narcissist back It's because you haven't realised that yet And right now I'm shivering It's so cold But I knew I just had to put this message out there Out there tonight For those of you who need it I might just take a few more pictures here And then I'm going to get back in the car Go to my Airbnb where I'm staying Relax It's a big donation for you To get you to where you need to be To where you should be And if you'd like to give something back You can give this video a thumbs up Down below it will help to support our community Let me know your thoughts in the comment section as well And as always I will talk to you in another video very soon